I have noticed a fascinating thing. Guys greet me. They nod and say "Hi". Women don't. Sometimes they look at me but say nothing even if I say "Hello".
Do guys greet eachother and women eachother? Or do women greet at all?
Never thought about it. It just came to me yesterday. The differance in how people nod or say hello and to who.
I'm coming from the other direction. My friends and family hug when we meet. Before hugs were just for women.
While shopping in a store, I now find women will say hi or make a comment about my clothes or hair. Guys may offer a brief smile or just stare ahead. As a guy I never received any of this, ever. And I never looked intimidating like some guy do.
Yes men and women certainly greet each other differently.
In my community, men are more prone to saying hello to other men (strangers) than women to other women definitely. But any on going conversations are shorter and quieter than womens, men seem to get more said in less words. lol.
Women who know each other on the other hand = loud, never ending conversations!! ~~ yes, I'm guilty of that!
Sonja.
I've noticed that guys will either acknowledge or not other guys. It's a matter I think if they feel like it at the moment.
Women only acknowledge after having eye to eye contact with men. They look but the man may not.
Women seem to always notice other women and acknowledge each other readily.
My observation, and it's to my perception, and this is in my community, there are different customs everywhere. It may be opposite in Sweden than in California.
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@Sonja is correct with her perceptions also.
Quote from: Sonja on July 19, 2018, 10:18:16 PM
In my community, men are more prone to saying hello to other men (strangers) than women to other women definitely. But any on going conversations are shorter and quieter than womens, men seem to get more said in less words. lol.
Women who know each other on the other hand = loud, never ending conversations!! ~~ yes, I'm guilty of that!
Sonja.
Most of the time in my area it's just a nod as our way of saying hello the only real time there's a full conversation is at the super market checking out or if I engage someone in a conversation which happens quite often. But people are usually nice to me regardless but I do get some odd looks at times to lol but oh well it happens.
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I regularly get women saying hullo to me when I am out walking and even o9ne guy who like to flirt with me..I don't mind he is not exactly cute but he is harmless. Mostly other guys I see when out walking do not acknowledge me at all but you can just about guarantee the ladies will always say hello but then I always give them a big smile and wave(headphones in) and I always get a response...exactly the same for the people at the bus stop
Women are much more likely to make eye contact, smile and greet other women than men are to greet other men. And both are more likely than men and women greeting each other. One of the things I like best about being a woman is being able to be more outgoing around other women.
Maybe its different since I'm a man of color/ African-American but sometimes when I'm out and about, I'll get the occasional "head nod" from other AA men.
Maybe its a cultural thing instead of a gender thing?
Ryuichi
Dunno. Women are nicer to other women definitely but in terms of people coming up and talking to me, it's random. Sometimes women will come right up to me and start talking. Sometimes guys will acknowledge me, sometimes they won't, but I'll usually only bother acknowledging anyone if they're actually bothering to do so with me, in the street or something. I blank pretty much everyone unless they enter my personal space for some reason. Because I live in a tourist trap and see thousands of people every day in summer, I'm pretty numb to it, and I'm used to people coming up to me who happen to be in a good mood because they're on holiday and want to ask me where the castle is.
As a rule I don't pay attention to other randos in the street much or whether they're smiling or scowling at me or whatever. If they have the guts to come over and talk to the man in the scary long coat, I'll be nice to 'em. Otherwise, I just completely ignore people.
Quote from: Ryuichi13 on July 20, 2018, 12:48:28 PM
Maybe its different since I'm a man of color/ African-American but sometimes when I'm out and about, I'll get the occasional "head nod" from other AA men.
Maybe its a cultural thing instead of a gender thing?
There is an episode of
blackish dealing with the head nod.
https://abc.go.com/shows/blackish/video/most-recent/VDKA0_gzabrh1q
I think it partly depends where in the world you live. In my little corner of the North of England, people generally great each other with "Morning", "Evening", "Hello"... or some other generic greeting. Regardless of gender. Everyone seems to be equally friendly.
I have heard that in the South of the UK, if you say anything to someone else, they assume it's the end of the world, or a Zombie Apocalypse, and start freaking out. It's not the done thing to talk to other people, no matter who you are. I can't attest to the validity of that, though.
Quote from: MeTony on July 19, 2018, 09:57:43 PM
I have noticed a fascinating thing. Guys greet me. They nod and say "Hi". Women don't. Sometimes they look at me but say nothing even if I say "Hello".
Do guys greet eachother and women eachother? Or do women greet at all?
Never thought about it. It just came to me yesterday. The differance in how people nod or say hello and to who.
Tony, could it be that you are experiencing the "male could be a problem syndrome?" When a woman walks down the street, safety is a concern. Too much recognition on the woman's part and it could be misinterpreted by an aggressive male. I tend to flash a look at someone I pass with a usual short smile then divert my eyes to not look too long. I then stay aware of where things are for my safety. Now Tony, you been looking all scary and stuff? lol
Is being African American and having the head nod kind of like the low hand recognition signal given by bikers who pass each other? A recognition of commonality.
Quote from: KarynMcD on July 20, 2018, 03:44:35 PM
There is an episode of blackish dealing with the head nod.
https://abc.go.com/shows/blackish/video/most-recent/VDKA0_gzabrh1q
Personally, I LOVE big butts! (And I cannot lie! :) )
That's great, I don't have cable/TV, so that's great to find out about! Strangely enough, its only happened since I started passing.
Ryuichi
Quote from: HappyMoni on July 20, 2018, 04:12:06 PM
Tony, could it be that you are experiencing the "male could be a problem syndrome?" When a woman walks down the street, safety is a concern. Too much recognition on the woman's part and it could be misinterpreted by an aggressive male. I tend to flash a look at someone I pass with a usual short smile then divert my eyes to not look too long. I then stay aware of where things are for my safety. Now Tony, you been looking all scary and stuff? lol
Is being African American and having the head nod kind of like the low hand recognition signal given by bikers who pass each other? A recognition of commonality.
LOL. Me scary? No way. But I feel the distance to women I did not feel before. I don't stare at people. You simply don't look more than a second at an unknown Swede or they will get nervous. The last guy greeting me said it just as we passed, We had not exchanged eye contact. I saw him in the corner of my eye.
I used to be like, "Hey what's up!" to another guy. I wouldn't do it now. If I am in a safe place and don't know the guy, I might give a shy, "Hi!" if he says hello. With other women, it's different. There is no threat, it's just warmer, easier to say something, give a smile. I am not surprised at the reactions you are seeing.
In my old guy space I would nod to some guys in recognition of their space, rarely were words used. I would usually not openly speak to women that I did not know simply because I did not want them to feel threatened or unsafe. In my guy biker world my nod, if given, was a sign of recognition and mutual respect. Now I have two personas, one the neat crazy old grandma, I can talk to anyone (kids to other grandmas and bikers alike) and both I and they will feel safe and enjoy it. The second is my, "bad ass biker chic" mode. When I ride my Harley I own my space, acknowledge who I choose to only when I choose to, anyone else usually doesn't have the nerve to enter my space. When out riding, I feel much like a cat, choosing who and when to bestow attention. I feel I nail the biker chic look and for some unknown and totally uncharacteristic reason, I find I love this new persona.