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Ok, so I'm just curious, are you happy with your life right now? Not yesterday or next week, but right now this minute? I am so don't worry or anything, lol. I'm just curious how many people feel the same way. It's funny because I think sometimes we have fleeting moments of happiness and we need to really enjoy and bathe in them before they leave us. The amount of time that I've been truly happy since transition has really surprised me. I never thought that happiness was something that ran so deep.

I think I thought that maybe the right material possessions would make me happy, or things like that. THINGS rather than internal happiness, and I think that is probably how many of us go through life for quite a while. Does anyone else feel that or agree/disagree with that? Meghan

I guess I should have clarified the two vote thing. I just figured we might wanted to come back at a later date and post a new outlook :)

I chose both answers o..o

In every aspect of my life except a romantic relationship I am quite happy.  In terms of a relationship, right now there is none~

Not exactly unhappy, but my happiness is work in progress at the moment, so I voted no.

~Simone.

Yup, for all my whining here, I'm actually very happy in a deep, quiet sense... not necessarily jumping up and down screaming "yay!" over and over, but in an "inner peace" sorta way.

OK, I do the "yay" thing now and then too ;)

That doesn't mean I'm not annoyed and worried and unhappy about dozens of things right now, but they're all just PART of my life, this struggle, enriching it and making me appreciate it MORE, oddly enough...

~Kate~

i said no, because at this moment I am building the effort to get stuff done.

I voted YES... a deep, deep, deep feeling of happiness and contentment with who I am and who I'm becoming.

QuoteI think I thought that maybe the right material possessions would make me happy, or things like that. THINGS rather than internal happiness, and I think that is probably how many of us go through life for quite a while. Does anyone else feel that or agree/disagree with that? Meghan

Actually I did not realize how unhappy I was before but it was just the life I knew. It was not like I hated my life or was
depressed but I rarely laughed, I can't remember the last time I "had a good time" doing something. I was just there... counting
the days until I died it seems. One emotion, day after day. Now it's like I can't wait to get to the next day to see what
joy it will bring. I know things are going to get tougher, and there may be some or a lot of pain, but I'm feeling like
I'm living my life now.

And yes... material things... been there, done that... but it was not HAVING the things that I craved.... I realized
just recently that I had to be busy doing something all the time... I think it was a way of coping... by being busy I was able
to keep my mind off GID. So the material things gave me things to do and in the process allowed me to forget about GID.

Great topic Meghan :)

Amanda

No - for a million and one reasons. This past year and half has been the lowest I've ever been.
I've lost everything and nearly everyone. If they're not in the ground, they want nothing to do with me.
I've lost my health. I'm in a horrible financial state. Can't transition until my health improves. I'm slowly clawing my way up the side of this deep pit I fell into, but I'll make it out.

Sorry to gloom up your thread, hon. But you asked. :laugh:

I chose "happy."

Things aren't exactly wonderful by any means, but things are looking up for the future, which makes my life now a lot better. Every aspect of my life shows progress toward where I want to be, even though I'm definitely not there yet.

Quote from: Nero on April 22, 2008, 11:55:08 AM
Sorry to gloom up your thread, hon. But you asked. :laugh:

Nero, that's what I like about you, you just tell it like it is and that is a pretty rare quality. I know you've had a rough one and then health issues on top of it, but hang in there like the tough person you are  ;D Meghan

Interesting question Meghan and I am not sure I can answer a simple yes or no to it.


On the positive side - I am starting to find that inner peace. I had another conselling session yesterday and we talk about being happy now - not being happy when.......  I have at last articulated what bothers me the most about what I hated about myself over these years - having a split personality and trying to hide one of those selves. I now feel like I am on the way to healing those two sides of myself so I be a single person and I am feeling relaxed about that now.

On the negitive side there is so much to do in the way of transition, I am still not completly over my recent sickness, My riding had to stop in the last few weeks and I am writing this from work.

I will wait till I get home and hopfully give you a positive response.

Alice 

I'm very content with my life now.  Not sure about happy or sad, content is so different that I've just been dealing with that.

I'm very happy. I didn't know how unhappy I was until I started transition. All I ever wanted to do was sleep and now I bounce out of bed in the morning looking forward to the day. Even though none of my family is happy with me and especially my wife who is enraged at me and I think will leave me, still I'm very happy.
Sheena

Yes, yes, yes!!!

tink :icon_chick:

I'm very happy with my life now. I have been very happy since the day I woke up in the room after my surgery. I have had down days but they go away and in the sense of my life, everyday is a happy day. People only give me grief for a fleeting moment then I'm back on track again. I'm really happy now as I'm off work and I just had dinner and I have a cup of tea sitting next to me. What more can a girl ask for, well maybe a margarita??
Sheila

I voted Yes.

The last 18 months have its moments of happiness and deep despair.  There have been times of smooth sailing and times where the seas threatened to sink me.  Nevertheless, at no time did I ever consider that I was on the wrong path.

Overall, I am happy.

Chaunte

I voted no for various reasons..

I voted YES,becouse at this moment in my life i am happy

i couldn't be happier

Happy as can be!!

I voted no, but I am working my way to being contented at least.  Happy, over the moon kinda happy, might only be in my dreams, but you never know.  :)

Exceedingly happy & very hopeful.

After speaking to Meghan I had to answer yes.

Alice

Quote from: Tink on April 22, 2008, 08:29:17 PM
Yes, yes, yes!!!

tink :icon_chick:

golly how many times am i going to tell you this isn't your bedroom >:D ha ha ha

Quotegolly how many times am i going to tell you this isn't your bedroom Evil ha ha ha

Tooooo funny Natasha :)

Quote from: Natasha on April 24, 2008, 12:42:45 AM

Quote from: Tink on April 22, 2008, 08:29:17 PM
Yes, yes, yes!!!

tink :icon_chick:

golly how many times am i going to tell you this isn't your bedroom >:D ha ha ha

LOL  ;D

You dork!  :P ;)

tink :icon_chick:

Before coming out in February I was not happy. :(  Since coming out I am now very happy. ;D
Now when people tell me to have a nice day or a nice weekend. I just tell them they are all good just that some are better than others.   Of course in 4 weeks with my name changed legally and 3 weeks til I start hormones I will be even happier. ;)

Generally speaking, I haven't been particularly happy recently, no. However, I just got home from an interview with my Spanish teachers confirming that I *am* doing honours next semester, and so now, *this exact moment*, I am very happy. :icon_joy:

And hungry. :P

No way. I voted no.

I've been sick, depressed, upset, anxious... My body bothers me a lot. My family doesn't respect or even acknowledge my gender identity. My grades in school have been dropping from all this stress...

All this pre-transition. I'm hoping post-transition I'll be a lot happier.

I didn't have any preconceived ideas about how my life should turn out, but I'm happy with it. I believe in learning from experiences and no matter how bad they are, using them to become a better person. I wouldn't start over otherwise I wouldn't be the person I am now.

Yep very happy & dancin :laugh: :laugh: :icon_dance: :icon_dance:

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Yes     - 28 (58.3%)
No    - 20 (41.7%)
   
Total Voters: 45

Hi Leslie, I quite agree with your post.

QuoteI didn't have any preconceived ideas about how my life should turn out, but I'm happy with it. I believe in learning from experiences and no matter how bad they are, using them to become a better person. I wouldn't start over otherwise I wouldn't be the person I am now

I believe that my natural mood has always been mostly happy and upbeat with my life since I got rid of all those bags of crud from the past I was totin around with me. I have not accomplished or experienced more in all my previous 54 years as I have in the past 8 years living as me Cindy. I met Wing Walker and we got married four years ago in Ontario. Got retired from social working and moved here and got work in social work again and even got to create a totally new service for Trans people. Yes I am happy and feel blessed for all that has come in abundance into my life especially in the last 8 years.

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Cindy

Yes happy... well, more so than sad anyway.

As for being materialistic, I think "things" are fun to have, but to center one's happiness around possessions is distended to being unfulfilled.

Well.... I have my independence, my stability, my health, and lots of great friends. My name is my own and my license has an F on it. I am accepted as my real self and pass very easily; after 2 years on HRT I am still seeing physical effects; I'm keeping an SRS fund and have a ballpark estimate for when I'll be able to go get it done. Life has been steadily improving since 2006. Only difficult thing is being alone - the dating pool for a TS lesbian, particularly one my age with little experience, is tiny. So overall I'm more happy than unhappy, but it's difficult sometimes.

Right this moment? Oh I'm just sitting around listening to music. So I'd have to say yes, happy. :)

No.

Yes.  Despite all of the things going on in my life and the amount of stress I'm dealing with, I'm still very happy.  My biggest problem right now is that I've accomplished so many of my dreams that I need to go make new ones.  I still have a few things on the horizon like SRS and finishing up some projects, but now I need to re-answer the question "What do I want to do with my life?".

I had to vote no.
Not happy but content.
Bad back and denied disability.
Spouse supporting me for 3 years now and going deeper into debt daily over medical bills.
I guess it could be worse though.
At least I have a wife that will support every aspect of my life.
So I'm content.
Del

I change my vote from no to yes.  Its been rough lately, but now I realize that I was stressed out about the upcoming meeting with my parents for the first time in a year and a half.  Which by the way went swimmingly!!!!!!  With that off my shoulders I can relax and enjoy my new found family relationship when i go to my brothers wedding on the 21st of this month.  Ill definitely post some pics because I found the most adorable dress to wear and it will be a blast.

Audrey

Quote from: MeghanAndrews on April 22, 2008, 08:54:29 AM
Ok, so I'm just curious, are you happy with your life right now? Not yesterday or next week, but right now this minute? I am so don't worry or anything, lol. I'm just curious how many people feel the same way. It's funny because I think sometimes we have fleeting moments of happiness and we need to really enjoy and bathe in them before they leave us. The amount of time that I've been truly happy since transition has really surprised me. I never thought that happiness was something that ran so deep.

I think I thought that maybe the right material possessions would make me happy, or things like that. THINGS rather than internal happiness, and I think that is probably how many of us go through life for quite a while. Does anyone else feel that or agree/disagree with that? Meghan

Hi, Meghan,

I am thoroughly and completely happy with my life as it is right now.  I like who I am and I am blessed with the most wonderful soulmate and lifepartner that I could have ever hoped for:  Cindy.

As for material goods, I had them and the mortgages and monthly bills to prove I had them.  I owned one rental property and had a half interest in another and I am glad to be rid of them.  I lost everything, including my personal library.  I have learned to live well with fewer "things."

Wishing you the best,

Wing Walker
Flying the Pleasant Skies

Hi Audry sweets, Goodness I missed you girl. It's nice to hear all the good news about your family's acceptance. I am so happy for you, this news is quite awesome. I have met a couple of other folks here whose parents are also supportive of them. That is just so wonderful, it should be that way for everyone. Well we can only pray that it becomes so.

Cindy

After realizing how much pain is going to be involved in my future transition, and the fact that I seem to have wasted so much of my childhood on the wrong side of the fence, no...  :embarrassed:

A year ago, I knew exactly who I was, but I didn't know what a TS was or that I could get help. By accident, I found the medical definition of TS, and now; I was taught to self inject my estrogen, I'm seeing a wonderful therapist weekly, I'm actively planning my post SRS goals, and for the first time in my life, I really have a reason to live. This is in sharp contrast to last year, when my retirement plans centered around my desire to drink myself to death!

This is the first time in my life, after about the age of 16, that I can describe myself as both happy and optimistic!

happy happy happy...

yes i'm happy just to wake up each morning, even when i gotta go to work

Hi tylerMTF hon, welcome to Susan's. I do pray that you will find the answer you seek in this group.  ;D

April, your story sounds so very familiar and similar to mine, it can be a journey of discovery and learning, then the journey begins in Ernest. All I can say is retirement sucks so I have resumed working in the community doing what I can to do my part giving suport to our sisters in the community.

Cindy 

Quote from: tylerMTF on June 30, 2008, 08:48:14 PM
After realizing how much pain is going to be involved in my future transition, and the fact that I seem to have wasted so much of my childhood on the wrong side of the fence, no...  :embarrassed:

Quote from: tylerMTFWoot, I can be a fangirl now

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The depression ish strong in this thread.

Join the jedi, we gotz cookies.

Happy's a lame word for me.  Overjoyed is more like it.

I said no.  I am still not full time as I want to be but that is in the hands of others right now( i.e. Work has not gotten back to me yet ).  I would have put contented but you didn't allow for the choice, Meghan.  I am more happier inside now than I even have been.  My Mind is at peace,  but I am a bit impatient.  I will be alot happier as I more forward thru transition.

Janet