Sunday I had my 3 boys and a daughter in law come over to the house and we had dinner. I had messaged them earlier in the week that I needed to talk with them about something. After dinner my wife and I sat down with them and I told them about myself. I had written up what I wanted to tell them and I did keep it pretty high level. It went really well. My youngest asked for a hug after I finished. My other two were a little in shock but thanked me for telling them about myself. They did have the deer in the headlights look but they told all told me how much they loved me. My daughter in law was asking all type of questions and really had accepting words for me. I told them that they would need to process the information but to reach out to me when they are ready if they have any questions or concerns.
Well that was the big step for me. I really wanted to make sure I didn't lose them as I travel down this path. I think now my travel my pick up steam.
Julie
Quote from: Julie -2010 on October 24, 2018, 11:36:01 PM
Sunday I had my 3 boys and a daughter in law come over to the house and we had dinner. I had messaged them earlier in the week that I needed to talk with them about something. After dinner my wife and I sat down with them and I told them about myself. I had written up what I wanted to tell them and I did keep it pretty high level. It went really well. My youngest asked for a hug after I finished. My other two were a little in shock but thanked me for telling them about myself. They did have the deer in the headlights look but they told all told me how much they loved me. My daughter in law was asking all type of questions and really had accepting words for me. I told them that they would need to process the information but to reach out to me when they are ready if they have any questions or concerns.
Well that was the big step for me. I really wanted to make sure I didn't lose them as I travel down this path. I think now my travel my pick up steam.
Julie
First off I would like to congratulate you on a great initial coming out to your kids I also want to prepare you that you don't know what's going to happen there might be some static and although I only wish the best for you keep going strong no matter what just prepare for the worst but hope for the best good luck and let us know how it goes and if you ever need to talk we're here for you
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Well done! I hope they will accept you when the first chock subsides too.
It is such a big feeling of relief when people know. When the big secret is no secret anymore.
Tony
Quote from: Julie -2010 on October 24, 2018, 11:36:01 PM
Sunday I had my 3 boys and a daughter in law come over to the house and we had dinner. I had messaged them earlier in the week that I needed to talk with them about something. After dinner my wife and I sat down with them and I told them about myself. I had written up what I wanted to tell them and I did keep it pretty high level. It went really well. My youngest asked for a hug after I finished. My other two were a little in shock but thanked me for telling them about myself. They did have the deer in the headlights look but they told all told me how much they loved me. My daughter in law was asking all type of questions and really had accepting words for me. I told them that they would need to process the information but to reach out to me when they are ready if they have any questions or concerns.
Well that was the big step for me. I really wanted to make sure I didn't lose them as I travel down this path. I think now my travel my pick up steam.
Julie
@Julie -2010Dear Julie:
This is wonderful news and very affirming for you to get the acceptance you did not only from your boys but also your daughter in law.... WOW!
It is certainly like a big weight is off of your shoulders and your mind.... it just gets easier every time you come out.... this went so very well for you... I am sure that you are happy with the results.
Please continue to keep us informed as you continue on your journey.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful moment as you head for your transition goals.
Hugs,
Danielle
"well boys, have I got a surprise for you" :D
I am happy to hear that it went over well.
Congratulations Julie. I am so happy for you! The great weight has been lifted!
Hugs
Pamela
Congratulations, Julie! Coming out to family is difficult. I am glad it went well.
YAY for you Julie! It's always nice to hear about a coming out that goes well instead of the other way around. I wish you all of the possible continued success in your transition journey. Love and faith.
Gabrielle
well done Gabrielle! It must be like a weight lifted from your shoulders.
some never get the courage.
Wow. Thank you for sharing! I am so happy it went well. I cant imagine how nervous you both were.
We are telling my kids after exams. I will keep it high level too. I cry when I think about them and how sad I feel about impacting their lives. But I feel they are mature and deserve to know and be on the journey.
Please keep sharing so we can learn together.
Thanks
Karen
That's wonderful Julie! You are braver than I at the moment, but I see in the near future that may change for me. Sons, I think, are the hardest to tell.
Hugs and smiles from a California girl
@Julie -2010
Hi Julie, Thats great news, I'm glad it went well for you - I can imagine how nervous you were.
Well done.
Sonja.
Congrats Julie! It feels great to get that weight off your back doesn't it. This was like a deja vu of how I told my three sons.
That is wonderful Juile! You must feel such a sense of relief. I also have to face coming out to my son in the future, and it is something that I am not really looking forward to. I can only hope it goes as well as your experience. Thanks for sharing.
Best,
Bilie
Congratulations Julie. You were well-prepared and it sounds like it went well. I would guess you feel a hundred pounds lighter. Big virtual hug.
Feed them first is always a good approach with the menfolk! :laugh:
Glad to hear about your progress, hon.
Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: Julie -2010 on October 24, 2018, 11:36:01 PM
Sunday I had my 3 boys and a daughter in law come over to the house and we had dinner. I had messaged them earlier in the week that I needed to talk with them about something. After dinner my wife and I sat down with them and I told them about myself. I had written up what I wanted to tell them and I did keep it pretty high level. It went really well. My youngest asked for a hug after I finished. My other two were a little in shock but thanked me for telling them about myself. They did have the deer in the headlights look but they told all told me how much they loved me. My daughter in law was asking all type of questions and really had accepting words for me. I told them that they would need to process the information but to reach out to me when they are ready if they have any questions or concerns.
Well that was the big step for me. I really wanted to make sure I didn't lose them as I travel down this path. I think now my travel my pick up steam.
Julie
Julie,
That sounds like it went well. Congratulations! That is great news!
Chrissy
Thank you all for the voice of support and encouragement. It really helps.
I've been sleeping pretty good now and that night, I don't think I slept that good for a long time. It is a great feeling getting this out in the open. My youngest ask if it was alright to talk with friends about it. I told him I thought that was a great idea. I don't want it to be their secret and I think it will really help to talk with others.
I have been riding a small high this week and feeling good.
I haven't heard anything back from my two oldest boys. My youngest still lives with us and I haven't noticed anything different in him on how we interact. My wife had dinner last night with my daughter-in-law and I asked my wife when she got back about how they may be taking it. She didn't give me a lot of detail. She said that the two oldest had gotten together to talk. She said my oldest said he is kind of sad and that he is worried about my wife. My wife never wanted to talk with anyone throughout our marriage and that always worried me too. Now maybe having others know it may help.
Time will tell.
Happy in Denver,
Julie