I finally told my 15 yr old son this weekend that I was ts and he had a very positive reaction ot it which totally blew me away. He didn't get upset and he told me no matter what I looked like I would always be his dad, even if, I transitioned and became a woman. I was so afraid of telling him, that I have been on this rollercoastter of transitioning not transitioning. I was afraid that I would lose him, or turn his life upside down.
It was such a great relief to be able to tell him, and for him to react the way he did. I now only have finances holding me back from tranisyioning fully, but I trully belive that everything will work out and I can finally make my outside match my insides in time, but for right now will continue hrt, and start taking some other steps to make that happen.
I know that he may still react to this at some point. I asked him if he had any questions about how all this works and he said no not right now, he needed to think about it for little while first. I also showed him this sight and told him there was some great information here to help him understand what I would be going through, and also information for him as a child of a ts parent.
I do still have one other obstacle and that is my x wife, she is devout christian and I know after I tell her , she will probably try to have my visitation rights taken away, but my son also said that he would not let his mom prevent him from seeing.
It was an awesome weekend, and when he was getting ready to leave I gave him a big hug, and told him thank you for understanding, he hugged me tight and said dad I love you so much and you are welcome.
I now know that I let fear of telling him run my life for awhile and It was totally unfounded. You can't live your life in fear, have to take risks, without taking risks there is no change, and without change we stay in the same place just floundering away, barely existing.
Hugz to all, and thank everyone here who has supported me.
Ariana
I do still have one other obstacle and that is my x wife, she is devout christian and I know after I tell her , she will probably try to have my visitation rights taken away, but my son also said that he would not let his mom prevent him from seeing.
You might want to talk with your lawyer first, so that at least they are prepared.
*Big Hug* Ariana
That is really awesome! I am so happy for you. What a big weight to be lifted from your shoulders.
And Tekla is right. (she looks up at heaven excepting a lighting bolt ) Ok I guess I wont be smited after all. ;D Talk to a lawyer and get some advice. Protect your right as a parent. Her religious bigotry should not keep you from see your son.
Good Luck and :-* :-*
Mistress Janet