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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Faith on December 28, 2018, 09:18:15 AM

Title: A Christmas Card
Post by: Faith on December 28, 2018, 09:18:15 AM
I hope everyone is doing well and had a wonderful Christmas. I am very lucky in my family and I count my blessings every day. I am currently visiting my brother and Lori's sister (yes, you read that right) in Virginia. Everyone is doing very well using name and pronouns. They are trying, that's what counts.

I am making this post to share what my son wrote in his christmas card to me. I wanted to post a snapshot, we forgot to bring the card with us. I do have the text of what he wrote. Part of what made it special is the fact he is mildly autistic. His fine motor skills are rough, he cannot write well. He took extreme pains to make sure that what he wrote was legible.

I do have the text of what he wrote (he gave us print in case we couldn't read it). This is what he wrote, minus the 'gift' that he gave .. the text would have been gift enough ....

QuoteDad
To a father who has found out he feels more like he should be a women then man, don't let
what anyone else thinks about it get to you and never feel bad about trying new things regardless of
what society thinks about your choices you are you just make sure you are happy with it.

I'm tearing up again re-reading it.

Take care everyone, may you also have loved ones in your life to share who you are with without reservation.
Faith
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: Lynne on December 28, 2018, 09:29:17 AM
Acceptance is the best gift, your son is great! I have to admit these few lines made me emotional too.
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: JudiBlueEyes on December 28, 2018, 09:58:06 AM
Faith this is a wonderful gift you have received.  Your son is certainly full of insight, empathy and love.  You've raised a beautiful young man.

Judi
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: KathyLauren on December 28, 2018, 10:12:21 AM
Faith, I am glad you had a good Christmas visiting family.  I am glad that they are accepting you.

The inscription from your son's card is beautiful!  It made me a little bit teary.  He sounds like a wonderful young man.
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: JaslineUK on December 28, 2018, 10:23:52 AM
Quote from: Faith on December 28, 2018, 09:18:15 AM
he is mildly autistic

I know what autism is, but thought I would take a quick look at the Wiki description which begins "Autism is a developmental disorder characterized by troubles with social interaction and communication"

Well, from the words your son wrote he clearly has a deeper understanding of social interaction and communication that would serve as a lesson to many.

That was wonderful and I too got very teary eyed.

Jas xxx
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: bobbisue on December 28, 2018, 11:00:33 AM
     Faith I teared up as well reading this acceptance from family is so important
     
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: GordonG on December 28, 2018, 01:53:26 PM
That is wonderful.  :)
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: cluck1992 on December 28, 2018, 05:54:15 PM
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Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: pamelatransuk on December 29, 2018, 06:27:02 AM
Faith

This is wonderful to read.

Clearly you son loves you and possesses wisdom way beyond that of so many.

Hugs

Pamela
Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: TonyaW on December 29, 2018, 09:00:08 AM
Hey Faith

What an awesome gift from your son.

Thanks for sharing this.

Tonya

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Title: Re: A Christmas Card
Post by: Faith on December 30, 2018, 07:05:58 AM
Thank you all for your kind responses, it is indeed a wonderful thing.

Tolerance isn't acceptance. Sometimes you cannot tell which it is until you are specifically told. All three of my children have, in one way or anther, shown their acceptance. It is very uplifting. I find I lean on the acceptance as I meet resistance not just from outside, also from inside my own head.