Hi,
One of the biggest stumbling blocks to being free with my fem presentation is the relationship I have with my grandchildren and their parents. I have five grandchildren (4 girls/1 boy) and I'd would welcome people's thoughts and experiences in this area on how to deal with the grandchildren. Secondarily, but just as important, people's experiences with the parents of grandchildren.
I am open to hearing about all experiences coming out to children, but parents coming out to their own children have a different dynamic than the double whammy of coming out to parents/grandchildren.
I am not looking for positive experiences but negative one's too. Maybe I can learn from all these thoughts and experiences to craft a plan. Whether it works or not will be another matter, but I can at least do as much due diligence as I can in this regards before I do the plunge (coming 1/31/2019).
Thanks in advance to all that contribute to this learning experience
EvaB
It depends on how old your grandkids are. Mine are quite young (<5) so it wasn't a big deal at all to just be me around them. I told my son and daughter in law the new name I wanted the kids to call me. They are all fine, accepting my wife and I as we are.
I recall sitting on the deck steps when I told my son the news. I was afraid of his reaction but it was all for naught. He's the quiet type so I wasn't sure if I'd pick up the cues he might project. At subsequent meetings he was and has been fine.
Best of luck. Judi
My grandchildren are also quite your (<3). Glad you had a good experience. We brought our children to be accepting and respectful, but emotions play such a role in this situation. And in many cases going from male to female is akin to having their Papa dies. Even though he is reborn a she, he still is no more. So, grief is a concern and a wild card.
Quote from: EvaB on October 08, 2018, 04:10:32 AM
My grandchildren are also quite your (<3).
EvaB to quote Orlando , , ,
"Same person. No difference at all - just different sex"My daughter has #3 "in-the-oven", all under '4' living close to home and surely
YOU will be their favorite too! School and "OK parents" (other kid's) will be a delicate navigation wishing you
The Best!
My oldest grandchildren are 12 and 13. I have considered directly asking them how they feel. On the face of things, there is no issue. The younger one just thinks I'm 'weird grandpa'. The youngest is too young to care.
Parents thereof, well, my children are all fine. Their spouses, uncomfortable but deal with it. Their opinion doesn't mean much to me, as long as they aren't destructive to my relationship with the grandchildren.
Names, they call me what they always do. It's up to them if they feel the need to address me differently, I'll never ask them to do so.