Who is the person on this earth you are closest with?
For me, it's my Mother.
It used to be my husband (well, not legally). Well really, he was my wife. But more than that - he was the best friend I ever had and now that he's gone, Mother is the closest person in the world to me.
It's really a very unique relationship being that it is a Mother's relationship with her firstborn child and only son (I'm very much a mama's boy) and yet shares a lot of the elements and dynamic of a Mother/daughter relationship because of the obvious of course. We can talk about things a mother and son could never talk about. She accepts me totally though doesn't quite 'get' everything yet. And so we discuss transgender and GLBT issues often.
She always knew about me in her heart though my anatomy blinded her. When I was a teen, she would say 'You're like my son.'
She knows now and accepts me even though she is very religious.
She's great. She's the closest person in the world to me.
So - the closest person in the world to you?
For me it's my wife.
People talk about soul mates, best friends and the like and my response is usually yea, whatever. But in every
way she is my soul mate... a love story from day one and there is no way I could live without her.
She has had my back through thick and thin and if she said "stop your transition" I would do it.
I put her needs before mine and always will, but the funny thing is... she does the same for me and
somehow we make it work.
I know that most marriages do not make it through transition but I KNOW we will. But I
will do anything to make that happen. Even stop if I have too. But I don't think I'll have to,
she's always had a thing for other pretty girls so maybe someday I can be that girl :)
Amanda
Quote from: AlwaysAmanda on April 10, 2008, 04:43:40 PM
For me it's my wife.
People talk about soul mates, best friends and the like and my response is usually yea, whatever. But in every
way she is my soul mate... a love story from day one and there is no way I could live without her.
She has had my back through thick and thin and if she said "stop your transition" I would do it.
I put her needs before mine and always will, but the funny thing is... she does the same for me and
somehow we make it work.
I know that most marriages do not make it through transition but I KNOW we will. But I
will do anything to make that happen. Even stop if I have too. But I don't think I'll have to,
she's always had a thing for other pretty girls so maybe someday I can be that girl :)
Amanda
I couldn't have said it better. The person to whom I'm closest is my wife.
I'm an androgyne, and I'm not likely to "transition" all that much. But, my wife has told me that even if I did decided on MtF SRS, she'd stick with me. She didn't marry my body, she married me.
gotta say im very similar... only difference is that the actually getting married part hasnt happened yet. Just got to set the date now... earliest would be next summer.
Amanda... you put it so perfectly. If my fiancee asked me to stop my transition, i would. i never thought that someone could ever mean more to me than being myself when i started out, someone who i could happily change every last thing about myself for them.
As for the transition, i met her after i transitioned. Best thing was that i had to tell her about myself later after we met and she didnt realize :) But she knows and says that after my transition/srs is all done with that i'll be the person she went for - as that is what i am.
Soul mates? I dont believe in them as such. If she is my soul mate then i'm over the moon, if she isnt, i dont want my soul mate :P
On the other hand, in the opinion of my mother, she's *ahem* the closest person to me.
I honestly wish I could join in with those who have mentioned their spouses and say that the closest person to me is my girlfriend, but that wouldn't be an honest answer.
So, then who is the person I'm closest to? Well, I'm not always sure. At one time I would've said one person. At another time I'd say another person, and today I'd say it was my friend Angie. I guess she probably is the person I really am closest to as well. She's probably the only one who tells me as much as I tell her, and I feel like I can trust her even though we don't always agree. We have an amazing friendship. I just wish it had started earlier than last year.
I... don't know.
My first thought was to say my mom, but really, I don't know. I think she was for a time, and for a time we were enemies, and then friends again. She is my best friend at the moment, or rather, we both want her to be, but ... I don't know.
I think I had too much vodka tonight. Bedtime.
~Simone
my parents, then my siblings, then my bf, then everybody else.
Right now...
It's my friend through three years.
And my friend from Finland, whose company I sadly cannot enjoy until June.
I feel kinda detached from everyone else.
~Moi
Quote from: Moira Midnigh on April 10, 2008, 06:03:25 PM
I feel kinda detached from everyone else.
~Moi
I've been feeling that way a lot recently. I think it's because I've been spending so much time with my girlfriend so I don't really see anybody. I'm also feeling oddly close to people I barely know, and who know virtually nothing about me. It's strange.
That person used to be my grandma, but she is no longer here with us, so now I have a few people who are closest to me, Peter Pan, my mom and dad, and my kitties. (yes, my kitties are people! :P)
tink :icon_chick:
My sister, then probably my mate carl and then my parents.
My wife. But it's always been a tragically conflicted relationship. She loves me, but doesn't really *like* me.
And yet, for as close as we are, I one day found myself saying to her, "you realize that I do love you more than anyt..." and caught myself, and we both sadly looked at each other with tears in our eyes.
Apparently, there's one thing that means more to me than even my love for her :(
~Kate~
My partner. My children.
N~
The closest person to you?
well for me right now that is my brother. :)
The closest person to me was my girlfriend, but that is no longer as we broke up. I am in a bit of a transition now to find that new super-close person. My family is in California and I am in Pennsylvania, so while I am close to them, the distance prevents it from being closest. I do not like being in the position where I have no one super close to me, but it is only for a bit longer.
tink & my mom :) :) ;)
With everything in a state of flux, I am not sure who is the closest...
I guess it would be my girlfriend Cheryl. She is the sort of friend everybody needs. Open. Listens. Suggests when appropriate. And slaps you on the backside of the head when needed.
I am hoping to develope a real mother-daughter relationship with my mom. She has been incredibly accepting.
Romantically? Well... Lets just leave that one alone for now.
Chaunte
The closest person to me will be my mom and sisters. I know you asked for one person but close with these 3 people in different ways. I would almost do anything for these people.
Anna
Quote from: Nero on April 10, 2008, 04:18:13 PM
So - the closest person in the world to you?
i've never had a wife or husband. possibly i would have if it had seemed to me that they weren't mostly just interested in sex. for me, you have to get them interested by being sexy. if i'm not trying to be sexy, they just overlook me.
then we'd start to date, and talk about everything, and they'd treat me like i was a real person, and that my opinions mattered. but soon enough, the focus would shift almost exclusively to sex, and then i'd find that that was the whole point of the relationship. that my personality, my heart, my feelings, meant next to nothing. i was an object to give them pleasure, and, they showed me quite clearly,
they wanted me for very little else.
-ell
I really have no idea who I could say for this. I spent so much of my life trying to avoid close friendships, and the few that I have had have all started to drift steadily apart.
I wish I could say it's my girlfriend, but I just don't know. We've been together for 6 years, but I'm terrified that our relationship isn't going to last...
I would say my therapist, then my wife, then my aunt. I ranked those according to who knows and understands the most about my GID, then by who just "knows" me. My aunt knows nothing of my GID, though I would bet that if she were to find out she'd say something either like "he's just confused" or "I'm not surprised" :D
Aeron
For me, my sister (she doesn't know yet) and my friend Jeff (who does know, but hasn't really said anything else about it :-\)
My ex wife Britney and my friend Cali. I don't let many people in close, but when I do, they are in for life pretty much. Meghan
I think it's just about time to answer this question properly, because I've had some time to think about it, and I've come to the conclusion that the two people closest to me at the moment, are people I've never even met in person, yet we share things that we share with nobody else.
So Ash and Viv? Thank-you for coming into my life. I am blessed because of it.
~Simone.
A friend who I rarely see, but I wish I knew them longer so time made us even better friends.
I really don't have anybody else. I try getting close to people, but the only ones I trust with anything are never around.
Well Well Well the closet person to me would be me.. other than that it would be my gorgeous sexy girlfriend as she knows me in side out.. back to front..
My best friend. It's kind of funny that way, because we have this real macho guy thing going on, and he'd get really embarrassed if I started acting all girly. And I know he'd never go for me if I ever transitioned to female. He'd think it's all icky and stuff.
But he wouldn't really care in the end. He adapts to anything. The guy is a genius, and absolutely hates being anything that even resembles ignorance. In fact, that's why we are so close. We both have a fascination with knowledge and the universe, and we both absolutely can't stand ignorance (especially in ourselves).
He's also incredibly sexy in his own way, although I would never seriously tell him as long as I appear male. That would just be...strange.
Quote from: VeryGnawty on April 23, 2008, 07:37:53 AM
My best friend. It's kind of funny that way, because we have this real macho guy thing going on, and he'd get really embarrassed if I started acting all girly. And I know he'd never go for me if I ever transitioned to female. He'd think it's all icky and stuff.
But he wouldn't really care in the end. He adapts to anything. The guy is a genius, and absolutely hates being anything that even resembles ignorance. In fact, that's why we are so close. We both have a fascination with knowledge and the universe, and we both absolutely can't stand ignorance (especially in ourselves).
He's also incredibly sexy in his own way, although I would never seriously tell him as long as I appear male. That would just be...strange.
Well... Strange but certainly not bad considering how much you hate ignorance and share things in common. Who knows what quantum leaps one would make to adapt. Heh... Or maybe not. My late friend was very much like that, only a bit more deviant I'd think...
My newer friend is very similar to me. She is very well-read, strays away from common notions of gender, tends to have a myriad of personas like me, and is an extremely nice and sage-like person. I consider them an older sibling actually, which is comforting when all I have is a younger brother who already thinks I'm an embarrassment without knowing about my problems. She is a very good artist, and the things she would consider a crappy sketch are priceless to me. They reinspire me when I find myself in a rut. I no longer trust my mom after the nonsense she pulled, and my other friend (older brother dude) knows nothing of my problems, and I frankly don't think he's mature enough to handle it. I don't know exactly where to place this person. I certainly love them in many ways, but I could never imagine pursuing this in any other way but something like sibling to sibling. I like it that way anyway. She doesn't know I'm on hormones though... And I'm kind of choked on how to tell her. Part of me just wants to not stop, because the results feel so right to me, the other part, the self-preservation side, is in total fear. I feel more myself, and like it much more, yet the voice telling me I'm a freak is still going off non-stop, and not just the fact of awkwardness and that kind of a quantum leap, but the fact that I don't want anyone to worry about me when they are far too busy to. I like taking weight off of peoples shoulders, not dumping a car on them. There are a couple of constants I think about every single day. My dead friend, my cat, college, and her. :-\
Closest to me is my best friend, Michael, in Atlanta (some 350 miles away :( )
We only met about a year & a half ago, but in a short time grew very close to one another. We talk almost every day, and I will tell Michael anything, without flinching, without fibbing...he is the only person I trust completely. I don't mean trust as in keeping my private things private (well definitely that , too), but also trust in that no matter what I share with him, he will always always always be my dear Friend & won't turn his back on me.
*sigh*
--Valerie
I have no one.
Quote from: Laura91 on April 30, 2008, 08:11:21 PM
I have no one.
...well then... the Universe is waiting to
give you someone... :icon_bunch:
My partner, with whom I'm very fortunate to share the past 12 years. Sie is completely supportive of however I choose to express gender. ;D
Z
"Every man is an island"
This is not an easy question to answer because I can't narrow it down to a single person. The list includes only my children and my partners. Of the people who come here, it would have to be my dearest Ellie.
Quote from: ell on April 12, 2008, 12:31:25 PM
i've never had a wife or husband. possibly i would have if it had seemed to me that they weren't mostly just interested in sex. for me, you have to get them interested by being sexy. if i'm not trying to be sexy, they just overlook me.
then we'd start to date, and talk about everything, and they'd treat me like i was a real person, and that my opinions mattered. but soon enough, the focus would shift almost exclusively to sex, and then i'd find that that was the whole point of the relationship. that my personality, my heart, my feelings, meant next to nothing. i was an object to give them pleasure, and, they showed me quite clearly, they wanted me for very little else.
-ell
You, my dear, will always be more important to me than mere sex.
Well... From what I see, my friend and I are completely on the same page and I don't see any reason (I could be blind, we all are) why our friendship wont be great and continue until we are quite old and senile...
I think of a few people like them every day, and await the day when I can be around them again. If fate brings people to each other like magnets, then this is surely electromagnetic... I'm happy I wound up and charged at the opportunity.
Another friend knows a little... Yet to tell the full details though... Heh. At least she's open minded and sweet.
Without any fragment of a doubt, my only living parent, my mum !
She gave birth to me, brought me up in hard times, cared for me, protected me .... we really only have one and each other in this world ....
She accepted my transition from son to daughter absolutely "You are my only child, I'll always love you, and support you in whatever you need to do to find happiness and contentment in this world" (her words !).
Sure she's hard and demanding of me to "succeed" in every aspect of my life, especially now that I'm a woman, and we argue a lot ....
But how can any friend or partner match her kind of unconditional love ?
When my mom dies I will feel a huge part of me has died .... can't even imagine how I'll cope ... ??? ...
Laura x
Nero,
My wife would be number 1 through 10.
I was positive she would leave me but she has stayed. We hold hands and give each other little kisses and take walks together all the time. I also have someone to talk to about these issues that I have kept secret for decades. She has preferred that I not tell the children and not go to a doctor regarding these issues. Recently she said I should go to a doctor. (The only doctors I have visited in the past 5 years are dentists.)
I am very happy my wife is with me but I have made life very difficult for my family.
I love my three children very much but since I keep many secrets from them they think daddy (My 18 year old son recently asked my wife if he has two moms) has become most unusual.
I love my parents and my sister.
I am lucky in that although I am a loner I have much love in my heart for fellow people and God and am not alone.
You know, I'm not sure?
These days I can't really trust anybody... I'm going to have to say two people:
My mom: I have told her that I am a girl, so that counts for something... But she doesn't accept it. Regardless of that we are still very close somehow.
One of my friends: I've only known her for like a year and a half, but she already knows more about me than most do. I have not come out to her, but I have said "I wish I were a girl." and "I want a dress." so many times I can't even count it. She for some reason still talks to me... Personally I feel IF there is any hope for acceptance in this world at this point it would be her... But I'm too scared to come out.
My little sister. :)
My youngest daughter 13( love her to so much she is also my only biological child) and next my ex wife and thats about it. Most of the rest of my relatives dont even care if I'm still alive.. :(
gina