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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: jaybutterfly on January 30, 2019, 06:57:08 AM

Title: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: jaybutterfly on January 30, 2019, 06:57:08 AM
So Im seeing a gender therapist who also does CBT, and it's going well. We've made it very clear male is not what I see myself as and they dont believe I really need someone to help me affirm, more help me work out what to do. I want to post pone hormones until Ive had a child, but I have found something has helped massively with this.

Someone I have been extremely close with for a long time has started a relationship with me. Im so happy, she's known for years and helps me present female, and we both want to have a serious relationship and kids within the next few years once we have the financial means to do so.

On top of this, a stress related meltdown (caused by my family pushing my buttons one time too many over their opinions>my needs) and it hit home that they have neglected me in favor of dealing with my older sibling's violence and acting out. They want to put things right and help me, so Im going to come out to my dad soon. I talked to my Mum and she asked why I hadnt told her sooner than in the last 5 years and I explained that I didnt even think anyone would have noticed if I was dead at that point so I didnt expect anyone to listen or treat me well.

Ive been asked to be the maid of honour at my best friends wedding, and Im so touched.

Things are looking up massively.
Title: Re: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: HappyMoni on January 30, 2019, 07:53:06 AM
Wow, this is fantastic! Your future is looking very bright! Very happy for you.
Title: Re: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: pamelatransuk on January 30, 2019, 08:09:17 AM
Hello again Jaybutterfly

That is certainly good news on 3 fronts - gender therapist, serious relationship with potential baby and your parents.

I am so pleased for you.

Hugs

Pamela  xx
Title: Re: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: BlueJaye on January 30, 2019, 01:03:00 PM
What is CBT?
Title: Re: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: GingerVicki on January 30, 2019, 01:03:47 PM
cognitive behavioral therapy
Title: Re: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: Wendi on January 30, 2019, 03:59:30 PM
Great news. You must be walking on cloud nine.

Title: Re: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: jaybutterfly on February 01, 2019, 03:10:57 PM
Quote from: Wendi on January 30, 2019, 03:59:30 PM
Great news. You must be walking on cloud nine.

I feel a lot happier and my anxiety has melted away completely. Im out to my hairdresser about wanting girl hair and she seems to get it, so thats great news.

Title: Re: Not completely relevant to my transition, but some good news
Post by: Alice (nym) on February 01, 2019, 05:48:47 PM
That's lovely news. Everything seems to be fitting into place for you right now. So nice to hear positive things. Thank you for sharing with us.