So I've been messing around with a few different names for the past few months, trying to get a feel for one. My girlfriend started calling me Kris about 6 months back, and I liked it, it was way better than my current name (which is girly... VERY girly!). So, I went by Kris to most of my friends for a while, but I just prefered it as a nickname and I cant really see myself being called Kris my whole life.
I tried Reagan for a while as well, because I always have liked that name, but I didn't feel right with that one either. They're both really nice names and I like the way they sound, but they're not me.
The only name I can see myself with is my current one, which wont work out too well when I transition. Then I'll be this guy with this really girly name, and I don't want that.
I've played around with Terry and Kelly and Cody on and off, but I don't see those happening either. I'm just stuck. I hate my current name but its the only one that sounds like my name, ya know? Has anyone else felt like they couldn't give up their birth given names?
I hear all these cool names around me and I think "Wow, that sounds better than the one I have now." So I'll try it out and see if I I like the name, but all of them just feel weird and not me at all. Its not this big humungo issue because I wont be changing my name for a while, but I'm a little worried that I won't be able to give up the name I have now. I don't like it, not in the least, but it just sounds right. Maybe if I get called something else for 17 years it will sound right...
Then there's the middle name... *twitches*
Scotty isn't an option for a name by the way, lol.
I changed my last name when I was 13, and it took a few months before it stopped sounding weird. My advice, is pick a name you really like, and give it a few months' trial. If it still doesn't sound right, then back to the drawing board.
Another thought: Is there a masculine form of your name, or something that sounds similar? Even a masculine form that doesn't sound much like your name might have enough of a connection for you that it wouldn't seem so weird. For instance, my birth name is a distant variant of Jane, which would give me the options of John, Ian, Sean, Shane, Ewan, Giovanni, Hans, Jock, Johan, Vanek, Zane, etc.
Maybe go have a look at the thread "How did you choose your male name?" (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,38960.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,38960.0.html)) in the FTM transsexual section, it might be helpful. And as Jamie-O said, picking either the male version of your name, or just a name you really like, is probably the easiest way to go about it. As I said in aforementioned thread, I'm currently tossing up between Remus and William. I like both, but haven't definitively decided on one yet.
As for my birth name... it's a very girly name, but people who haven't heard it before (which is the majority of the population) don't actually know that, and so if there's nothing to indicate a female name, they automatically assume I'm male (which *is* rather cool 8)). If I had to give it up... it hasn't ever belonged to anyone in my family, so while I really do like it, and appreciate that my parents purposefully chose me a name which wouldn't apply to every second girl at school, I've often felt that it and I aren't *exactly* one and the same. I go by that name, I answer to it, but I don't intrinsically feel "at one" with it all the time. If that makes sense... :-\ As for my middle name, I'm named after my grandmother, but we were never close by any stretch of the imagination, and so again, while I *love* the name (Elizabeth) in its own right, it also isn't really *me*, and so I don't feel any great emotional opposition to losing it.
But yeah, go have a look at this thread, it might give you some ideas...
:) Lutin
Have you tried looking through baby naming books? I would recommend those, one with a larger selection so you have a chance to see more unique names. Everyone else had great suggestions. :) Good luck, and if you need someone to bounce ideas off I'm available almost anytime.
I think baby name books and websites are a good place to start too. I'm currently looking around for a name. It's not that I dislike my birth name so much, but it certainly implies gender and I'd much rather get away from that.
I'm continuously struggling with Daniel. I know the reaction from the rest of my family is going to be extraordinarily unpleasant. It seriously not my fault that Dan's momma picked a cool name for him. :icon_mad:
"Das gasp."
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I was thinking Daniel Jeffrey [Last Name], but last night Daniel James [Last Name] popped into my head. Unfortunately, I got the idea of Jeffrey from Tom Hanks and I got the idea of James from John Belushi's brother. I get these ideas, but they're not directly "named after" them. That's what bugs me. If I tell someone, "the name James as a middle name sounds nice... and well, I got the idea from John's brother," then they'll think I aspire to be like Jim Belushi-- which I don't. He was a sour little biatch and when he joined The Blues Brothers I wanted to assassinate him... In the end, I still think Daniel Jeffrey [Last Name] sounds better.
I also like Ray, which could be a first or middle name. It's inspired by THE Ray:
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But my mom thinks it's inspired by the Ghostbusters Ray:
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Her growing suspicion... because I want to be a comedian, she thinks my whole life is about Dan Aykroyd. To be honest, I am far more inspired by Steve Martin's work... I admit; I love Dan's work, but I am not trying to be him. Seriously. He already used his gigs. I can't use those. They're already taken. To use them would make me a sad imitation. I have to be my own comedian. So I pretty much avoid his style like the black plague, especially since so many people think I "vaguely resemble him." I don't see it. I'm 10 inches too short and many years younger.
I struggle with Daniel. But I really like the name. What sucks is when I was originally making my name, I came up with Daniel Edward [Last Name]. Then later I found that Aykroyd's full name is Daniel Edward Aykroyd. That coincidence made my spine freeze, and I decided to completely avoid that combination.
To be honest, I've always loved the name Peter, and I will proudly and wholeheartedly admit it is inspired by Bill Murray's Peter Venkman.
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But the name doesn't really suit me. People say I'm a Dan. A Dapper Dan. :P
I'm not sure what a masculine form of my name would be... Kris comes pretty darn close to being the only one I can think of. (Just think of that old show called 'Clarissa Explains it All' and you've basically got my name.) I'm not sure how masculine you can make that...
My girlfriend started calling me Kris for some unknown reason. She just started one day and I never bothered to tell her I didn't like it because it was a huge improvement on my actual name. There's a down side to that however, because now she's a little peeved that I don't want Kris to be my new name.
I'm actually doing the whole *face palm* thing because I really never thought of going on baby name sites to look for one. Still, even now as I look through all the J names I'm thinking "These are freaking awesome, but I don't think I'm a Jose` or a Jamal..." I wont lie though, I've found a couple of favorites already. I've started a list of names I want to try out, so that'll probably help speed up the process ;D.
Lutin, I have my grandma's name for a middle name as well. Unfortunatly I am very close to her and I don't want to chuck it out the window, but Faye isn't something most men have for middle names, so I'm in a bit of turmoil about what I am going to do with that.
And Elwood, your pictures from Ghost Busters made me laugh. Good times, good times, lol.
Thanks for helping me out everyone, it was very cool of you.
My mom thinks I'm naming myself after a RETARDED BEE.
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SEE? HIS ANTENNA IS BENT. DURRR.
ARGH.
Has anyone gotten their parents to rename them?
I always thought that if I was a transexual I would ask my folks what they would have called me if I was a woman. Not that I would nessesaraly take their suggestion, but perhaps some parents would appreciate it.
Nicky
I was thinking of doing that, but my mom is too offended by the idea.
And my dad is fine with Daniel. He knows I'm not naming myself after a male prostitute.
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I thought of asking my mom what I would have been named if I were a boy at birth, but wasn't able to bring it up. I remember her telling me a long time ago and I forgot what it was, but I think it was a bit on the corny side anyways. I do remeber though about the bet between my dad and aunt. Something about if I were a boy, she'd have to get dad a bottle of something (forgot what, but it was alcoholic), and if I was a girl dad would have to buy her a bottle. When I transition, I'm planning on making her buy dad two bottles.
Man, another name I love is Elliot. Or Eliot. But it's practically the same name. Lol.
If my parents were accepting and did wish to rename me then I would be Sven, and I'm not fond of that name, lol. But it would still be a cool idea. I know one girl who didn't like the name her parents gave her so she asked them to change it and they did. Not for any gender related reason but just because she didn't like it and didn't feel like it was her name.
... Iunno... I think it would be cool to be named after a male prostitute so long as their name wasn't "Hot Rod" Or something in that general sence. Lol.
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 01, 2008, 08:47:18 PM... Iunno... I think it would be cool to be named after a male prostitute so long as their name wasn't "Hot Rod" Or something in that general sence. Lol.
His name's Fred Garvin. The first male prostitute on TV! ;D (For serious; it was controversial back then in the 70's) It's a fictional character played by Dan Aykroyd, the actor my mom thinks I'm naming myself after.
Quote from: Elwood on September 01, 2008, 08:52:15 PM
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 01, 2008, 08:47:18 PM... Iunno... I think it would be cool to be named after a male prostitute so long as their name wasn't "Hot Rod" Or something in that general sence. Lol.
His name's Fred Garvin. The first male prostitute on TV! ;D (For serious; it was controversial back then in the 70's) It's a fictional character played by Dan Aykroyd, the actor my mom thinks I'm naming myself after.
I don't understand why your mom thinks you're naming yourself after Dan Aykroyd, do you have a mini shrine to him or you're just a big fan of his?
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 01, 2008, 08:59:52 PMI don't understand why your mom thinks you're naming yourself after Dan Aykroyd, do you have a mini shrine to him or you're just a big fan of his?
Lol. I'm a huge fan of his work. I was Elwood Blues for Halloween, one of his original characters. I've also seen... well over half of his films, and I'm still trying to catch up and see the others.
I do impersonations of some of his characters so she thinks I want to be him. Sure, I'd give to have a hot blond wife, and I'd love to have a body like his (was, before he got fat), but don't want to actually be HIM. He's just kind of the sort of person I aspire to be like; a comedian. But there are TONS of comedians out there... Dan's just the only one that people say my impersonations are any good of.
My mom's freaked that I think he's some magical person or something but... I don't know. Dan's almost never fun solo. He always needs a wing man. Then he's funny as all Hell. The extreme contrast makes comedy genius brew. But if there's nothing to compare him to, he just seems so... ordinary. Which is what I like about him.
Bill Murray.
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John Belushi.
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Tom Hanks.
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So I am a bit obsessed with Aykroyd's work. Because I'm a fanboy, my mom thinks I want to be just like him. But really. I don't want to be a fat pothead has-been who likes wine tasting and STILL wishes he was a cop. Yuck. Lol.
Lol, that makes more sense than your mom just randomly picking a guy with the name you like.
I understand what you mean by not wanting to be them but still idolizing them. I'm more of a John Wayne fan myself, he's kind of always been the guy that is pretty amazing in my eyes. I think if I grew up to be an 1/8th of the man he was, I would be doing pretty good.
Love your new picture too, its a good style on you.
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 01, 2008, 10:09:21 PMLol, that makes more sense than your mom just randomly picking a guy with the name you like.
I understand what you mean by not wanting to be them but still idolizing them. I'm more of a John Wayne fan myself, he's kind of always been the guy that is pretty amazing in my eyes. I think if I grew up to be an 1/8th of the man he was, I would be doing pretty good.
Love your new picture too, its a good style on you.
Lol, no, she's not that crazy. She has her reasons. For serious, I love a lot of his ugly wardrobe. But I also love Chevy Chase's ugly wardrobe. I pretty much love all that ugly ->-bleeped-<- from the 70's and 80's. :P
Heheh. Thanks. My mom would say I'm trying to look like Dan, haha. I mean, the hat was Elwood inspired, and Dan used to wear glasses like those. But I swear, that was a coincidence. I got those glasses because they made me think of Poindexter from Revenge of the Nerds.
And that toothpick? Redneck inspired. :)
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Quote from: Scotty72 on September 01, 2008, 10:09:21 PMLol, that makes more sense than your mom just randomly picking a guy with the name you like.
I understand what you mean by not wanting to be them but still idolizing them. I'm more of a John Wayne fan myself, he's kind of always been the guy that is pretty amazing in my eyes. I think if I grew up to be an 1/8th of the man he was, I would be doing pretty good.
Love your new picture too, its a good style on you.
Lol, no, she's not that crazy. She has her reasons. For serious, I love a lot of his ugly wardrobe. But I also love Chevy Chase's ugly wardrobe. I pretty much love all that ugly ->-bleeped-<- from the 70's and 80's. :P
Heheh. Thanks. My mom would say I'm trying to look like Dan, haha. I mean, the hat was Elwood inspired, and Dan used to wear glasses like those. But I swear, that was a coincidence. I got those glasses because they made me think of Poindexter from Revenge of the Nerds.
And that toothpick? Redneck inspired. :)
The 70's and 80's were times of change so stuff had to look kinda crazy every now and then. Its all coming back though, pretty soon everyone's going to be wearing fedora's and blazers again with big black framed sun glasses.
Do rednecks even use toothpicks anymore? I always thought they couldn't be bothered with dental hygiene...
kind makes you look like you're trying to be a tough guy. It all works out in the end, lol.
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 01, 2008, 10:51:13 PM
Do rednecks even use toothpicks anymore? I always thought they couldn't be bothered with dental hygiene...
kind makes you look like you're trying to be a tough guy. It all works out in the end, lol.
If it's not a toothpick it's a stalk of grain! Just kidding, I really don't know if they do. I live in Southern Virginia which has a pretty good share of 'rednecks' and I've spent some time in Kentucky, which can be even worse than where I live sometimes. Gotta agree about the new pic for you Dan, looks great. When I first saw it I went "Whoa..that's kinda hot." :o
But, back on topic, what names have you been considering? Care to post them? :D
Definitely cool photo, Dan. And hot. 8) Very nice.
And yeah, it's hard convincing people of X when they're already pretty much convinced of Y. Good luck, though, mate. Daniel Jeffrey's a nice name, from your photo that does seem like a "you" name, though Daniel James also sounds nice.
And Hot Rod... I don't know, there have been worse names. Talula Does The Hula From Hawaii, Number 16 Bus Shelter...
QuoteI thought of asking my mom what I would have been named if I were a boy at birth...
I would have been a David, I think. And while I have nothing against the name, I just can't see me living as a David. It and I just don't connect...
But yes, as Phate said, have you had any ideas you'd like to share, Scotty? Are you looking for specific meanings, sounds, emotional importance....? :eusa_think:
This is how the small list is going so far:
Riley
Cody
Tyler
Reagan
Ander
Ian
Todd
Terry
I've tried Reagan on and off as well as Terry, but around midnight last night I came across Todd and I liked the sound of it, so I called my friend up, (who has willingly put up with me and my needs and called me every name I ask her to call me), and I told her to call me Todd a couple of times so I could hear how it sounded coming from someone other than me.
I liked it, so I'm gonna run with that one for a little bit to see if I can break it in within a month or so. I've got a couple of my friends calling me it when they remember, but I like it so far. If it doesn't work out I've got a couple of others to fall back on. But that's mainly the few that I like and feel comfortable with.
I'm thinking you're right Phate, it is a bit of grain they usually chew on.
Quote from: Lutin on September 02, 2008, 10:14:20 AMDefinitely cool photo, Dan. And hot. 8) Very nice.
And yeah, it's hard convincing people of X when they're already pretty much convinced of Y. Good luck, though, mate. Daniel Jeffrey's a nice name, from your photo that does seem like a "you" name, though Daniel James also sounds nice.
Thanks. :)
Ian or Todd.
You reeeally look like an Ian to me >_> But, whatever feels better to you, but the two I specified seem to look like you. I dunno it's weird, but I always say somebody looks like a -insert name-, and if they don't look like their name then I'd have a harder time calling them by their name.
Hey Dan
Is it just me or the first thing I think of when I see your mug and the name "Ian" is the radio host Ian Punnett?
(@http://www.fm1071.com/bios/ianpunnett.shtml (http://www.fm1071.com/bios/ianpunnett.shtml))
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I'm loving all the Dan Aykroyd in this thread.
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 01, 2008, 06:21:33 PM
Lutin, I have my grandma's name for a middle name as well. Unfortunatly I am very close to her and I don't want to chuck it out the window, but Faye isn't something most men have for middle names, so I'm in a bit of turmoil about what I am going to do with that.
I dunno, man. There's a southern guy or two with that as a middle (even first, strangely enough!) name.
But then again... faye rhymes with an orientation, and kids are frelling merciless...
Lane
Posted on: September 03, 2008, 05:15:54 AM
I actually changed my legal name a few years back to something more asexual (deny, deny, deny...). Now all I have to do is drop one letter and nobody has to learn a new name, but it's more male lolol
I just thought of something, now I know why you look like a Todd to me. My mom watches those daytime soap operas and there's a guy on one of them and his character is named Todd Manning. You look kinda like him.
Quote from: Flan Princess on September 03, 2008, 12:19:49 AM
Hey Dan
Is it just me or the first thing I think of when I see your mug and the name "Ian" is the radio host Ian Punnett?
(@http://www.fm1071.com/bios/ianpunnett.shtml (http://www.fm1071.com/bios/ianpunnett.shtml))
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It's gotta be the hair, since he's much larger than me. :icon_eek:
My mom saw this picture, and said, "What, is that a picture of you and John Belushi?" (she thought I was Photoshopped in)
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I spazzed. But I realized, it's a blurry picture, and from far away with the hat, I do sort of resemble a blurry picture of a young Dan Aykroyd. I said, "I wish," since the guy, like I said, pretty much had my dream body. Then I told her I'd never wear sweat pants like that. Yuck. But hey, this looks like one of the few pictures ever with his foot exposed; he's got webbed toes. I think either he's wearing a sock or a great deal of light is reflecting off of his foot. Bah, I got a little off topic there...
Quote from: Phate on September 03, 2008, 11:46:40 AM
I just thought of something, now I know why you look like a Todd to me. My mom watches those daytime soap operas and there's a guy on one of them and his character is named Todd Manning. You look kinda like him.
Lol, sweet. Iunno, I thought I looked like a Todd...
that work.
Throughout my life, there have been a few names that keep popping into my head. I've always like "Timeon" for some reason, which I got from a very obscure geek reference.
And I've always said if I had kids (and I really *don't* want kids) I'd name them "Random" and "Chance". :)
I've been debating changing my name, lightly thinking about it. I've always been "Paul". I've talked of changing my name officially to just "Paul" (ie. no middle or last, kinda like "Cher" or "Meatloaf". :) Paul is so definitely male, though, I've been debating trying to come up with a non-descript andro name. Maybe I'll take "Chance" for myself after all. :)
...Paul
Quote from: CryoMax on September 04, 2008, 01:36:31 PM
Throughout my life, there have been a few names that keep popping into my head. I've always like "Timeon" for some reason, which I got from a very obscure geek reference.
And I've always said if I had kids (and I really *don't* want kids) I'd name them "Random" and "Chance". :)
I've been debating changing my name, lightly thinking about it. I've always been "Paul". I've talked of changing my name officially to just "Paul" (ie. no middle or last, kinda like "Cher" or "Meatloaf". :) Paul is so definitely male, though, I've been debating trying to come up with a non-descript andro name. Maybe I'll take "Chance" for myself after all. :)
...Paul
Would Paulie make the name Paul more andro? I've only known a couple of guys with that name, but I can see it going both ways.
Nice new cut Todd (if that's ok I call you it :D)
And yeah, I think Paulie is pretty androgynous, and it's actually a very nice name, rolls off the tongue quite well. :)
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 04, 2008, 10:22:49 PM
Would Paulie make the name Paul more andro? I've only known a couple of guys with that name, but I can see it going both ways.
I wouldn't say so, but I'm from New Jersey, land of the mafia, where "Paulie" conjures up images of a hyper-masculine "family man", and I envision big gold chains, lots of chest hair, and a white suit. :)
The more I've looked at you pic, the more I think "Sean", actually. Although I could easily see you being "Chance" as well. :)
...Paul
Quote from: Phate on September 04, 2008, 11:48:45 PM
Nice new cut Todd (if that's ok I call you it :D)
;D Thank you very much Phate, and Todd is fine, lol.
Quote from: CryoMax on September 05, 2008, 01:47:52 PM
Quote from: Scotty72 on September 04, 2008, 10:22:49 PM
Would Paulie make the name Paul more andro? I've only known a couple of guys with that name, but I can see it going both ways.
I wouldn't say so, but I'm from New Jersey, land of the mafia, where "Paulie" conjures up images of a hyper-masculine "family man", and I envision big gold chains, lots of chest hair, and a white suit. :)
The more I've looked at you pic, the more I think "Sean", actually. Although I could easily see you being "Chance" as well. :)
...Paul
Unfortunatly I have a brother-in-law, a cousin, and an Uncle with that name, so Sean is kind of off limits just to avoid confusion, lol.
We'll see how well Todd is working out, so far its going pretty good though, but its only been like what 4 days?