I figured this was the closest board for this topic, but for anyone in the UK... there's a show on BBC Radio 4 this morning at 9am and again tonight at 9:30pm called Between Ourselves which, in this episode (http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/betweenourselves/pip/9uoz7/), the host talks to two spouces of Transsexuals and discusses how they coped with their partner's transition.
I thought it would be interesting to listen to. And it may be on the BBC's Listen Again feature after the show. If so, I'll see if I can find the link. :)