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Title: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: JannaLM on October 21, 2018, 12:49:56 PM
So the other day, I went out to get myself some formal wear for a career fair I am going to this week.

I was in a department store, getting shoes (man shoes because I still present as male in public) but I just had an urge to go try on a pair of heels. I've had this feeling dozens of times before, but this day I actually said 'screw it. I'm trying on some heels'. I found a pair, they fit perfectly, and I felt better than I ever did before in my life. I didn't buy them (as much as I wanted to) because I was a little short on money, but then it got me thinking that next time, maybe I will buy a cute pair of heels.

So I was just curious: How did it feel the first time you wore high heels (or some other clothes) in public?
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on October 21, 2018, 12:59:25 PM
Quote from: JannaLM on October 21, 2018, 12:49:56 PM
So the other day, I went out to get myself some formal wear for a career fair I am going to this week.

I was in a department store, getting shoes (man shoes because I still present as male in public) but I just had an urge to go try on a pair of heels. I've had this feeling dozens of times before, but this day I actually said 'screw it. I'm trying on some heels'. I found a pair, they fit perfectly, and I felt better than I ever did before in my life. I didn't buy them (as much as I wanted to) because I was a little short on money, but then it got me thinking that next time, maybe I will buy a cute pair of heels.

So I was just curious: How did it feel the first time you wore high heels (or some other clothes) in public?
There should be no no maybe about it next time buy yourself a pair of heels girl do yourself a favor make sure that they are not high heels like really really high cuz I have so many pair of 3 inch heels and my ankles kill me in them.

But it made me feel free light as a feather floating in the clouds absolutely wonderful my first time that I dressed in my proper gender in public

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: GordonG on October 21, 2018, 02:19:21 PM
I love wearing heels. Makes me feel so fem. I honestly don't remember my first experience. I go and try them on when I can find some in my size (13 Wide). Often my local Nordstrom Rack has some. I've bought two pairs from them.
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on October 21, 2018, 02:25:49 PM
Quote from: GordonG on October 21, 2018, 02:19:21 PM
I love wearing heels. Makes me feel so fem. I honestly don't remember my first experience. I go and try them on when I can find some in my size (13 Wide). Often my local Nordstrom Rack has some. I've bought two pairs from them.
I know that is very tough to find any women's shoes in a size 13 I have a size 11 well was a size 11 my feet Franco size but I was a size 11 and had trouble

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Lynne on October 21, 2018, 02:32:17 PM
Beware, shoes can be addictive, once you start buying them you may lose control :) I'm thinking of buying another shoe cabinet because I can't fit all my shoes into the existing one.
When I went out the first time in public I was quite sure I would have a chance of passing but I was still very nervous at the beginning. I almost sprained my ankle while I was hurrying to the train station in my heels. After I calmed down a little it was a fantastic experience and it felt surprisingly natural.
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: pamelatransuk on October 22, 2018, 05:37:43 AM
Hello JannaLM

I find wearing heels to be one of the more affirming signs of my femininity and it all has always felt so exciting.

I recall my first public walk in heels and it felt so exhilaring. Each step is pure pleasure!

Hugs

Pamela
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Lynne on October 22, 2018, 05:43:34 AM
Quote from: pamelatransuk on October 22, 2018, 05:37:43 AM
Hello JannaLM

I find wearing heels to be one of the more affirming signs of my femininity and it all has always felt so exciting.

I recall my first public walk in heels and it felt so exhilaring. Each step is pure pleasure!

Hugs

Pamela

That's what I usually feel when I go out wearing high heels but after a few hours long shopping trip it's more like "Each step is pure pain!" :D
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 05:55:29 AM
Quote from: Lynne on October 22, 2018, 05:43:34 AM
That's what I usually feel when I go out wearing high heels but after a few hours long shopping trip it's more like "Each step is pure pain!" :D
That is so true it always starts out the most pleasurable experience and then turns into the most painful experience but you still love every second of it because it's you

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Johnni Gyrl on October 22, 2018, 08:16:04 AM
Last year, I bought online some more sensible 'block heels' only 2.5" high - black suede ankle boots, for going out with rather than posing at home. First time I wore them felt great, though they took some getting used to when walking on solid concrete. After a few times wearing them, one local lady said she loved them & would wear them herself!

Fast forward to this weekend, I went out to a local bar wearing the boots, girls jeans with subtle flower embroidery, a girls see-through blouse over a female tank tee, eye-liner & nail polish. Nobody got upset if they even noticed that much.

It's all good, as I add a little bit more each time ;-) xoxo
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: barbie on October 22, 2018, 01:09:53 PM
The thickness of heel, rather than the height, mostly determines how much comfortable they are to walk on. Stiletto heels can be painful to walk on, but block heels and wedge sandals are easy.

barbie~~
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 01:23:21 PM
Quote from: barbie on October 22, 2018, 01:09:53 PM
The thickness of heel, rather than the height, mostly determines how much comfortable they are to walk on. Stiletto heels can be painful to walk on, but block heels and wedge sandals are easy.

barbie~~
Omg yes I have a pair of believe they're between 3 and 5 in thigh high leather stilettos I can't walk in them I'm lucky if I can stand in them the back is so thin now this is a question that I'm hoping maybe one of you can answer are we supposed to walk on our balls of our feet or on our heels or do we do both evenly because I do have a little trouble figuring that out usually I do heel first when I step down

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: mm on October 22, 2018, 02:12:04 PM
Wearing heels takes practice.  You can easy see watching women which ones are comfortable in heels, they move smoothly and have good balance as they walk.  Buy a comfortable pair not real high, 2-3 in to start and wear them around the house for a few days before going out in public.
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: barbie on October 22, 2018, 09:46:11 PM
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 01:23:21 PM
Omg yes I have a pair of believe they're between 3 and 5 in thigh high leather stilettos I can't walk in them I'm lucky if I can stand in them the back is so thin now this is a question that I'm hoping maybe one of you can answer are we supposed to walk on our balls of our feet or on our heels or do we do both evenly because I do have a little trouble figuring that out usually I do heel first when I step down

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Walking on both balls and heels will be comfortable. I have ordered the following ones yesterday, and the heel height (13 cm = 5 inch) does not cause so much problem, owing to the bulky heels and platforms.

(https://ae01.alicdn.com/kf/HTB1jaN8vaSWBuNjSsrbq6y0mVXaR.jpg)

https://www.aliexpress.com/item/MORAZORA-2018-new-top-quality-flock-leather-boots-woemn-high-heels-platform-ankle-boots-for-women/32881196056.html
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 09:49:42 PM
Quote from: barbie on October 22, 2018, 09:46:11 PM
Walking on both balls and heels will be comfortable. I have ordered the following ones yesterday, and the heel height (13 cm = 5 inch) does not cause so much problem, owing to the bulky heels and platforms.

(https://ae01.alicdn.com/kf/HTB1jaN8vaSWBuNjSsrbq6y0mVXaR.jpg)

https://www.aliexpress.com/item/MORAZORA-2018-new-top-quality-flock-leather-boots-woemn-high-heels-platform-ankle-boots-for-women/32881196056.html
These are the ones that I bought from Charlotte Russe a I love them but boy did they make my ankles hurt only $20 to lol 50% off sale(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20181023/86a1313c4be2296bf9b45070592fc309.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20181023/b4766119e1cf8da5f740065109583c62.jpg)

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Gabrielle66 on October 22, 2018, 10:00:03 PM
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 01:23:21 PM
Omg yes I have a pair of believe they're between 3 and 5 in thigh high leather stilettos I can't walk in them I'm lucky if I can stand in them the back is so thin now this is a question that I'm hoping maybe one of you can answer are we supposed to walk on our balls of our feet or on our heels or do we do both evenly because I do have a little trouble figuring that out usually I do heel first when I step down

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I've never worn a pair of heels before but I have watched plenty of videos about walking in them. They all say heel to toe is the proper way to walk in heels regardless of heel style. I really want to get a pair and learn to walk in them. For me, heels and a dress are my idea of the perfect feminine moment. Love and faith.

Gabrielle
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 10:02:31 PM
Quote from: Gabrielle66 on October 22, 2018, 10:00:03 PM
I've never worn a pair of heels before but I have watched plenty of videos about walking in them. They all say heel to toe is the proper way to walk in heels regardless of heel style. I really want to get a pair and learn to walk in them. For me, heels and a dress are my idea of the perfect feminine moment. Love and faith.

Gabrielle
Well that's good to know because I do walk heel-to-toe and if you go for heels I would definitely do like everybody on here to saying go for thick heels first because they provide a lot more stability and are so much easier to walk in

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: barbie on October 22, 2018, 10:27:07 PM
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 09:49:42 PM
These are the ones that I bought from Charlotte Russe a I love them but boy did they make my ankles hurt only $20 to lol 50% off sale(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20181023/86a1313c4be2296bf9b45070592fc309.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20181023/b4766119e1cf8da5f740065109583c62.jpg)

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Your boots do not have platforms and I guess it can be painful to walk in them.

I also have ordered the following one, which have thick platforms.

(https://ae01.alicdn.com/kf/HTB15m5DveSSBuNjy0Flq6zBpVXav.jpg)

https://www.aliexpress.com/store/product/Size-34-43-New-2018-Over-the-Knee-Boots-Women-Faux-Suede-Thigh-High-Boots-Platform/1393300_32882402462.html

barbie~~
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 10:33:33 PM
Quote from: barbie on October 22, 2018, 10:27:07 PM
Your boots do not have platforms and I guess it can be painful to walk in them.

I also have ordered the following one, which have thick platforms.

(https://ae01.alicdn.com/kf/HTB15m5DveSSBuNjy0Flq6zBpVXav.jpg)

https://www.aliexpress.com/store/product/Size-34-43-New-2018-Over-the-Knee-Boots-Women-Faux-Suede-Thigh-High-Boots-Platform/1393300_32882402462.html

barbie~~
See I thought heels were the platforms but you really could possibly explain exactly what platforms are to me and I'm sure some of the other ladies here would like to know if they don't LOL please

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: barbie on October 23, 2018, 09:06:15 AM
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 22, 2018, 10:33:33 PM
See I thought heels were the platforms but you really could possibly explain exactly what platforms are to me and I'm sure some of the other ladies here would like to know if they don't LOL please

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Some examples of platform heels: http://www.shiekhshoes.com/gallery.aspx?CatID=58&SEName=womens-platform-shoes

barbie~~
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: jill610 on November 03, 2018, 04:06:31 PM
Quote from: pamelatransuk on October 22, 2018, 05:37:43 AM
Hello JannaLM

I find wearing heels to be one of the more affirming signs of my femininity and it all has always felt so exciting.

I recall my first public walk in heels and it felt so exhilaring. Each step is pure pleasure!

Hugs

Pamela

Haha! I wear heels at work, 14 hours a day five days a week. Definitely affirming, especially when you master the stride! I look forward to taking them off and switching out for my sneakers when I head home.

Trim those toe nails! Long nails hurt in heels and can painfully break.

Go buy those heels, and most stores can order larger sizes if they are available. I am lucky to fit a 10W.
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: JannaLM on November 06, 2018, 06:00:18 PM
Update:

Hey girls!

I finally got myself a pair of heels and the fit perfectly!

I decided that since it is almost my birthday, I should do myself a favor and get myself a birthday present, which included a dress, heels, and some bras. They got here today and I tried everything on, all of it fit perfectly, and I just am in love with all of this stuff already.

The heels are about 3-4 inches, and really comfortable for the most part at size 11. I think my feet might still be a little wide for it (But I am kind of overweight, so I think when I slim down my muffin top it would also thin out my feet a little bit!). I think I might be a natural at walking in heels because I was wearing them around my home for like an hour and only stumbled once. (I know it's probably just because my home is really small, like 700 sq feet but don't kill my buzz!)

Anyway, I just wanted to share with everybody that I've finally caught up and got some cute heels!
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Jessica on November 06, 2018, 07:59:11 PM
@JannaLM

Quote from: JannaLM on November 06, 2018, 06:00:18 PM
Update:

Hey girls!

I finally got myself a pair of heels and the fit perfectly!

I decided that since it is almost my birthday, I should do myself a favor and get myself a birthday present, which included a dress, heels, and some bras. They got here today and I tried everything on, all of it fit perfectly, and I just am in love with all of this stuff already.

The heels are about 3-4 inches, and really comfortable for the most part at size 11. I think my feet might still be a little wide for it (But I am kind of overweight, so I think when I slim down my muffin top it would also thin out my feet a little bit!). I think I might be a natural at walking in heels because I was wearing them around my home for like an hour and only stumbled once. (I know it's probably just because my home is really small, like 700 sq feet but don't kill my buzz!)

Anyway, I just wanted to share with everybody that I've finally caught up and got some cute heels!

Happy Birthday Janna!
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: JannaLM on November 06, 2018, 08:28:41 PM
@Jessica

Thank you sweetheart!

:-*
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on November 06, 2018, 08:30:21 PM
Quote from: JannaLM on November 06, 2018, 08:28:41 PM
@Jessica

Thank you sweetheart!

:-*
Just wanted to say happy birthday hun

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: sally0196 on November 06, 2018, 08:38:58 PM
Janna,

Welcome to the high-heel club!  Be forewarned though, buying ladies shoes can be addictive (ask me how I know).  I think the thing that amazes me most about heels is that it is usually impossible to tell how comfortable they will be just by looking at them.  I have shoes with lower heels that are downright painful almost immediately, yet I have a pair with four inch heels that I can wear comfortably for hours.  These days though, I'm mostly into boots, both tall shaft boots and ankle boots, usually with a higher block heel. 

Hugs,

Sally
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: JannaLM on November 06, 2018, 09:12:34 PM
@sally0196

Well you told me to ask how you know that buying shoes can be addictive. So how can it be addictive? I only want to buy like 8 trillion new pairs now. It can't be THAT addictive.

@Arianna Valentine

Thank you so much sweetie!

You girls are all awesome and I am so glad I found my way onto this site!

Kisses!
-Janna
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: sally0196 on November 21, 2018, 01:17:42 PM
Because Janna, I really don't need any more shoes, yet I continue to buy.  That has to be addiction.  Of course there is the phrase: "a girl can't have too many pairs of shoes."

Hugs,

Sally
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: DawnOday on November 21, 2018, 02:31:02 PM
Because my feet have shrunk a bit I can now wear the Payless shoes I bought a year ago. Just wore them for the first time last Wednesday. I think I need a little training. and they are only two inch wedges. I cannot even think of dancing in 5" heels. I got a pair a couple years ago and when I put them on the heel broke in half and you can guess where I ended up.
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on November 21, 2018, 02:53:55 PM
Quote from: sally0196 on November 21, 2018, 01:17:42 PM
Because Janna, I really don't need any more shoes, yet I continue to buy.  That has to be addiction.  Of course there is the phrase: "a girl can't have too many pairs of shoes."

Hugs,

Sally
It is true that sounds like an addiction but you must have a pair of shoes for every outfit and yes a woman cannot have enough pairs of shoes

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: dee82 on November 21, 2018, 06:37:40 PM
In my previous guy life I had like two pairs of runners (exact same style, so I could rotate them) and a pair of leather shoes for work/special occasions. Other than flip flops for around the house and summer that was it.

But now I have 5 completely different styles of footware. No high heals yet, cause I am self-conscious of my height (feel tall enough already).

I don't think I am addicted, but love having a choice. You may well laugh at only five pairs, but for me that is a huge difference.

Luckily, I have narrow feet and can fit comfortably into 10 or 11's depending on the shoe.

Enjoy your heels Janna.
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Linde on November 21, 2018, 06:49:29 PM
I thought I would break my ankles when I wear anything higher than your average male heal! 
I found out that my feet get really tired in those loafer style shoes that have hardly any heal at all.  The shoes I feel most comfortable in have the block or wedge type heals between 2 and 3 1/2 inches.  I can march in those things across town and back, and can wear them all day long!
Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Arianna Valentine on November 21, 2018, 06:55:13 PM
Quote from: Dietlind on November 21, 2018, 06:49:29 PM
I thought I would break my ankles when I wer anything higher than your average male heal! 
I found out that my feet get really tired in those loafer style shoes that have hardly any heal at all.  The shoes I feel most comfortable in have the block or wedge type heals between 2 and 3 1/2 inches.  I can march in those things across town and back, and can wear them all day long!
I have noticed that any with either a wedge or a really big heel are so much easier to walk in

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Title: Re: First Time Wearing Heels in Public
Post by: Linde on November 21, 2018, 08:11:27 PM
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on November 21, 2018, 06:55:13 PM
I have noticed that any with either a wedge or a really big heel are so much easier to walk in

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I don't even consider stiletto style heals.  Most cis women can't walk in them properly, and they have many years of training to do do.  I like the bigger, medium high heals and will stick with them!
Anyway, how would it look like if a 6' tall Nordic person walks in these things, probably like one of the Walkures from the Wagner operas!