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Cindi
I am already working on everything, except relationships. I am open to one now but not actively seeking out a partner. That is the one thing that will change after SRS. Everything else will pretty much be the same. Bills to pay, people to see, and things to do.
What will I do?
You'll be reading it someday. Literally.
Someday you'll all have The Complete Works of Nero [last name] on your shelves.
Nero
I'm already trying to live my life to my fullest. Sure, there are a few things I can't do until after SRS, there's no reason I can't start doing what I want now.
After surgery, I won't have the fear of wearing certain clothes that make my birth sex obvious. I won't have to feel uncomfortable with being intimate. I won't have to be afraid of being seen naked. I won't have to spend as much $$$ on hormones. I won't have to have an 'M' on my birth certificate or Social Security. I won't have to tell employers that I'm TS. I won't have to fear hate crimes just because I'm TS. I will finally be able to feel like all of the physical transition is over (I know there's mental adjustment).
Other than that, I can pretty much do what I want now.
Melissa
Quote from: cindianna_jones on July 20, 2006, 11:16:50 AM
Tinkerbell, I stand in awe for your compassion to adopt. I wish you only the best. I want to know when you do so I can send a shower gift. Okay?
Cindi
You're such a sweet lady, :angel: Cindi...thank you! and yes, I'll make sure to let you know when it happens which I hope it does...
tinkerbell :icon_chick:
What will i do?...
I shall carry on living my life as I'm living now. To it's fullest. I realize that there are probably going to be some changes to face, but what they are I don't know and right now frankly Scarlet I don't give a damn :)
Oh one thing, one thing, I almost forgot... At the gym where I go they gave me my own change room and shower. I can look forward to being desegregated :)
I guess the next biggest thing to look forward to is old age (boy, am I exciting) and ya know something, we don't hear too much about from our more senior women and the problems they encountered in old age.
Steph
Quote from: Steph on July 20, 2006, 02:16:03 PM
I guess the next biggest thing to look forward to is old age (boy, am I exciting) and ya know something, we don't hear too much about from our more senior women and the problems they encountered in old age.
What do you mean? We're hearing you right now.
(Runs and hides to avoid a pummelling.)
Melissa
Don't want SRS
But A very interesting read\thread........
just wanted to state that and say there's always something else!
Chynna
PS Melissa...Steph is going to get you! :icon_invision: :icon_punch:
Besides I like to think Steph gets more refined not older aint that right Steph
Quote from: Melissa on July 20, 2006, 02:19:11 PM
What do you mean? We're hearing you right now.
(Runs and hides to avoid a pummelling.)
Melissa
Ha, ha, ha, you had better run and hide little one, but I'll a finda ya and when I do... "One of these days, Alice. Pow! Right in the kisser!"
Jackie Gleason. :P
Steph
P.S. Yes that's right Chynna you can move to the front of the class, Melissa...out side in the rain.
Steph, we know how old you are and you look stunning for your age. ;)
Now, can I come back in? I'm soaked. :)
Melissa
Quote from: Melissa on July 20, 2006, 02:31:29 PM
Steph, we know how old you are and you look stunning for your age. ;)
Now, can I come back in? I'm soaked. :)
Melissa
Ok, ok, even though some may consider that a backhanded compliment you can come it.
Steph
:angel: TEACHERS PET :angel:
VS.
:icon_lol: CLASS CLOWN :icon_lol:
Which one to be today! :eusa_doh:
Write! Write! and then more writing! After that, maybe start thinking about that post-hole digger degree...
Chaunte
Quote from: cindianna_jones on July 20, 2006, 11:35:11 AM
If God created me, some day we will sit down together with a cold Margarita.
And then I'll give him a chance to explain the joke.
Cause, I sure didn't catch the punch line in this life.
Ya know, even in the darkest throes of dispair, when I'm crying into my pillow over the hopelessness and futility of all this... my mind's eye so often looks down and catches a glimpse of the utter absurdity of it all... and the sobbing slowly turns into a messy, snot-dripping, eyes-watering laughter... which makes me laugh all the more at the insanity and joy of being human.
My music is my all consuming.....
It has kept me alive and going all my life in its diffrent flavors and forms...
Its like I heard the sirens song calling my name... and ever sence Ive never been the same.
my soul is taken, life no longer my own, can you hear the sirens song in the place you call home?
< I know thats crummy but Im tired :P >
Quote from: LynnER on July 21, 2006, 04:04:57 AM...
< I know thats crummy but Im tired :P >
Actually I quite liked that.
Quote from: Steph on July 20, 2006, 02:16:03 PM
I guess the next biggest thing to look forward to is old age (boy, am I exciting) and ya know something, we don't hear too much about from our more senior women and the problems they encountered in old age.
Steph
And it will come soon enough, Steph.
You asked for input from our more senior women. At 69, I certainly qualify. (Is there anyone at Susan's older than I am?)
My chapter in Tracie O'Keefe's book "The Real Me..." (or some, such, title ... I'm not at home to check) is about this very question What comes after transition, with or withut surgery)?
My basic answer is that, as a woman (or a man), life still has to be lived. Life is a journey, not a destination. There will always be things to learn, things to do, challenges to overcome. As we get older, though, we hope the everyday challenges lighten up a bit.
My particular answer seemed to be transactivism. 3 Boards (NTAC, TAVA, and TNET) and 2 media chairs. Last night was an NCTE Board of Advisors teleconference. That plus a husband kept me busy in semiretirement. Had to drop some (but not my husband) when I was called back to full time work.
I think many transfolk reach the point of wanting to pay back the community for support we have received. Someone can always use a figurative or literal hand.
Robyn
Go swimming without worrying about anything popping out. At least not popping out downstairs.
Cindi,
Should that fortunate day arrive? I will most certainly be quite busy defending the rights of Transgendered people. It is my intention to go to law school and become a lawyer and dedicate my career to protecting and advocating for the rights of transgendered people. It combines two of the things that I have always wanted to do. Have a career as a woman, and becoming a lawyer. I have never really been into the need to have material wealth, so I can work a lot cheaper than most lawyers would be willing to work. I hope to go to work for one of the California organizations that defends the rights of transgendered people, as a transwoman lawyer.
My wife thinks this is a most noble cause and I could help some people who really need it, someone who understands them.
Love always,
Elizabeth
Quote from: Elizabeth on July 22, 2006, 01:59:10 AMIt is my intention to go to law school and become a lawyer and dedicate my career to protecting and advocating for the rights of transgendered people.
You go girl! :)
Myself, I will likely go back to college and study... something. :D Haven't decided on a major. But this time it'll be with the goal of getting a degree. Meanwhile hopefully I will find Mr. or Ms. Right and start a life together.
Quote from: reikirobyn on July 21, 2006, 06:00:32 AM
And it will come soon enough, Steph.
You asked for input from our more senior women. At 69, I certainly qualify. (Is there anyone at Susan's older than I am?)
My chapter in Tracie O'Keefe's book "The Real Me..." (or some, such, title ... I'm not at home to check) is about this very question What comes after transition, with or withut surgery)?
My basic answer is that, as a woman (or a man), life still has to be lived. Life is a journey, not a destination. There will always be things to learn, things to do, challenges to overcome. As we get older, though, we hope the everyday challenges lighten up a bit.
My particular answer seemed to be transactivism. 3 Boards (NTAC, TAVA, and TNET) and 2 media chairs. Last night was an NCTE Board of Advisors teleconference. That plus a husband kept me busy in semiretirement. Had to drop some (but not my husband) when I was called back to full time work.
I think many transfolk reach the point of wanting to pay back the community for support we have received. Someone can always use a figurative or literal hand.
Robyn
Thanks so much Robyn.
Steph
To be perfectly honest and to make my womanly life complete, I will not be requiring SRS. That is something that I have thought about for a lot of years, and either way it won't make much of a difference. For me at least it doesn't matter what's between my legs, but how I present myself, and I am quite pleased with that. My fiancee is also quite happy with me as I am as well.
Gina :)
Quote from: cindianna_jones on July 20, 2006, 02:02:58 AM
So, the anticipated event has come and passed. You've seen the doctor and Mr. Johnson has retired. Your GRS is complete. The single most pressing issue in your life has been supposedly and finally resolved.
What's next. What will be your next all consuming thing? To what will you employ your passion and your life's thrust?
Are you planning for that? Or, are you working on it already?
Cindi
Ooo...another tough and tricky question. (NOTE: I decided to give my answer 'blind', without first reading the other responses. Maybe after reading them I'll want to post another response, no?)
I think my answer is, "Life goes on." I imagine that there will be an initial period of elation that I 'made it'... But pretty soon routine would reassert itself, and I'd go about my days going to work, going home, shopping for groceries, visiting with friends, etc. -- all the normal life stuff. But the difference would be I'd be addressed as ma'am, and in the majority of interactions I would be seen and treated as a female member of the human race.
Parenthetically, one of the girls in SGA said that she'd built several computers, both before and after transition. She knew she'd been accepted as female when the sales-droids no longer talked up the technology and started pointing out to her the color of the case and the coolness of the graphics...
Some problems won't go away. The same alpha-predator-males that now give me a ration because I let some 'effeminate' trait slip will continue to play their power games if and when they 'read' me. And if they don't read me, I'm sure to be treated by them as a second-class just-a-woman. So, that won't really change.
What do I expect to be better, to make it all worth while? When I had my epiphany and accepted that I was truly transsexual and desirous of complete transition, a huge tension in my life -- always there, but I could never before identify the source -- was almost instantaneously reduced. And as I proceed through transition, I note that the remnants of that tension continue to subside and that my feelings of joy, peace and contentment with my life continue to increase.
This SO feels like the right thing to do
Karen
Quote from: BrendaQG on July 21, 2006, 10:29:09 PM
Go swimming without worrying about anything popping out. At least not popping out downstairs.
LOL
Love it!!! Honest and to the point...
LMAO
Chynna
Actually Cindi, You have hit it right on for me. I had surgery two years ago and I'm kind of at a loss. I have been retired but my passion for many years has been ->-bleeped-<-,whether it was out in the open or just me looking up term or crossdressing all my life. Now I'm who I have wanted to be all my life and I don't have a hobby or anything to fill time. I got a job as a school bus driver and its fun but I see it getting boring in a couple of years. I'm not worried about money as I have a very good pension and I also have save over the years. So finacially I'm pretty good, not rich, just good. I have done the volunteer work and I'm still doing it. Well, I guess I need a hobby.
Sheila