I drive a tractor-trailer for a living and specialize in the transport of utility poles, up to 100+' in length. I have a crane attached to my truck, that I use to unload these poles.
I have delivered to a copper mine, south west of Salt Lake City, Utah, for about 4 years and have gotten to know the guys there fairly well, we've had a pretty decent working relationship. I had not been there since I went full time, untill a couple of weeks ago. Needless to say I was a little nervous about their reaction to me.
I met and followed my escort down into the pit and got to the unload point. When I got out of my truck, a guy I know came up to me and asked "Where's you honey at?" I asked "Who do you mean?" He said "I'm sorry I guess I don't know"and walked away.
I don't remember the guys being so helpful the last time, helping to unstrap and unchain the load, even rolling up the straps and puting the stuff away for me.
I climbed up into the crane seat (13' in the air, a pedistal for all to observe me.) When I finished unloading I climbed back down and another guy I know came up to me and said "I've got to tell you......", I thought "Well here it comes, they've red me.", He continued "....you run that crane better and smoother than the "GUY" that used to drive this truck." I stood there in stunned silience thinking "OMG they have no idea". Finially I said "Why thank-you, you have no idea what that means to me."
A little later as I was getting my paperwork signed I overheard one guy say something to another, that I didn't quite catch, to which the guy he was speaking to replied "I don't know I think she might be able to hurt you." I was the only "she" around.
I left with my head swimming and my heart singing. Later I got to thinking should I tell them, I am going to have to deliver there again. I just kind of feel funny, it seems like I lied to these guys. What do y'all think.
QuoteShould I have told them?
only If they ask.
Why dont you step over to the introductions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,8.0.html) and let us in on your story.
Nice to meet you HeatherRose
KateAlice
Heather,
I don't think I would tell them. Some things are just better off left unsaid. It is really awesome that they took you for a woman. That is something to be proud of.
Hrm, an interesting arrangement.
I would tell I think. I tend to prefer friends and not so to identify themselves. I also do not like the idea of dreading going to a place because "they might have figured it out", etc.
For what my thoughts are worth...
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Just remember that you never actually "lied" to them. I wouldn't discuss it, but if somebody asks you if you're trans, then just tell them the truth. For me, I don't mind telling people, but I don't tell everyone I meet. It seems to work well.
Melissa
Heatherrose,
I don't beleive you owe anyone an explanation. It is a personal decision and really it only has to do with how you feel about it. I used to be mistaken for my older brother, I finally just got tired of correcting people and let them think I was him.
Also, I used to live in Rock Springs, Wy, not all that far from Salt Lake, and ran an electrical contracting bussiness. I wonder if you were the one that delivered poles to me?
Anyway, you must be very happy having passed so well. I am not sure why you would want to spoil that?
Love always,
Elizabeth
I used to live in Bountiful, just north of Salt Lake.
Melissa