Hi all. I'm glad to have found this place!
I guess I am like most here so I will spare you the details because you know them I am sure. But I am a lifelong transgendered and a sissy. Have wanted to be a girl every since I can remember. Played with dolls and played house with the girls at a very young age.
Later I began getting into my sister's undies. I am lucky in that I have a sister who is just a year older than me, so we were close in size. Like many of us I got caught at it by both my sister and my mother. My mother did not give me any grief about it because it was very obvious that was the way I was -- a sissy. My sister was mad at first because I was getting into her stuff but she was cool about it too. She actually gave me some hand-me-downs that not only included undies, but also other clothes like dresses, skirts, shorts, shoes and tops that she no longer wanted. She lives about 15 miles from me and I still love her so much to this day for being like that.
You may be asking, what about your dad? Well he was not much of a factor in my life. He was not a bad guy; he just did not have anything to do with any of his kids. He went to work then hit the bars or did stuff with his buddies and not his family. He never took me to ballgames, fishing or anything like that. If my mother told him what I was caught at he probably then wanted less to do with me. So I hung around with my mom and sisters and learned how to cook and clean and sew and stuff like that. But I was quite good at it!
Most of my friends back then were girls and that seemed to be the case throughout my life and even today I have mostly women friends. I don't hang out with any guys.
Growing up, I did have one close sissy friend named Timmy and we would go up into this apartment on the third floor of his house in our early teens and "play house." It was there that we would dress up and we would also get nakie in bed and hug and kiss like two sissies. Later, a couple of boys joined us and, well, I guess I had better talk about that further in the sexuality area of the forum!
I have always been attracted to both sexes and have always been submissive to both. That went on until I met my wife to be a few years after college graduation. I am so lucky! She is beautiful and fit and strong-willed. I did not tell her all about me until after we were married but she knew because I was so submissive to her in every way. She loves me for that because apparently -- and she has never talked much about this -- she was in a relationship where a guy was abusive to her. And she swore that that would never happen again.
So she is the dominant partner and I am her girl. I am quite girlie, but I have never had a strong desire to put on a wig and dress and go out into public. I have always just been me. I dress in girl's clothes that I can get away with. Like right now I am wearing girl's short denim shorts and a girl's sleeveless top and flipflops. Quite girlie, but I can walk into Wal-Mart like that. I am shaved smooth all over.
I am so lucky that my wife loves me for the way I am because there are those of us who are nowhere near that fortunate. And some have even been divorced over that. But my wife leads the way in all things and I do the housework and take care of money, car and other matters for her. That gives her time for her leisure activities and she loves that. Her friends have husbands who try to control them -- one recently divorced her husband because of that very thing.
My wife is the opposite of me. She has a lot of male friends and is always going to dinner with men. And she goes out dancing and to clubs with other men because I do not dance at all. I am so bad at it. She works out with men too. As far as I know she just loves the company of real men and she has not be unfaithful. But I have told her that if she needed to have sex with a real man that it was her call.
This is my intro. If I think of anything else I will add it here. And if you have any comments or questions, I would be happy to address them.
stevie
Quote from: stevie on July 13, 2006, 09:25:52 AM
Growing up, I did have one close sissy friend named Timmy
Define...SISSY..... for me please?
Chynna White
Well I know sissy means different things to different people.
What I mean by sissy is those of us who are girlie and submissive in almost all ways.
When I say it I don't mean it to be derogatory, but I remember growing up when there were boys who were mean to me and called me "sissy" as a slur, as well as fairy and ->-bleeped-<-got.
stevie
How about:
Quote from: from our WikiBecause of its origins in a feminine nickname, sissy is also a pejorative for a boy or man to indicate or imply that he is like a sister, that is, effeminate and fails to behave according to the traditional male gender role. Generally, it implies a lack of the courage and stoicism which are thought important to the male role. It might also imply interests seen as strikingly un-masculine. This pejorative may be given to anyone as an insult. Several variations, such as "sissy boy" or "sissy baby", exist and any term can become pejorative or insulting if preceded by sissy and applied to a boy or a man. Sissy is the male converse of tomboy, but has none of the latter's positive connotations. Even amongst gay men, behavior thought of as sissy or camp produces mixed reactions. Some men reclaim the term for themselves; see also genderqueer.
For some, sissy takes on more specific meanings in the transgender and infantilist communities.
And welcome Stevie.
Steph
Kewl Babes!!!
Sorry,
It's that time of month!!LOL
all the time
Chynna
And welcome ;D ;)
Hi and welcome to Susans Stevie ;D
Welcome Stevie, Great intro with loads of info. Could not really tell how old you are.
It must be great having family members and an SO that are supportive.
Your comments about your father sound familar to me. My dad didn't bother with me, he was always too busy sitting on a bar stool. The only time I'd see him was to go to the bar and then I'd be hassled by his buddies... you see back in the 60's and 70's you could get away with hair half way down your back if you called yourself a hippy. I tried hiding my femme self back then where maybe you didn't.
Think you found the right place and should find answers to lots of your questions
Lynn
i am a young 50
i say that because people tell me i look far from 50, on the younger side that is!
can you post your photo here, by the way?
stevie
Yes you can. Go here (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,3106.0.hml) for the info on that.
Go here (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html) for the info on when you can do that.
Steph
P.S.
Do not make trivial posts just to increase your post count.
Welcome, Stevie!
It sounds as if you've built yourself a life that works for you. Good for YOU!
I'll be looking forward to read more posts from you. Again,
WELCOME ! ! ! :D
helen
welcome stevie, glad you found somewhere you can ask questions and share what's going on for you.
QuoteBut I have told her that if she needed to have sex with a real man that it was her call.
wow, i'm not sure if i would ever be able to say that to my wife under any kind of circumstance. i'm sure that she loves you very much and wouldn't dream of doing that. are you certain that you would be ok with that and no resentments held?
again, welcome!
Tino
Welcome Stevie; I think you'll find a lot of support, understanding & kindness here. It is a pretty great community. I am Wolfie's SO (Significant Other) & I think he knows I dont have any desire to sleep w any "real" anybody but him. I have seen all kinds of relationships work.
QuoteAs far as I know she just loves the company of real men and she has not be unfaithful.
it sounds like u have a pretty great relationship that is working for both of u. Thanks for your contrubutions. See ya around :)
~Spike
Welcome to Susans Stevie.
Melissa
Quote from: wolfie on July 14, 2006, 03:17:24 AM
wow, i'm not sure if i would ever be able to say that to my wife under any kind of circumstance. i'm sure that she loves you very much and wouldn't dream of doing that. are you certain that you would be ok with that and no resentments held?
how would I feel? I don't know. But what I do know is that she must love me very much as you say because she is OK with my lifestyle and loves me in spite of the way I am and also because of the way i am.
we did cross one bridge when she asked me years ago if she could go out dancing at a club with a male co-worker. I said sure. I actually know the guy and i like him. He's cool. She's has gone out to dinner with men, some i know and some i do not. she travels some for her job and i am sure she has had interaction with men. i am sure that so far she has remained loyal, but i do know that she loves to be around men. i can't fault her for that. i mean i have fantasies about men too but have remained loyal to her. i have not messed around with a man since i was in college, long before i even met her.
stevie
thank you for answering that stevie and with great honesty.
tino
Sorry I have not posted. Just got back from a trip.
But anyways, I was wondering just how many of us here are married? And how do you deal with it? Is there a forum hear for that?
I will look around since I am new and have not checked out ever part of the site.
stevie
Posted at: July 31, 2006, 09:56:05 AM
oh my gosh i am so silly.
just found the section on signicant others and it is so prominantly displayed! i will check it out.
stevie
Oops I missed you before Stevie!
Welcome to Susan's! It's great having you here!
tinkerbell
Hi Stevie
Welcome.... I missed this when you posted so I am catching up now.
A young 50... good to hear as I am only 5 years away... At least I have something to look forward to!
Buffy
hello Stevie and welcome to susans
and hey dont sell yourself short ;)
jaded
Hello Stevie,
I am just catching up too. Welcome to Susan's. Be sure to check out the Reference Library and the WIKI. Lots of good information there. I am happy for you that you have a very understanding wife. As you mentioned, not all of us here are this fortunate. I am in my early 40's and never been married. I too am girlie and I do most of the things at home that a typical housewife would do such as cook, clean, sew, do laundry, iron clothes, etc. I hope I will meet my soulmate someday if she still exists out there somewhere. I am sure you will meet many new friends here. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask anytime. Again Welcome! :angel:
Hugs,
Shannon
stevie:
Girl Welcome to sussan's, i just got around catchig up with some of the posts, so again welcome stevie and is good to hear that Transgendered /transexual people have an understanding significant other, am glad for both of you and wish you the best. We'll be chating soon girl!
Sheial18