I wanted to keep my initials. I didn't want my new first name to be the same or similar to any friends or co-workers. I researched common female baby names and picked out a few that I liked. I also considered potential nicknames which people could derive from the new name. Once I settled on 'Jessica', I researched baby names. I wanted a short middle name which would balance nicely with my new first name. There weren't that many 'R' names I liked, but 'Rose' caught my eye quickly. 'Rose' also symbolized my soul finally being able to bloom. When I signed up for Susan's Place, I became 'Jessica Rose'. Before making it official, I gave a list of several potential names to my wife and daughters, which included names based on my daughter's middle names. Interestingly, they all agreed on 'Jessica Rose'.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
My best friend Tina named me. Her suggestions were Emily (which I liked) and Devlyn (which I loved!). When I asked her where she came up with it, she said her daughter was going to be Shannon or Devlyn, and Shannon won.
I changed all of my names, first, middle, and last. I wanted a complete break.
Hugs, Devlyn
I asked my mother my initial name and when she said it, I loved it and she told she would be happy if I used it.
Richelle is the feminine form of Richard, used in mostly English, French and German speaking countries. Amalie is a girl's name of German and French origin.
Familial origin and heritage supplied the names. Besides, they are pretty, yes?
My story always leaves support groups laughing, so feel free to do so.
My birth name initials are MR -last name-. Yup, mom put mister in my name, which she admits is a flub of colossal proportions.
I tried out a few first names and kept coming back to Jennifer. I thought seriously about Karen as a middle name. I know 3 Karens who read me the riot act.. and settled on an anagram of my sister's middle name. She has Jean, I have Jane.
Jennifer Jane
I had a name as a little girl that I loved so much I gave it to one of my kids! So then I thought "Let's keep the initials" and found a new first name I loved- but I couldn't find a middle name that matched. So I gave up on keeping my original initials and took my late wife's first name as a middle name!
Hugs!!
Caela
I just feminised my male names, felt right so ended up Davina Martina
I kept my initials as well. That was important to me. I always liked the name Robyn so went with that. My youngest son was given my middle name so felt I had to keep that. Otherwise it would have been changed to Siobhan.
I chose 'Claire' partially because it has the same first letter as my male name. But a lot of it for me was just gut feeling. It just felt right.
My late wife picked Ellen. I was actually looking for a middle name that started with E in order to have the same initials. She came up with Ellen and when I told her l liked it it would be my middle name she said no, make it my first name.
I am very happy with my name and very thankful she picked it.
Ellen
Quote from: EllenW on January 11, 2024, 07:15:42 PMMy late wife picked Ellen. I was actually looking for a middle name that started with E in order to have the same initials. She came up with Ellen and when I told her l liked it it would be my middle name she said no, make it my first name.
I am very happy with my name and very thankful she picked it.
Ellen
What a beautiful, unforgettable memory you will always have.
Love always -- Jess
It will sound strange. For many years, I felt like there was another being inside of me. Her personality was nothing like how I was. Yet over the years, my personality took on more and more of hers. It almost feet like I am becoming more like her. I know now that she was me all along. I have always known her name. That is how I got the name Susannah.
I was going to use the name Julie but my neighbour and friend said that choosing a name based on my first crush wasn't a good idea. I then decided to let her daughter who will likely have no kids name me. She came up with Athena Sophia and I was looking up last names and saw the name Katz and I always joked to my friends that I was going to become a crazy cat lady so I am in the process of changing my name to Athena Sophia Katz.
I was actually looking for a pen name to publish my novels under. I selected Traci from Traci Lords as I was writing in the Erotica genre. M because I thought an initial would be cool, then my first therapist was Melissa and that is a name I had long thought about. Knight, because it sounded like a name an author might have.
Hence, Traci Melissa Knight or as I publish under Traci M Knight
I have always known that my parents went to the hospital with two names, Brian and Sara. When I was AMAB, I got Brian. When I made my transition, I felt like it would be a nice tribute to my mom and dad to let them name me. I'm glad I did. It suits me.
I chose my middle name as a tribute to my big sister. She has always been a great role model to me for what a kind and caring human being should be like. I love her very much, and I'm proud to be Sara Michelle.
As a funny side note, my mom asked me (after I had petitioned the court for my name change) how I spell Sara. When I told her, she let me know that it was supposed to have an "h". Sorry, Mom. I don't like the 'h' -- it's totally unnecessary ;) .
~Sara
Quote from: TXSara on January 13, 2024, 06:21:11 AMI have always known that my parents went to the hospital with two names, Brian and Sara. When I was AMAB, I got Brian. When I made my transition, I felt like it would be a nice tribute to my mom and dad to let them name me. I'm glad I did. It suits me.
I chose my middle name as a tribute to my big sister. She has always been a great role model to me for what a kind and caring human being should be like. I love her very much, and I'm proud to be Sara Michelle.
As a funny side note, my mom asked me (after I had petitioned the court for my name change) how I spell Sara. When I told her, she let me know that it was supposed to have an "h". Sorry, Mom. I don't like the 'h' -- it's totally unnecessary ;) .
~Sara
Fixed that for ya! ;D
Hugs, Devlyn
That's weird... it looks like something went wrong when I posted. I know how to spell LOL. I have no idea how that happened! (maybe the second "p" will get removed when I post!)
My mom had a thing with the name Laurence for a girl, as both my brother and I should have been one if assigned female at birth. For many reasons, I don't really like the name, but would maybe use it as a middle name in due time. There's many name I liked and played with in the past, but I wanted too to keep my initials, so I listed names beginning with a S. I ended by feminizing my male name, thinking that it would be easier for family and friends (if I keep some), to name me correctly first times. (Just adding the final "ie" to the pronunciation of my male name, even with a short delay, to correct a mistake).
Mine was the last name on the list and 4 letters like Cher. Perfect fit!
I just feminized my given name. There are several female derivatives of Paul to chose from, the oblivious Paula and Pauline. I had considered them both. I went with Paulie because of a nickname my parents used when I was a young kid. I was thin and wiry, and could sit on the ground with my legs tucked under me and kind of out to the sides, so I got the name pollyfrog.
I thought of using Polly but went with Paulie instead. When I picked the name, it was just for Susan's since at the time I had not planned transitioning, so I hadn't given any thought to a middle name. Guess I could adapt the female version of my Italian middle name, if I ever get to the point where I think I need one.
I really like the name Pauline and kind of wish I went with it. Overall, I think Paulie is a better choice in that it's more gender-neutral. I don't think I'll ever pass and having a gender-neutral name may work better, should I ever decide to use the name outside of Susan's.
Warm Regards,
Paulie
Quote from: Paulie on January 15, 2024, 11:15:26 PMI really like the name Pauline and kind of wish I went with it. Overall, I think Paulie is a better choice in that it's more gender-neutral. I don't think I'll ever pass and having a gender-neutral name may work better, should I ever decide to use the name outside of Susan's.
Your reasoning is valid. I too used a femme version of my given name. I do use my name with my health care folks though. Meaning "Richelle."
I picked my first during my first go at transitioning. I decided second go around it was the right name. I don't recall how I came to the decision. I suspect it has to do with it being a variant of Mary. My middle name was also in a form, biblically inspired, and I love the fact that it is a palindrome. Hugs
Mariah
Well, some of us have a name that has been traditionally given to a male or a female. Sometimes we have names that have variants that would primarily be given to a girl, or we have names that would be primarily given to a boy. But the short version of the name is often used for both females and males. Then there are names that are more often given to males but are sometimes used by females, and vice versa.
But, this does mean we want to keep that given name.
I had wanted to keep my first initial 'G' and just spent several months searching through names till I found one I liked. I had also been fond of Gina Davis, so this seamed a nice choice.
Gina
I always liked Jessica as a name so it was obvious that I would choose it. I also wanted a name that was not associated with my deadname. My original initials was REK and I hated that. I did not add a second name so I became JK, better. Then when I got married I added my wife's name so I became JK-H or as I put it just JKH much better.
Hugs
Xxx
I wanted to keep my initials. I also wanted something similar to my given name. And it had to be something that was plausible as a name for someone of my age.
There isn't a feminine version of my old first name. (Well, technically there is, I found out, but it's hideous.) Kathy is as similar as I could get without using the hideous one. I had to choose between it being short for Katherine or Kathleen. I went with Kathleen as the Irish version because I am Irish. It was also my mother-in-law's middle name, so I picked up some serious brownie points there.
My middle name, Lauren, is a recognized feminine version of my old middle name.
I wanted change, so first and middle are both new and not original initials.
As for how I 'got named', well, it was here. I asked for suggestions that people thought fit my posting personality. Faith got suggested here (you know who you are, and so do I) and it gave me a warm flush fuzzy feeling. Then I went though middle names looking for a fit.
The second part is, when I told my wife what I wanted for my new name she just stopped and looked at me and said, "[her sister] and I and discussed that name for [insert our middle daughter's name here]".
We opted for a different name for our middle daughter, based on my input, and I ended up with one that had a special meaning for my wife. I don't remember ever hearing it as a possibility but maybe I did and was subconsciously drawn to it. It's worked out very well and still suits me. I would never consider a different name.
I picked my name, Sasha, when I was 11 years old (long before I came out), right when I started middle school, because it was my favorite name of a person I went to school with at the time. I went to an extremely religious middle and high school, but after I came out, she was quite supportive of me and I wound up thanking her for inspiring me with her own (birth) name. She was thrilled and it was quite endearing!
My middle name, Christina, is the female form of my dead name to pay homage to my deceased father and my living mother who (for whatever reason) *really* wanted that name for me. So now, Sasha Christina it is and it's been that way for ages!
For the record, I really love reading everyone's stories on here and glad I could contribute mine. :)
I can only generally describe how I came about my names as I'm a very private person.
I was at the swimming pool where I trained and of course the thought of what would I call myself if I was a female. I changed all my names, the first name came about because I wanted a name where one could not turn it into a nick name.
Well that idea fell flat on its face, as my eldest brother fixed that of course, it is gender neutral, it suits my overall appearance, there are several famous people with it as well and it was a name of a dear friend who was also a swimmer before I changed my life around.
It was pretty popular in the year I was born around about 33 on the most popular baby names at the time, so all in all I believe I picked a damn good name for me.
Yes I did consider Sarah to be my first name and one of the reasons why it was considered seriously was because my mum said to me one time that if she had a daughter then she would have called her Sarah.
When I considered it, I thought it did not suit my profile and it did not rhyme well if I used it as a middle name. Still to this day I believe I should have used it a one of my names. I'm not going to change my names now in anyway, because if I did it would cause me headaches all around.
The second name is based of a Greek mythology and it rhymes with my first name. I have a third name, it also is of Greek origin, so all in all I have 3 female names and they appear on my formal documents with either 2 or 3 depending on the type of document.
Since I left my family and friends to live my life. I did not want them be able to find me so I had to drop my previous surname as it was rare and I adopted a very common surname.
Now that I know that my family accepts me unconditionally, the question arises do I go back to my former surname, the answer is basically no because I have too many document that would need to be changed.
Well I think that about does it on how I changed my names. Changing ones name is a personal endevour. Depending on ones journey, it's important that one that you change your name and you change all your documents accordingly as soon as possible. It will cause you the least amount of grief.
Kind regards to one and all
Sarah B
Quote from: Devlyn on January 13, 2024, 09:55:07 AMFixed that for ya! ;D
Hugs, Devlyn
Oh you cracked me good and proper :laugh:
Best wishes
Sara
h B
I experimented with several names. Kay seemed to resonate with me. It is a simple name and I am not flashy. I just want to be the lady who lives next door and wears jeans, a sweatshirt and running shoes.
Hi, Kay! :-* :-*
Quote from: Kay226 on January 23, 2024, 04:01:37 PMI experimented with several names. Kay seemed to resonate with me. It is a simple name and I am not flashy. I just want to be the lady who lives next door and wears jeans, a sweatshirt and running shoes.
My wife's name is Kay, chosen by her parents because it cannot be shorted. Well that did stop her friends elongated it instead. And I have shortened it to K
Hugs
Jessica xxx
Quote from: Jessica_K on January 24, 2024, 12:22:06 AMMy wife's name is Kay, chosen by her parents because it cannot be shorted. Well that did stop her friends elongated it instead. And I have shortened it to K
Hugs
Jessica xxx
Yeah I can sympathize with that. Friends and family certainly elongated my name. thereby giving me nicknames which I tried to avoid when deciding on name.
Kind regards to one and all
Sarah B
I liked the name Rachel Lynn. If I went with ethnic it would have been Rakel Lyn.
I knew from the beginning that I was going to borrow my grandmother's maiden name. My middle name from my great-mother.
Laura
Hi Kay
Quote from: Kay226 on January 23, 2024, 04:01:37 PMI experimented with several names. Kay seemed to resonate with me. It is a simple name and I am not flashy. I just want to be the lady who lives next door and wears jeans, a sweatshirt and running shoes.
Yes, what you wrote resonates with me deeply a simple name that suits oneself and who lives next door.
Best wishes and hugs
Sarah B
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 03, 2024, 07:56:17 AMI wanted to keep my initials.
Similar here with initials. My given name is James and I've never disliked it really other than that it's a male name. When I was a kid I used to secretly practice my signature as Jamie. I'd crumple up or tear up the paper into tiny pieces and flush them lol. Jamie just always felt like my real name, even if only in secret.
I chose "Madison" as my middle name for a few reasons. Again same initial as my given middle name, but I've been in love with the name Madison and "Maddy" ever since reading Ethan Frome in high school (even though she was Mattie, not "Maddy" Silver, I found Mattie and Maddy to be really cute girl name)....plus I love early American history and James Madison's writings.
Quote from: LauraE on January 27, 2024, 06:22:08 PMI knew from the beginning that I was going to borrow my grandmother's maiden name. My middle name from my great-mother.
Laura
I love that! I'm stuck on my family history. So, I gave my youngest son the maiden names of both my paternal great grandmothers. I hope he forgives me! Renz and Matheiu My names are femme conversions .
Hi D'Amalie
Quote from: D'Amalie on January 29, 2024, 02:58:04 PMI love that! I'm stuck on my family history. So, I gave my youngest son the maiden names of both my paternal great grandmothers. I hope he forgives me! Renz and Matheiu My names are femme conversions.
Naming your son in this way, not only honors your great grandmothers, but shows your respect as well. Kudos to you D'Amalie.
Two of my names I could of feminized, but not possible at the time as information was scarce on how to do this. In fact I never new about feminization of names was possible and one name was not possible.
Best wishes and hugs
Sarah B
I'm saddened at the moment, realizing I'll never hear my name falling sweetly from my mother's lips. She loved me and I adored her. She's been gone 22 years now and still pains me with loss.
My first name, Melody, is from an old film called "Melody", Britons might know it as "SWALK".
As a boy, she was a girl I wanted to be.
Last name is my dead first name. This way, should anyone call me by my dead name, it would not be so strange for me to reply.
Middle:. Alexandra, which is the name of a friend of mine who we call Xie.
According to my parents they called me my dead name because it was my Dads middle name.
I had always called myself Jane when I cross dressed when I was younger, As this had the same initial as my dead name and I liked the simplicity.
My wife knew that my cross dressed persona was Jane.
My Mum's middle name is Mary, I wanted to keep both.
So technically I should have chosen Mary-Jane, but I didn't think that would have been such a good idea
(Even though I love that name and wish it is what I was actually called)
So I went with Jane Mary.
However the annoying thing is that my wife's middle name is Jane. Which is a bit weird. But I was Jane before I met her and I feel like it is common enough
In my psychology reading at uni some 40 years back along the track of my timeline I learned, "The most grounding, the happiest, sound in life to any person is the sound of their own name."
Now, I'd like for that to be true, although many situations come to mind where that likely isn't so. Yet I want it to be true, because from the right person and in the right situations it puts me over the moon!
Richelle
Quote from: D'Amalie on January 29, 2024, 03:46:52 PMI'm saddened at the moment, realizing I'll never hear my name falling sweetly from my mother's lips. She loved me and I adored her. She's been gone 22 years now and still pains me with loss.
My mother I had spoken of BC'24 and I should do so again at some point, I only knew for the first 22 years of my life when she passed away near 50 years ago and you never forget she lives on inside me. Her name was Iris Katherine, Katherine was my grandmothers name so should I ever decide to add a middle name, my name is long enough as it is, it would be Katherine giving initials JKK-H
Hugs
JKK-H xxx
Mine comes from a strong female character I attached to whilst growing up. I wish it was something deeper than that but not really. Something about the name resonated with me so many years ago and for some untangible reason still does to this day. Found my name before I knew it I suppose :D
Ahh, the name question......
I tried several names before settling on my name, Kelly. I know my username here isn't that, but I'll get to that in a moment.
Names I went through.........
Brook
Bobbie
Nadine Spirit
I really thought that Nadine was going to be my legal name and I used it all over online and I loved it. However once things in my life started getting real and I began getting out as myself Nadine never really worked for me. People would ask me my name and I would tell them Nadine, and they could just never get it right. It was weird and I wasn't sure what was going on. Maybe people just weren't used to that name or something? One day I tried a different name, Kelly, and everybody I said it to picked up on it right away. It was kind of like nobody could see me as a Nadine, but as Kelly, they totally went with it. Maybe I just never really owned the name Nadine.
Hmmm..... anywho.... now, at places like this site, I tend to stick with Nadine for the memories, though I do try and tell people my IRL name is Kelly.
I like my name but sometimes I wonder if it should be something else.
Has anyone else (MTFs) wanted to change their female name at some point during transitioning?
I mean, if you have a birth name that could be interpreted as male or female in some form (shortened, lengthened, nicknamed) perhaps you have thought you might want a name that no one would ever think is for the other gender.
Chrissy
I tried to keep as close to my boy name as I could, down to attempting to feminize my given middle name. Mostly I wanted to not change it too much as a peace offering to my parents, who had already expressed disapproval of my "cross-dressing." It didn't really work, as they found out I was using it before I got a chance to come out to them directly and they reacted negatively. Honestly, my first choice of name if I had been starting completely from scratch was Amy. I felt like it resonated with me as a plain, down to earth Midwestern gal, with bonus points for the Amy Winheouse connection. I went through a lot to be Gabrielle though, and I'm happy with my choice.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 12, 2024, 05:30:46 PMHas anyone else (MTFs) wanted to change their female name at some point during transitioning?
I've pondered changing my name. Someone asked me once if I picked Kelly because it could be both a boy's and girl's name and I almost barfed. Since then I've considered what name would call myself if I had to pick from a list that nobody would ever conceive as belonging to the male category. I haven't come up with anything and besides, I like my name!
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 12, 2024, 05:30:46 PMI like my name but sometimes I wonder if it should be something else.
Has anyone else (MTFs) wanted to change their female name at some point during transitioning?
I mean, if you have a birth name that could be interpreted as male or female in some form (shortened, lengthened, nicknamed) perhaps you have thought you might want a name that no one would ever think is for the other gender.
Chrissy
There are some advantages of having a name that could be for a female or male.
It lessens some difficulties until a legal name and birth marker changes are done.
Hi Everyone
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 12, 2024, 05:30:46 PMI like my name but sometimes I wonder if it should be something else.
Has anyone else (MTFs) wanted to change their female name at some point during transitioning?
I mean, if you have a birth name that could be interpreted as male or female in some form (shortened, lengthened, nicknamed) perhaps you have thought you might want a name that no one would ever think is for the other gender.
Chrissy
All things considered, I have had my legal names for 35 years and to be honest I'm happy with them. If and only if I was ever to change my name I would drop the third christian name as I never use it.
Would I reconsider using Sarah, to honor my mum's choice? no I think it was too common and I still don't think it suits me personally, still to this day.
I suppose it would be nice to go through a list now and see what one would like. What with all the possible variations that can be created now, one would be in "name heaven". However, as I have already said, changing my name would be horrendous in changing all my documents to a different name.
I hope you love and enjoy your name like I do.
Sarah B
My mother told me that had I been born a girl, my name would have been Beverly Ann. Instead, as the oldest "son" tradition called for me to be named after my grandfather. He never went by "Lawrence", always "Larry". I never liked the name and, in my mind, they were just mispronouncing my real name "Lori". In my mind, Lori is short for Lawrence, like Harry is short for Harold. My name isn't Lawry. That is not how it is pronounced.
I got into online gaming and just started using the name Lori Dee. In 2022, I went to court and legally changed my name to Lori Dee (last name). People still think "Dee" is my last name. ;D
I thought about just using my would-be AFAB name but that was also my ex-wife's name. That idea came to a screeching halt ;D
--Claire
I must admit when I chose Jessica I never thought that it could be a male name when reduced to Jess as in Jessie, as it is not common in the UK. I will never change my name as it is my legal name, well as legal as the UK has as there is no legality to names or titles (except honorary or heredity) you just write a document (deed poll) get two people to sign it (anyone random) and you can change most of your ID and accounts. Only exception is passport that requires a doctor's letter and the very odious GRC that allows birth certificate change.
Hugs
Xxx
Shawna is simply the female variation of my name given at birth. I've always loved it, especially when I found out that my mother was really hoping for a daughter when I was conceived, and that Shawna was to be my name. I wish now that i's been brave enough to tell her before she passed that she had her daughter Shawna all along! :icon_sadblinky:
I really liked Claire. I thought that would be the name I would use. However, I know some other Claire's now, and there are too many people in my family with the initial C, so it just wasn't going to be practical.
Sophie occurred to me as like a 4th choice. Then I started looking at the meaning of names. My deadname has some pious religious reason. Not me. Sophie means wisdom, A quality I respect and would rather be remembered for. It's also feminine, and was popular around the time I was born. *
So it jumped the queue, and I'm Sophie now. It's come to feel natural because of it not being something I really dreamed of, it's just a name, but it fits. No middle name yet because I want my parents to chose it, but I haven't come out to them yet.
*I wanted an age appropriate name, girl's names come and go like fashion. Where are the newborn Rebeccas? 30 years ago it was the #1 name! (My ex's name, so was off limits for me, but it makes a point). Sophia is a lot more popular now, Sophie is a bit more dated, and I like that.
Quote from: D'Amalie on February 06, 2024, 08:29:39 AMIn my psychology reading at uni some 40 years back along the track of my timeline I learned, "The most grounding, the happiest, sound in life to any person is the sound of their own name."
Now, I'd like for that to be true, although many situations come to mind where that likely isn't so. Yet I want it to be true, because from the right person and in the right situations it puts me over the moon!
Richelle
I have always hated the sound of my name, because I have always hated my name. One pleasure of online spaces has been the ability to go by a comfortable name of my own choosing. Finding a new name has been a real challenge. It didn't help that for decades, I was barking up the wrong tree, meaning considering names of the wrong gender. At least that much I understand now. I prefer to keep my initials for professional reasons, which limits choices. I have not come out yet outside of with close family and friends, which means I haven't really needed a new name yet, but I would like to start the legal name change process over the summer, so time is getting short. Usually when I need a name for something, if I wait patiently, just the right name will come along. Now that it is time to name myself, well, I'm still waiting, and getting a bit impatient.
I chose Kaitlyn because it's pretty. I first spotted the name looking through my high school year book, and my name was between three others, Matilda, Kimberly, and Erica. However, Kaitlyn won out, and I specifically chose the American spelling because I have a thing for Ks and Ys. LOL.
"The sound of your own name"
It took a short while to get used to my name when I started to use. But now and not surprising if someone shouts my deadname (not meant to me) I don't flinch or lookup as I did in the early days.
I do like the sound of my name and hate the sound of my dead name.
Jessica
Xxx
In my opinion, you choose based on you feel, it's personal and only you can decide. You could always use a name generator. Maybe pick what you feel that fits your identity.
I was dennis donald and morphed into Denise Donna DD for short
I don't know why I just always loved the name Norah. It feels so like... flowy and feminine to me. I love how it roles off the tongue.
It's not even close to my previous name.
I'm still unsure as to what my name will be. Apart of me wants to go easy and try for a feminine version of Robert. But I don't care for Roberta. Then I thought maybe Robin or Robyn since I have a good friend named Robin and funny enough her last name is freebird. Lol. So maybe I'll stick with names that have the same initials.
But apart of me wants something completely different and new. If I had to choose right now it would be Robbie or Robyn.
An old school friend, Is a Katie. At the time she was a close friend anything said in confidence remained so, I vividly remember her saying 'it's not a problem you not being like the other boys' maybe she saw something
I chose my name from a woman I know who has the same name. She's a very feminine, and attractive woman. Her name just seemed to fit me.
Chrissy and Christine are derivatives of Chris. I am unsure if I complete transition if I will legally change my name in any way. Maybe. One day at a time.
Chrissy
Hi All,
I added an a to end of old name
I changed middle name to another beginning with S so could keep my UK private car reg plate
Think mum would have called me Elizabeth but don't like it or names that can be shortened
Carla
I had come out to my mom about a month after my wife found out about me being trans (not the way I wanted to come out to my wife btw). So I feared that my mom would find out in a similar manner rather than me telling her. So I decided to come out to her and it went well. I wish I had a better reason to have come out to her other than this is how my wife found out and I didn't want you to hear it from anyone else before I got a chance to tell you myself. Lol
Anyways there has been a few questions I've been wanting to ask my mom since I have accepted I'm different and ready to explore this feminine side of myself that I've been trying to ignore and repress for so long.
One of these questions was if they had any names picked out for me if I was born a girl. Unfortunately she said no, that she knew she was having a boy and that they had only thought of boy names.
So the boy names were Robert, Mark or Micheal.
Robert won, and I go by Robby. But I never liked my name. I and always like Alex, or Mark. Never knew that I could have been names Mark and Mike.
I was hoping for more of a sign or resonance with one of the names and it's female version.
As of right now I still do not have my name yet. I am still Robby. I thought of maybe Robin, and know that I know about Michael, maybe Michelle. But again none of them really resonates with me, like yes that's it.
Next question I'll be working up to ask my mom is what her cup size was since I am 1 of 2 children and .y other sibling was another boy. So my closest female family member is my mother. I wanted to see as to what my potential is for breast growth since they say typically it's 1 to 1.5 cup sizes smaller than your closest female family member. I just don't feel it's all that appropriate for me to ask her that, and I know that's just a rule of thumb most use for hormones and breast growth, and that it probably is not all that accurate and to be taken with a grain of salt.
I have heard the same thing about cup size and there is something that people forget. Your DNA was passed down through many generations.
My mother, her sisters, and her mother all are very large-breasted. My father's sisters and his mother are all large-breasted. So I am thinking, "YES!" But no.
My great-great-grandfather was short and stocky. My great-grandfather was tall and thin. My father is tall and thin, as am I and my siblings. My cousins are all short and stocky, and the females are 50/50 between tall and thin or short and large-breasted. My son was short and stocky (taking after his mother and her family -- also large-breasted). My daughter takes after me and is tall and thin.
So I am keeping my fingers crossed hoping I still have some growth left to do. But my other genetic indicators seem to imply that I will never be naturally that big.
Growing up in the UK in 70's and 80's, Mandy was a very popular girls name and there were several Mandys in my various school classes. Fast forward to the 90's and I working with one of these women whose parents had chosen this name for them. She had her name changed legally to 'Amanda' thinking Mandy sounded 'unprofessional'. I still love the name though and it fits perfectly for me.
Hello MandyMy name is
Sarah B and I would like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!
I see your name in your profile and you mention in your first post. Very informative, I know that Mandy is derived from Amanda and the name Amanda derives from the Latin Amandus, meaning "she who must be loved, lovable, lovable and worthy of love."
Your friend is right, in thinking that "Mandy sounded unprofessional." In the "blue eye brown eye experiment conducted my Jane Elliot" She once said paraphrasing that; "when someone changes your name say Susan to Suzy." They are putting you down, you are not professional or you are not an equal.
I'm the same I have my legal name and when working that is the name that is used. However, when I'm with friends a 'y' is used.
Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the
Introductions Forum (https://www.susans.org/index.php/board,8.0.html), of course. I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members
In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these as well.
Please review the links at the end of this message,
especially the red links, they include information which will help you navigate the site and use the available features. When you reach 15 posts, you will be able to send and reply to private messages and you will also be able to add an avatar to your profile, until then if you have any questions about the Susan's Place site and the Forums, please feel free to contact, the Forum Admin Danielle Northern Star Girl
alaskandanielle@yahoo.comTake care and all the best for the future.
Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!Sarah BOffical Greeter@LoriDee @Northern Star Girl@Mandy Spencer
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Thankyou so much for your lovely greeting, Sarah. the care and attention on these forums is amazing.
I have already had support from Danielle - I had trouble verifying my account- much appreciated.
I have just posted my introduction. It is the first time I have ever communicated that I am a Transgender woman to anyone - so it is a weight off my shoulders.
Best wishes,
Mandy
Welcome to Susan's, Mandy!
I look forward to seeing you around in the various discussions.