And they had a hard time believing it, especially since I didn't act girly when I was younger. When I was struggling with it as a teenager, I didn't it let it show at all so they didn't see that either. They think that if I get a job and begin a normal stable life, I won't have time to think about it and it will go away. Especially if I find some nice girl to be with. They talked about how tall I am and that everyone would know and I'd have problems and I couldn't find a partner and all that. How difficult my life would be if I transitioned.
So basically they can't believe it's real and hope it will go away.
Probably partly my own fault for lacking credibility with how I've lived my life. Haven't really done or accomplished anything. *sigh*
Yes,
it can be a hard to believe since you acted manly and macho your whole life.
I started having crossdressing issues at around like 11-12. But it was present at an earlier age too...
Some TS's discover their problem at teens....
See a therapist to make sure this is really YOU :o
My mom called today. You can guess what she wanted to talk about. She went on how I couldn't look like a woman because I'm so tall/big (184cm/6ft) and I would be ridiculed and my life would be all pain and suffering. "Where would you buy shoes?" They think it's a phase. Even if it isn't, they want me to try to endure it, even if it's with medication. Frustrating to say the least. :-X
Quote from: fool on February 26, 2008, 08:15:42 AM
She went on how I couldn't look like a woman because I'm so tall/big (184cm/6ft) and I would be ridiculed and my life would be all pain and suffering. "Where would you buy shoes?"
Plenty of tall women out there - think supermodels. As for shoes, there are places that cater specifically for taller women, so you shouldn't have a problem as far as that goes.
Quote from: fool on February 24, 2008, 08:02:10 AM
They think that if I get a job and begin a normal stable life, I won't have time to think about it and it will go away. Especially if I find some nice girl to be with.
Hmmm... Why is it that all of those things always seem to make me want to live as a woman
more; and when my life is going badly, I just don't have the energy to care as much. (I guess for me, being a depressed slob is not a strongly gendered state of being.) Do others feel this way?
My sympathies for your parents' ignorance/insensitivity/lack of support. :(
Let your mother know it's not about looking like a woman, but being a woman.
don't let her talk you into getting doped up either.
You definitely should see a gender specialist. Talking is good, plus a good counselor helps you to understand yourself and to plan for transition if you go that way. I know a therapist who held a workshop for non-transitioning gender variants, so there are different routes you can choose from to begin with.
The best thing is to learn and to have contact with others like us so you can be informed and ask questions and work it out in your own way. Find what works for you.
Peace,
Rebis
Those are just stereotypes of hieght.
Sure man are usaully taller than women BUT BUT it is rare for BOTH sexes to be 6ft tall, even rarer for women actaully however hieght isn't going to stop you from passing.
Sure you will get many stares BUT you probably already do get stares because of your hieght....
Tell your mom what others said here and MAKE SURE THIS IS REALLY YOU!!! If this is something sexual to get kicks off of, it may go away with HRT and cause changes you really don't want...
I hate it when they don't take you seriously...
Quote from: fool on February 24, 2008, 08:02:10 AM
Probably partly my own fault for lacking credibility with how I've lived my life. Haven't really done or accomplished anything. *sigh*
I can relate to your sentiments there. I mean, it's not entirely true, I have done some worthwhile things, but not much that I'd take exceptional note of. For me it is because I've let the internal conflict around which life I am going to lead remain unresolved for so long. I don't think I can really function to the best of my ability until I do resolve it. I need to pick a "why", a reason for getting out there and doing the things that will get me what I want. Right now I have 2 why's and they are at battle with each other...
Anyways, I admire your courage in telling your parents. I'm sure it wasn't easy. That's still something I'm eventually going to have to do. And my mom is VERY opinionated and expressive of her opinions. She will not take it well.
I hope things get better for ya on your end *hugs*
I think my mom, while she took the news well, still thinks of me as a boy. It's going to be really hard for her (and my dad as well) when I do my HRT the changes start taking place. When she realizes I'm not her little boy I know it's going to be rough. It will be hard for your parents as well. But if you say you acted macho all the time, then of course it will be hard to go from seeing you as a boy to seeing you as a girl. They don't want to believe it, and most likely are unable to. But don't let that get you down. All you have to do now is make it easier for them to believe. You'll be fine.
I think I'll give them time to adjust. Maybe they'll see it isn't something I just made up recently.
Once I get my financial side in order, I thought I might get a nice wig, fake boobs, some pretty girl clothes I like (soft spot for goth style, especially in women's clothes) and see how womanly I can make myself without hormones helping. If I could fool people, parents might be less concerned about it.
Quote from: fool on February 28, 2008, 04:58:51 AM
I think I'll give them time to adjust. Maybe they'll see it isn't something I just made up recently.
Once I get my financial side in order, I thought I might get a nice wig, fake boobs, some pretty girl clothes I like (soft spot for goth style, especially in women's clothes) and see how womanly I can make myself without hormones helping. If I could fool people, parents might be less concerned about it.
well it could be hard for people to adjust that have known you for a while. Excuse me, known the fake you(if your really trans)
Quote from: Tanya1 on February 28, 2008, 03:37:29 PMExcuse me, known the fake you(if your really trans)
It's funny... usually when I see a picture of a beautiful naked woman, instead of thinking "ooh, I want to do her" I think "ooh, I really want to be her". ::) I've tried to supress it all but if given the opportunity to suddenly become a real woman, I wouldn't hesitate for a second.
Quote from: fool on February 28, 2008, 04:29:24 PM
Quote from: Tanya1 on February 28, 2008, 03:37:29 PMExcuse me, known the fake you(if your really trans)
It's funny... usually when I see a picture of a beautiful naked woman, instead of thinking "ooh, I want to do her" I think "ooh, I really want to be her". ::) I've tried to supress it all but if given the opportunity to suddenly become a real woman, I wouldn't hesitate for a second.
Yep. Thats one reason why I was compelled to think about myself more.
Quote from: fool on February 24, 2008, 08:02:10 AM
And they had a hard time believing it, especially since I didn't act girly when I was younger. When I was struggling with it as a teenager, I didn't it let it show at all so they didn't see that either. They think that if I get a job and begin a normal stable life, I won't have time to think about it and it will go away. Especially if I find some nice girl to be with. They talked about how tall I am and that everyone would know and I'd have problems and I couldn't find a partner and all that. How difficult my life would be if I transitioned.
So basically they can't believe it's real and hope it will go away.
sounds like my parents.