Hey everyone!
I am trans female and Bi.
I have friends that know about me and my family know too, I am pre transition and also pre "diagnosis" of gender dysphoria.
I came to accept and come to terms with the fact I'm trans about 2 months ago, and have decided there's no time like the present to start going through the stuff I need to in order to get to where I want to be with this.
Obviously my more or less conservative, 67-ish to 72-ish year old parents make this more difficult than it needs to be, dad is apparently having trouble coming to terms with it and mum feels that should stop me going forward for now :P
If you have any questions ask away :)
I wonder how old you are? I started a transition at age 46. Helping my parents to understand wasnt easy.
Kind regards, Kirsten.
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Im 23 :)
Welcome to Susan's Place!
Transitioning at any age is difficult. I started when I was 54, and my parents are in their mid-80's! All of my relatives literally live 1000 miles away. I didn't tell them until after I had transitioned. I figured my mom would be OK with it, but I was amazed that my dad accepted me as well. There is a lot of information on this site, and many helpful members. There is no time like the present to start moving forward. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
Welcome - It's kind of you to be thoughtful of your parents and you should do this with that kindness in mind but don't let it stop you from being the real you. If you continue to repress this or halt your journey it could breed resentment in you of your parents.
Do your best to help educate your parents that being transgender is not that unusual anymore and over a little time they may become more accepting. But you have to be you.
Current estimates by many sources believe that 1% of the population is trans. That is A LOT of people.
Quote from: Vanilla bean on December 13, 2018, 07:38:56 PM
Im 23 :)
Youre over 21 therefore an adult. Parents always have a habit of seeing their children as young & naive no matter what age they are.
As an adult you should drive the scenario- you will have to use your best discretion in how you deliver the news.
I saw a psychiatrist and psychologist & informed my parents what was going on right from the start.
I encouraged their input but didnt allow them to drive me off the rails
On the whole it worked out well.
Kind regards,Kirsten
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Quote from: Jessica_Rose on December 13, 2018, 08:12:03 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place!
Transitioning at any age is difficult. I started when I was 54, and my parents are in their mid-80's! All of my relatives literally live 1000 miles away. I didn't tell them until after I had transitioned. I figured my mom would be OK with it, but I was amazed that my dad accepted me as well. There is a lot of information on this site, and many helpful members. There is no time like the present to start moving forward. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
Thanks :D
Quote from: KimOct on December 13, 2018, 10:36:39 PM
Welcome - It's kind of you to be thoughtful of your parents and you should do this with that kindness in mind but don't let it stop you from being the real you. If you continue to repress this or halt your journey it could breed resentment in you of your parents.
Do your best to help educate your parents that being transgender is not that unusual anymore and over a little time they may become more accepting. But you have to be you.
Current estimates by many sources believe that 1% of the population is trans. That is A LOT of people.
I figured as much as I'd start to resent them if I hold back for them, but since our whole family has always gone by "parents house parents rules" it's been hard to dispute anything with them, or teach them a new way of thinking.
Quote from: Kirsteneklund7 on December 13, 2018, 11:19:18 PM
Youre over 21 therefore an adult. Parents always have a habit of seeing their children as young & naive no matter what age they are.
As an adult you should drive the scenario- you will have to use your best discretion in how you deliver the news.
I saw a psychiatrist and psychologist & informed my parents what was going on right from the start.
I encouraged their input but didnt allow them to drive me off the rails
On the whole it worked out well.
Kind regards,Kirsten
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Well, mum wants to talk today, so I guess I can try that then! we'll see how it goes :)
Thanks to everyone for the advice so far! :D
Hi Vanilla Bean :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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