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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: DawnOday on March 28, 2019, 02:09:18 PM

Title: Healing continues
Post by: DawnOday on March 28, 2019, 02:09:18 PM
My transition is the most revelatory segment of my life and it only took sixty four years to get here. I am looking into not only my gender dysphoria but also where I fit, on the Autism Spectrum. By knowing bits and pieces so far I have been able to become aware of my weaknesses, like not taking into consideration, how telling the truth, is not always the best policy. It's odd because I alway thought people wanted to hear the truth. Not so.

To that end, I had an excellent visit with my sister yesterday. She told me that for the first time I maintained a civil conversation without wandering into the weeds. I explained to her everything I have learned thus far and she has gone from skeptical, to firmly supporting me and the community.  It was the best day I have had since I had a breakdown in her living room. When I left, I was so happy and relieved. I never intended to be an ass. Like gender dysphoria it is something I was born with and am now dealing with.

Now I am going to attend a Transgender Community vacation in Vegas. I am so looking forward to meeting some wonderful people that share in my belief that we were misgendered at birth and no matter what bits and pieces you exhibit, does not define you.  You my friends have much to do with my growth as a person, as a human being. Happy Moni, Alaskan Danielle,Tatianna 99, Julia 1996, Lauren, Michelle_P, Kendra, Faith, Jessica, Kathy Lauren and last but not least Susan Larson. Many others have contributed, but these folks have contributed support from Susan's Place for the three  years I have been associated with it. Consider this a digital hug, from a unabashed fan, supporter, sister.

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You
Title: Re: Healing continues
Post by: Northern Star Girl on March 28, 2019, 02:29:53 PM
@DawnOday
My dear Dawn:
I read your post a couple times to get it right.... I am so glad that you worked through your dysphoria to bring it to a place of healing and to be careful how you say things to others....  it is a delicate balance of telling the entire truth or perhaps eliminating too much truth, but without telling lie.

I am was glad to read that you had and  "excellent" visit with your sister... no bad events like with your previous visit with her...    kudos to you.

Wow, your planned attendance at a Trangender Community vacation in Las Vegas sounds like a wonder event for you to attend.   In a similar way, for those that can't take the time off or afford such a thing, the Forums here on Susan's Place  provide much of what you described... sharing with other like-minded members and friends that share similar experiences and thoughts.

I will be eagerly looking for your continued postings and especially your reports of how things are happening during your upcoming vacation....   WHAT IS THE PROPOSED DATE OF YOUR TRIP? ???

And YES, I will gladly accept your "Digital HUG" and I am now returning TWO Digital Hugs back to you.
      (https://i.imgur.com/RauHUuY.jpg)   (https://i.imgur.com/RauHUuY.jpg)

Hugs and best wishes as always,
Danielle
   [emoji171]

Title: Re: Healing continues
Post by: Jessica on March 28, 2019, 02:42:13 PM
Let me get my hugs in too! 

(https://i.imgur.com/RauHUuY.jpg)   (https://i.imgur.com/RauHUuY.jpg)

Title: Re: Healing continues
Post by: DawnOday on March 28, 2019, 02:58:47 PM
I'm here now, visiting with long time friends and family. I am at the northern end of town near Nellis AFB. I will be moving downtown to the Flamingo. on Sunday for next weeks festivities. You have a problem with cold, Vegas has a problem with heat. Luckily we are in the mid 70's, low 80's which in the words of Goldilocks "Just Right" This will be my first time full time exposure in public. I'm scared to death. But, I hope the experience gives me the courage to be as close to full time as possible. It sucks living a life of fear.
Title: Re: Healing continues
Post by: Jessica on March 28, 2019, 03:21:41 PM
@DawnOday

Quote from: DawnOday on March 28, 2019, 02:58:47 PM
I'm here now, visiting with long time friends and family. I am at the northern end of town near Nellis AFB. I will be moving downtown to the Flamingo. on Sunday for next weeks festivities. You have a problem with cold, Vegas has a problem with heat. Luckily we are in the mid 70's, low 80's which in the words of Goldilocks "Just Right" This will be my first time full time exposure in public. I'm scared to death. But, I hope the experience gives me the courage to be as close to full time as possible. It sucks living a life of fear.


Live it up Dawn!  Remember "What happens in Las Vegas, stays in Las Vegas".
Had I realized what was going on, I may have gone south to meet up with you.
Unfortunately, other plans have restricted my flexibility now.

Don't let what you perceive as a problem get the better of you.  Just live and love life there, and if anyone bats an eye, bat yours back at them!

Hugs and smiles from a California girl
Title: Re: Healing continues
Post by: DawnOday on March 28, 2019, 03:32:07 PM
That's kind of a trait of mine. I found out it was from being on the autism spectrum.  I can't keep my mouth shut and I will respond. Worked when I was younger because of my size. Not so sure these days. I am bringing a friend and she carries protective equipment.  Wink, wink, nod, nod.
Title: Re: Healing continues
Post by: Rayna on March 29, 2019, 01:38:04 PM
Hey Dawn, enjoy being out!! I doubt anyone will bat an eye. If they do its probably because they are admiring a pretty woman!

Now I, on the other hand, went out in half-femme mode the other day and definitely got some lengthy looks. Probably just trying to figure me out, but nothing hostile. I didn't mind since I deserved it.

Have fun there in Vegas!
Hugs Randy

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Title: Re: Healing continues
Post by: HappyMoni on March 29, 2019, 06:30:15 PM
Quote from: DawnOday on March 28, 2019, 02:09:18 PM
My transition is the most revelatory segment of my life and it only took sixty four years to get here. I am looking into not only my gender dysphoria but also where I fit, on the Autism Spectrum. By knowing bits and pieces so far I have been able to become aware of my weaknesses, like not taking into consideration, how telling the truth, is not always the best policy. It's odd because I alway thought people wanted to hear the truth. Not so.

To that end, I had an excellent visit with my sister yesterday. She told me that for the first time I maintained a civil conversation without wandering into the weeds. I explained to her everything I have learned thus far and she has gone from skeptical, to firmly supporting me and the community.  It was the best day I have had since I had a breakdown in her living room. When I left, I was so happy and relieved. I never intended to be an ass. Like gender dysphoria it is something I was born with and am now dealing with.

Now I am going to attend a Transgender Community vacation in Vegas. I am so looking forward to meeting some wonderful people that share in my belief that we were misgendered at birth and no matter what bits and pieces you exhibit, does not define you.  You my friends have much to do with my growth as a person, as a human being. Happy Moni, Alaskan Danielle,Tatianna 99, Julia 1996, Lauren, Michelle_P, Kendra, Faith, Jessica, Kathy Lauren and last but not least Susan Larson. Many others have contributed, but these folks have contributed support from Susan's Place for the three  years I have been associated with it. Consider this a digital hug, from a unabashed fan, supporter, sister.

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You

Dawn,
   I am honored to be included on your list, first of all. I love ya Girl!

   Second, you are so right, living in fear is so awful. I applaud what you are doing and the progress you are making. During your visit, kick fear right in the teeth then bring back to your everyday life what you learn. You got this!

   So happy to hear of your meeting with your sister.

   Finally, have a blast!
Moni