If you are MTF, or think you might be, or you have a gender that is female, and you are at any stage of transition, what do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman that you could not do (or did not like to do) as a man?
We could also flip that question around, that is, what do you NOT like to do as a woman? That can be in a different topic but could be commented on here.
Multiple posts are encouraged over very long ones, plus.... This can be be anything, it does not have to be important, it could simply be something fun!
I will start this with something that I am not sure how it ranks in importance. Perhaps it becomes routine.
It is simply fun having someone styling your hair to look healthy and feminine. The talk is good as it could be with a barber as a man, but it seems to be better. Maybe different is the word to use, as you may not talk about fashion with the barber. Then all that fussing to have your hair styled just right, all the hair clips, combing, cutting and so on... It is a fun experience. Especially so if you like the results!
Chrissy
Honestly at this point I feel that what I would really like is to just be happy and sane and away from stupid people but you know that's at anytime I try to keep it that way
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I'm not presenting yet, but here are a couple things I'm looking forward to.
* Shopping with friends. (Guys don't shop with friends.)
* Have deep conversations regularly. (Guys generally can't have deep conversation with other guys, and guys generally can't have deep conversations with women who aren't their significant others.)
Sometimes I have problems deciding what to do, so I need a take charge person. Also, I want to be pampered.
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 24, 2018, 07:25:18 PM
Honestly at this point I feel that what I would really like is to just be happy and sane and away from stupid people but you know that's at anytime I try to keep it that way
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I think that it is always wise to avoid dinkledorks, rude, selfish, and unwise people, if possible.
I also think that doing things for others just to be serving, not because it is your job,
is good to do. It helps take your mind away from our own problems, at least for awhile, and you help people. That serving can bring joy into lives, theirs and yours.
Chrissy
Honestly, the best part of transitioning was actually being able to talk to people without the pain of gender dysphoria interfering.
When I first went to my current therapist I told her that I had Aspergers because I was so awkward around people. She told me that in no way would she ever have thought of me as having that disorder. She suggested that my dysphoria was preventing me from relaxing in social interactions and... yeah, it looks like she was right.
It turns out that a big part of why I was so miserable living as a man was because of how isolated I felt.
Sorry this was kind of long. My thing I like to do as a woman is talking with my friends [emoji846]
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Living my life!
Going for a walk, stopping for coffee, grocery shopping. Perhaps lunch out with friends. Doing my housekeeping, cooking dinner, relaxing with a good book.
It's all good! I love it, and how I feel now. I'm me, out of the bottle and never going back!
Quote from: Angela H on October 24, 2018, 07:36:49 PM
Honestly, the best part of transitioning was actually being able to talk to people without the pain of gender dysphoria interfering.
When I first went to my current therapist I told her that I had Aspergers because I was so awkward around people. She told me that in no way would she ever have thought of me as having that disorder. She suggested that my dysphoria was preventing me from relaxing in social interactions and... yeah, it looks like she was right.
It turns out that a big part of why I was so miserable living as a man was because of how isolated I felt.
Sorry this was kind of long. My thing I like to do as a woman is talking with my friends [emoji846]
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Angela,
Talk as long as you want! :) We have open ears and minds!
A good therapist is good to stick with. I wish you the best.
Friends, real ones, not the Facebook "friends", are wonderful to share time with.
Chrissy
Quote from: Michelle_P on October 24, 2018, 07:42:46 PM
Living my life!
Going for a walk, stopping for coffee, grocery shopping. Perhaps lunch out with friends. Doing my housekeeping, cooking dinner, relaxing with a good book.
It's all good! I love it, and how I feel now. I'm me, out of the bottle and never going back!
Sounds good to me! BTW, thanks for your ongoing updates, they are "looked forward to" reading.
Chrissy
Doing everything I do normally BUT as a women, I already feel like that but I want to be presented as such. I'm already sitting here in my office fully dressed - in a cute as hell brand new outfit I'll add BUT I want to also go out into the world presented as well.
I already love to go girls shopping with my wife, done that 3 times now ;-)
Love makeup - i would love to get a makeover at a beauty parlour!
As a bonus I want to go to one of those ultra femme dressups they do in Victorian era dresses and sit around with a group of friends sipping tea. - mine will actually have coffee with baileys - so I'll be stealthing the Tea. ;-)
Redo high school as a girl - I'm thinking St Trinians! --looks like fun!
Sonja.
Nice thread Chrissy. Thank you. I realized today that I have reached a point where being a woman is more normal to me than being a guy ever was. When I first came out living full time, I was self conscience for a while. Gradually it leaves. I would feel very awkward (dysphoria aside) going out acting as a guy now.
I specifically enjoy expressing femininity in my daily life. It is what makes me function happily. I enjoy the change with men, surprisingly enough, more than with women. I like the change in how I am perceived and how I act around them. It is like I feel comfortable around them for the first time ever.
I also like dressing nicely. I had a coworker who I hardly know comment on how I always wear the cutest tops. That was very gratifying. Truth be told, when you are a woman, you don't have to be embarrassed about caring that you look good.
I will say I must apologize but my earlier post I was in a rather angry mood the mood swings are just wonderful with hormones so I do apologize but yes once I fully transition I really am looking forward to just being happy and being myself physically I'm all ready there mentally but physically I so want to be there and I can't wait for it
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Live life without the misery of keeping up the guy act. Life is finally fun.
Now of course being invited to baby showers, homecoming dress shopping, bridal showers, etc... is definitely fun. I also do enjoy the whole makeup and hair thing as well.
Just be myself. I am no longer constrained by the male 'box' I had to stay in all my life. I can just enjoy life, and wear plenty of dresses and skirts while doing so!
life
Quote from: Colleen_definitely on October 24, 2018, 09:15:26 PM
Live life without the misery of keeping up the guy act. Life is finally fun.
Now of course being invited to baby showers, homecoming dress shopping, bridal showers, etc... is definitely fun. I also do enjoy the whole makeup and hair thing as well.
I can understand what you're talking about with the guy I act I did that my whole life even through my marriage
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Good idea for a thread.
I never thought about clothes, I saw myself dressing like any other girl. Clothes were nothing more than a way to cover my body before, why should being a girl be any different. Was I ever wrong! It is incredible how much time I spend thinking about what I want to wear. Keeping a careful eye on what I spend, it has taken years to accumulate all the pieces to play with. Dresses, skirts, tops, shorts, leggings, tights, sweaters, socks of all kinds I am still working on pants that has a look that fits me and shoes there are just too many for me to get them all on my budget. It's all about nailing it for what I will be doing and where I will be going. I actually plan out days in advance so I don't wear something on Monday that will look amazing with what I want to wear Thursday and end up scrambling to do laundry. The parameters are that it has to be feminine, so nothing that you could say that a guy would wear that and look okay, nothing that would look sleazy, sexy sometimes but never sleazy. I try not to be overdressed but sometimes it happens, nothing like something to wear to a ball but a gorgeous midthigh sweater dress with tights sometimes when I am just having dinner with friends, sure. I love drawing everyone's eye in a good way, when I went full time I was not completely passable and I know what drawing eyes in a bad way is like. Getting compliments from women or hearing them talk about how much they love what I am wearing. Getting the long look from guys, then another good look, then wait for it, you know you want to, ah, there it is the third steady stare! Gotcha! Of course some of them have to ruin it by having a serious gander at the boobs, but they are men and it is to be expected. I love walking by someone that is staring to a table or position behind them and wait for them to turn around and look. It is vain in a way, but it feels glorious to know that the way you've assembled yourself that day is seen as attractive. So that is one thing that I like to do now.
Well I not fully out yet, but being on HRT, my life has skyrocketed. The fog cleared and I'm happy. I've always try just to be me no matter how I'm presenting and like a previous post, I just want to leave the guy act behind.
Julie
Julie
I feel precisely the same as you. HRT has given me great confidence in my transition journey and I wish when I go fulltime next year to cease acting.
Chrissy
For me it is to interact with women as a woman and to be treated and later perceived as a woman.
Also to buy and enjoy wearing the outfits and matching. As a man I never saw clothes as anything other than "uniform"
Hugs
Pamela
I would like to get coiffed and primped and wear some sort of high end outfit to the Melbourne Cup.( or even the Darwin Cup).
I'd like to have a few drinks with the girls and play up a little bit.
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There is no activity that I do or look forward to doing as a woman that is significantly different from what I did as a man, with the exception of clothes shopping. I do the same things as I always did, I just enjoy them more, being able to be myself. Like many on this thread, I enjoy being able to express femininity as I go about my daily activities. I enjoy my interactions with other people more, both men and women, because I am not trying to fake being male.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 24, 2018, 07:21:16 PM
If you are MTF, or think you might be, or you have a gender that is female, and you are at any stage of transition, what do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman that you could not do (or did not like to do) as a man?
Chrissy
Go anywhere with crowds, cameras, or mirrors, and still feel confident and relaxed without having to be obliterated to take my mind off of my surroundings.
Quote from: Julie -2010 on October 24, 2018, 11:09:11 PM
Well I not fully out yet, but being on HRT, my life has skyrocketed. The fog cleared and I'm happy. I've always try just to be me no matter how I'm presenting and like a previous post, I just want to leave the guy act behind.
Julie
Julie,
That sounds so nice. No more pretending would be nice to eliminate! I wish you much satisfaction and joy!
Chrissy
Quote from: pamelatransuk on October 25, 2018, 04:02:29 AM
Julie
I feel precisely the same as you. HRT has given me great confidence in my transition journey and I wish when I go fulltime next year to cease acting.
Chrissy
For me it is to interact with women as a woman and to be treated and later perceived as a woman.
Also to buy and enjoy wearing the outfits and matching. As a man I never saw clothes as anything other than "uniform"
Hugs
Pamela
Pamela,
I liked what you said so much. Thanks for sharing. Best to you.
Chrissy
The irony of ironies! On Facebook recently discovered a new public group entitled "Pan Am Graduating Class Photos" and after extensive flipping thru volumes found myself here:
"facebook.com/groups/PAAGradClass/permalink/750723878427458/"
Class of September 15, 1985 - MIA Flight Ops Training Center.
If they had hired me as a woman in 1983 I would probably would have stayed in In-Flight Service but fate intervened, probably for the best considering 1991 "cease of operations". FA's did not get a very good deal with Delta.
And as a well known VicePresident of Flight Operations my father was the primary reason I forestalled transition in the first place . . . with the rest now being internet history?
Here I am sitting and trying to think Hairdresser can't be it, I go to a female hairdresser for the last 30+ years.
shopping can't be it either, I love to go cloth and shoe shopping, always loved it and always will. I have an entire walk in closet just filled with my stuff, and own at least 30 pairs of shoes. I even like to go grocery shopping!
It may be that intersexual thing in me that allowed the girl peak out quite a few times? I also like to sit and gossip! I like to cook and bake (but only breads, all kinds of them), and I like gardening.
I think there is not much what I would do different once I am a woman. Makeup is the only thing I could think about that would be new to me.
I really don't know whether being intersexual makes one to behave different? I don't know any other transgender persons but I don't also know any other intersexual persons. I have nobody to compare myself to.
I wish one could see that on the forehead of the person across of me! (as long as it would be invisible for Trump and his ilk)
As others have said, being comfortable in your skin and feeling authentic would be the real reward. As far as activities that are considered the domain of women, I must confess a nice spa treatment would probably feel really self-indulgent.
Quote from: Kirsteneklund7 on October 25, 2018, 06:02:33 AM
I would like to get coiffed and primped and wear some sort of high end outfit to the Melbourne Cup.( or even the Darwin Cup).
I'd like to have a few drinks with the girls and play up a little bit.
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@Kirsteneklund7
Count me in!!! - just need to find my way over to Ozy AND find the 'perfect outfit'!!
Sonja.
Quote from: randim on October 25, 2018, 04:23:48 PM
. . . I must confess a nice spa treatment would probably feel really self-indulgent.
OMG Randi "me too" just posted one here (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,240851.msg2188492.html#msg2188492)!
Quote from: HappyMoni on October 24, 2018, 08:45:18 PM
...I have reached a point where being a woman is more normal to me than being a guy ever was.
...I specifically enjoy expressing femininity in my daily life. It is what makes me function happily. I enjoy the change with men, surprisingly enough, more than with women. I like the change in how I am perceived and how I act around them. It is like I feel comfortable around them for the first time ever.
I also like dressing nicely.
...Truth be told, when you are a woman, you don't have to be embarrassed about caring that you look good.
I agree with all that you've written Monica. Well said! :)
Judi
Quote from: Sonja on October 25, 2018, 04:28:04 PM
@Kirsteneklund7
Count me in!!! - just need to find my way over to Ozy AND find the 'perfect outfit'!!
Sonja.
Your on Sonja !
Kirsten x
Existing and being able to interact with others as a female.
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 24, 2018, 08:48:22 PM
I was in a rather angry mood the mood swings are just wonderful with hormones
You might want to mention this to your doctor so that you can adjust your dosing.
Quote from: KarynMcD on October 26, 2018, 05:30:05 AM
Existing and being able to interact with others as a female.
You might want to mention this to your doctor so that you can adjust your dosing.
Oh I'm on an extremely low-dose it's just I live with a complete idiot to be honest like no brains whatsoever and quite frankly it makes me angry I do not like stupid people. I generally get along with everybody will outside of this one person that's the one person just looking at them makes me very angry. Of course I am only on hormones for 6 maybe 7 months now so I am still new to the emotions and working on getting them in check.
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What do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman?
Turn the heads of men..women.. and anyone in between. 8)
Quote from: Devlyn on October 26, 2018, 05:56:16 AM
What do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman?
Turn the heads of men..women.. and anyone in between. 8)
Cute thought Devlyn!
Smiling back ladies! I hope that your days are going well so far! :)
Here is a little thing: Drinking coffee from your coffee cup and you get to notice that a little lipstick is left on the cup after you sip. :) That sounds a little silly, I know.
You have to touch up your lipstick afterwards perhaps, but that is enjoyable. This is something that will become routine after a long while, I know, but for now... :)
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 26, 2018, 09:26:17 AM
Here is a little thing: Drinking coffee from your coffee cup and you get to notice that a little lipstick is left on the cup after you sip. :) That sounds a little silly, I know.
You have to touch up your lipstick afterwards perhaps, but that is enjoyable. This is something that will become routine after a long while, I know, but for now... :)
Chrissy
After two years of full-time life, I still get a kick out of seeing that pomegranate lipstick smudge. It tells the world "This cup is mine!", and "I was here."
Quote from: Michelle_P on October 26, 2018, 09:49:48 AM
After two years of full-time life, I still get a kick out of seeing that pomegranate lipstick smudge. It tells the world "This cup is mine!", and "I was here."
<Narrator voiceover> ... "unlike the nasty male, the female honey badger marks its territory with lipstick" :laugh:
Laugh and giggle, be happy and kind, look in the mirror and like what I see, where nice clothes out and about.
Quote from: Karen on October 26, 2018, 05:21:20 PM
look in the mirror and like what I see,
I really do want this. working towards it.
Quote from: Julie -2010 on October 27, 2018, 11:52:02 AM
I really do want this. working towards it.
Julie,
Karen,
I understand completely what you say. I also want that sweet, lovely voice all the time.
Chrissy
Quote from: stephaniec on October 24, 2018, 09:29:29 PM
life
Short but sweet.
I'm 3 years into the process that is never ending, but what I've come to understand is myself.
I look forward to living as I always knew I should and doing that without thinking about my gender.
Dysphoria and the anxiety of transition is diminishing and hopefully in 6 months, at this rate, it will be gone completely.
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Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 24, 2018, 07:21:16 PM
Then all that fussing to have your hair styled just right, all the hair clips, combing, cutting and so on... It is a fun experience. Especially so if you like the results!
Chrissy
I haven't gotten to go to a hairstylist yet but so far growing my hair out for a little over a year has been becoming more "fun".. It did feel like a huge pain and chore for the most part, and at times it still does. But that's only because for my natural hair type to look good, it has to be a bit on the longer side. It's fine now and I don't mind it much.
I always wanted to grow my hair but I just couldn't mentally deal with it growing out for some reason.
Something I don't want.. It's cliche but a broken heart. It's inevitable at times, I know. I think it's definitely a strong fear.
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Quote from: Allison S on October 28, 2018, 02:15:06 PM
I haven't gotten to go to a hairstylist yet but so far growing my hair out for a little over a year has been becoming more "fun".. It did feel like a huge pain and chore for the most part, and at times it still does. But that's only because for my natural hair type to look good, it has to be a bit on the longer side. It's fine now and I don't mind it much.
I always wanted to grow my hair but I just couldn't mentally deal with it growing out for some reason.
Something I don't want.. It's cliche but a broken heart. It's inevitable at times, I know. I think it's definitely a strong fear.
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How long does it take to grow hair out? I have no receding hair line or any bald spot, but my hair never grew fast! And I am watching it now for about two month, and I have the feeling it decided to stop growing for good!
Is there anything one can use to speed up the growing? Like fertilizer for grass, something like this for hair?
Quote from: Dietlind on October 28, 2018, 02:52:28 PM
How long does it take to grow hair out? I have no receding hair line or any bald spot, but my hair never grew fast! And I am watching it now for about two month, and I have the feeling it decided to stop growing for good!
Is there anything one can use to speed up the growing? Like fertilizer for grass, something like this for hair?
I wish! I think biotin is used by a lot of people but for me the side effect of increased/faster body hair growth just turns me off from it.
I did use biotin for a bit very early on, but I think for me I feel better now that my hair reaches down past my chin on the sides (or my "bangs) and almost down to my neck around my sides and back of my head. This length really feels a bit better for me so far.
I had a very simple #2 or 3 buzz all around my head with my hair slightly grown out a bit more on the top/crown. But not by much at all. That was probably last summer of 2017 when I had my last real haircut at the time. I did mess up and have someone trim my right side and the back of my head, but honestly it was so little that the difference is negligible now (such a relief). I think protein in food might help, but in moderation too. And of course exercise and balanced diet (with some treats of course) are always great things to do...
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Hmm, a question that can not be completely answered quickly or easily:
What do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman?
I am completely living as a woman... my household belongings are feminine choices.
My clothes are all women's clothes, I got rid of all of my old clothes and shoes when I came out full-time in December 2016, coming up on 2 years ago. At that important moment I immediately quit my male-mode job and relocated here to start my own woman owned small business. I am fortunate that through my hard earned education and on the job experience that I have a skill and a trade that makes that possible.... I am no longer working for anyone other than my clients and myself.
I take a shower and clean up in the morning without a thought about being a trans-woman... I am what I see in the mirror... a woman.... and I still once in a while say WOW to myself as I am getting dried off and getting dressed. A bra and panties are standard underwear, a dress or skirt and blouse and high heels are standard dress. Hair brushes and hair styles, fingernail polish, cosmetics... no longer strange but standard stuff and no longer a mystery.
No longer do I have to worry about passing, I pass 100% of the time which means when people meet me, they meet a woman and that comes with both perks and problems.
I enjoy having doors held open for me. I like offers of help with handling heavy bags of groceries and boxes.
Developing friends and relationships has never ever been a problem for me but now as a 38 old single woman I find that there is much more interest and people looking at me in ways that may be more that just friendship. If you have followed my thread it is apparent that I am concerned about how to juggle my 1 male suitor and 2 female suitors... this is all new territory for sure.
When I walk into a coffee shop, a store, or other place with lots of people I do notice that heads are turning toward me... while that is so self-affirming and certainly flattering, it also presents the issue of how to properly and nicely handle unwanted and unsolicited attention.
I won't say that I have "arrived" yet but I am getting closer every day and I am finally living the life that I was meant to live.
I say all of this to you to let you know that if you are not at that point yet, that with time, practice and determination, your time will come in a way that is unique to you. Enjoy the journey, it is your journey.
I trust that I can offer some optimism and hope to those that are still doubtful about these things. I was a doubter myself, but no longer.
Danielle
Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on October 28, 2018, 03:32:17 PM
Hmm, a question that can not be completely answered quickly or easily:
What do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman?
I am completely living as a woman... my household belongings are feminine choices.
My clothes are all women's clothes, I got rid of all of my old clothes and shoes when I came out full-time in December 2016, coming up on 2 years ago. At that important moment I immediately quit my male-mode job and relocated here to start my own woman owned small business. I am fortunate that through my hard earned education and on the job experience that I have a skill and a trade that makes that possible.... I am no longer working for anyone other than my clients and myself.
I take a shower and clean up in the morning without a thought about being a trans-woman... I am what I see in the mirror... a woman.... and I still once in a while say WOW to myself as I am getting dried off and getting dressed. A bra and panties are standard underwear, a dress or skirt and blouse and high heels are standard dress. Hair brushes and hair styles, fingernail polish, cosmetics... no longer strange but standard stuff and no longer a mystery.
No longer do I have to worry about passing, I pass 100% of the time which means when people meet me, they meet a woman and that comes with both perks and problems.
I enjoy having doors held open for me. I like offers of help with handling heavy bags of groceries and boxes.
Developing friends and relationships has never ever been a problem for me but now as a 38 old single woman I find that there is much more interest and people looking at me in ways that may be more that just friendship. If you have followed my thread it is apparent that I am concerned about how to juggle my 1 male suitor and 2 female suitors... this is all new territory for sure.
When I walk into a coffee shop, a store, or other place with lots of people I do notice that heads are turning toward me... while that is so self-affirming and certainly flattering, it also presents the issue of how to properly and nicely handle unwanted and unsolicited attention.
I won't say that I have "arrived" yet but I am getting closer every day and I am finally living the life that I was meant to live.
I say all of this to you to let you know that if you are not at that point yet, that with time, practice and determination, your time will come in a way that is unique to you. Enjoy the journey, it is your journey.
I trust that I can offer some optimism and hope to those that are still doubtful about these things. I was a doubter myself, but no longer.
Danielle
Truly inspirational and I know you and I have talked several times and he always been helpful and I thank you and I know others will find you very helpful as well
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Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 28, 2018, 03:37:44 PM
Truly inspirational and I know you and I have talked several times and he she always been helpful and I thank you and I know others will find you very helpful as well
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@Arianna Valentine Thank you very much for your kind words... my goal here on the forums is to support and to encourage my like-minded friends ... and if things are going well I will rejoice and be happy for them, if things are not going so well, I will be there with kind encouraging words, and and ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.
Best wishes to you ... thanks for your comments.
Danielle
Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on October 28, 2018, 06:20:37 PM
@Arianna Valentine
Thank you very much for your kind words... my goal here on the forums is to support and to encourage my like-minded friends ... and if things are going well I will rejoice and be happy for them, if things are not going so well, I will be there with kind encouraging words, and and ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.
Best wishes to you ... thanks for your comments.
Danielle
Oh and please excuse the he-she in my previous post unfortunately I use talk to text and my phone might have slight mental problems or something
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Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on October 28, 2018, 03:32:17 PM
Hmm, a question that can not be completely answered quickly or easily:
What do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman?
I am completely living as a woman... my household belongings are feminine choices.
My clothes are all women's clothes, I got rid of all of my old clothes and shoes when I came out full-time in December 2016, coming up on 2 years ago. At that important moment I immediately quit my male-mode job and relocated here to start my own woman owned small business. I am fortunate that through my hard earned education and on the job experience that I have a skill and a trade that makes that possible.... I am no longer working for anyone other than my clients and myself.
I take a shower and clean up in the morning without a thought about being a trans-woman... I am what I see in the mirror... a woman.... and I still once in a while say WOW to myself as I am getting dried off and getting dressed. A bra and panties are standard underwear, a dress or skirt and blouse and high heels are standard dress. Hair brushes and hair styles, fingernail polish, cosmetics... no longer strange but standard stuff and no longer a mystery.
No longer do I have to worry about passing, I pass 100% of the time which means when people meet me, they meet a woman and that comes with both perks and problems.
I enjoy having doors held open for me. I like offers of help with handling heavy bags of groceries and boxes.
Developing friends and relationships has never ever been a problem for me but now as a 38 old single woman I find that there is much more interest and people looking at me in ways that may be more that just friendship. If you have followed my thread it is apparent that I am concerned about how to juggle my 1 male suitor and 2 female suitors... this is all new territory for sure.
When I walk into a coffee shop, a store, or other place with lots of people I do notice that heads are turning toward me... while that is so self-affirming and certainly flattering, it also presents the issue of how to properly and nicely handle unwanted and unsolicited attention.
I won't say that I have "arrived" yet but I am getting closer every day and I am finally living the life that I was meant to live.
I say all of this to you to let you know that if you are not at that point yet, that with time, practice and determination, your time will come in a way that is unique to you. Enjoy the journey, it is your journey.
I trust that I can offer some optimism and hope to those that are still doubtful about these things. I was a doubter myself, but no longer.
Danielle
Danielle,
Very well expressed.
Thank you.
Chrissy
Quote from: Dietlind on October 28, 2018, 02:52:28 PM
How long does it take to grow hair out? I have no receding hair line or any bald spot, but my hair never grew fast! And I am watching it now for about two month, and I have the feeling it decided to stop growing for good!
Is there anything one can use to speed up the growing? Like fertilizer for grass, something like this for hair?
Healthy head hair grows typically a half inch a month. Minoxidil and Finesteride may be helpful.
Some say that male pattern baldness may stop, but not reverse, with mtf HRT estrogen. I do not know if that stoppage is a fact. Some women have thinning hair too.
Consult hair growth experts for professional advice.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 28, 2018, 07:11:29 PM
Healthy head hair grows typically a half inch a month. Minoxidil and Finesteride may be helpful.
Some say that male pattern baldness may stop, but not reverse, with mtf HRT estrogen. I do not know if that stoppage is a fact. Some women have thinning hair too.
Consult hair growth experts for professional advice.
Chrissy
So now I'm curious that if you know of is there any way to increase hairs health? other than using biotin because obviously you don't want body hair growth you just want head hair growth
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Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 28, 2018, 07:20:23 PM
So now I'm curious that if you know of is there any way to increase hairs health? other than using biotin because obviously you don't want body hair growth you just want head hair growth
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Well some physicians and some beauty experts would be able to provide definitive answers.
I suggest learning as much as possible about hair grooming and care from many people and articles.
It makes sense to have overall excellent hygiene, a well balanced, nutritional diet (which should give you the vitamins that you need); to avoid things that are not good for your body, such as bad uses of drugs and smoking; to properly take care of your hair, and be in good overall health and fitness. Avoid excessive chemical treatments to your hair.
Wait for more responses to your healthy hair question too! They should arrive. There are many smart and knowledgable women here.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 28, 2018, 07:32:53 PM
Well some physicians and some beauty experts would be able to provide definitive answers.
I suggest learning as much as possible about hair grooming and care from many people and articles.
It makes sense to have overall excellent hygiene, a well balanced, nutritional diet (which should give you the vitamins that you need); to avoid things that are not good for your body, such as bad uses of drugs and smoking; to properly take care of your hair, and be in good overall health and fitness. Avoid excessive chemical treatments to your hair.
Wait for more responses to your healthy hair question too! They should arrive. There are many smart and knowledgable women here.
Chrissy
I know I have talked to my endocrinologist about biotin which she does have some knowledge about and has heard only good things I did get permission to use it if I wish and I also talked to her about either prenatal or a multivitamin and she said that both of those would be beneficial as well prenatal provides a little bit more I think she said Iron then a regular multivitamin would but it would actually be good and of course up to me if I wish to use it or not I can I say this for everybody just what I was informed for me though so please do not take this as permission to go out and automatically start taking biotin or a multivitamin or prenatal vitamin please
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Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 28, 2018, 07:11:29 PM
Healthy head hair grows typically a half inch a month. Minoxidil and Finesteride may be helpful.
Some say that male pattern baldness may stop, but not reverse, with mtf HRT estrogen. I do not know if that stoppage is a fact. Some women have thinning hair too.
Consult hair growth experts for professional advice.
Chrissy
Thanks, I have no receding hairline or any signs of male baldness (another plus of being intersex). I just want the stuff to grow faster, because I hate the idea of a wig in this hot and humid climate here!
I better think about a hairdo that looks good with short hair! But I hope I can run around in male clothing for a year or so (or until I can't hide my breasts anymore), and that should give my hair time to grow.
Things that I like/love as a woman...
- I don't have to wear that male costume anymore
- I love having a good cry in a movie and not trying to hold it back
- I enjoy the sheer variety of clothing choices
- I ummm enjoy my morning more when I wake up without a tent pole in my shorts
- I love being able to have a conversation with women and they don't assume an ulterior motive
- and I really love my feminity.
- Although I certainly have to get used to legs that are a bit more jiggly and an inability to open jars...
Strange I cant open jars with my legs either ;D
Quote from: davina61 on October 29, 2018, 04:49:39 AM
Strange I cant open jars with my legs either ;D
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Allowing myself to feel, and allowing those feelings to show.
Stephanie
Quote from: Sonja on October 25, 2018, 04:28:04 PM
@Kirsteneklund7
Count me in!!! - just need to find my way over to Ozy AND find the 'perfect outfit'!!
Sonja.
Sounds like you're just a hop, skip, and a jump over the ditch away Sonja, would that be right?
On subject now, I enjoy being able to express myself in what I wearl. Women's clothing is just so much more interesting than the limited couture available to men.
I'm intersex with gynocomasty and a body that's quite curvy but still male-ish, so from most angles I look like a woman and I can certainly walk the walk.
Can't wait to get on HRT and see what it does for me.
I want my ass to look big in this or that, lol.
I enjoy being told how great my legs look and how tbis woman or that would kill for my legs, hair, bum, etc...
But the best and most affirming thing is when straight men treat me like a woman and don't feel uncomfortable being close to me or being seen with me in public.
That really makes me feel so good about myself.
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Life! It's real now. And it's beautiful.
Donica.
I want to be a single woman living in my own apartment and stable. I may dabble with dating, but I mostly would want to have time/money to do things like traveling. I really don't think I could date the way people my age do... I'm very conventional and pretty stuck in my ways. But I do like making friends, preferrably ones that are as outspoken and eccentric as me.
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Sometimes it is just nice to pretty-up your hair, or slip into those fuzzy warm slippers. :)
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 10, 2018, 07:27:25 PM
Sometimes it is just nice to pretty-up your hair, or slip into those fuzzy warm slippers. :)
Chrissy
Omg yes warm fuzzy slippers I love my monster slippers lol (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20181211/fd166b9380c83aa77722b94024225291.jpg)
If you can't accept yourself, how can you expect others to accept you?
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 10, 2018, 07:27:25 PM
Sometimes it is just nice to pretty-up your hair, or slip into those fuzzy warm slippers. :)
Chrissy
I did that already in guys mode. My father always complained that I take more time in front of the mirror than my sister did!
And I always liked warm slippers, because I always had cold feet like women tend to have (but I was always part woman).
I really don't anticipate that I will change much. I always liked to do flower arrangements, and I hope I will still like that when I am done with transition!
I like having conversations with women in ways that I have never or rarely had as a man.
It's just different, in a good way.
Chrissy
More than anything, I think I'd enjoy just socializing with other girls. The comfort and company of other women, plus the boost that increased socialization would give to my emerging femininity, are things I greatly desire.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 21, 2018, 04:41:25 PM
I like having conversations with women in ways that I have never or rarely had as a man.
It's just different, in a good way.
Chrissy
I have almost only female friends, and have only 4 male friends, who are my friends because of shared interests (political activism mostly). I am used pretty much to the same conversation with women what I have now, because I never came across to them as a man (at least not for he last 15 years or so)
Thanks for thoughts on this everyone.
Anyone else want to share out?
Chrissy
Hi Everyone What do you like to do (or want to do) as a woman?I never thought about what I like to do as women, or do as women (I will come back to this point a little later). Well, I guess thinking about it in retrospect, there were two things that stand out like a sore thumb I guess for me now, before I changed my life around.
One was I loved growing my hair, I just did not know why at the time, maybe it was because my mum always had long hair and I hated having my hair cut. Even after changing my life around, I never thought about my long hair, although it helped me no end, without realizing why. I do know now is because I have always been female.
Second was I liked wearing female clothes and again I did not know why at the time. The same reasoning applies in this situation, I have always been female.
Okay there was one other small thing, now that I'm thinking about this particular issue. I started to like or do was to go to a beauty parlour or salon. This was really to get my legs waxed, for swimming, a clear coat of fingernail polish occassionally, nothing to feminine mind you and eventually my face waxed just before I turned my life around. Why did I do this? Yep, you guessed it, I have always been female.
Just to remind you I did not know that what I was doing at the time was related to me being a female. I just liked doing those things without realizing why.
After I changed my life around, nothing changed. I still had my long hair and I was able to do more complex braids and hair styles, without anyone wondering why I would do that. I also just went full blown makeup routine, little is more mantra and dressing for the appropriate situation, not underdressing or overdressing and of course beauty treatments once a week. Then again why did I do this? Yep you guessed it again, I have always been female.
So in essence, I have always been doing the things I like as women without realizing that I like doing them. Which brings me to the most important thing that I wanted and liked to do and still do as a women, that I alluded to earlier on in this post.
That was for a man to make love to me. For me that was the final validation when it finally happened, again without realizing that made me complete as a women.
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial GreeterPS Some thoughts for you Chrissy
@ChrissyRyan
I think I answered this thread in 2019! I want/like to do all the same things I liked/wanted to do when I presented as male. I had long hair, had my legs waxed, doted on my children/grandchildren, cooked, sewed, scuba dived, all the things I do now. My activity differences now are more driven by aging than transition.
Hugs,
Allie