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So, what's your sexual orientation?

Note: I detest the term 'pansexual' and that's why it's not included. Seems the word was invented just to include transpeople. If one also dates TG men and women, then straight, gay, or bi should suffice.

Questioning.

When I was living as a straight female I was attracted to men and married one.  Was it that I admired men and dated men I wanted to be like?  Who knows?  Fodder for my therapist.

Now that I'm starting transition I am NOT attracted to men sexually really any more, but do find myself looking at women a LOT.  I never considered myself a lesbian or bi when I was living as a female; the thought of being with a woman sexually as a woman turned me off.  Now I'm not so sure...

My therapist says orientation can be fluid; she also says I could just be plain old heterosexual: that as a woman I was attracted to men, and now as a man I'm attracted to women.

I'll have to see when I'm fully transitioned as male and living as male and fully recognized as male by society before I think I'll figure it out.

Jay

99% primarily sexually attracted to female bodied persons
50% attracted to female minded persons
50% attracted to androgyne/transgendered minded persons
1% attracted sexually to male bodied persons
Not really attracted to bio-males at all.

I disagree with your interpretation of "pansexual", Nero. What if I wanted to date an androgyne or someone else not of a binary gender? To each his own opinion, but I call myself pansexual.

Wow. No gay? I thought like, the majority of FtMs said they were gay. I keep running into gay FtMs. Interesting.

Quote from: Yochanan on July 30, 2008, 02:58:04 PM
I disagree with your interpretation of "pansexual", Nero. What if I wanted to date an androgyne or someone else not of a binary gender? To each his own opinion, but I call myself pansexual.

wouldn't that also qualify as bi? i mean even androgynes have the body or look of one or the other. or both. i'd date a TG person but that doesn't change the fact i'm bi. but yeah, to each his own.

Well, I'm about 99% gay. I've met a couple of in-the-flesh women who really got me going. Tomboy-looking gals with short dark hair. Yum. But I wouldn't have known what to do with them if things had...progressed. I'm just not wired that way.

My orientation does NOT include my appreciation of gorgeous or zorchy screen icons like Barbara Stanwyck, Grace Kelly, Marilyn Monroe, Eleanor Parker, etc. I don't get a sexual turn-on from them. It's more of a psychological or aesthetic thing.

I just bought the Criterion DVD version of THE LADY EVE. Stanwyck is hot. But only for viewing purposes.

I don't fit any of them... i'm not "questioning" i just don't know.  i consider myself pansexual.  HA, got you Nero.   >:D

lol

Put undecided.  I'm still confused when comes to sexuality.

Always identified as "straight" for as long as I can remember. Was always girl craaaaaaaaazy, even as young as kindergarten. Bio guys, sexually, don't turn me on. But I do admire the male body 100%. And have no problem admitting when a man is good looking.

Have never been girl or boy crazy.   Never wanted sex.  Now think about it don;t think ever desired any kind of sexual relationship outside of curiosity.  There are some things I would be more comfortable with yes.  But dono...  Trying to figure out if am Asexual or Gay lol

Posted on: July 31, 2008, 01:52:33 AM

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So if I am ever contradictory on here.. it's only because I either haven't really figured it out yet, not very confident, or in denial lol

not quite sure what to vote... its not really questioning, because i know what i like.  hmm.  not really bi either.

i like:
male bodied guys
female bodied guys
female bodied not girly people

i dont like:
girly men
girly girls

so idk.  up for interpretation.  lol  it appears that im attracted to more masculine people and genitals dont matter.  but they do... im not really fond of the extra hole that female bodied people posses.  hmm...

Quote from: GQjoey on July 30, 2008, 11:56:30 PM
Always identified as "straight" for as long as I can remember. Was always girl craaaaaaaaazy, even as young as kindergarten. Bio guys, sexually, don't turn me on. But I do admire the male body 100%. And have no problem admitting when a man is good looking.

Exactly!

Too crazy over the females.. there is nothing sexier than a female..

I like girly girls!

very straight dude :laugh: :laugh: I aint into dudes  :D

Quote from: Jay on July 31, 2008, 02:27:33 AM

Quote from: GQjoey on July 30, 2008, 11:56:30 PM
Always identified as "straight" for as long as I can remember. Was always girl craaaaaaaaazy, even as young as kindergarten. Bio guys, sexually, don't turn me on. But I do admire the male body 100%. And have no problem admitting when a man is good looking.

Exactly!

Too crazy over the females.. there is nothing sexier than a female..

yep I'm w/my 2 buddies here :laugh: :laugh:  :eusa_dance:

I don't know, I've roomed with girly girls before. Yeah they're HOT but the amount of time it takes them to make themselves LOOK hot is ridiculous. Plus I've seen them with their makeup off and it is not pretty  :D

So I'd say I go for most types of girls, with some wariness when it comes to girly girls.

I've been in love with a couple of guys before (online) but never been attracted to them physically. I like the male body, but not from a sexual standpoint. Sexually, mentally, I LOVE women. So I'm going with straight. I think it's possible for me to love a guy I suppose, but I'd never get in bed with him, so there lies my problem :)

I'm not attracted to people who are high maintenance... guy or girl.

straight, gay and bi don't suffice.

I'm queer.  I date only women, but I recognize and embrace the difference between my relationship and the heteronormative.  Call it anti-assimilationist if you will, but I'm not a straight guy.

Gay. I've been through my bisexual phase and now I fit the "gay" term more. I'm not sexually attracted to women anymore but I could have a romantic relationship with one as long as there was no sex. I'm attracted to men sexually and romantically but I don't want them to see me as a "straight female". I'm asexual and never gonna have sex but if some 0.000001 percent chance I did, it'd be with a guy.

I used to think that I was more bisexual because I do find some women really hot and because...well, there is a twisted logic to this that made sense at the time. I tend to compartmentalize confusing stuff and stuff that I can't properly deal with. So I slept with men, and I saw myself as attracted to people of the same gender. Since I was obviously female on the outside and since I have some attraction to females, I did some kind of transference thing and came to the conclusion that I was bi, maybe 90% attracted to men and 10% attracted to women. I intellectualized my sexual orientation.

The more I saw myself as FTM, the less bi I became. Now that I've broken through the confusing FTM barrier--I don't think that the term FTM is quite adequate, since it implies an inherent femaleness that I don't really feel--and have realized that I'm not really female, I don't feel bi at all. Well, just a tiny bit, one percent. The possibility is there, but I don't think I'll ever act on it.

Such a mess. I have a female body. I've been awash in female hormones all my life, I've been socialized as female. I have quite a number of stereotypically feminine characteristics (although most of them are just roles and perceptions). How can I still feel that I'm a guy? What causes this? I'll bet my chromosomes are XX, too. I just don't get it.

I like things to be neat and logical. It drives me nuts when they aren't.

I am the straight option.  Anything else and I would be very uncomfortable.