I have often wondered if the people who have moved on have found the truth. Did they find the secret? Maybe they have. It is not a secret though, half of the population of the planet, or close to it, know it, how secret can it be?
I can't speak from the guys perspective but the truth is still there.
What is being a girl? Again, sorry but it does carry over to the guys.
I honestly think that is the wrong question, the question is; How do you want to live your life?
What bothers me is that there are people here who know exactly what I am talking about. I won't call you out but you know who you are.
Do you really want to know what being a girl is?
It's holding your best friend when she thinks that her boyfriend may be interested in someone else and explaining to her how special she is and why on earth would he do that. It's getting dinner on the table when your sister has you over and cleaning up after. It's walking into a room of strangers and the conversation you have with someone, initiated or not, is about their mom and how stressed out or happy that they are that they are visiting this weekend. It's about their child/stepchild that they don't know how to deal with anymore. It's about what they should be wearing to an event. It's also about the same things about you. Now, that is not all it is to be a woman. Passive aggressive can be a pain. I do love recipes and will exchange them until the topic moves on. Yeah, we go through topics sometimes so fast that the original topic never sinks in sometimes but if it comes back around we are ready. It's about menopause and having a period.
It is about everything that is important to us.
If you want to be a woman, they are all around you, it is not hard to be one. You just have to be one. They are not hiding their secrets. Men are not hiding their secrets either.
I have the feeling that I am very much like some of the girls here and I am sure that I am nothing like some of the girls here. What are we looking for? There is no right answers but there are may be solutions attached to the answers that fit us.
Be with those you want to be like. I don't care what you want to be like but if you really want it you will surround yourself with it and everything and everyone you want to be like.
There are at least two people who know exactly what it takes to be a woman and I don't understand why so many questions are asked and they never give an answer. Okay one is struggling with her childhood, I understand that to my core. One is actually being what so many are looking for so much so that she is not answering the needs but the wants. I actually enjoy you both so much and I would not complain but... since you are here.
The truth of transition is
What you want to be is all around you, look to them. We can help with the trans exclusive stuff but the people here, are no closer to what you want to be than you are. Only a few hold on, the rest move on to their life and never look back.
No one is telling you that you can make it, you can! Transition is a step, nothing more.
Take care.
Eh?
Don't agree.
Here's my 'truth'...
I wasn't happy with WHO I was, now I am.
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Quote from: IAmM on November 23, 2018, 02:45:09 AM
I have often wondered if the people who have moved on have found the truth. Did they find the secret? Maybe they have. It is not a secret though, half of the population of the planet, or close to it, know it, how secret can it be?
I can't speak from the guys perspective but the truth is still there.
What is being a girl? Again, sorry but it does carry over to the guys.
I honestly think that is the wrong question, the question is; How do you want to live your life?
What bothers me is that there are people here who know exactly what I am talking about. I won't call you out but you know who you are.
Do you really want to know what being a girl is?
It's holding your best friend when she thinks that her boyfriend may be interested in someone else and explaining to her how special she is and why on earth would he do that. It's getting dinner on the table when your sister has you over and cleaning up after. It's walking into a room of strangers and the conversation you have with someone, initiated or not, is about their mom and how stressed out or happy that they are that they are visiting this weekend. It's about their child/stepchild that they don't know how to deal with anymore. It's about what they should be wearing to an event. It's also about the same things about you. Now, that is not all it is to be a woman. Passive aggressive can be a pain. I do love recipes and will exchange them until the topic moves on. Yeah, we go through topics sometimes so fast that the original topic never sinks in sometimes but if it comes back around we are ready. It's about menopause and having a period.
It is about everything that is important to us.
If you want to be a woman, they are all around you, it is not hard to be one. You just have to be one. They are not hiding their secrets. Men are not hiding their secrets either.
I have the feeling that I am very much like some of the girls here and I am sure that I am nothing like some of the girls here. What are we looking for? There is no right answers but there are may be solutions attached to the answers that fit us.
Be with those you want to be like. I don't care what you want to be like but if you really want it you will surround yourself with it and everything and everyone you want to be like.
There are at least two people who know exactly what it takes to be a woman and I don't understand why so many questions are asked and they never give an answer. Okay one is struggling with her childhood, I understand that to my core. One is actually being what so many are looking for so much so that she is not answering the needs but the wants. I actually enjoy you both so much and I would not complain but... since you are here.
The truth of transition is
What you want to be is all around you, look to them. We can help with the trans exclusive stuff but the people here, are no closer to what you want to be than you are. Only a few hold on, the rest move on to their life and never look back.
No one is telling you that you can make it, you can! Transition is a step, nothing more.
Take care.
Thanks for the introduction, I don't mind being called out. I believe there are many more of us here than you think. Megan and I aren't the only two who have figured things out. As you say, the secret applies to all of us, regardless of what stripe of transgender we are. The secret is: Be happy with yourself, and enjoy life. That's the whole thing in a nutshell.
Hugs, Devlyn
Happy and enjoy life all over again that all I want
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I don't think there is one truth. If I ask my 22 year old daughter, my 40 year old niece, and my 53 year old partner what it is to be a girl, I get three different answers.
It sounds like you are saying there is an obvious answer that is all around us, we just need to ask the right people, or hang out with the 50% and it will all be clear.
IAmM, maybe I am missing the point, or your post is not directed at a newish member like me, but I don't think it is that simple, and I don't expect two or three girls here to have The Answer for me or everybody else.
In other words, "Get out of the nest and fly, baby bird!!" KICK. XD
Quote from: elle's bells on November 24, 2018, 06:31:48 AM
In other words, "Get out of the nest and fly, baby bird!!" KICK. XD
;D Well, wait until their feathers are fully formed first.
Quote from: dee82 on November 24, 2018, 05:52:58 AM
I don't think there is one truth. If I ask my 22 year old daughter, my 40 year old niece, and my 53 year old partner what it is to be a girl, I get three different answers.
It sounds like you are saying there is an obvious answer that is all around us, we just need to ask the right people, or hang out with the 50% and it will all be clear.
IAmM, maybe I am missing the point, or your post is not directed at a newish member like me, but I don't think it is that simple, and I don't expect two or three girls here to have The Answer for me or everybody else.
Yeah sorry. I could blame too much wine and turkey or great company that kept me up too late but I am not very good at expressing my thoughts at the best of times. I am always awkward and have learned to go with the flow and not put too many long Michelle thoughts into it, but if I do, my friends have learned to ask questions and then if they don't understand to look at me like I am an idiot.
Women are all different, you are absolutely correct. We as trans are all different and our goals are all different. Men are all, ah, men. Kidding, but men with other men and men with women are usually a vastly different experience.
You are all so right, it's about being happy with ourselves. We start transition to align the outer us with the inner us. That is what makes this site so important, the help and support that is here while we are figuring this trans business all out. The law of diminishing returns follows us everywhere though, including here.
Every human on the planet is in a constant state of transition. What I was talking about is our own personal transition from male to female, female to male and even either to just being trans.(maybe the hardest road, nothing but love and respect for those pioneers)
The truth about transition is: It ends.
We all reach the end of our physical transition. Hormones have done their work, we have had all the surgeries we want or can afford and this is it, we will all get there. It is hard to see or understand that when we are starting out, it is all so overwhelming, but transition will end. Hopefully at that point it is just us, inside and out.
That is what my post was about. The next transition. Some of us jumped into the deep end and transitioned physically and socially at the same time. It is not easy. My post was about social transition. If it is only physical transition that someone is looking for it is wonderful but if that feels like limbo then social transition is necessary.
Yes all women are different, but they are all women. Men are all different, but they are all men.
We are the people that we hang around. Spend your time with the people you want to be like. If you want to be like any other guy, hang out with the guys. Wanna be a girl, be with the girls. Even if it is uncomfortable at first, say little and watch and listen to everything they do and say.
I love and hate the saying,"Fake it till you make it." Even if it feels like you are faking it sometimes, it is not faking.
Anyway, my life is getting busy and I probably won't be on much if at all anymore. Just wanted to give a little push before I go, but in true Michelle fashion it comes out wrong or is just plain nonsense. BE who you want to be, whatever that might be, the best shortcut to that is to be with the people that you want to be like. Transition isn't living it, living it is.
Laters sweeties.
Okay Michelle, I understand where you are coming from and now agree with you. For me the social transition is most important.
If tomorrow my doctor said I could no longer take hormones (it's only been 4 days) because of health complications, then that would not stop my journey.
As a woman I want to hang out with other women because they are my "group". It's not that I want to study them and pick up tips, they think and act the way I do and that feels most comfortable.
It's not that I want to be like them, I already am, but I do have years of male socialisation which no matter how hard I tried to resist still had an effect. So I agree with your summary.
Quote from: IAmM on November 24, 2018, 02:48:19 PM
Wanna be a girl, be with the girls.
Michelle, wishing you all the best for your life outside of here.
~Dee.