Hi,
I am ftm (mid-twenties, non-anglophone country) and came out to my sister today where everything went well!
Also, I sent a letter to my parents on Friday, so it should be arriving tmrw (Monday) or on Tuesday. However, regarding my parents I am very worried (!) about them not accepting how I feel; telling me to ``be crazy" and that they have been supporting me throughout my studies etc. and "then that".
There have been hours in these past few days where I have been thinking - "what have I done" - "how did I dare doing that"/"have I taken leave of my senses" (sending of the letter and opening up). In a way I think it was the right thing to do, though it feels so unreal and I am scared of their (possible) negative reaction. I just feel like I have lost control. I know that I did the right thing but I "lost control" I cannot retrieve the letter (back). Has anyone of you ever experienced this feeling? It is just very uncomfortable.
Quote from: anthony_2019 on January 27, 2019, 04:06:24 PM
Hi,
I am ftm (mid-twenties, non-anglophone country) and came out to my sister today where everything went well!
Also, I sent a letter to my parents on Friday, so it should be arriving tmrw (Monday) or on Tuesday. However, regarding my parents I am very worried (!) about them not accepting how I feel; telling me to ``be crazy" and that they have been supporting me throughout my studies etc. and "then that".
There have been hours in these past few days where I have been thinking - "what have I done" - "how did I dare doing that"/"have I taken leave of my senses" (sending of the letter and opening up). In a way I think it was the right thing to do, though it feels so unreal and I am scared of their (possible) negative reaction. I just feel like I have lost control. I know that I did the right thing but I "lost control" I cannot retrieve the letter (back). Has anyone of you ever experienced this feeling? It is just very uncomfortable.
@anthony_2019 Dear Anthony: Thank you for becoming a member of Susan's Place and the Forums and for your very first posting in the Forums.
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DanielleNOTE: Now that all of this greeting stuff is done, I will let you have the thread back so you can continue to pursue the conversation that you were trying to have.
A letter is in my opinion not the best option to come out. It won't answer any eventual questions that your parents might have after reading it. If you feel insecure, bring your sibling to support you when you talk with your parents.
A reason for writing the letter is that I am studying at a place which is further away from home.
In addition, my mums reaction might be over-impulsive if I told her directly and I want her to have some time thinking about it/processing it after she read it. That is why I could not do it in person. Questions will come whether I write or don't write a letter.
You will however not be able to answer those questions in person immediately after they read your letter. It's also pretty unpersonal to just send a letter.
I'm speaking from my own experience from coming out in person. My mother was thankful that I spoke to her about it rather than doing it unnecessarily complex. She wasn't overwhelmingly supportive about it and my dad was even less so but at least I got it out in the open.