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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: amandam on April 25, 2019, 09:13:51 PM

Title: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: amandam on April 25, 2019, 09:13:51 PM
Well, one of my sons wanted to talk to the wife and I after talking with his siblings. Turns out, he has some mixed feelings of a bisexual manner. I used it as an opportunity to tell my secret. Number 1, to help him. Number 2, it was my chance to be free of the secret in my own home. He was okay with it, doesn't care. Now my daughter knows. She doesn't care. She even asked me about some pants she wants to buy. lol. Just one son left. He won't care. One of his best friends came out as gay a few years back. :)

So, my wife, kids, 3 therapists, 1 female acquaintance, know that I am transgender (seemingly non-binary). As a child of the sixties, it's really scary to admit to people. Society used to really look down and even hate us. I feel so much more free. :)
Title: Re: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: CynthiaAnn on April 25, 2019, 09:19:34 PM
Quote from: amandam on April 25, 2019, 09:13:51 PM
Well, one of my sons wanted to talk to the wife and I after talking with his siblings. Turns out, he has some mixed feelings of a bisexual manner. I used it as an opportunity to tell my secret. Number 1, to help him. Number 2, it was my chance to be free of the secret in my own home. He was okay with it, doesn't care. Now my daughter knows. She doesn't care. She even asked me about some pants she wants to buy. lol. Just one son left. He won't care. One of his best friends came out as gay a few years back. :)

So, my wife, kids, 3 therapists, 1 female acquaintance, know that I am transgender (seemingly non-binary). As a child of the sixties, it's really scary to admit to people. Society used to really look down and even hate us. I feel so much more free. :)

From another child of the 60's I get this, liberation to you and may your family bonds strengthen for it...

Hugs

Cynthia -
Title: Re: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: pamelatransuk on April 26, 2019, 03:58:16 AM
Hello again Amandam

I was born a little earlier in 1955 but I definitely get the same feeling.

There was a great anti-reaction and a social taboo against us before the millennium but now things are gradually changing. We are getting there. So many people now are indifferent and some accept us. We can be free and maintain most of our family realtionships!

I wish you further happiness and success.

Hugs

Pamela 
Title: Re: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: amandam on April 26, 2019, 11:28:05 PM
Yes, that's really me in the profile picture. Kinda distant, but I'm shy. :)
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Post by: Ricki Wright on April 27, 2019, 04:22:19 AM
I am really happy for you.

Child of late '60s myself. Everyone I care about is in the loop: Wife, daughters (3), Aunt, Father, friends, sister, Doctor, obgyn, therapist. Everyone but my younger sister is super supportive. I have not told my son yet as I will not be able to speak to him face to face for another couple of years. I have not told my 96 year old Grandfather either due to my fear of disappointing him. It's kinda sad that I care more about how my Grandfather would react than my father.

I wish you continued support on your path,

Ricki

Title: Re: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: amandam on April 29, 2019, 05:08:24 PM
My other son knows and doesn't care.  :) I've also brought out my makeup and jewelry cases. My clothes are right in front of the closet. Not pushed back. I don't have to worry if I have a browser open. I feel so free. This is wonderful!!!
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Post by: HappyMoni on April 29, 2019, 07:12:29 PM
So happy for you Amanda, way to go! Feels great to get that weight off your back, doesn't it?  ;D
Moni
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Post by: Another Nikki on April 29, 2019, 09:33:51 PM
well that's great progress congrats! i was wondering if you had left the forum.
Title: Re: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: amandam on April 30, 2019, 12:08:12 AM
Nope, haven't left the forum. I've struggled at times, and made myself absent. It happens.
Title: Re: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: amandam on May 11, 2019, 09:54:42 PM
Still feeling good. I told my wife she can tell anyone she wants, or not tell. I don't care if everybody knows. :)
Title: Re: My kids know and don't care :)
Post by: KarenWinter on May 12, 2019, 08:52:15 AM
It must be great to not have that weighing over you, I'm pleased for you. Still trying to decide what my situation is myself before I tell anyone else, but the worst part is not being able to talk to anyone about it.
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Post by: Alice (nym) on May 12, 2019, 09:34:23 AM
WOW... that makes me so happy to read.   I struggle a lot about being in the closet still.  So it is lovely to hear positive stories like that. So happy for you.

love
Alice
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Post by: Wendi on May 16, 2019, 08:30:34 PM
That's awesome. I know after I let people know I felt much more at ease.