Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hello and Welcome!

Being a crossdresser is not an easy thing, as we all know. But this forum is here to help. I know when I was a young pup I truely wished I could find a mentor (a older crossdresser like me) to help me find my way. Sadly I never did and spent most my youth alone with my transgender.

Things are different now because of places like this forum.  So lets discuss our particular issues and  learn from each other!

Love
DebTV

hellow

Hi Deb. Gotta say your pic looks great. Am working on looking that good

Hi! I'm a new member.
I agree with Deb, I've very much the same history.
It would be so much better to be able to have an older, more experienced CD
I could even use one as I am the only CD out here and experienced advice would be great!

Hello Alyson(CD), Phoenix, magengirl

Well, I'm 48 and I have been out as hetero tv since 1996. I do have a strong desire to help my young cd sisters....to help them understand themselves better and to not to make my errors.

What do y-all want to talk about? Start a new post vin here and we will discuse it!

Love
DebTV

first things  first:i want to say hi to all :) i am new to this forum,but i think i am going to enjoy being here.so again HI FROM SOUTH TEXAS. now i have been around for 62 yrs.(young) and in this part of the country it is still hard to go out as a woman (and i can pass)any time i can help i will be gald to......michellejean(mrs.highheels)

Deb, you've always been a big sister to all of us and we appreciate it!!

Anne

Hi

I'll agree 100% with the previous posts. I felt very alone during my childhood, and it wasn't until four years ago, when I publically came out that things were better. That's one of the reasons that I feel that this support group is so GREAT!!! I've talked with a few local therapists, my family doctor, and endo and my psychiatrist, and believe me, I was surprised when they all told me that they don't have much knowledge about transsexualism. I was very depressed and lonely, but I knew that I have understanding sisters here that understand the termoil that I'm going through.

Thanx to all

Love Gina

I have the heart and soul of a woman
And I am proud to be a T-girl.

hi- i have  basically  the same history  as magengirl-  i wish i  could find someone  to  help
me  with  crossdressing. tonigirl7777 :( :( :( 

Hi Girls,

Only found this site recently but already feel less alone. Thanks for your welcome Deb.


XXX Shelley

Hi Girls:

I'm new here but I think this will be the forum I will be most interested in, as I am a CD. After I've looked around the site for awhile, I'll come back here and introduce myself to you all.

Thanks for being there!
Amy

Hi, I am Bombi. I have been a CD most of my life. I am hetero and married. My style of dressing is androgenese. I wear only womens lingerie. I wear a bra and panties daily. I have pierced ears and wear earrings all the time. When I want to dress completely I will wear a camasole and a denim skirt.
I work in the construction field and some of my co workers have noticed a bra strap showing or get a look at my panties when I'm bending over. Some don't care and some avoid me.
  Being a CD has made my life more difficult and complecated but also has been liberating.I totally enjoy expressing my feminity and slurring my gender.
Probably the most distressing issue for myself as a CD/TV is the lack of understanding by people who can't break out of their paradigm and be more tolerant and respectful of other people who don't follow the norm. I accept who I am.

Hello Bombi,

QuoteProbably the most distressing issue for myself as a CD/TV is the lack of understanding by people who can't break out of their paradigm and be more tolerant and respectful of other people who don't follow the norm. I accept who I am.

I'm afraid that you are dealing with human nature, and that is not easily changed, if not impossible.  For the most part there is a tendency to fear what is not understood so up go the defenses to protect themselves from the unknown, and these defences can rang from insults, isolation, omission, segregation, the list goes on.  There are a lot of other reasons why this happens.  I think the best approach is to educate when you can, don't lower yourself to their level, and try not to attract attention unless that is your intention.

Chat later

Steph

Hi Bombi,

As a CD for nearly fourty years I can relate to the non-accetance thing. Here I can assure you is quite different. At Susans your just another of the girls which makes me feel a lot happier about the person that I am.

Shelley

Thankyou Steph and Shelly for the positive comments. Steph, You are right about not drawing attention. thankyou, Bombi

Hi all,

thanks deb for offering advice and support. it's great to know some friendly people who are willing to help without judging. it's a lot easier for me to feel secure about myself when i visit this site and read the posts.

so, here's a question for the more experienced dressers. i'm learning a lot about makeup and style from some of the other posts, but i was hoping to find out how to remove eye makeup in a hurry without ripping my face off. this has nearly led to an early "outing" for me when my SO came home and said, "have you been crying? it looks like you've got makeup around your eyes."

any suggestions?????

flower

Hi Flower,

Firstly avoid eyeliner if you are likely to have to remove it quickly and a little moisturiser on a soft makeup pad works for me.

Shelley

Ponds the makers of cold cream have these makeup removal pads. Might try keeping a couple of those close at hand. Couple of quick swipes and, What makeup?

Cassie

To remove makeup I use a facial wash.  This generally does a good job of removing everything, including eye makeup.  There are many products available, just browse the skin care section of the makeup aisles in a drug store or discount store.  I personally like the "Daily Facial" product put out by several makers (I think Oil of Olay is one).  This comes in the form of disposable cloths (sold in boxes of 15-20).  Just dampen the cloth and use it to wash your face--voila, no makeup!  This is particularly good for eye makeup and it is gentle enough that it won't leave your skin irritated and red.  Don't forget to moisturize.  (Best advice from "To Wong Fu, Julie Newmar")  ;D

Thank you for the very warm welome. Its nice to have sisters to help. I feel realy lucky I live on my own(except my to cats,and they vow to remain silent) so I can dress whenever I want. I do not go out in public, But hey who knows tomorow is a new day. 

How do you get your cats to take a vow of silence? Mine won't shut up.

Dennis

Hey Dennis, my cats do that to on occassion, but generally it because they want something, like they feel neglected, or thier autofeeder is starting to run low, not out, but low and they don't like to wait until the last minute to inform me if I haven't been paying attention.  Generally it is a matter of checking them out for any health problems, making sure food and water dispensors are full, and giveing them so all around attention and lovin.  If they are being vocal, they need something.

Terri

My cat nags me if I get home too late. We have arguments about whether I'm going to share my dinner as well, particularly if I'm having seafood.

But mostly it's wanting cuddles or playing, which is fine (usually).

Dennis

Hey Terri,

Was only thinking about you yesterday. I know you said you were relying on dialup for a while has this changed?

Shelley

QuoteI know you said you were relying on dialup for a while has this changed?

Hi Shelley, everything been alright with you lately?. Back on comcast as of saturday, the 24th, so been back up to speed for a week now, just haven't been hanging around much as I have been just keeping up with local friends and some others I correspond with.  Just not real interested in forum communication right now as I'm to busy with my own problems to be making any fuss with others about thiers.  Just kind of in and out these days, but when I settle my own hash I'll be back up to steam again, Till I call it quits to TG forums altogether soon enough that is.

Terri

Hi Terri,

Great to hear your back on deck. Not o great to hear that you may be with us again for only a limited time.

As to things with me they are going much better than I could have expected. Unfortunately I am doing this part of my life alone still (well with my friends here but alone at home) the rest of my life I still share with my lovely wife and most importantly my six kids.

Thank you for asking.

Shelley

Well Shelley, it is good to hear that things are mostly ok and i'm sure that the slower pats will get where you want in time, or you'll make your own work arounds.  You have a good positive attitude and a good feet on the ground intellegence.  I think you will find your own answers and make your way toward them.

As to disapearing for good in time, don't give it a lot of thought, it's not a comment on anything or anyone at Susans, in fact I suspect I will miss it.  Its just that with things I have to do there will be little time for such things and I will be less and less in contact with the transgender world, I always have been somewhat apart from it anyway, but with changes in my life I will have other associations that I am closer to and time is limited.  In fact, only the few I know better and carry on personal correspondence with will know who I am and where I'll be, but that doesn't mean I'll forget some of the relationships I've had here over the years, but your just gonna have to put up with me till somewhere around the end of the year at any rate, so don't let your guard down.

Terri

Hi Teri,

I for one am going to miss you very much when you're not around here anymore. Your literary misiffs will be greatly missed. I suspect I will be around for quite some time but imagine that at some point life will call me away from Susan's, which I have grown to love so much. In the meantime we have you at least until the end of the year and for that I am thankful.

Hugs,

Cassie

Huggs Cassie, Yah know how it is.  Life sometimes limits the time you have for different things and it's always about priorities isn't it, but things are still somewhat relaxed for a bit and not where I want to be yet, so still got a little time each day that I don't want to spend alone, so I got a few more months of needing someone around to share the hazy stuff with. And yes, stay around here yourself for a while Cassie. 

Since I ran into Susans, I've interacted with a lot of people, on both good and bad terms, and even the negative has been a benifit to me though.  Sometimes from the least likely sources, but it has all added up to calming down and putting things in perspective, and helping a juvinile woman to grow up to speed.  Its helpful if you use it well, and self correcting when you don't.

I may have a lot of negatives floating around inside about transgender as a whole, but at least these days I can sort through the apples rather then just pounce on the group and for that I'm thankful, but the priorities again.

Anyway, Hugs again Cassie.

Terri

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