Hi,
I'm new around here. I'm Alexander, 27 years old. I live in Belgium.
I've known I was born in the wrong body for about 7 years now. At first, only a very select few people knew about it. Recently, I've been telling more people. My family's not on board. I still live with my parents and they've given me the clear message that if I am to pursue a transition, they will sell their house so they can give me money and I never have to ask them for anything anymore and they never have to see me again.
I've gone to the gender clinic twice now, two appointments with a psychologist/sexuologist. I also see a therapist weekly, mainly for my issues with my mother and how it affects all my relationships, and for my anxiety. I've got some great people in my corner, but feel like I can't do this without the support of my family.
I'm looking for my own place at the moment, so that I can move out and be independent and pursue a transition. Because I will grow a beard and have a flat chest, even if it's the last thing I ever do.
Any questions welcome. Sorry if I was too elaborate, or not elaborate enough.
@AlexanderDS Hello Alexander, I am not trying to hijack your very first thread and post...
... but first things first, since your are brand new here I am going to give you a warm welcome..
Thank you for coming to the Forums.
I am glad that you have taken the step to become a member of Susan's Place and that you have shared your thoughts with other members that may read your posting.
I am thinking that you may lots more questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances.
Be aware that there are a lot of members here that can identify with what you may be going through.
WELCOME to Susan's Place. You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.
It is nice that you had signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
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Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
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Again, Welcome.
Danielle
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Hi Alexander. It is hard when one's family is unsupportive. I think that your parents were especially unfair to effectively threaten to ruin their own lives if you become what you know is your true self. I hope that your plans work out and that your parents come to accept and love who you really are.
Hi Alexander :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M