When you as a mtf transition, you may have your body more appropriately reflect your gender.
You may gradually increase your expression of your female gender in your overall appearance, voice, mannerisms, and so on. You may have differences in relationships, including family, and new relationships.
There is a lot to our everyday lives, have you considered what will change in your life? I am not talking about the more obvious gender related things such as using makeup, or wearing feminine attire instead of male clothing, overall female grooming, or perhaps now having to see an endocrinologist, or get blood tests because of mtf HRT.
But will you continue, reduce, or stop doing things you have been doing all of your life, because they may be perceived by some as being too "manly" even if you really like these activities? Not that females do not like doing some of these things, but they are often more attributed to being things more guys prefer to do as compared to women.
Or, to look at it another way, look at what you do day in and day out. What activities, outside of work, eating, and housekeeping, will you continue to do, not do as much, or stop doing? Why?
What would you start doing? Why? Plus, your social interaction is likely to change.
Perhaps you enjoy reading, watching shows, playing video games, learning, and so on.
Is it reasonable to think that you will likely keep on doing most of those activities after transition?
I pose all of this because we as mtfs will be or are transitioning, but have we truly considered how much or how little our everyday lives will change, or should change? This is something that seems worthy to think about.
Chrissy
Not MTF but I still have all the same habits I used to have. Well except for the amount of time I spend in the bathroom. I've cut the time down significantly but it's still a matter of taking my sweet-ass time in there till I look presentable, and nobody's gonna tell me to get out before I'm done. Personal hygiene/a bit of grooming is srs business in my book and always will be.
How much you change, is it up to you or people around you? Depends, I guess.
I'm more active than I used to be, that's down to hormones. I get out and do more things to disperse the restless energy. I'm prone to laziness in my spare time, but it's a compulsion to get out now.
Otherwise, not much of life has changed. More sociable, maybe. A bit.
Well you're likely going to socialize with the other side and it will open doors to new experiences. It's not that you won't still be interested in the stuff you used to be, it's that you may need to make room for these new adventures and lose some of the old ones on the way.
All life is change, we travel from one part of our life to the next, letting go of things and picking up new stuff as we go along. Do you miss making mud pies, rolling down a hill over and over until getting dizzy becomes getting sick or playing cat's cradle for an hour or more? :) Maybe a little.
I would hope that most of us are not changing what we like because it would be perceived as too manly but if so, how bad would that be? People do this all the time, we make choices based on who we want to be and live that life. Isn't that what making choices is about, not just gender presentation but all choices?
Change is the point of transition isn't it?
Will we change? Probable to some extent depending on how far off we are when we start to where we want to be. I think we transition to be more ourselves not less.
Our relationships and interactions will change, I cannot say how much for everyone else but mine changed completely but that was just me. It was hard at first because I was all alone but I have new and better friends now. My family I think is gone forever but we were not close to begin with. The guy friends that I had that were good to me throughout transition, even those friendships became distant. It was happening slowly anyway after I stopped trying to be a guy, long before I even knew transitioning was possible. I could see bonds dissolving and knew that was okay, we never had much in common. Looking back it is hard to believe how hard I had to work to fit in, I guess anything becomes normal if you do it long enough.
Everything else? I am not sure. I don't enjoy reading as much as I used to though since going more and more from fiction to nonfiction I have been getting more into it. I still love to cook. I still clean like a madwoman when I am angry. I still watch the same movies, just more open about some of them.
Actually I don't think that I have changed much at all except that I am far more open and honest about my likes and dislikes now. My presentation has changed but it has just made my interactions with other people easier, more natural.
My guess it that for all of us some things will become more important and some things less, is that a bad thing? If the change is in line with who we are, will we even care?
Hmmmm...most of my outside activities like tennis, golf, running, and involvement in community groups are done by both men and women, so I don't really see any change in my interests. I'd say the biggest change I'm hopeful for is being able to develop deeper friendships with women and socializing with female friends. Not only is this my biggest hope, but it's also my biggest fear because being able to do the things I want to do in a social setting (tennis, golf, etc.) will require women accepting me as a woman, and I so hope they do accept me.
Oh, and I'll probably be a lot more interested in clothes :P
I'll still do the things I've done before, I'll just look better while doing them :D
I'm a geek tinkerer who likes extreme sports and cars(among a million other things). These things caused me to doubt myself a decade ago but nowadays I don't feel that my hobbies and interests should define my gender.
Just a few weeks ago I put the winter wheels on my car wearing high heel wedge boots and a figure hugging coat and it did not feel weird at all, just a girl preparing her car for the winter. I also rode my trials bike as a female and it was great.
My interactions with people will improve probably as hopefully I'll be able to improve my voice to a point where I'll be more comfortable using it in public so I'll be happy to chit-chat with others.
Oh, it'll be a riot with me. Brunette Indian shapely chick/lady fixing her 4x4, trucks and cars by herself, shooting her tricked out, ultra long range hunting rifle(338 LM), some welding, machine, carpentry, manly fixing around the house stuff, while being low pro AND doing womanly things with my wife?(what no husband?, lol).
New chapter in my life, waiting to see how that plays out.
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I found that my interests didn't change quite as much as I thought I would. I've always been interested in the household arts, but I still like to work on machinery, shoot, gunsmith, weld, and things like that. I still read a lot, still hate watching TV, but I suppose I complain more when I break a nail nowadays. ;)
Some people have the idea in their heads that when they transition they cannot possibly continue taking any interest in something often viewed as manly/womanly. I say that's complete crap. People like guys who can bake a perfect cake just as much as they like a girl who can adjust the valves on an engine.
My mannerisms have of course changed to suit me, I don't speak in a voice that makes me cringe any more, and I'm a much happier person for it. I didn't have to throw everything away to do it either.
I suppose one way to look at this "Have you thought how your everyday life will change or not as you transition?" is that some things you can continue to do, other things would be harder or not possible to continue to do, and still other things will become easier to start or continue to do.
I suppose it would most likely not be possible to continue playing in a men's softball league as a woman, unless the league became co-ed or it is a Title IX situation in the college sports area. That seems like a reasonable consequence of transitioning, but we can play on a women's team or in a co-ed league.
Likewise it would be far easier as a woman to play on a woman's team. This simply makes sense.
Things you do primarily alone, such as hobbies, should be able to be continued.
I do wonder though if it is too much to expect a male buddy to continue to hang out with you as much or in all the same ways when you are a woman though, even though he is supportive of you as a woman. The relationship seems like it would change after you transition because woman and man social interaction dynamics are not the same as guy and guy friendships, or woman and woman friendships. At least you did not lose a friend and have a supporter. The relationship would likely change. But perhaps it should, as you are woman.
When we transition, we certainly have to expect change.
Chrissy
The things that are changing in my life are doing so because I'm changing from being allowed to be myself. Like being more social and talking with people. My actual likes/dislikes aren't changing much. Like I still love watching all the sports like I used to and coaching football/baseball/softball.
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Most of my life has not changed. I feel more free to be myself, so for example, I enjoy not having to sit in exile at the men's end of the table at the weekly community kaffeeklatsch. I still play in the concert band, and I still love to do astrophotography.
I have found that my patience for "guy stuff" has decreased. When I built the observatory for my astrophotography, I figured that I could do a better job of designing and building the control system if I did it myself. It mostly works, but I ran into a few glitches, and was all set to do some redesigning of the offending components. Then I started HRT. Now, I find that, even though having the control system fully functional would help my hobby immeasurably (not having to sit outside in the cold, for one thing!), I just can't work up the motivation to work on it.
Quote from: KathyLauren on December 08, 2018, 09:21:04 AM
, I just can't work up the motivation to work on it.
I found this, too! I need to re-weld a bracket on y garden tractor, and I was able to find a million reasons not to do this! It is so much easier to play the poor old woman to the young neighbor, and convince him to mow my lawn for a freindly "thank you".
That would not have happened before I started the official transition. Not having the tractor fixed would have driven me nts!
Quote from: Dietlind on December 08, 2018, 09:38:34 AM
I found this, too! I need to re-weld a bracket on y garden tractor, and I was able to find a million reasons not to do this! It is so much easier to play the poor old woman to the young neighbor, and convince him to mow my lawn for a freindly "thank you".
That would not have happened before I started the official transition. Not having the tractor fixed would have driven me nts!
Well maybe if you thought how much you might have to pay someone to fix it correctly and to perhaps have to haul the garden tractor back and forth between the repair shop, and you really need the bracket on the garden tractor fixed, you might have second thoughts! But I hear what you are saying! :)
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 08, 2018, 08:26:13 AM
I do wonder though if it is too much to expect a male buddy to continue to hang out with you as much or in all the same ways when you are a woman though, even though he is supportive of you as a woman. The relationship seems like it would change after you transition because woman and man social interaction dynamics are not the same as guy and guy friendships, or woman and woman friendships. At least you did not lose a friend and have a supporter. The relationship would likely change. But perhaps it should, as you are woman.
When we transition, we certainly have to expect change.
Chrissy
I do NOT expect to keep most of my relationships with guy friends after I come out to them. I have had several tight bro friends throughout my life, but unfortunately those are not going to survive my transition...it's just going to be to weird for both me and them, so I agree that the relationship will definitely change when I become a woman. None of these friendship losses is going to be crippling, but they will be unfortunate. I've had a lot of good times with those guys. It's one of the many sacrifices I'm making for transitioning.
I have noticed there being things that I would have just tackled/finished that I now don't have the motivation for.
As for the conversations/friends, I still talk sports/movies/things I enjoy with men. But the conversation has changed for me. I have no care for keeping male street cred like before. And I'm realizing that I wasn't allowing my true opinions out. And that my conversations with women are so much more easier for me. They give me life and energy in ways that I've never experienced before. I don't think I won't have male friends going forward. I still have a best friend that I'll stay close to. I couldn't leave that friendship after he shows how much he's stuck by me. I just prefer talking to women now.
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Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 08, 2018, 09:56:17 AM
Well maybe if you thought how much you might have to pay someone to fix it correctly and to perhaps have to haul the garden tractor back and forth between the repair shop, and you really need the bracket on the garden tractor fixed, you might have second thoughts! But I hear what you are saying! :)
Chrissy
You have to even consider that I am a pretty good welder and have a very nice wire welder sitting in my shop. It just requires doing it, but I mange to convince myself every day new that it can wait. The current reason for procrastinating is that my neighbor mowed my yard yesterday, while is wife helped me to shop for clothing items! >:-) ;D :angel:
Quote from: Dietlind on December 08, 2018, 11:05:35 AM
You have to even consider that I am a pretty good welder and have a very nice wire welder sitting in my shop. It just requires doing it, but I mange to convince myself every day new that it can wait. The current reason for procrastinating is that my neighbor wowed my yard yesterday, while is wife helped me to shop for clothing items! >:-) ;D :angel:
Someone told me that he was going to put an end to his procrastination, but he decided to put that off a little longer.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 08, 2018, 11:09:04 AM
Someone told me that he was going to put an end to his procrastination, but he decided to put that off a little longer.
Chrissy
I have a few projects, I need to work on or finish. I am just pretty listless currently, do do anything really. It might be a slight version of depression, I don't know for sure!
I am not sleeping well lately either. All of this might be a sign of a light depression, and I have to pull myself out of it!
This is a good topic I think. I have known girls that quit doing things they enjoyed in the past pre transition. I never understood why, except that the people they did things with in the past are no longer accepting of that new girl.
For me my issue was always not doing so called female hobbies and activities because I wanted to keep up pretending to be male.
Once I started transition I did continue to do my old hobbies as none were overly masculine. I still follow soccer and hockey. I know plenty of cis girls that go to the games and have season tickets to these events.
I have become more active post transition because I care more about my body and health I guess. However I'm in my mid 40's and I'm also trying to turn back the clock or pause it.
A few years after transition I started dating. Now I live with my boyfriend. He is the typical guy expecting me to do the house stuff and etc.. That is new to me, but I do enjoy it now. I love to bake using keto baking methods.
So yes things have changed, but I think in a positive way for me.
Quote from: CindyLouFromDBQ on December 08, 2018, 12:27:31 PM
This is a good topic I think. I have known girls that quit doing things they enjoyed in the past pre transition. I never understood why, except that the people they did things with in the past are no longer accepting of that new girl.
For me my issue was always not doing so called female hobbies and activities because I wanted to keep up pretending to be male.
Once I started transition I did continue to do my old hobbies as none were overly masculine. I still follow soccer and hockey. I know plenty of cis girls that go to the games and have season tickets to these events.
I have become more active post transition because I care more about my body and health I guess. However I'm in my mid 40's and I'm also trying to turn back the clock or pause it.
A few years after transition I started dating. Now I live with my boyfriend. He is the typical guy expecting me to do the house stuff and etc.. That is new to me, but I do enjoy it now. I love to bake using keto baking methods.
So yes things have changed, but I think in a positive way for me.
This sounds positive. Good for you!
Chrissy
This is a topic I am glad has come up. I have struggled with this question a lot since beginning my transition. I'm well known for my interest in steam power and in railways. I also am well known for my interest in electrical stuff.
When I began my transition I thought I would get away from all my old activities in favor of taking up more feminine interest and hobbies. I don't spend nearly as much time on my old interest and find I have little desire to get involved anymore in those subjects. Yet I can't quite get away from them either.
Lisa
My life has changed and daily living is so much easier. I don't really feel as bad about myself with the changes I've been getting on hrt. But I'm only less than 15 months on hrt so I have a long way to go still. I like being a feminine trans woman it's better than being a man.
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Amen! :)
Lisa
I have not picked up any of the so called female duties at all. I still hate t wash dishes, I still hate dusting or vacuuming, I still don't clean up after myself.
I really did not change anything. On thy other hand, I was partially female all my life, and nothing about that has really changed either
Quote from: Dietlind on December 08, 2018, 07:26:57 PM
I have not picked up any of the so called female duties at all. I still hate t wash dishes, I still hate dusting or vacuuming, I still don't clean up after myself.
I really did not change anything. On thy other hand, I was partially female all my life, and nothing about that has really changed either
These shouldn't really be female duties anyway...
I try to be more tidy than before but that's not directly related to my transition and I'm not very successful either :D
Quote from: Lynne on December 08, 2018, 07:33:07 PM
These shouldn't really be female duties anyway...
I try to be more tidy than before but that's not directly related to my transition and I'm not very successful either :D
You are right, there should not be female duties and there should not be male duties either.
Here is the thing that no one talks about though, women are measured by other women. So many worry about men after transition, those days are over. Men do their thing, alpha, beta, WWE mania or whatever, they have their way, we have ours. The people who will push you will always be women and not all of them will be nice.
I don't really know what kind of world everyone lives in, in my world we are expected to do certain things. Lol, not dishes, most are not exceptionally fond of doing dishes.
I am not sure why peer pressure has never effected me but it never has. My friends still gave me crap that I never wear a bra, the only thing I have heard in more than two years is from my best friend two months ago when we were in a boutique for sexy underwear. `You should wear a bra sometimes, you should get fitted for one.' I asked her why and she said, you may not think people notice but everyone does. It is not a horrible thing, big change from her point of view 3 years ago, but sometimes you should wear a bra.
We can be a sex object or non entity of men. Yeah, that is being deliberately obtuse, not really the case... effectively true though. OR! We become part of women.
That is where transition theory becomes transition fact. You will be a woman hopefully, and women are held to a standard if they expect to fit in. Being a guy is easy, girls are much more particular in who they accept into the club. Much.
For some of you it will never matter, and that is a good thing. Some of us reside in the realm of hormonal imbalances and do what we can to get by.
It is not about girl duties, it is about what we are EXPECTED to do by the people who actually really matter to us. It is not even that hard, women are trying to be what they are expected to be as women, they will resent the hell out of any girl that does not conform to that standard that they have been held to their whole lives.
That is how I see it anyway.
Quote from: IAmM on December 08, 2018, 11:37:55 PM
You are right, there should not be female duties and there should not be male duties either.
Here is the thing that no one talks about though, women are measured by other women. So many worry about men after transition, those days are over. Men do their thing, alpha, beta, WWE mania or whatever, they have their way, we have ours. The people who will push you will always be women and not all of them will be nice.
I agree, in part with this, even if I think it is not always so linear but it does hold true many times. Before transition I was very feminine and people almost never knew what I was or assumed I was girl. By FAR the worst abuse I had was from guys my age and even younger, because they can be so cruel to who's diferente from them and who doesn't fit the macho stereotype. And whoever doesn't fit the stereotype almost always becomes an outcast, and the men are not subtle about excluding that person and making fun of them. After transition, I started finding myself much more evaluated by women than men. The truth is women are much more critical of themselves than men, and thus also become much more critical of other women. I think this derives from the insecurity caregivers and society always tries to impose on us since the moment we are born. We intuitively know we are the "weaker" sex, so tend to each other apart instead of "competing" in friendly terms and equally with both men and women, as if we know the battle is lost when it's against men, so we turn against each other. It's not healthy but it's true.
That said, I definitely don't think women are all bad, it's just a unhealthy dynamic that too often is rooted in our insecurities we project on other women. But sometimes we need to look at ourselves. And if you find a good group of girlfriends who support you and are there for you, I swear they can be Susan Boyle or Meghan Markle, they won't feel threatened by you and transition will become more fun with them. Never underestimate the power of a good girlfriendship.
Quote from: IAmM on December 08, 2018, 11:37:55 PM
You are right, there should not be female duties and there should not be male duties either.
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It is not about girl duties, it is about what we are EXPECTED to do by the people who actually really matter to us. It is not even that hard, women are trying to be what they are expected to be as women, they will resent the hell out of any girl that does not conform to that standard that they have been held to their whole lives.
That is how I see it anyway.
Everyone, including women, should learn by now that we should not be expected to do anything. It should not be wrong if a girl(or anyone really) does not conform to the stupid made up norms of society. Closed minded people tend to judge others for things like that and I try to surround myself with people who are more accepting of the idea that not everyone should be the same as the others.
I've been seen as a feminine boy and 'man' for a long time and it was bullying and borderline harassment for the first 10 years in school where tomboy girls had no problems at all. I think a lot of us seen similar things over the years, so I think a woman generally has more room to express herself than a man, even if there are certain expectations.
I have found that I didn't really change. My intrests are still my intrests. I did however openly adopt intrests that I felt prohibited from or that I concealed in the past. In my everyday life, I have noted a bit more time in personal care after depression passed and I am a bit more organized by necessity. By necessity I mean, I have a lot more crap and need to keep it organized if I have the hope of finding my lipstick. ;) I can't say that much has changed over the past 3 years... a double edged sword. My family doesn't see "transition", only a "more so" me.
I don't have too much to add to this, but my motto has always been "cool things don't stop being cool just because I wear a skirt and sit when I pee"
Strenghtwise?for sure, looks? a curiosity for sure. Social interaction wise?, a woman and looks and acts like a female. Knowledge base? Feminine and masculine grounded.
Who's that chick on lane 10, shooting that 338 lm, at over 1500? yds[emoji848][emoji2955][emoji7][emoji2955]
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Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 08, 2018, 08:26:13 AM
I do wonder though if it is too much to expect a male buddy to continue to hang out with you as much or in all the same ways when you are a woman though, even though he is supportive of you as a woman. The relationship seems like it would change after you transition because woman and man social interaction dynamics are not the same as guy and guy friendships, or woman and woman friendships. At least you did not lose a friend and have a supporter. The relationship would likely change. But perhaps it should, as you are woman.
When we transition, we certainly have to expect change.
Chrissy
I was 'best man' (funny huh) at my friend's wedding. He is a very macho type and his values are very stuck in the Andy Griffith Show era. He had two brothers but always called me his real brother because we were closer. He confided in me. When I came out, based on the above, I figured he was gone for sure. Surprisingly, he was very supportive at first. He was too supportive sometimes, saying things too loudly like, "I'm outnumbered at this table being the only guy." I rolled my eyes, but appreciated his effort. As time went on, I could see he was struggling, becoming more uncomfortable with me. Of course, I would blurt out the old line, "Well, I'm still the same person." He replied, "No you aren't." I was convinced he was wacky until I came to realize he was right. If my whole contention of being a woman was correct (hint, it is) then in his eyes, I was not the same person at all. Finally, we were out at a restaurant and I excused myself to go to the ladies room. My partner said, he was staring at me as I walked away and said, "She's really 'owning' this isn't she." From then on, he had to relearn being my friend. He had to figure out what how to interact with this new person. He told me once that he starting treating more like his sister. I am pretty proud of him for sticking with me. I am thankful for him helping to get me to 'own' it, in my earlier stages.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 08, 2018, 08:26:13 am
I do wonder though if it is too much to expect a male buddy to continue to hang out with you as much or in all the same ways when you are a woman though, even though he is supportive of you as a woman. The relationship seems like it would change after you transition because woman and man social interaction dynamics are not the same as guy and guy friendships, or woman and woman friendships. At least you did not lose a friend and have a supporter. The relationship would likely change. But perhaps it should, as you are woman.
When we transition, we certainly have to expect change.
Chrissy
Quote from: HappyMoni on December 16, 2018, 08:20:44 AM
I was 'best man' (funny huh) at my friend's wedding. He is a very macho type and his values are very stuck in the Andy Griffith Show era. He had two brothers but always called me his real brother because we were closer. He confided in me. When I came out, based on the above, I figured he was gone for sure. Surprisingly, he was very supportive at first. He was too supportive sometimes, saying things too loudly like, "I'm outnumbered at this table being the only guy." I rolled my eyes, but appreciated his effort. As time went on, I could see he was struggling, becoming more uncomfortable with me. Of course, I would blurt out the old line, "Well, I'm still the same person." He replied, "No you aren't." I was convinced he was wacky until I came to realize he was right. If my whole contention of being a woman was correct (hint, it is) then in his eyes, I was not the same person at all. Finally, we were out at a restaurant and I excused myself to go to the ladies room. My partner said, he was staring at me as I walked away and said, "She's really 'owning' this isn't she." From then on, he had to relearn being my friend. He had to figure out what how to interact with this new person. He told me once that he starting treating more like his sister. I am pretty proud of him for sticking with me. I am thankful for him helping to get me to 'own' it, in my earlier stages.
Yes. He has stuck with you then, and you now. Nice to hear.
Chrissy
I do keep thinking about this. There is a lot that will change and some things that will likely stay about the same.
We certainly have to expect change.
Chrissy
This question is like when people think that having the sex reassignment will be other someone else, and it's really just a physical change, but you'll still be the same person.
The rest of the changes are because of you, because the human is changing.
I just talked to the wife of a male friend (they are actually both my friends), and she though that Jerod would be concerned about how to talk to me. She wondered, if I can still talk about tractors, combines and other farm equipment with him. I ensured her that i am still crying because I had to give my wonderful John Deere up upon moving to Florida. I had lots of land up north and had a John Deere 2327 and a Bobcat, and my friend had a hobby farm and we were always talking about farm equipment.
I told her that my body changed, but not my interests, and that i still like to swing a wrench!
It is the little understanding people have about transgender, they think we not only changed our body, but we also got a new brain installed into that new body! I have not changed any of my interests, I still hate housework and dish washing, and I am pretty sure that I will hate those things until I die!
Thank you ladies for all of your comments on this thread.
Chrissy
I'm new to my transition. I used to play basketball in the morning before work. We would need to shower in a locker room all together in the open and as I've started to accept myself as a women, I honestly started to feel really uncomfortable with that situation. As I started to develop small amounts of breast tissue I decided that I was done doing that particular activity. I did really enjoy it too.
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Quote from: Dana Thompson on January 24, 2019, 07:35:52 AM
I'm new to my transition. I used to play basketball in the morning before work. We would need to shower in a locker room all together in the open and as I've started to accept myself as a women, I honestly started to feel really uncomfortable with that situation. As I started to develop small amounts of breast tissue I decided that I was done doing that particular activity. I did really enjoy it too.
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Hi Dana, 24 January 2019
Why give up what you like to do; find a few ladies that like to play basketball and play with them. Should be much more fun than playing with a bunch of men. The shower thing might be a problem until you are well along in your transition.
Best Always, Love
Christine
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 08, 2018, 08:26:13 AM
The relationship would likely change. But perhaps it should, as you are woman.
When we transition, we certainly have to expect change.
Chrissy
Yes, this was an interesting thread to read, I can relate to this thought above, when I transitioned within a band as the bass player I initially joined as my old self. 2 of the members of the band accepted me and were fine as I came out, but the lead singer had a hard time with my changes, and we still went out and gigged for more than a year after I came out, but the relationship definitely changed as moved further into transition. I eventually had to leave the band because our working relationship had gone toxic. This would be one friend that could not transition with me, and I had to let it go...
So yes, when we transition expect relationships and your interests to change, I guess it's part of living as we move into new phases. I have more of an interest in crafts, baking, sewing now, and maintaining my physical health. Less interest in having to fix my car, I'll gladly pay the friendly repair man these days ;)
My everyday life is better in many ways, I still work, I still play music, I have different relationships today, mostly with women.
Cynthia -
I find it wonderful that when I am in a social setting with some ladies who know I am mtf, that they always treat me and talk with me as myself, a woman, even when I am noticeably dressed as a male that day. I guess that may mean I am a woman that happens to be out in men's clothes, but I am still me!
I just love it when I am addressed and treated as a woman. I love to hear my "real" (female) name. I love it when a new necklace or something feminine related about me gets noticed. Any guy that is left in me seems to be nowhere to be found when I am in these situations. On these days, those good experiences make me crave to transition more quickly.
Plus, that all goes a long way to counteracting some of the ridicule that occasionally happens.
Hugs,
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on May 22, 2019, 05:16:35 PM
I find it wonderful that when I am in a social setting with some ladies who know I am mtf, that they always treat me and talk with me as myself, a woman, even when I am noticeably dressed as a male that day. I guess that may mean I am a woman that happens to be out in men's clothes, but I am still me!
I just love it when I am addressed and treated as a woman. I love to hear my "real" (female) name. I love it when a new necklace or something feminine related about me gets noticed. Any guy that is left in me seems to be nowhere to be found when I am in these situations. On these days, those good experiences make me crave to transition more quickly.
Plus, that all goes a long way to counteracting some of the ridicule that occasionally happens.
Hugs,
Chrissy
Yes! Yes! Yes!
As I said in an earlier post in this thread, what you describe is exactly what I most hope for once I go full-time. Things will be so bad if I can't get positive social interactions with other women, but it'll be so awesome if I do. I hope I achieve what you have been able to.
Sarah