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Community Conversation => Significant Others talk => Topic started by: Eileen on May 17, 2025, 12:03:36 PM

Title: Cd sweetie
Post by: Eileen on May 17, 2025, 12:03:36 PM
 Many of the subjects on this forum are for those transitioning. My relationship is less life changing than most, a husband that cross dresses. I've come to accept and love the woman that was hidden from both of us. She has become more confidant and convincing appearing in public. Which of course, is less stressful for both of us. Shopping with a girlfriend has become more fun than dragging a husband around. I'm still getting used to this.

 Now that Spring is upon us, fashions dictate more revealing garments. Sweetie prefers longer sleeve lengths, but has the legs for shorts or skirts. This Summer will be pushing her comfort level in public than ever before. I'll gladly be a part of her experiences.

 Just wanted to reach out to other SO's who are in a non-trans relationship.

 Hugs, Eileen

 
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Lori Dee on May 17, 2025, 01:59:55 PM
Thanks, Eileen!

It is always good to hear from our SOs, even those of us without one can learn something from your experiences. Then, maybe someday, if I have someone in my life like that, I will have an understanding of what they might be thinking and what their concerns might be.
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Northern Star Girl on May 17, 2025, 02:02:26 PM
@Eileen
Dear Eileen:
Thank you for sharing and posting your personal relationship with your Cd Sweetie.

In addition to the "Significant Others talk" subforum board where you have posted
your comment, we also have a "Crossdresser talk" subforum board
              Link-->       https://www.susans.org/index.php/board,23.0.html
that may be of interest to you and your Cd sweetie.

I will be eagerly looking for and reading your continuing story.
HUGS, Danielle
[Northern Star Girl]
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Adrian26 on May 18, 2025, 08:47:20 AM
You're an amazing partner for being as understanding as you are. If she's into long sleeve tops then maybe a sundress that's a bit longer and a shawl or cardigan would be a good outfit for this summer heat
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Eileen on May 18, 2025, 10:06:05 AM
 Thanks for the heartfelt support! I'm still getting used to writing out proper pronouns, when dressed she's a she.
Except for fantasy 'What If's', there's no talk of transitioning, so no threat to our relationship. He's quite happy as a guy, but needs to get full on girl now and then. Maybe being CD is more confusing than most others?

 She has her own forum, local gals and much smaller. No other SO's for me to talk with, but have met and enjoy outings with many of the other gals.

 Full arm shaving is out of the question, hair is not dense, but absence would provoke unneeded attention. She has a few cute cardigans, a few more lightweight ones we could both use.

 I will post about our next time out together.

 Hugs, Eileen
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Adrian26 on May 18, 2025, 10:27:10 AM
Quote from: Eileen on May 18, 2025, 10:06:05 AMThanks for the heartfelt support! I'm still getting used to writing out proper pronouns, when dressed she's a she.
Except for fantasy 'What If's', there's no talk of transitioning, so no threat to our relationship. He's quite happy as a guy, but needs to get full on girl now and then. Maybe being CD is more confusing than most others?

 She has her own forum, local gals and much smaller. No other SO's for me to talk with, but have met and enjoy outings with many of the other gals.

 Full arm shaving is out of the question, hair is not dense, but absence would provoke unneeded attention. She has a few cute cardigans, a few more lightweight ones we could both use.

 I will post about our next time out together.

 Hugs, Eileen
Its always odd calling them something else other than what you're used to in the beginning, but even using the proper pronouns in a place she doesn't see is a giant leap in the right direction. CD is a lot more confusing and complex than just being trans and you have to keep a balance of both male and female lives. I hope everything goes well.
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Eileen on May 27, 2025, 07:52:27 PM
 I'm getting used to the woman in our lives, as long as the dressing is occasional. At group meetings, including other questioning or supportive partners, it's easy to refer to others as the female pronouns as that's the only presentation I've seen them.
 Despite the make up, I can see my husbands face. Thankfully, she does a pretty good job and my anxieties are much relieved.
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Adrian26 on May 28, 2025, 08:12:55 AM
Quote from: Eileen on May 27, 2025, 07:52:27 PMI'm getting used to the woman in our lives, as long as the dressing is occasional. At group meetings, including other questioning or supportive partners, it's easy to refer to others as the female pronouns as that's the only presentation I've seen them.
 Despite the make up, I can see my husbands face. Thankfully, she does a pretty good job and my anxieties are much relieved.
It's going to be weird learning about a new person that you already thought you knew everything about. From personal experience, getting to know the "other half" of the person you thought you knew completely is going to take some time to adjust to, but you're doing awesome and I know y'all will become closer from the experience.
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Eileen on June 08, 2025, 06:18:57 PM
 Thank you, Adrian! We have grown closer. Many men are uncomfortable expressing their emotional needs. The macho persona. As a woman, my Sweetie is better able to open up emotionally. Now, whether dressed or not, we have more intimate conversations. I do admit, it's fun to gossip with a glass of wine and my 'girlfriend'!
Title: Re: Cd sweetie
Post by: Adrian26 on June 09, 2025, 08:02:01 AM
Quote from: Eileen on June 08, 2025, 06:18:57 PMThank you, Adrian! We have grown closer. Many men are uncomfortable expressing their emotional needs. The macho persona. As a woman, my Sweetie is better able to open up emotionally. Now, whether dressed or not, we have more intimate conversations. I do admit, it's fun to gossip with a glass of wine and my 'girlfriend'!
Sounds like you've found the up side to this, which is amazing!!