I got my period on Sunday (I'm FTM), and today, Tuesday, my dad insisted that I start riding my bike again (I've been riding the bus for the past week; before that I rode my bike everyday.). So this morning, I hopped on my bike as usual, and I rode. At about halfway through the ride, I feel leaking, and I'm thinking 'Oh, s**t.'. When I get to school, I go into the nearest bathroom, even though I didn't want to (it was a girl's bathroom.), and sure enough, there's a big blotch on the seat of my jeans. Luckily, it was far enough underneath that as long I kept my legs somewhat close together, you wouldn't be able to see it. But it was still awkward because, as a guy, I kinda stand with my legs a bit farther apart, so I had to curb the habit for the day.
Anyway, so as you can imagine, it started to smell REALLY bad, so I was really self-conscious and embarrassed. But I managed to get through the day without any comments about it, so I must have been ok. At the end of the day, I got on my bike, and rode. I get that leaking feeling again, except worse this time. So I ride faster, and of course, when I cross the street and double back to my house, there's a really strong headwind, so I'm being blown backwards. When I finally get back to my house, the butt of my jeans are soaked with huge blotches of blood. And then my dad gets mad at me for slamming down my bike, when the whole thing was his fault in the first place! Then the icing on the cake: there were no more pads left!
I'm still to see if my pants will be ok; they're in the wash right now. Hopefully they'll be ok, cause those are my favorite pants.
Could anyone tell me how I can prevent this from happening again? Cause I have to ride my bike everyday, and I can't do this anymore or I think I'll just explode. Plus, I have P.E. every other day. Can anyone help?! (And sorry for all the complaining.)
Heavy-flow tampons with enough spare to change them as needed?
N~
I think I'm too young to wear tampons, but I'm not sure. What's the age?
I think the age is 'when you start a period.'
N~
I always thought there was something else... oh well, I suppose I was just mis-informed. I will see if I can try that. Thanks for the tip.
You are welcome.
When I was growing up girls didn't always wear tampons because they were afraid that they would make their virginity suspect. As far as I know there is no medical reason not to though. Except there could be some relation to toxic shock syndrome.
And there are pads as well. Not nearly all the bulky stuff of forty years ago either.
N~
As Nikki noted - no, there is no age for tampons and yes, you can still wear them if you're a virgin.
As far as leaks - I know the feeling. All my blood comes out in about one day, there's not much I can do but wear a tampon AND a pad and change the tampon every 20 min. If yours isn't that bad, the tampon and pad combo should suffice without a restroom break every half hour.
O, one other small caveat: make sure to remove the old one before putting the new one in.
Don't laugh. I know more than one woman who has done exactly that.
N~
Well, I don't really have the choice of changing that often, since I have a two hour class, then a 10 minute break, then another two hour class, then lunch, then another two hour class, then I'm out of school. So I can't really change that often, but I could every time I have a break. Thanks for the suggestions.
And that is pretty funny that some women forget to take the tampon out before putting another in.
Another small caveat: don't forget to take the last one out after period. I have friends who've done that.
And no age limit for them, they are easier and less messy to use imo and much more effective. I was like Nero, get it all done in one day, so had to use every weapon at my disposal.
Thank god that's over with.
Dennis
I've never used tampons, they have to be changed too often and just seems like a pain to deal with.
My advice is get overnight pads with wings. They are thick and longer than regular pads and cut way down on leaks.
If all you have are regular pads take 2 and overlap them.
Bummer that happened to you at school.. I use over night pads but I don't use tampons because I feel kind of like they keep "what needs to come out" inside. Over night pads with wings (like what Osiris said) is probably the best because it can prevent leaking.
I have a problem with this too. Seconding what ppl have said about overnight pads and doubling up. One thing that has worked for me is using one of the large size ultra-thin towels with wings, then putting a regular thick towel on top of that (take the plastic lining out of the back of the regular towel), as well as using a tampon. Wearing two pairs of underpants helps too.
You might look at your diet to lighten your periods--iron deficiency makes the bleeding worse. Make sure you're getting a balanced diet with plenty of B-vitamins. Taking extra calcium and magnesium can help if you have cramps.
If you're regularly having heavy bleeds a chat with a doctor is in order. There could be an underlying medical problem that needs to be dealt with.
You might also look into getting on the pill for a while until you can start T. Some forms of the pill can stop your period altogether for a few months at a time, and most will significantly reduce the flow. Doctors often prescribe hormones for other reasons than birth control. If you talk to your doctor about how the heaviness of flow is disrupting your life, she may be able give you hormones, and explain it to your parents, if that is going to be an issue. (I know. Not something that's comfortable to talk about with parents, but it could prevent a future scene if they find your prescription.)
Yeah, the Pill took down my periods while I was on it. Be careful though and get a lower dose pill; I also found it made my chest bigger, to my despair.
I used to have b****y awful periods before I went on T. Really heavy for up to 4 or 5 days sometimes before they eased off. I switched to tampons as soon as I could because not only were they more effective at stopping the blood from hitting air which is what makes the bad smell but you don't have the tell tale lump when wearing tight trousers or shorts in PE at school. I went on the pill for 2 years and had very little bleed whilst on it but like Lokaeign said it did make my chest bigger so may not be a good idea. Before I was allowed T I had to have an ultrasound scan and it turned out I had a massive fibroid which was more than likely what was causing the heavy bleeding. My sister had one and 3 of my aunties and my grandma (even though experts say they are not hereditary) and had to have it operated on but I was told my my doctor that T would make it shrivel up in time so I wouldn't need an op. Anyhow, since being on T my P stopped after the second injection, I was worried that the fibroid may delay it stopping but it didn't thank God.
A couple of things I would suggest if you do want to switch to tampons is starting with the smallest size first and using pads until you get used to using them as the Super Plus sizes (which I ended up having to use) may be difficult to use to start with and also I would recommend using the ones with applicators because with the ones you insert yourself it can get messy when you are heavy.
omg that sucks homie. yeah i dont think theres an age for tampons. i use them.. and im prolly one of the younger ones on here. i cant stand pads. feels like im wearing a diaper.. and with tampons u can wear boxers :)
I'm a lil worried about going to public school while on my period. for last year. 8th grade i was home studied. but going into 9th grade to a public school. and i'm registering as a boy. my consoler said i could as long as i could pass.. and i pass lol
How i normally deal with it.. is i sleep alot.. and stay in my room. yay for laptop. I dont bleed alot yet [i just started them earlier this year] but OMG the cramps so suck. they feel like someone is juggling knives in my stomach.
If it were me, I would have gone home. No girl even would have endured that.
I don't use tampons for a list of reasons. One, I refuse to stick anything in that hole. It shouldn't even be there and I'm going to put a cork up in it? No thanks. So I wear pads. There isn't much of a leaking issue with good coverage. The hardest part for me is the fact that I feel like I shouldn't even be having this. Girls talk about their periods, and I want to say, "Ain't that the truth..." but a guy shouldn't know that. I guess I really am a girl's best man, because I can understand her monthly struggle. But still, it threatens my identity. I'm different. That's hard to deal with.
Some tips on cleaning:
Never dry clean blood. It bakes the blood into the fabric.
Hand wash blood when it's still wet. You'll be able to get most of it out, the wash will take care of the rest.
I know this because I've leaked a few times, but also because I've fallen quite a few times and bled on my clothes. I also know a guy who would have frequent nose bleeds, so I learned how to help him out.
As for preventing leakage, I just make sure the pad is positioned correctly. If you're wearing a packy and it's causing a gap between your body and the pad, leakage is more likely. This is why I choose to put the pack in front of the pad. That way it gets no blood on it and it doesn't interfere with the pad. My method of packing is odd because I don't ever have it touching my skin. I hear a lot of giy have it pressed directly against themselves, but I find that tedious.
Tampons, if they are the right size and are inserted correctly almost never leak. You may need one that absorbs more blood or you may need to put it in further. It's supposed to slide in and you're not supposed to be able to feel it pushing on your insides. That means it's not in far enough. But don't go ridiculously far or someone's going to have to help you fish it out. I don't know about you, but I'm the kind of guy who doesn't like to have stuff go up in there.
I'm just looking forward to T. Until then, I handle it the same way the girls do. They really do know best. I'm not going to pretend that being transgendered makes me clueless to my own body or period. I have a female body to deal with, to maintain, and to understand.
I'd avoid the pill as some pills affect hormone distribution... they can increase breast size. But it really does depend on the person...
I rarely have period trouble. It's because I do the right things. I'm not going to let myself be "ashamed" so much that I won't do what I must...
As for washing.. I agree, you should definitely handwash before you toss it in the washing machine. But make sure you use cold water. Cold cold cold. If you use warm or hot water, it'll set the blood in the cloth and it'll be really difficult to get out. Also, you should try to wash before it dries, if at all possible. The less time the blood has to stick, the better.
If this happens again [even with wearing a pad and such] then you should go to the bathroom and fold paper towels to substitute. You didn't mention if you did that, but.. also, bring an extra pad with you in your bag for emergencies. The ones with wings are awesome, and they make 'long' ones, too, to cover more of the underwear.
For tampons, make sure you do change them at least every.. 6 hours or so, I think. Even if it's at the end and you're not bleeding a lot anymore, you're at high risk for toxic shock syndrome if you leave one in for longer than that. You're fine if you change to a clean one, just don't leave a dirty one in for that long. :) Same thing with pads- don't leave the same one on for hours and hours, even if you can.
Oh, and they sell scented pads, too. They strike me as a bit odd but.. if the smell bothers you a lot, you could always try those. :)
As for PE.. I don't know how much it would bother you to do this.. but.. my PE teachers always understood if I went up to them and told them I had cramps. It can be a valid excuse for not running around and such.
I'd be pissed, too. I've never ridden a bike while on my period, but I imagine that must.. suck. Ouch.
I avoid anything that is scented. It's irritating and especially bad for me because I have dry skin.
The best way not to smell is to remain clean. It is a must to bathe every day you are on your period... Not just for "etiquette" purposes-- it's a health issue.
I always use pads with wings, and longs for night time. Sometimes I'll use 2 regulars so they extend far enough behind that I'm not leaking out my back (it's happened quite a few times and I'd wake up in a puddle).
Cramps should never be an excuse for anything. It helps me to say, "be a man, don't cry like all those girls over there are." I mean, seriously. How bad can it be? Is it as bad as my migraines? When I sprained my wrist or bruised my tail bone? Is it as bad as my wisdom teeth getting pulled? Bad as the time I split the roof of my mouth? Probably not. Did I cry when any of those things happened? Well, when I sprained my wrist, I was in 5th grade... and I was a toddler when I split the roof of my mouth... but did I cry because it was painful? No. I cried because I was scared ->-bleeped-<-less. The point is, I hate it when girls say, "Oh, I can't WORK. I'm BLEEDING." It's so pathetic...
A period has never stopped me from doing anything (except sleeping naked). If tools are used properly, I can run, bike, dance, and if I so desired to use tampons, swim. I'd ride bikes a lot regardless of my period.
Some girls get cramps that are indeed pretty crippling. :) It's no reason to call somebody pathetic. I was only trying to help.
I agree TamTam. My ex used to get cramps that knocked her out of commission for at least one day and she was not a whiner. Endometriosis can make them pretty unbearable and, as bad as a migraine, from what I've heard.
Dennis
Yeah, I had to skip PE every time I had my period.
Cramps were so bad I almost fainted ( and, uhm, I can take a lot of pain, so dont tell me Im a wuss or that Im pathetic).
Anyway, I cant deal with tampons either. I dont even wanna touch that place and I start hyperventilating when other people try (yes, even gynecologists). Its really weird. They are gonna check me for PCO (http://www.4woman.gov/FAQ/pcos.htm), cause I sometimes go 4-5 months without it.. I still have horrible cramps and I bleed for like 9 days >.>
oh, and.. uhm.. I use pads.
But quantitatively, what is a lot of pain? A lot of people don't know what real pain feels like. I takes a great deal of trauma to know what extreme pain is like.
One girl that I know had a lot of pain had two uteruses. Both of them filled up every month, but only one would bleed. The other remained bloated. I understand that she was in a lot of pain. She had a reason to stay home on her period, which was actually almost always constant because of her blood disorder.
I am not here to call people wussies. But I know that not EVERY girl has that much pain (or guy). The fact is, it's the minority of people who have period pain so bad they cannot stand, and it's usually only one or two days of the period, not the whole week.
But yes, it is different for everyone, and I know that.
I can totally feel for anyone who has painful periods. Mine started at 10 and were horribly painful for a good 15 years... I'm finally on T, thank god. As far as leaking, I've been through it time and time again, and didn't figure out a solution until about a year ago... and I gotta say, tampons are a godsend. I spent years worrying about pads leaking on school chairs and all and finally gave up trying. Use tampons, and try to get a prescription from your doc for a good pain-killer.
SD
Starting early is certainly one of the major factors for pain... Glad you found a solution.
Well, my biggest deal is that I get that drippy feeling. I hate that. I get really minor cramps, like a stomach ache, but lower. I ride my bike to and from school, and on my period, it can be difficult, especially when you get to school with a huge wedgie from the bike seat. But it doesn't hurt to ride, it just feels really nasty.
For now, I'm ok because I'm on summer break.
As for bringing extras, I have really nosy friends, one, and two, I always forget to put some in my backpack. And we don't have paper towels in my school bathrooms, there was a problem with people sticking spitwads to the ceiling. And the single-ply toilet paper just shreds up.
And you can't get out of PE without a doctor's note. Otherwise, you can 'forget' your PE clothes, but you get in trouble for that.
It really sucks.
I know how to get out of PE without a doctor's note. Pass out. Lol.
Seriously. I'd tell them I was feeling sick and they wouldn't believe me. I passed out at least twice at my school.
Quote from: Elwood on July 11, 2008, 08:18:44 PM
Cramps should never be an excuse for anything. It helps me to say, "be a man, don't cry like all those girls over there are." I mean, seriously. How bad can it be? Is it as bad as my migraines? When I sprained my wrist or bruised my tail bone? Is it as bad as my wisdom teeth getting pulled? Bad as the time I split the roof of my mouth? Probably not. Did I cry when any of those things happened? Well, when I sprained my wrist, I was in 5th grade... and I was a toddler when I split the roof of my mouth... but did I cry because it was painful? No. I cried because I was scared ->-bleeped-<-less. The point is, I hate it when girls say, "Oh, I can't WORK. I'm BLEEDING." It's so pathetic...
Ow. Dude, I kind of have to take issue with that, I'm afraid. If someone laughed off your migranes as "just a headache" and told you to pull yourself together, you'd have something to say about it, right? This is kind of like that.
I've suffered from cripplingly painful periods most of my adult life. I subscribe to the "if you can walk you can work" school of thought but guess what--sometimes I've been so creased up with pain that I couldn't make the 5 minute stroll to get pain pills let alone get to my job. More painful than my migranes? Yep. More painful than the time I was going down the mountain on a sled and a rock bashed through the sled and hit my tailbone? Yep. More painful than some of the times I've been punched? Yep. So painful I throw up, pass out, bite through pencils, contemplate suicide... sometimes for DAYS without a break. Plus dangerously high levels of blood-loss, mid-month bleeds, etc.
And I have no medical diagnosis to wave in front of people. There are a variety of conditions, some of them quite dangerous, which could be causing this but none of the medical practitioners I've talked to have bothered to investigate the symptoms. Why? Because most doctors have the same attitude you do. Silly little girl, fussing over a tummyache.
Quote from: Lokaeign on July 21, 2008, 06:21:59 AM
I've suffered from cripplingly painful periods most of my adult life. I subscribe to the "if you can walk you can work" school of thought but guess what--sometimes I've been so creased up with pain that I couldn't make the 5 minute stroll to get pain pills let alone get to my job. More painful than my migranes? Yep. More painful than the time I was going down the mountain on a sled and a rock bashed through the sled and hit my tailbone? Yep. More painful than some of the times I've been punched? Yep. So painful I throw up, pass out, bite through pencils, contemplate suicide... sometimes for DAYS without a break. Plus dangerously high levels of blood-loss, mid-month bleeds, etc.
And I have no medical diagnosis to wave in front of people. There are a variety of conditions, some of them quite dangerous, which could be causing this but none of the medical practitioners I've talked to have bothered to investigate the symptoms. Why? Because most doctors have the same attitude you do. Silly little girl, fussing over a tummyache.
I'm no doctor, but this sounds like a lot more than normal menstrual cramps. My advice would be to keep trying doctors until you find one who will listen. Chain yourself to the doctor's desk until s/he agrees to run some tests if you must. ;) Joking aside, as you said, it could be the sign of something truly serious. Be a total b**** if you have to, but don't take no for an answer.
I don't really get cramps. Well, I guess I do, but really nothing more than just a dull ache in my gut.
Though I recall getting them really bad during puberty. What helped me then was (if I was at home), to get on all fours on my bed and just sit like that, your stomach hanging above the bed. The uterus points downward and relieves the pain for awhile. Course I suppose in an emergency, you could do this on the floor of a restroom. It really helps.
Lokaeign: Has anyone tested you for PCOS (http://www.4woman.gov/FAQ/pcos.htm#e)?
Quote from: Drik on July 21, 2008, 09:17:04 AM
Lokaeign: Has anyone tested you for PCOS (http://www.4woman.gov/FAQ/pcos.htm#e)?
So far, no-one's tested me for anything. Could be PCOS, could be endo, could be a lot of things... Now I'm moving into middle-age they might pay a bit more attention, but I'm not holding my breath. I'm finding that as I (slowly) persuade my body to move around and put on muscle, the really bad bouts are less frequent.
My sister used to get it real bad. She'd sit in her chair like always, but now with a blanket over her, and one of those heating pads on her stomach. She's playing it up as much as she can, and I know it, but every time she'd get hers, she'd throw up, and it was nasty. The whole day is always what she wants to do (not like that's much different from normal), and anything I had planned is thrown aside. I realize she's in pain, but I also know she's not in as much pain as she looks like she's in. She's a real drama queen, like the founding father of the word. Sorry to rant, but it's true.
I got my first period when I was 10. December 15. The worst day of my life. The first time I got my period, I was crying and crying, and I couldn't figure out why. It was like I was dying or something, but I was in no pain at all. Only now do I realize why I was crying; that was the day that this all started. The day I began to realize I was transgendered. And man, do I wish I could go back and fix it. But anyway, that's my story. Sorry to rant more.
Quote from: The_Unforgiven on July 22, 2008, 03:26:12 AMThe whole day is always what she wants to do (not like that's much different from normal), and anything I had planned is thrown aside. I realize she's in pain, but I also know she's not in as much pain as she looks like she's in. She's a real drama queen, like the founding father of the word. Sorry to rant, but it's true.
I'd like to see anyone try and get away with that in our house... I inherited my physical issues from my paternal grandmother--my mum never had these problems so she assumed I was showing off.
I can relate to the negative feelings around menarche. I didn't cry or feel too broken up, but I wasn't happy. I kind of bought into the idea that I'd get used to it, like I'd get used to all my other gender weirdness. 23 years later and that still hasn't happened.
Can't use tampons, tried, couldn't do it, same with pep-smears. I freaked out. Nightmares and everything... *shudders* As long as my body is not reminding me it's female I'm fine... but that goes beyound reminding me... And yet I'm heavy enough that I end up using nightpads like regular pads. Part of that is also insecurity as well. For them 5 days I can't stand to do any moving around normally and I have to force myself to keep my legs together as I tend to sit with legs spread slightly or crossed normally. Just complete discomfort the entire time... always worried someone notice, etc and there are many times where all I wanted to do was hide at home. I have to force myself to leave the house.
I'm just lucky most of my pain I get within a week before my time of month most of time and not during it usually. When do have it bad have found eating banana's help, or of course pain medication. For a long time I thought I had to carry a purse because of it (which hated) have found a backpack is more suitable and acceptable for both men and women. (Plus can carry all my school or work stuff and snackage in it as well and my computer lol)
I can't use tampons for a few reasons. One, I'm rather small and tight, because I never stick anything in there, so it's quite an effort to get anything in (for medical reasons, of course). Also, whenever anything does go in there, I feel quite strange. Not scared, not disgusted, not nauseous. Just weird. Something just feels wrong about it. Wrong like when you see a dog taking a crap on the side of the road but you think he was a little gray man hunched over. Wrong like when you see a man who's missing an arm or a leg. Wrong like when you have a large splinter lodged into your leg, it doesn't hurt, but you can feel the object embedded into your skin. Just wrong.
I've never had a pap smear. But I'll have to before I start T, I imagine. Or rather, after I start T. I'm not sure which, but because I have a female body, it's going to have to happen eventually. I've had a yeast infection rather recently and I had to stick a plastic device up in there so I could inject medication. That for me was very difficult to do. It really just felt wrong to me to have something lodged into a hole in my body that isn't even supposed to be there.
I don't have to close my legs during my period. You should ask your doctor about that... if it smells or is a flow that heavy, I mean. I don't think any of the boys here like their periods.
My pain is during my period, because blood is coming out of a hole I shouldn't even have. It's like an open injurty. I feel like a wounded soldier who got stabbed in the nuts, except I just keep bleeding and bleeding and bleeding.
As for a purse, I prefer a briefcase. I'm looking for something like this:
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It's actually a doctor's briefcase. They're quite hard to find in this particular style (this one's vintage).
But really, there's no reason to need all that "stuff" when you're out and about. I carry around my MP3 player, my harmonica, my phone (which is on my belt) and my wallet. Most guys don't even carry that much. You won't need a purse/backpack if you carry only what you need. As for school, you can use a messenger bag if you want. That's not a purse.
Well just walking about I don't usually carry anything but whats in my pockets. Going to school, or work I carry a backpack, for school it's good to carry books and my laptop as well as soemthing to snack on and drink so am not spending money at the vending machines. For work I carry my dinner and drink as well as planner, sometimes bring my own coffee grounds because I don't like Maxwell house coffee which they have there.
It also has my bus scedules in it lol. Takes to many dang buses to get where I need to go lol
Otherwise, just carry my phone, wallet, keys and buspass if need it
Ah. Well, men can figure out how to carry a lot of stuff without carrying purses. You could get a fanny pack or something, too. I know I wore a fanny pack for a while, but I'm also not afraid of looking like a "nerd." Mostly because I am one. Or at least I look like one.
Quote from: Elwood on July 26, 2008, 11:26:53 PM
Ah. Well, men can figure out how to carry a lot of stuff without carrying purses. You could get a fanny pack or something, too. I know I wore a fanny pack for a while, but I'm also not afraid of looking like a "nerd." Mostly because I am one. Or at least I look like one.
fanny pack? Yuck...
Prefere my nice black eastport backpack. Very rugged looking just like I like it :)
Haha. I don't like backpacks because they're terrible for the spine. Yeah, I really am into spine health. It's the foundation of your body, after all.
I had the fanny pack for a very short time, and it was black. It was more like a pouch, as it wasn't the "official" fanny pack. It was square shaped and went onto my belt. But in essence, it was the same general idea. I'd keep all kinds of ->-bleeped-<- in it. Then I realized I didn't need this.
-shrug- I don't consider myself "less rugged" because I chose a more convenient carrying method. Not that I want to be rugged. I consider myself the intellectual type.
Yeh, considering I have back problems probably doesn't help my back either lol. But it's better than what I used to carry around. More evenly balanced, and does build a bit of muscle in places I need it.
I like to carry a briefcase in my left hand because I'm trying to build the strength on my left arm. I'm ambidextrous but my left arm is not very strong, so I make it do most of the work.
Yeh, am trying to loose some of the blub on the belly... though downpoint of that is that it would make my chest more noticable than already is lol
I actually need to gain some weight in my gut. I don't have big hips but I do have a really small waist and that gives me quite a curve.
Ok think we got side tracked from the topic lol
But yeh. my problem is the hips and the chest, otherwise think be ok
I hate periods. Every time I have one day where I'm completely crippled by cramps for at least an hour before whatever pills I down take any effect. One time I was down for four hours, nearly screaming in pain half the time. But I guess that was my fault because I refused to take pills until the third hour.
Tampons, ugh. They're fine going in, but coming out, god it felt so gross and wrongwrongwrong. Never again will I use a tampon except if it's an emergency.
As for you two and your purse/backpack discussion, anyone ever heard of pockets? ;D Men's jeans have humongous pockets for a reason haha. I put everything in there, but then again all I carry is iPod, cellphone, money, gum.
Yeh, well I do that too. But I tend to carry when not needing anything for work or school, wallet, phone, buspass, STP thing sometimes a few folded bus scedules.
Kinda like cargo shorts lol
Thing I have this bad habit from the scouts of not liking to leave much behind that might need lol
I love clothes with masses of pockets. I have umpteen pairs of combats for this very reason. (That, and they hide my gawdawful physique.)
yeh, and forgot to include. I have another bad habit of not eating before leave the house. If that happens I do tend to grab the backpack and stuff some snackage in it lol
Hey, if you are guys, then suck it up and play through the pain, just like other guys do. Granted that might not be the pain they have, but still, whine, whine, whine. Take it like a man.
That's one thing I miss about my male clothes...the deep pockets :)
Quote from: Lokaeign on August 22, 2008, 03:19:05 PM
I love clothes with masses of pockets.
I'm a really active girl and don't like to carry a purse or a lot of crap, so I'm always trying to stuff my money, necessary credit/bank cards, keys, and phone into the pockets in my pants. Most times it's just too much stuff for the tiny pockets so I end up just carrying my phone in one hand and my keys in the other, lol.
The one skirt I have that I feel okay in is an octopus skirt with about 8 pockets.
I like a good bag myself, I have to carry my cell phone (with EZ access) a day runner or at least some sort of calendar, a pen, a leatherman, my wallet, sunglasses, and a book. At the VERY LEAST. I can't hold all that in my pockets, even guys pockets.
Quote from: tekla on August 22, 2008, 04:38:28 PM
Hey, if you are guys, then suck it up and play through the pain, just like other guys do. Granted that might not be the pain they have, but still, whine, whine, whine. Take it like a man.
Just because you're a man doesn't mean you're obligated to be the stereotypical buff, never-complains, gets dirty, fixes cars kinda man. I highly doubt that if you were put through some of the menstrual cramp pain that some people go through, that you could "take it like a man."
Quote from: SarahR on August 22, 2008, 04:43:15 PM
Most times it's just too much stuff for the tiny pockets
Gah! I remember having puny pockets in girls' jeans. That was extremely annoying. Or the fact that although I wanted tight jeans, the tightness would basically reveal every little thing that I was carrying. ::)
Quote from: tekla on August 22, 2008, 04:38:28 PM
Hey, if you are guys, then suck it up and play through the pain, just like other guys do. Granted that might not be the pain they have, but still, whine, whine, whine. Take it like a man.
I've held off responding to this but I REALLY don't like this comment. I've just described symptoms upthread that result in being immobilisied and suffering suicidal ideation. Curling up on the floor because you can't crawl to the bed, kind of pain. Looking at the packet of pain-pills and contemplating scarfing down the whole thing because you can't go through this another month, kind of pain. Losing so much blood you overbleed a tampon and a night-time pad inside of an hour, feeling weak and dizzy and getting anemic all the time. Being unable to benefit even from your cruddy over-the-counter pain relief (which is all you'll get, since doctors also buy into the whiny-woman myth) because you're throwing up all the time. I realise there's no point my actually writing any of this, because anyone still trotting out the whiny-woman line has already ignored more than one description of acute dysmenorrhea, but hope springs eternal.
Oh, and by the way: A guy with a uterus is--mirable dictu--still at risk for all the health issues that a woman with a uterus has. A womb doesn't suddenly become a Chuck Norris-esque bag of masculine fortitude, immune to cysts, cancer, endo, fibroids, infections, etc. simply because it happens to be located in a male body. Serious period pain can often be a symptom of some dangerous, maybe potentially fatal, medical condition. It can also be entirely treatable, so ordering someone to "tough it out" month after month, year after year, and implying that he's not a real guy if he doesn't, is quite cruel. Especially if he may end up haemorraging on the bathroom floor one day from a burst uterine cyst, or dying from a cancer that could have been arrested with early treatment.
I'm gonna say it again: I hate the period.
I have yet another reason to hate it. I can't do anything upside down during the bleeding part of the period. Doctors say it's really bad. So I can't do certain things in yoga...
i feel like a bitchy whiny baby sometimes... but i left school early today because of mine. i had uber cramps over the weekend and i was bleeding hard core and just couldnt take it at school. no GOOD reason for me to come home... but it just pisses me off so bad. im effing gushing bloodout of a hole that shouldnt be there!!!! how traumatized would any "real" guy be if he started shooting blood out of his penis?
I hear ya' my brother. Getting ready to start mine and I dread it. Not to mention I turn into a dang cry baby and b**ch within a week before it going all way through it.
Last night it was the dread and hate of having to go through this after what seemed only a short time of normalcy that had me frecking crying.
Getting ready to start mine and not looking foward to it...I'm just thanking God that it's happening before Halloween though and not on Halloween
I hope mine ends before my Birthday and Halloween. But I don't expect it to. Last several years seems to always fall on my birthday which is day before halloween
blargh... i wish mine was at least predictable.
Quote from: Chet on October 21, 2008, 09:03:17 PM
blargh... i wish mine was at least predictable.
me too. really sucks when you've got no idea if or when it'll happen.
A week or so before the dreaded "time of the month," I sortof turn into a jerk. It's no good, because I'm mean to people I'm close to, and then just a couple seconds later, I'm like, "Wtf did I say that for?"
Anyway, I'm experiencing it now, and it actually did something good for me! This guy I know who's prone to making unintentionally transphobic comments said something about an FTM having "lesbian sex." When I tried to say, "It's not lesbian sex if one of the people is a guy," he was like, "Well if it was videotaped, and then they showed it to someone who...uh...didn't know, that person would call it lesbian sex." He knew what was wrong with that statement, but he just wants to invalidate my gender identity because he's about 5'3 and I'm 5'6 or 5'7, and he has a Napoleon complex.
Usually, I would just keep arguing and being logical. But the emotions came pouring in, and I said, while walking away, "I'm seriously going to punch you in the ****ing face, you need to stay over there."
I didn't see the look on his face, but I have a feeling it was priceless. >:-)
For the first time in my life, I actually have a reason to like having my period. I just got it yesterday, which means it will be gone before Halloween! I'm real happy about that because this is the only time of year I get to be a boy without too many crazy looks (I'm not out at my school yet, so I can't bind.) and it kinda sucks to have your period reminding you all day.
My time of month has been screwy. And I can't always tell when have it because for one I don't always realize my emotions are high because of it, 2 it happens different times each month, and to make things worse it lasts for an unknown amount of time. I've had it last between 4 days up to over a week. So even starting yesterday or today doesn't mean will be completely gone by my birthday.
Yesterday I got pissed at my brother and usually I don't think I would've got pissed if it hadn't been for PMSing. My family (all of them) usually piss me off anyway so I don't know if it was anything different. I act like such a typical girl when my family makes me mad and I try real hard to stop. It seems like when I'm angry I act the girliest..I wish I could stop that
i act girly too when im mad. when im mad i start to cry.
Same here..but I usually have to be super saiyan pissed before I cry..it's hard to keep from crying though when super mad
Same here. Cry when mad, though not only thing do when mad. I have quite a temper lol
lol i look the maddest when im just kinda mad... then after im really mad i get silent and get out. when im the worst it turns to irrational crying.
Anyway, back to the topic... I also have a problem when I don't know when they're going to start or end. I used to have them at the end of the month, but once it just jumped back to the 1st day of the month, and it's been inching backwards ever since. This is my period for November.
And they last a long time, too. Once I had one that lasted 2 weeks.
Quote from: Emme on November 04, 2008, 09:35:57 AM
Orgasm can help with cramping.
It usually helps with me but sometimes it's made it worse..but when it works I feel a little better. Anything for cramp relief though
Quote from: Godot on November 04, 2008, 03:16:54 PM
Quote from: Emme on November 04, 2008, 09:35:57 AM
Orgasm can help with cramping.
It usually helps with me but sometimes it's made it worse..but when it works I feel a little better. Anything for cramp relief though
Same here. Usually makes it worse. :-\ But if it works for you, that's great. (Lucky duck. ;)) Only thing that works for me is massive amounts of Ibuprofen. Sometimes as much as 4 OTC pills in the morning, (which is equivilent to 1 prescription-strength) followed by 1-2 pills every 4 hours whether I need it or not. That usually keeps me relatively pain-free all day.
Yeh I know sounds crazy. Or maybe not but old home remedy my stepmother told me is eatng bananas LOL they do help some actually but I don't do that much. Probably because I don't eat the rest of them when time of month done lol
Quote from: Emme on November 08, 2008, 10:59:35 AM
Bananas are high in potasium, so maybe there's a link with that?
I read somewhere where fruit has vitamins and stuff in it that can reduce cramps but I haven't tried it yet. I'm sure it can't hurt.
Quote from: Godot on November 08, 2008, 04:45:48 PM
Quote from: Emme on November 08, 2008, 10:59:35 AM
Bananas are high in potasium, so maybe there's a link with that?
I read somewhere where fruit has vitamins and stuff in it that can reduce cramps but I haven't tried it yet. I'm sure it can't hurt.
<butts in>
Was it so called "Chaste Tree berry"?
<runs away>
EDIT:
It's known by the names: Agnus Castus, Chasteberry, Cloister Pepper, Monk's Berry, Monk's Pepper, Vitex, Vitex agnus-castus
Quote from: Drug DigestChaste tree berries are approved by the German Commission E (the German governmental agency that evaluates the safety and effectiveness of herbal products) for normalizing irregular menstrual periods and relieving PMS symptoms such as bloating, breast tenderness, and moodiness.
Quote from: Flan Princess on November 08, 2008, 05:00:16 PM
Quote from: Godot on November 08, 2008, 04:45:48 PM
Quote from: Emme on November 08, 2008, 10:59:35 AM
Bananas are high in potasium, so maybe there's a link with that?
I read somewhere where fruit has vitamins and stuff in it that can reduce cramps but I haven't tried it yet. I'm sure it can't hurt.
<butts in>
Was it so called "Chaste Tree berry"?
<runs away>
o.o?
Eurgh, periods are awful... fortunately I'm used to/resigned to them now, I know how to deal with them without too much hassle.
And they have gradually been getting lighter and shorter in the past year to 18 months... they were thoroughly dreadful for the first 3 years. :s
Supposed to start 'T' soon but of course the monthly flow decided it had to rear it's head right before I start lol. How long does 'T' take to stop the flow usually? and anyone ever started in the middle of their time of month?
took about two/three months to stop for me. it depends.
I get so incredibly annoyed by my period. It's like, this shouldn't be happening to me, it isn't fair, I shouldn't even have these stupid parts. I get horribly PMS'y and depressed and just want to hide in my room ignoring everyone until it's over. I can't go on the pill either because of something about blood clots...I forgot what the doctor said now :P I was on the depo jab for years just to stop the bloody thing (no pun intended), but then my doctor told me it was giving me brittle bones and made me come off it :'(
Quote from: J.T. on December 15, 2008, 07:36:06 PM
took about two/three months to stop for me. it depends.
The same for me pretty much..