Personal qualities and character traits are not necessarily gender dependent at all. All should strive to possess these best traits.
I will start this discussion off by saying that people with great character and kindness have a lot going for them. Insofar as a woman goes, being kind, loving, a great conversationalist, affectionate, unselfish, and empathetic are worthy traits. There are many more good traits.
What do you think can be the best qualities of a good woman? There are many. Think of how many you do or can embrace.
Chrissy
I am interested to see the results this so maybe I can find out which ones I'm missing and why I'm still single...
And I already see the first one that I'm missing that I can't seem to find again and that is compassion according to my therapist I am going through compassion exhaustion from being compassionate too often or too much
§§§§~~~~If you can't accept yourself, how can you expect others to accept you?~~~~§§§§
Being able to cook for the family or a group to express the love is a worthy trait. I can never do it as well as my wife can.
I do enjoy it though.
Kirsten xx,
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Independence.
I think good qualities should be good for all genders. It's not a thing for just one or the other.
A trait I've always admired in many women is 'grace'. I can't say I have an ounce of the stuff, but I don't need to own a distillery to appreciate a good whisky.
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I had an appointment with my Doc yesterday and I went on about how amazing her hair was and we started talking about how she does it. She gave me some good tips on how to do my hair and then told me about a product she uses. I wanted to write it down but she couldn't remember the name. Just like that she gets on her cell phone and calls her girlfriend, another Doc, and asks, "Do you remember that hair product I use. It's from Bed, Bath and Beyond. By John Frieda. It comes in a yellow tube." Her girlfriend, who she apparently goes shopping with, couldn't remember it so she hung up and then promised to look it up when she got home and send me an email with the name of it.
Just a small little story that illustrates how women cooperate with each other. I couldn't imagine in a million years calling up a buddy and colleague and having such an interaction in the middle of the day. It's totally foreign to me. After my appointment she hugged me. Never would have happened if I was still a dude.
So in a word: Cooperation.
Quote from: Janes Groove on December 22, 2018, 01:50:27 PM
I had an appointment with my Doc yesterday and I went on about how amazing her hair was and we started talking about how she does it. She gave me some good tips on how to do my hair and then told me about a product she uses. I wanted to write it down but she couldn't remember the name. Just like that she gets on her cell phone and calls her girlfriend, another Doc, and asks, "Do you remember that hair product I use. It's from Bed, Bath and Beyond. By John Frieda. It comes in a yellow tube." Her girlfriend, who she apparently goes shopping with, couldn't remember it so she hung up and then promised to look it up when she got home and send me an email with the name of it.
Just a small little story that illustrates how women cooperate with each other. I couldn't imagine in a million years calling up a buddy and colleague and having such an interaction in the middle of the day. It's totally foreign to me. After my appointment she hugged me. Never would have happened if I was still a dude.
So in a word: Cooperation.
You are so correct. Guys just don't do that kind of thing. Too bad really. Guys conversations are always so superficial I think; the weather, the game, gold, hunting, cars, etc, etc. I've never had a deep meaningful conversation with a guy. Oh wait, yes I did. Once! I'll cherish it for as long as I live.
Janes - I have had a great time interacting with my medical team. Kristie my early therapist, Emily my speech pathologist, Nanci my electrologist, Phyllis my heart health monitor. I get hugs from all of them. The best part is I never would have known these ladies if not for transition. I had a career trying to quell male ego's and get down to work. The ladies were never much of a problem as it is their process to seek consensus and ego does not enter into it. This is a generality and not 100% but close enough.
Empathy, creativity, gentleness, kindness, able to show affection, not being overly competitive or belligerent in everything, being thoughtful of others, appreciating the details in life, being social, verbal, appreciative of beauty, humility and vulnerability (which go a long way in making relationships and life much more pleasant)
Quote from: Kylo on December 22, 2018, 03:05:29 PM
Empathy, creativity, gentleness, kindness, able to show affection, not being overly competitive or belligerent in everything, being thoughtful of others, appreciating the details in life, being social, verbal, appreciative of beauty, humility and vulnerability (which go a long way in making relationships and life much more pleasant)
Kylo,
That is spot on. Those are admirable qualities and traits.
Chrissy
Being able to show, and open about ones emotions!
The ability to embrace your vulnerability. Men think it is a sign of weakness (generally). It is really a strength.
Quote from: HappyMoni on December 23, 2018, 06:47:40 AM
The ability to embrace your vulnerability. Men think it is a sign of weakness (generally). It is really a strength.
I agree so much Moni, we gain a lot when we do. Also others get to see our true selves.
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A number of these good qualities can also be found in men.
Which do you strive to have, or have?
Chrissy
Being their own person. That's it. Everything else is stuff put out there by other people. Just be yourself, whoever you are. That's the best trait you can have, wherever you are in terms of gender. Don't be the canvas, be the painting. :)