Hey ladies, my name is Olivia. I'm 25 and am still in the closet (hoping that will change). I'm still trying to make sense of who i am, but what i do know is that i am a woman. My gender doesn't change who i am. I'm split down the middle between a nerd and a jock, love computers, and i love sports. Trying to work up the courage to tell my fiancee that she will be marrying a woman not a man. I have told her before but she believes that it is a phase, and that i am a man. What she doesn't know is that while i am romantically attracted to women, my sexual attraction lies with men. This is a little messy.
I like to keep things short and sweet, so there is my little introduction.
Stay fabulous,
Olivia
Hi!
Welcome Olivia!
Chrissy
Quote from: Spallown on May 27, 2024, 11:04:19 PMHey ladies, my name is Olivia. I'm 25 and am still in the closet (hoping that will change). I'm still trying to make sense of who i am, but what i do know is that i am a woman. My gender doesn't change who i am. I'm split down the middle between a nerd and a jock, love computers, and i love sports. Trying to work up the courage to tell my fiancee that she will be marrying a woman not a man. I have told her before but she believes that it is a phase, and that i am a man. What she doesn't know is that while i am romantically attracted to women, my sexual attraction lies with men. This is a little messy.
I like to keep things short and sweet, so there is my little introduction.
Stay fabulous,
Olivia
@Spallown
Dear Olivia:I have noticed that you have just registered today as a new member and
this is your very first posting.
I give you a very WARM WELCOME to the site.
First thing that you should know is that on the Forum we don't just have "ladies" here...
we have the full range of MTF and FTM members along with all the gender identities under
the LGBTQIA+ umbrella.
Here on the Forum we have members coming from all backgrounds and with a variety of experiences.Please review the LINKS at the end of this message, they include information which will help you to navigate
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additional like-minded members coming along to greet you and to help answer
any questions that you may have.
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@LoriDee
Hello Olivia My name is
Sarah B and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!
That's a nice introduction that you have made and I'm smiling from ear to ear, just reading what you have written about yourself and a very nice posting as well.
Quote from: Spallown on May 27, 2024, 11:04:19 PMHey ladies, my name is Olivia. I'm 25 and am still in the closet (hoping that will change).
That is a very famous name you have and of course a strong one as well. The most famous Olivia's that come to my mind are Olivia Newton-John, Olivia de Havilland and Olivia Wilde.
You have mentioned that you are still in the closet and I have just recently written a post in regards to that particular issue. If you click on the following link:
Staying in the Closet (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,241604.msg2270561.html#msg2270561) you can get to read what I wrote if you want to and the other members here on Susan's who also made a posting.
If and when you decide to reveal yourself, make sure you have a backup plan just in case something goes wrong. One recent member is in a similar situation and not everything is alright.
Quote from: Spallown on May 27, 2024, 11:04:19 PMI'm still trying to make sense of who i am, but what i do know is that i am a woman. My gender doesn't change who i am. I'm split down the middle between a nerd and a jock, love computers, and i love sports.
I have always known who I am, I have always been me and the only thing, that Susan's taught me was that I was a female and have always been a female and that was when I was about 51 years old. You are right my gender never changed who I was. I always longed or wanted to be a female and when I was 30 years old I changed my life around and had surgery when I was 32 years old.
You are not the only one who loves computers, sports (I love swimming) and is a nerd (mathematics teacher). Not so much a jock, I sensing that jock is in reference to American jock's? What you do, love and like is up to you and it makes you who you are. However, it does not affect your gender.
Quote from: Spallown on May 27, 2024, 11:04:19 PMTrying to work up the courage to tell my fiancee that she will be marrying a woman not a man. I have told her before but she believes that it is a phase, and that i am a man. What she doesn't know is that while i am romantically attracted to women, my sexual attraction lies with men. This is a little messy.
I like to keep things short and sweet, so there is my little introduction.
Stay fabulous,
Olivia
I will leave "telling your fiancee", up to other members who have been in similar situations and those experiences have ranged from total rejection to total acceptance. One cannot treat this issue lightly.
I also like women or females before and I was not romantically involved with them and I was not involved or attracted to men, however, I did enjoy the company of a couple of men. When I had surgery, well that was a different story.
Please remember that members from Susan's Place come from all over the world and we do not have just 'ladies', we have the full spectrum of gender diverse people as well.
Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the various forums and threads. I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members.
In addition members of Susan's will more than likely come along and discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these as well.
Take care and all the best.
Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!Sarah BOffical Greeter@LoriDee @Northern Star Girl@Spallown
Hello, Olivia!
Welcome to Susan's Place. Thank you for your wonderful introduction.
As others have pointed out, your hobbies and interests have no bearing on gender -- so enjoy them!
It is not uncommon to have one set of romantic interests different from sexual preference. And neither of these has anything to do with gender. Gender identity, sexual preferences, and even romantic preferences run a wide spectrum. They are not "binary" as many believe.
I am curious if you have a therapist with experience in these matters. If not, I would look into it. They can help answer questions that you or your fiancee might have. They can guide you through the obstacles of transitioning if that is the path you choose. They can even help your fiancee understand what you are going through. Perhaps if she understood what it means for you, and her, and the two of you together, she can better decide how she wants to be involved. A therapist can help you sort those out.
If you are so inclined, check out the Member Blogs. You may find many people's stories that are similar to yours. If not, perhaps you could start your own blog where we can check in for updates to see how things are going in your world. Share only what you are comfortable with. This is a public and all-ages forum.
Again, welcome to Susan's Place.
Hi Olivia and welcome.
;)