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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Patroklos on January 05, 2008, 09:22:37 PM

Title: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Patroklos on January 05, 2008, 09:22:37 PM
Frankly, I'm a very small guy. I'm 5'6", weigh about 105lbs, and measure up (when binding) as 30"-25"-31". Well, because of this, I can't shop in the men's clothing section. I have to shop with my 12 year old brother in the boy's section.

I have a number of issues with this.

1) I'm too tall for boy's jeans but too thin for men's.
2) I STILL can't ever figure out what shirt size to buy. There seems to be endless variation of size - none of them right for me.
3) I can't buy work clothes that fit without having them tailored, which I can't afford to do.
4) Underwear is nearly impossible to find in my size.
5) My brother gets freaked out when I pick out the same Spiderman briefs that he did five minutes before.
6) I like slim/tight-fitting clothes, rather than baggy ones but I can't find them in either section without going to a skate shop where jeans cost 300% more.

I also have laughably small feet (size 5.5 in women's) and hands (ring size 5) and all of this makes me wonder how I'll ever actually pass.

I'm just so frustrated. There should be one continuum for sizing that covers boy-sized and men-sized clothing.

What are the chances of chest/shoulder expansion and height growth with T? u.u
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: jonjon on January 06, 2008, 11:30:59 AM
I'm 5'2"  ;D

And i dont know if you're in UK... but we have a Primark here and i just get everything thats labelled 'small' when clothes shopping. Still all too big, but i kinda like the baggy stuff anywho.

And whats wrong with spiderman briefs!!!??? *wishes i had a pair ¬_¬*
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Patroklos on January 06, 2008, 01:11:30 PM
Nothing is wrong with Spiderman briefs! That's the point. I like them but it freaks my little brother out when we both buy them at the same time. XDD
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Jay on January 07, 2008, 04:00:12 AM
Quote from: wishy on January 06, 2008, 11:30:59 AM
And I don't know if you're in UK... but we have a Primark here and I just get everything that's labelled 'small' when clothes shopping.

Primark rocks! Tee Shirts £3! I get a Large from primark for all my tops however the jeans no matter what size do not fit me! :(

Milo don't worry about how tall/big you are there are plenty of men your size.

I'm 5'8" however I am of a large statute, and very conscious of that as I can never have an absolute flat chest... :(
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Andrew on January 13, 2008, 04:56:32 AM
Height growth is possible...my physician, who works with tons of transpeople, says she's documented it in transmen. I've personally had a medically-documented half-inch of growth. (Then again, I started when I was 18, so I might have had a little more to go.) In any case, don't worry about it! I know a super-cute guy who's even shorter than you are (he about comes up to my shoulder). No one questions his manhood! (Unless...and this is something I've never considered...we have another transman in our midst!?!?!)
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Patroklos on January 13, 2008, 05:17:44 PM
$JeT 3$, that was very helpful. Thank you very much.

Andrew, I only just turned 18 but I haven't grown at all since I was 16. But here's hoping. =D

And I'm not so concerned about my actual size as I am about the fact that buying clothes seems to be nearly impossible. XD
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: ConfusedMichelle on January 21, 2008, 08:47:23 PM
Hey Milo.

Abercrombie Kids is fabulous.  Their jeans and shirts fit me very well, and are very stylish.  You can even go in the store and try on for size, then order anything off the internet! Perhaps off of ebay for a cheaper option.

Also, I have had much luck finding women's clothes that are masculine.  The black button up in my pictures from Photobucket is from the women's Section at Target for like 14 bucks!! It's a small :)

Another option is the GAP.  They usually run some extra small sizes in the Men's section and they are made to fit tighter.

Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Patroklos on January 22, 2008, 01:48:02 PM
Thanks for the tips, Brady. =D
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Schala on February 09, 2008, 03:25:21 AM
Quote from: Milo on January 05, 2008, 09:22:37 PM
Frankly, I'm a very small guy. I'm 5'6", weigh about 105lbs, and measure up (when binding) as 30"-25"-31". Well, because of this, I can't shop in the men's clothing section. I have to shop with my 12 year old brother in the boy's section.

I have a number of issues with this.

1) I'm too tall for boy's jeans but too thin for men's.
2) I STILL can't ever figure out what shirt size to buy. There seems to be endless variation of size - none of them right for me.
3) I can't buy work clothes that fit without having them tailored, which I can't afford to do.
4) Underwear is nearly impossible to find in my size.
5) My brother gets freaked out when I pick out the same Spiderman briefs that he did five minutes before.
6) I like slim/tight-fitting clothes, rather than baggy ones but I can't find them in either section without going to a skate shop where jeans cost 300% more.

I also have laughably small feet (size 5.5 in women's) and hands (ring size 5) and all of this makes me wonder how I'll ever actually pass.

I'm just so frustrated. There should be one continuum for sizing that covers boy-sized and men-sized clothing.

What are the chances of chest/shoulder expansion and height growth with T? u.u

I'm very slightly bigger than those measurements, same height. I didn't really care what I wore pre-transition (in men's clothes). So it was all baggy. You'll probably have more luck with boy pants than I would with girl pants with regards to length, though. Size 12 girl is too short for me - but size 14 girl is long enough.

Finding anything below 28 inch waist in men's pants is pretty much impossible. I tried.

I used to wear medium, large and x-large t-shirts, of the black variety, very baggy...my nightgowns I got now are comparable in length. On the bright side, baggy t-shirts will hide skinnyness and anything A cup or lower won't even show a hint. Basically, since the t-shirt is cut squareish, your waist will be 'invisible'.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: James-Alen on February 09, 2008, 08:23:52 PM
I'm 5' 2" and my weight fluctuates between 120-129 lbs, see my parents wont buy me guy stuff so most of my clothes are from thrift stores... I always go into the boy section because men's stuff is waaay too big. The cool thing about that is that i don't have to know my shirt size, merely grab a handful of stuff and go try it on ^^ (that and i love DBZ shirts and the boy's section always has at least one LOL). So I recommend cruising by the value village some day, there's some cool stuff in there for hella cheap!
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: debbie.j on February 09, 2008, 09:02:34 PM
maybe this might be of some help to all of you . when shoping for guys clothes its really simple  just

mesure your waist . and see what the number is kinda like this  if your hips are about a 38 inch waist,

then  the pants would be a size 38  and so forth . and one of the places to shop for smaller sizes might

be jc penny they carry a lot of smaller sizes .hope this is of some help to all of you
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Purple Pimp on February 09, 2008, 09:16:16 PM
I totally know what you mean.  For years, before realizing I was trans, I generally had to wear women's pants since I couldn't find anything in men's, me being between boys and men's sizes.  Transitioning has actually sorted out my clothing problems, except maybe for having slightly-wider-than-normal shoulders.

Lia
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: debbie.j on February 09, 2008, 09:25:57 PM
Quote from: genovais on February 09, 2008, 09:16:16 PM
I totally know what you mean.  For years, before realizing I was trans, I generally had to wear women's pants since I couldn't find anything in men's, me being between boys and men's sizes.  Transitioning has actually sorted out my clothing problems, except maybe for having slightly-wider-than-normal shoulders.

Lia

hiyea lia  indeed  it sure ant easy when your in between sizes . i had that problem till i when i was younger

too. aways made me frustrated. i see  um iam not sure here so forgive me please if i messy up on this. but

from your forum pic i would say you are about a medium in shirts from looking at your pic. if it dont feel like

you still got room . try large which will give you plenty of room then
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Patroklos on February 10, 2008, 01:10:17 PM
Well, I haven't had trouble figuring out my pant size. It's the shirt size that I have issues with. No matter what the size is on the tag, it doesn't fit me unless it's specifically a band tshirt in a Youth Medium. Which, outside of concert merchandise tables, is nearly impossible to find. Thus, I have over 20 shirts  ranging from a boy's 10 to a men's medium and only my three band tshirts fit correctly. Frankly, there just isn't a boys/mens shirt size that works for me.
That's my problem.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Nero on February 10, 2008, 01:51:10 PM
I'm jealous. You guys are lucky. I can never find pants without having them tailored or rolling up the cuffs more than they should be.
I'm built like a short, stocky guy. Nothing fits, but my best friend had that problem too and we shared clothes.
Girl clothes never fit me. Hated that when I was trying to be a girl. Would love to shop in the boy's section. Sick of shopping in the 'big and tall (short, fat man) section. And still having to tailor the pants.

Posted on: February 10, 2008, 02:33:20 PM
Another reason you guys are so lucky - maybe if I were built smaller, I might actually be able to pass as a boy. But there's just no way. I'm too big. And even short, fat cisgender guys get mistaken for women. And with my face and hair on top of that, I can't win.
Wish I could at least be mistaken for a young boy instead of a big butch woman.
Can you feel the envy coming through the screen? You're my boys though.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: LynnER on February 10, 2008, 02:07:33 PM
Well boys,  Welcome to the world of men...  Pre transition It would take me weeks of shopping around to put together a decent wardrobe of clothes that ALLMOST fit right....

I recomend Ross, Marchles, and all those other reject outlet stores...  They tend to have things that are either too long or too short or too small for the general public which makes it allot easyr for the skinny guy to find something he likes...

pre transition I was 32<flat as a board> 28, 32..... and it was virtualy impossable to find anything that would fit properly with out looking overly baggy...  Just shop around... and if the pants are too long you can allways hem them.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Killroy on February 14, 2008, 06:33:52 PM
I'm very lucky to have a younger brother (14) who is growing out of his clothes insanely fast and just gives them to me.  But like people have said, thrift stores are great. 
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Andrew on February 18, 2008, 05:56:16 PM
You know what's great (that is, if you know your size)? Mail order. Mail order, mail order, mail order. Walmart.com is insanely cheap, especially if you find clearance stuff.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Maddie Secutura on February 19, 2008, 04:13:49 PM
Come on, clothes can't be that hard to shop for.  Men's clothing especially (or boy's as the case may be).  They come in small, medium, and large.  Men's clothing isn't meant to be super fitted or anything like that.  I bought a pair of jeans the store the other day, 30/30, I didn't even try them on.  Once you learn the method, you'll never have to try on clothing before buying them.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Dennis on February 19, 2008, 05:18:12 PM
Depends a lot on your size, Maddie. I'm lucky. I'm off the rack, standard size. I can buy suits off the rack, jeans without trying them on, and shirts without taking them out of the package. Not everyone can, though, especially smaller or larger guys with pants. I have a 30 inch leg, and that's really the shortest size you can find in the Levis bin without going to specialty stuff. My sleeve length is about the shortest as well - can wear 15.5/32 shirts. Even at that, the shirts are hard to find. I often have to push it to a 34 inch sleeve.

Larger guys, especially pre-T, will have fat distribution issues that will make it hard to find a pair of jeans that fit.

Dennis
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: LynnER on February 19, 2008, 05:31:23 PM
Quote from: Dennis on February 19, 2008, 05:18:12 PM
My sleeve length is about the shortest as well - can wear 15.5/32 shirts. Even at that, the shirts are hard to find. I often have to push it to a 34 inch sleeve.

Dennis

Ummmm, Dennis, you want a bunch of my old button up shirts... there all blue grey, red, and so on, very professional and also good for going out in...  I just havnt managed to find anyone to give them too... <Im too small for most guys around here<<meaning home>>> and noone else has taken me up on the offer...  I just dont see donating them to good will... I think it would be a waste...
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Nero on February 19, 2008, 05:33:26 PM
Quote from: Dennis on February 19, 2008, 05:18:12 PM
Larger guys, especially pre-T, will have fat distribution issues that will make it hard to find a pair of jeans that fit.

Dennis

cept me though. I got the classic beer gut, no hip thing going. But yeah, I'd say it's an issue of being short. All short guys (bio or otherwise) have a hard time with pants.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Dante on February 19, 2008, 05:52:25 PM
I've always had problems with girl's clothes fitting (I'm FTM), but I never had the courage to shop in the boy's section. And every time I get the courage, I have to leave or something. My parents allow me to buy boy's clothes if I want; they don't really care as long as it's appropriate (not showing stomach or underwear or something), I'll wear it, and it doesn't cost too much.

I agree with thrift store shopping; I've grown up with this habit because I'm not rich, but really, you can find nice stuff in there, and it costs only about $3.00 for a shirt. My sister's found lots of name brand jackets & such which would normally go for around $100. Another good thing about thrift stores is that even though there are sections (men's women's), they aren't always as clearly marked, and each item isn't marked either, so if you aren't allowed to buy boy's (for FTM) or girl's (for MTF) clothes, you can easily get away with it.  :) :icon_suspicious: :icon_walk:

Also, I agree that Ross is good; not too expensive and has some OK stuff. It's kinda hard to shop because of all the messed up sizes. You'll just have to learn to use your eyes and a few techniques to find something that might fit. But there is a more likely chance you will find something that fits because of the messed up sizes.

A tip (some of you may already know this):To see if a pair of jeans might fit, hold it tightly to your waist. If the side seams of the jeans meet the side seems of the jeans you're wearing, they should fit. And if all else fails, buy a belt.
Title: Re: Shopping In The Boy's Section
Post by: Dennis on February 20, 2008, 01:51:59 PM
Quote from: LynnER on February 19, 2008, 05:31:23 PM
Quote from: Dennis on February 19, 2008, 05:18:12 PM
My sleeve length is about the shortest as well - can wear 15.5/32 shirts. Even at that, the shirts are hard to find. I often have to push it to a 34 inch sleeve.

Dennis

Ummmm, Dennis, you want a bunch of my old button up shirts... there all blue grey, red, and so on, very professional and also good for going out in...  I just havnt managed to find anyone to give them too... <Im too small for most guys around here<<meaning home>>> and noone else has taken me up on the offer...  I just dont see donating them to good will... I think it would be a waste...

Sure, I'd love them, but might be a bit tricky shipping them across a border. PM me if you're up for it and we can try and figure it out.

Dennis