Today was a hallmark day as I came out to the people that i have known the longest. My schoolmates. Everyone from my kindergarten class to my college class. I just explained that I was just a little different than they were. I have been hiding secrets all the way back to kindergarten and it was about time I declared the reason why. So far the reception has been positive. I don't know if they will still be friends tomorrow but any remaining baggage I was carrying for 66 years is now gone. My last great obstacle is now gone. I explained DES and how it affected me in utero and made the person I am. My fifty year reunion is next year. Do you think I should dress to the nines when I go?
Darn right you should Dawn Out and Proud!
Congratulations girl.
Hugs,
Laurie
Quote from: DawnOday on September 27, 2018, 11:15:01 PM
Today was a hallmark day as I came out to the people that i have known the longest. My schoolmates. Everyone from my kindergarten class to my college class. I just explained that I was just a little different than they were. I have been hiding secrets all the way back to kindergarten and it was about time I declared the reason why. So far the reception has been positive. I don't know if they will still be friends tomorrow but any remaining baggage I was carrying for 66 years is now gone. My last great obstacle is now gone. I explained DES and how it affected me in utero and made the person I am. My fifty year reunion is next year. Do you think I should dress to the nines when I go?
@DawnOday Dear Dawn:Kudos to you Dawn for being brave and coming out to your schoolmates... indeed a hallmark day for you. As I have said many times in various threads, not having to hide your secret any longer and coming out to everyone that you know is such a relief, it is like a big weight is lifted off of your shoulders.
If you have been following my thread then you know that back in April I finally came out to all of my townspeople... even though I had been living full-time and moved here as a woman I was holding my secret inside and it was such a burden... now that the burden is gone, my life is my own now, no one can whisper to another and say, "hey, do you know about that woman named Danielle and her past?" I received overwhelming acceptance from just about everyone and for those few that did not accept me, they received the wrath of my friends, particularly my friends at the next door coffee shop.
Regarding how you wish to dress at your reunion, obviously it is solely up to you. As you are aware from the numerous pictures that I post of myself, I tend to dress quite conservatively and while I can dress up very nicely I never dress provocatively and I attempt to fit in without drawing unnecessary attention to myself and my newly aquired female attributes.... but that is just me.
When you do go to the reunion next year... remember, pictures or it didn't happen.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Dawn:
All I can say is congrats.
And dress to your true self.
Kate
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Dear Dawn - that's amazing, well done you! I know the feeling of relief of a burden as I did the same on social media a few months back. "Liberating" might be the appropriate word. You won't look back much now, only strength going forward, totally empowered. The very best of luck! xoxo
Dawn, congratulations on getting that last coming-out hurdle behind you!
Quote from: DawnOday on September 27, 2018, 11:15:01 PMDo you think I should dress to the nines when I go?
Hell, yes, girl! :D
Quote from: DawnOday on September 27, 2018, 11:15:01 PM
Today was a hallmark day as I came out to the people that i have known the longest. My schoolmates. Everyone from my kindergarten class to my college class. I just explained that I was just a little different than they were. I have been hiding secrets all the way back to kindergarten and it was about time I declared the reason why. So far the reception has been positive. I don't know if they will still be friends tomorrow but any remaining baggage I was carrying for 66 years is now gone. My last great obstacle is now gone. I explained DES and how it affected me in utero and made the person I am. My fifty year reunion is next year. Do you think I should dress to the nines when I go?
Hooray! And most definitely you should get all dolled up. Why stop at 9 .. Go for 10 :D
@DawnOdayDear Dawn: Your 50th school reunion is the perfect place to show what a transwoman is really like, this is your opportunity to dress like the beautiful woman you and to show the "new you" to your past acquaintances and friends.
Do you own a Little Black Dress and some black patent heels.... or perhaps some other dressy dress and accessories that will be appropriate for the occasion?
It is always fun and quite affirming to be able to dress up. Women's fashion is so very exciting, all the colors, the patterns, the choices that we have... embrace all of it....
.... and you can certainly generate your own events where you can dress up.... a formal dinner out with another or with a group of accepting friends.... or on an all-day shopping trip with friends to a mall and perhaps some upscale stores that can include a lunch or dinner out at an upscale restaruant..
These are great things to plan for and to be able to do.
Of course, then you "must" tend to all of the prep work..... hair and nail salon, accessories like necklaces, earrings, bracelets.... the whole 9 yards!!!!
So, what are you waiting for? Time is a-wasting, and none of us are getting any younger.....
... so get to it, girl !!! .... and remember the rule here that I mentioned in my previous comment to you....
"Pictures or it didn't happen."Hugs and well wishes as always,
Danielle
I have several black dresses. But the reunion is not for several months. I get my dresses from Venus.com As I've said before. I would love to get locked in the warehouse for a month or two so I can try everything on. And they are fairly cheap also. We are going to reconvene our GASS meetings tonight, Yay. (gender alliance south sound) We were banned for several weeks because one of our group members ransacked the office. I don't know who but I have an idea. We have 20 -30 members show up week to week and it sucks that one of them is a thief.
So far I am not getting much feedback from my classmates so maybe I have to write it again. I thought I would hear yay or neigh. I can't believe it doesn't offend someone considering how many of them are Trump-ets. Thanks for your encouragement sweetie. You are a gem.
Rock it
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You have plenty of time to pick which black dress to wear. Or red!
I am a bit jealous, I love dancing in a dress.
Rock it girl
Hugs and smiles from a California girl
Thank you Faith your encouragement is appreciated.
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It is nice not to live life as a pack mule.
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I love the serenity it brings. My mind does not rehash every minute detail. I mean I love my friends but many of the people I know didn't know me very well
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Kate thank you. It's been a long time since I said I love myself.
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Laurie my dear new friends have been a great stabilizer. I value you all so much.
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