Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everybody, I just joined so I'm sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong board..
I'm 22 years old and a ftm trans man. I came to this realization only a couple years ago after a few years of identifying as non-binary. Since then I've had consistent dysphoria, and I want to start taking testosterone, but I know I didn't always feel dysphoric. So the only thing holding me back from starting HRT now (besides family) is the thought that I might regret it later on in life. As in, I feel strongly about it now but what if it's just a 'phase' that I'll eventually grow out of? Has anyone else had these thoughts, and what did you do to work past them/make your decision (regardless of whether you started HRT or not)?

Quote from: pikachu on November 09, 2018, 12:57:51 PM
Hi everybody, I just joined so I'm sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong board..
I'm 22 years old and a ftm trans man. I came to this realization only a couple years ago after a few years of identifying as non-binary. Since then I've had consistent dysphoria, and I want to start taking testosterone, but I know I didn't always feel dysphoric. So the only thing holding me back from starting HRT now (besides family) is the thought that I might regret it later on in life. As in, I feel strongly about it now but what if it's just a 'phase' that I'll eventually grow out of? Has anyone else had these thoughts, and what did you do to work past them/make your decision (regardless of whether you started HRT or not)?

@pikachu
Dear Pikachu:
    No worries, you have posted on the correct board... and there is another board that also would have also been appropriate and also would interest you is the  Non Binary Talk  sub forum
          https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,57.0.html

    I am most pleased that you had decided to join Susan's Place and thank you for writing your initial and very descriptive and interesting posting here on the Introductions Forum,

    By now you know that this is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation as you continue to feel free to share it.

    Please allow me to warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place. 
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

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     ***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
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@pikachu
Oh, and another thing...Pikachu,
Please find your way to the  Introductions Forum (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,8.0.html) and write a brief introduction post and summary about yourself so that more members here on the Susan's Place forums will be aware of your arrival and therefore you may obtain more responses and information that you might be looking for and you will be able to share with others.

Enjoy your time here on the Forums, I trust that you will find this an enjoyable and informative experience.
Best wishes to you.... and again, Welcome to Susan's Place
Danielle

Hi Pikachu

Unfortunately you are right being trans is a phase...its lasts from birth to death.... :)

I would encourage you to find a good therapist and talk these feeling out with them. I am not suggesting you are crazy or in need of psychiatric help but therapists can be of great assistance in helping you identify what is important to you.

I originally thought it was a phase but it was consistent and persistent....if gender has been an issue for you for awhile then maybe hoping its a phase is another way of denying the truth.

What you describe is a fairly common for those who are just in the beginning of working things out. This why a trained therapist is likely to be able to help you sort this out. 

I am not sure what it will take for you to feel this is no t a phase...for me it was simply that this has been an issue in my life since I was very young...I didn't always believe I was Trans and made plenty of other excuses...In the end it was obvious to anyone (but me) that I was Trans. Even after posting here and being told the symptoms I described were GD, I still would not accept it....took me a very long time to accept I was a woman and I can't imagine it is any easier going FTM than MTF with similar issues.

Hope that helps in some way

Take care
Liz


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