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Title: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 06:40:53 PM
My views on dressing androgynous.

Something I wrote for my website...

http://androgyne.weebly.com/androgynous-presentation.html

Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 01, 2008, 06:47:14 PM

That was good.

I don't know why but I still laugh at that bit at the end.

Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 06:50:08 PM
'cos laurrie is funny.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 01, 2008, 07:00:32 PM
"Anything unusual about me is to be discovered in time, not blared from far away."

Exactly.  I'm not one who wants people to stare at me as I walk by and I don't want anyone to judge me by the way I look or how I dress.  I'm just me and you'll have to talk to me if you want to know the intimate details.  :icon_wave-nerd:


...laurrie IS funny!
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: emmi/andy on January 01, 2008, 08:35:20 PM
Pica, I love your website. I wish I had that link last week when I was trying to explain androgynes to my friend.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 08:42:35 PM
Thank you... It didn't exist last week though.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 01, 2008, 08:49:46 PM
I likes. So what does Pica consider androgynous underwear? >:D
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:01:06 PM
 ;D
That is for the individual androgyne to decide for 'emself.
But I have always been a sucker for silly patterns.

Posted on: January 01, 2008, 08:52:29 PM


Alternatively....

Sanctioned Androgyne Underwear.


(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fjitcrunch.cafepress.com%2Fjitcrunch.aspx%3FbG9hZD1ibGFuayxibGFuazo4MF9GLmpwZ3xsb2FkPUwwLGh0dHA6Ly9pbWFnZXMuY2FmZXByZXNzLmNvbS9pbWFnZS8yNDk5NjM4MV80MDB4NDAwLmpwZ3x8c2NhbGU9TDAsMTIxLDQ2LFdoaXRlfGNvbXBvc2U9YmxhbmssTDAsQWRkLDE4MywxMzJ8Y3A9cmVzdWx0LGJsYW5rfHNjYWxlPXJlc3VsdCwwLDQ4MCxXaGl0ZXxjb21wcmVzc2lvbj05NXw%3D&hash=bc2fc3f231bf5469cae599cf6093564eaff8a3fe)
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 01, 2008, 09:10:45 PM
what no model? Peeky Peeky not gonna model them for us?
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:14:10 PM
No peeky peeky for you   :D
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 01, 2008, 09:15:37 PM
lol
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 01, 2008, 09:22:28 PM
Quote from: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 06:40:53 PM
My views on dressing androgynous.

Great!

Of course, y2g prefers skirts  ;D

And no Nero, I won't answer the underwear question either  >:D

y2g
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:31:09 PM
Tis why it's only my views, I do not have the physique for skirts, and besides I'm.

"unshowy, unflattering, a little tweedy, scruffy, shambling, and just slightly off centre."

You're possibly something a bit glam, and certainly something a bit special.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 01, 2008, 09:43:12 PM
Quote from: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:31:09 PM
You're possibly something a bit glam, and certainly something a bit special.

Nope, I'm really kinda frumpy, mostly just wear jeans and loose shirts. Also off centre (I like your spelling better than the US spelling).... way off ::)

y2g
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:45:30 PM
Well, the whole world wears jeans and loose shirts, the universal outfit... I didn't know you spelt 'centre' different.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 01, 2008, 09:47:51 PM
Quote from: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:45:30 PM
Well, the whole world wears jeans and loose shirts, the universal outfit... I didn't know you spelt 'centre' different.

Yes, center. Like theatre, here it's theater. I prefer the English spelling.

y2g
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:48:43 PM
i've probably read it a hundred times and not seen.
(Also, I tend to forget that the world is not english, well not that exactly 'cos that would discount all my polish and malaysian friends, I mean to say that I tend to forget the world isn't in england.)
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 01, 2008, 09:54:13 PM
Quote from: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 09:31:09 PM
Tis why it's only my views, I do not have the physique for skirts, and besides I'm.

"unshowy, unflattering, a little tweedy, scruffy, shambling, and just slightly off centre."

You're possibly something a bit glam, and certainly something a bit special.

*Nero tries not to imagine Peeky in a skirt. But alas, the image has been planted.*
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 10:04:00 PM
got some photos somewhere of the 15 yr old Pica in a marroon gymslip, with past shoulder length hair in bunches.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 01, 2008, 10:11:53 PM
Quote from: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 10:04:00 PM
got some photos somewhere of the 15 yr old Pica in a marroon gymslip, with past shoulder length hair in bunches.
I MUST see!
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 10:17:33 PM
twas the photo on my 18th birthday cake. see if i can get it webwise when i go to college next week.

Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 01, 2008, 10:32:16 PM
hmm, good. see what you can do about getting us a bikini pic while you're at it.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 10:34:43 PM
No, it'd have you... 'rolling'  ;D
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 01, 2008, 11:46:02 PM
Quote from: Nero on January 01, 2008, 10:32:16 PM
hmm, good. see what you can do about getting us a bikini pic while you're at it.
Quote from: Pica Pica on January 01, 2008, 10:34:43 PM
No, it'd have you... 'rolling'  ;D

And this is what I have to say to that:


[yt=425,350]v/Nm_RbaylSj4&rel[/yt]

Let me see that thoooonnnng!
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 02, 2008, 06:25:08 AM
Quote from: Nero on January 01, 2008, 09:54:13 PM
*Nero tries not to imagine Peeky in a skirt. But alas, the image has been planted.*

Actually, I think P might look very cute in a skirt along with hir tweed jacket and Doc Martins ;)

y2g (fashion consultant to the fabulous)  ;D
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 02, 2008, 07:26:45 AM
one day, when i have cash, i may give it a go. :angel:
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 03:56:47 AM
Hey all
Take a look and see what I found in another forum. I thought it was rather neat.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFJnS_KXOVc

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 05, 2008, 08:25:16 AM
Quote from: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 03:56:47 AM
Hey all
Take a look and see what I found in another forum. I thought it was rather neat.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFJnS_KXOVc

Cindy

That's too wild. Of course, it was pretty obvious that's where it was going. I guess I shouldn't give away the ending for anyone who hasn't watched it so my lips are sealed.

y2g
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 05, 2008, 11:43:40 AM
Quote from: y2gender on January 05, 2008, 08:25:16 AM
Quote from: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 03:56:47 AM
Hey all
Take a look and see what I found in another forum. I thought it was rather neat.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFJnS_KXOVc

Cindy

That's too wild. Of course, it was pretty obvious that's where it was going. I guess I shouldn't give away the ending for anyone who hasn't watched it so my lips are sealed.

y2g
they made me feel ugly again.  *weep*
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Nero on January 05, 2008, 12:42:29 PM
Quote from: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 03:56:47 AM
Hey all
Take a look and see what I found in another forum. I thought it was rather neat.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFJnS_KXOVc

Cindy
wow. so it's like a transwoman and a transman. cool. thanks.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 03:32:56 PM
Hi Pica Pica
The unisex clothes in the link bellow was pretty well what we wore back in the sixties. I love colors so I would have been wearing something like in the bottom right corner of the display. I still do love colors.

http://shop.fuddleduds.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=FUD&Category_Code=uts

If you wish to see more there are a lot of links, just do a Google search on unisex clothes.

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 05, 2008, 03:37:51 PM
Quote from: Rebis on January 05, 2008, 11:43:40 AM
they made me feel ugly again.  *weep*

Your inner beauty shines through Rebis! Besides, those actors in the ad probably don't look any better than the rest us without makeup and photoshop  :P Well, maybe just a little better  ;)

y2g
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 03:44:54 PM
Hi Rebis
Oh come on hon, we could always go hide under that rock with my other little critter friend then all anybody could see is three pairs of eyes blinking in the darkness under the rock.

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 05, 2008, 04:25:29 PM

Thanks.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 05:47:32 PM
"Hee, hee, hee" See, me gots a sense of humor to. But hey you would be welcome to come and visit me under the rock.

Cindy 
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 05, 2008, 07:02:18 PM
i just pretend that the pretty people are stupid... >:D
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 05, 2008, 08:06:58 PM
i pretend pretty people are actually nastier than the rest of us. All bull of course, but it helps.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 05, 2008, 09:27:39 PM
Hi Pica Pica
You so right. But since I can't handle going to a place for to long where there are to many people. It would be hard for me to estimate that ratio accurately. Most of those folks are not on the same planet in that respect. We live on, but I am not certain  about those out there. They for the most part are in there little boxes, I could swear that most suffer brain atrophy in those little boxes.

Can you imagine how folks out there would react reading the threads on this board? I believe it would really and totally do a number on their intellect.   For them to even attempt to digest the contents in this forum and the  multifaceted folks inhabiting it? The weirdness would most suredly baffle them. Billy shouts to his redneck buddies. "Hey Someone go fetch the sheets and kindling and bungee cords, pole and the Zippo lighter please".  "hee, hee, he" I love being different anyway.

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 06, 2008, 12:22:15 PM

Bungee cords?
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 06, 2008, 01:24:30 PM
to tie people to chairs.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 06, 2008, 01:38:40 PM
I'm holding my sides laughing, I love you guys.

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 07, 2008, 08:54:00 PM
there are bungee cords in our freezer
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 07, 2008, 08:54:38 PM
wouldn't that make them snap or something?
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 07, 2008, 09:21:10 PM
I would say their stretch and  bounce would be greatly reduced if frozen. Not recommended for diving off bridges.

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 07, 2008, 10:07:08 PM
i assume they are supposed to hold things in the door area... ???

our bathroom is also hideously orange...

...that was random, Jaimey... :icon_shakefist:
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 07, 2008, 10:36:58 PM
mine has a chipped sink and carpets  :-\
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 08, 2008, 01:32:24 AM
When I go to the bathroom I like looking at all the patterns in the tiles and make pictures out of them.

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 08, 2008, 09:20:15 PM
our bathroom is ORANGE.  day-glow :icon_yikes: orange.  we didn't make it that way though...it was like that when we got here.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 08, 2008, 09:21:34 PM
a lovely bright sunshine colour for a bathroom.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 09, 2008, 12:49:26 AM
Wish I knew how to make this place brighter. Wing Walker and live a basement apartment, nice apartment but any widows we have are underground in window wells.

Cindy
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 10, 2008, 07:22:22 PM
Orange is bright.  I'd recommend tangerine.  Actually, my roommates hate it for being "unsophisticated", but I think it's rather cheerful.  And frankly, if I have to choose which I hated more, the orange bathroom or repainting the orange bathroom...I'm going to have to say leave it orange.

I've never had a basement apartment...I imagine that it is hard to make it brighter.  The only thing I can think of is warm colors, like yellows and light greens...but you aren't always allowed to paint.  Hmmm...flowers are nice too, but they wilt.  ???  I'm not a very savvy decorator...


:icon_writers_block:...i just realized that i wrote about my bathroom being orange twice...those posts are practically identical...wow.  i'm a moron... :icon_no:
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 10, 2008, 07:35:12 PM
I have a housemate who says our house is unsophisticated...It's above a restaurant, how more sophisticated can you get?
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 10, 2008, 07:47:23 PM
the only way it would be more sophisticated is if it were over a night club...just kidding.

actually, i think living above a restaurant would be rather convenient, if you don't want to cook.  I live on the first floor of an old Victorian house...it's pretty cool.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 10, 2008, 07:57:37 PM
cool, they tend to be effin freezing.
I'm living in a georgian terrace at the moment, quite close to where the first ever british gay rights demonstration.
I once worked in a building over 850 years old, now that was impressive.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: cindybc on January 11, 2008, 12:40:46 AM
I use to live in a one room apartment above a restaurant when I was going to College in Sudberry. That was fine, I got a job waiting tables, all the coffee royals I wanted free and didn't pay rent. The owner of the rooms upstairs also owned the restaurant, so I worked the rent off.

Cindy   
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Simone Louise on January 12, 2008, 05:35:58 PM
Great discussion. I've been noticing what I wear. Only you people get off the subject before I can submit my two-cents worth.

First, I buy colorfast 100% natural fabrics that can be washed in warm water and machine dried at low or medium heat. That means I can dump the entire laundry bag contents into the machines. I can't convince the born-women in the family to do likewise, so maybe I'm still over-male in that area.

For underwear, broadcloth boxers with long pants and knit bikini briefs with shorts. I haven't given the subject much thought.

For work, I've chosen carpenter jeans, solid color work T-shirts (I try to pick at least one of each color), boots according to company specs and white socks. Some colleagues, particularly the females, wear knit exercise pants.

Otherwise (and disregarding clothing received as gifts), I buy solid color or striped oxford shirts and twill pants, sized socks, and shoes of a type pictured in the androgenous shoe topic. I could buy female versions of these. Maybe, I should strive for a 50/50 balance. Sometimes, I wear my League of Women Voters belt; I was the first male member in the city where I lived. Do you think I need to dress more daringly, to make more of a statement?

Quietly,
Simone
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 12, 2008, 08:51:17 PM
Hi Simone,

   Only you can know if you need to make a statement.  In my case, I would feel uncomfortable making a statement, so I don't.  But if you think you can do it and feel comfortable doing it, then go for it!


Rebis
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 12, 2008, 10:26:09 PM
As I said in me website, I'm not much of one for statements. Cool thing about the sash and the club though - almost a piece of local history.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 13, 2008, 01:42:17 AM
Quote from: Simone Louise on January 12, 2008, 05:35:58 PM
Great discussion. I've been noticing what I wear. Only you people get off the subject before I can submit my two-cents worth.

we are notorious thread hijackers...>:D.  heh.

I don't like to make a statement either.  I wear clothes that I like, though I generally wear women's clothes because men's clothes don't fit right.  The only "men's" clothes I wear are t-shirts, which are more unisex than anything.  Oh...and my chucks, also unisex.  But I don't think that clothes make the androgyne.  As long as you feel good in what you are wearing, that's all that matters.

Actually, if you saw me, you'd see a woman.  I wear make up, I have long-ish hair, and I wear everything from jeans to ruffly skirts.  But like I said, I don't think clothes make much difference.  It's how you feel on the inside.  I know that I'm androgyne and the people I interact with on a daily basis are aware that I am somewhat different...I'm pretty sure that no guy I know "sees" me as a woman...which is inconvenient as far as dating goes because I like men...*sigh*, but then again, I'd probably be irritated if they did because I can't identify as female. 

Oh well...I like being unique.  :icon_bumdance-nerd: <--also unique...
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Simone Louise on January 13, 2008, 10:31:22 AM
Thanks for the feedback. I won't go buy a new wardrobe but will try to be more concious of the implications of new purchases. It was easier in the 1970s. I still have some high-heeled blue leather shoes with red welts, that I wore when reading my poetry. The blue zippered boots and the red moccasins wore out long ago. Shirts and suits were made in much wider ranges of styles. Too much polyester, though.

I won't change my work clothes. It was too hard a fight to be accepted as one of the "boys" to go through again. My long hair still gets me teased (both my long hair and my beard disqualify me from driving for UPS); sobeit.

I tend to hide, so sometimes I do like to make a statement with clothes, or force myself to sit in the front row. Still, I have a mouth and inclinations that frequently, unintentionally get me in trouble. I once coined the word sarcaustic for my humor (sarcasm with that extra bite); I've learned to be careful whom I tease (well, maybe not careful enough).

Female and male was I created,
Simone
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 13, 2008, 10:53:03 AM
Quote from: Jaimey on January 13, 2008, 01:42:17 AM
I know that I'm androgyne and the people I interact with on a daily basis are aware that I am somewhat different...I'm pretty sure that no guy I know "sees" me as a woman...which is inconvenient as far as dating goes because I like men.

- flip the genders so that the bits saying 'men' are 'women' and vicey versa. And I am just like that.

Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 13, 2008, 11:14:45 PM
Quote from: Simone Louise on January 13, 2008, 10:31:22 AM
Thanks for the feedback. I won't go buy a new wardrobe but will try to be more concious of the implications of new purchases. It was easier in the 1970s. I still have some high-heeled blue leather shoes with red welts, that I wore when reading my poetry. The blue zippered boots and the red moccasins wore out long ago. Shirts and suits were made in much wider ranges of styles. Too much polyester, though.

I won't change my work clothes. It was too hard a fight to be accepted as one of the "boys" to go through again. My long hair still gets me teased (both my long hair and my beard disqualify me from driving for UPS); sobeit.

I tend to hide, so sometimes I do like to make a statement with clothes, or force myself to sit in the front row. Still, I have a mouth and inclinations that frequently, unintentionally get me in trouble. I once coined the word sarcaustic for my humor (sarcasm with that extra bite); I've learned to be careful whom I tease (well, maybe not careful enough).

Female and male was I created,
Simone

It's all about what you're comfortable with.  If you want to make a statement and you are comfortable doing it, go for it.  But don't feel pressured. :)  I feel like some people (not just androgyne, but people of all identities), once they figure out something about themselves, like to be really "in your face" about it...I like to be more subtle, personally.  unless i'm like this :icon_drunk:...then my ability to remain subtle is somewhat inhibited. >:D
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 14, 2008, 08:37:34 AM
Over a dozen years into this, still haven't figured out whether I want my presentation to be more androgynous, or am I OK with simply knowing who I am on an internal level regardless of external expression.

y2g
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Seshatneferw on January 14, 2008, 01:33:37 PM
So there's no hurry to figure this out?  ;)
Thank you.

  Nfr
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Shana A on January 14, 2008, 04:00:18 PM
Quote from: Seshatneferw on January 14, 2008, 01:33:37 PM
So there's no hurry to figure this out?  ;)
Thank you.

  Nfr


No hurry. Besides, just about the time that I finally figure it all out, everything will probably change  ;) ;D

y2g
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Pica Pica on January 14, 2008, 07:01:57 PM
Quote from: y2gender on January 14, 2008, 08:37:34 AM
Over a dozen years into this, still haven't figured out whether I want my presentation to be more androgynous, or am I OK with simply knowing who I am on an internal level regardless of external expression.

y2g

yeah, that's pretty much where I is, excusing the odd excursion.
Title: Re: Androgynous Presentation
Post by: Jaimey on January 15, 2008, 05:16:41 PM
very true.  besides, as long as you're happy with who you are, the outside doesn't matter that much anyway. 

We're all BEAUTIFUL. :eusa_boohoo:

...all right...enough with the mushy stuff...it's time to dance :icon_geekdance: