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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: AnamethatstartswithE on March 12, 2019, 03:34:29 PM

Title: Weirdly sentimental
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on March 12, 2019, 03:34:29 PM
So I'm slowly grinding my way through my name change, I have all of the financial/govt stuff done. Now I'm getting my educational records changed. I was emailing with the registrar where I went for undergrad, and she told me that I could get my diploma reissued, but that they'd want me to send them my old one. For some reason I really don't want to do that. I know I don't have to, but it's weird that I'd want something with the wrong name on it.

Has anyone else gone through something like this?
Title: Re: Weirdly sentimental
Post by: Northern Star Girl on March 12, 2019, 03:41:38 PM
Quote from: AnamethatstartswithE on March 12, 2019, 03:34:29 PM
So I'm slowly grinding my way through my name change, I have all of the financial/govt stuff done. Now I'm getting my educational records changed. I was emailing with the registrar where I went for undergrad, and she told me that I could get my diploma reissued, but that they'd want me to send them my old one. For some reason I really don't want to do that. I know I don't have to, but it's weird that I'd want something with the wrong name on it.

Has anyone else gone through something like this?

@AnamethatstartswithE
Oh yeah.... like you may be, I am very sentimental...  I like to keep things like old and new documents.   In the case where I had to turn in the old dead-name document I made a color-copy of it for sentimental value... 
I also still have a small quantity of my old business cards, resumes and other paperwork from my previous employment and jobs....
I have kept some old family pictures and business and trade show pictures of me back before I transitioned.

... now it is different with regard to my "old" clothing, I gave it all away... I have not owned any male clothing or shoes for well over 2 years.

Hugs,
Danielle
Title: Re: Weirdly sentimental
Post by: NatalieRene on March 12, 2019, 04:23:24 PM
Quote from: AnamethatstartswithE on March 12, 2019, 03:34:29 PM
So I'm slowly grinding my way through my name change, I have all of the financial/govt stuff done. Now I'm getting my educational records changed. I was emailing with the registrar where I went for undergrad, and she told me that I could get my diploma reissued, but that they'd want me to send them my old one. For some reason I really don't want to do that. I know I don't have to, but it's weird that I'd want something with the wrong name on it.

Has anyone else gone through something like this?

I'm willing but only after I receive the new one because I'm paranoid I'd end up with no diploma.
Title: Re: Weirdly sentimental
Post by: KathyLauren on March 12, 2019, 05:32:51 PM
I didn't bother to get my degree changed.  I don't display the document, and, being retired, I don't need it to get a job, so I didn't bother. 

If I had to return it, I'd make a good quality colour copy first.  Similar to my birth certificate.  When it comes time to change it, I will have to return the old one.  I will make a colour copy first.
Title: Re: Weirdly sentimental
Post by: Ryuichi13 on March 12, 2019, 07:16:16 PM
Quote from: AnamethatstartswithE on March 12, 2019, 03:34:29 PM
So I'm slowly grinding my way through my name change, I have all of the financial/govt stuff done. Now I'm getting my educational records changed. I was emailing with the registrar where I went for undergrad, and she told me that I could get my diploma reissued, but that they'd want me to send them my old one. For some reason I really don't want to do that. I know I don't have to, but it's weird that I'd want something with the wrong name on it.

Has anyone else gone through something like this?

Yes.  My old minister's license still has my birth name on it.  I'd actually have to pay to have the name changed, so I'm a bit reluctant. :-\

Ryuichi
Title: Re: Weirdly sentimental
Post by: NatalieRene on March 20, 2019, 09:47:14 PM
Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on March 12, 2019, 03:41:38 PM
@AnamethatstartswithE
Oh yeah.... like you may be, I am very sentimental...  I like to keep things like old and new documents.   In the case where I had to turn in the old dead-name document I made a color-copy of it for sentimental value... 
I also still have a small quantity of my old business cards, resumes and other paperwork from my previous employment and jobs....
I have kept some old family pictures and business and trade show pictures of me back before I transitioned.

... now it is different with regard to my "old" clothing, I gave it all away... I have not owned any male clothing or shoes for well over 2 years.

Hugs,
Danielle


When packing things over Christmas vacation I found my old male id which the dmv punched void before giving me my new female id. I laughed seeing it.

I also found the last bit of clothes that I thought I had thrown out including my old leather jacket from Guess. I three it all out except the jacket. I would look ridiculous wearing it now because I'm smaller (well once the weight is back down) then I was before hrt. It would be like wearing my boyfriends coat. I don't know why I couldn't bring myself to chuck it.
Title: Re: Weirdly sentimental
Post by: krobinson103 on March 22, 2019, 03:08:50 AM
Quote from: NatalieRene on March 20, 2019, 09:47:14 PM
When packing things over Christmas vacation I found my old male id which the dmv punched void before giving me my new female id. I laughed seeing it.

I also found the last bit of clothes that I thought I had thrown out including my old leather jacket from Guess. I three it all out except the jacket. I would look ridiculous wearing it now because I'm smaller (well once the weight is back down) then I was before hrt. It would be like wearing my boyfriends coat. I don't know why I couldn't bring myself to chuck it.

Did that with my wedding suit. After a year transitioning it looked totally ridiculous on me yet I still couldn't make myself donate it. Eventually I did because there is no way on earth I'll ever have a use for a suit almost (now) three sizes too big and quite frankly very unflattering to my body shape now.