Hi everyone! This is my first topic outside of my Introduction. I decided upon the first name Sarah for when I attain a legal change a good while ago, but I've been caught on deciding between two possibilities for my middle name.
The first is Jessica. She is a friend of mine who at first pushed me away (or perhaps pulled herself back) when I first came out to her. She was confused by it, and put off. She wouldn't talk to me for some time. But she eventually came around, took interest in learning more, and we came together again as good friends. It was good, too, because I'd been feeling miserable with her not talking to me. I like the idea of having my middle name inspired by her, and upon a legal change, my name would be Sarah Jessica Lewis.
The second name that has come up more recently is Christine. She's another bisexual girl, like me, and she is also a good friend of mine. I care about her a lot... as more than just a friend. She knows this... she likes me too. The way I feel about her, I've never felt before in such strength and nature towards any other boy or girl. It's amazing, and it makes me happy, especially when she is happy herself. I think it sounds nice as well as a middle name: Sarah Christine Lewis.
This is such a tough choice... and I was only curious about what anyone else may think about the names! I know that in the end, it will be my own decision based off of my own conclusive feelings towards the names... but input from others may help shape my journey towards reaching that conclusion, and it's something I welcome. Thanks! :]
Hi Sarah.
I like both of the names Jessica & Christine. Christine is actually my mothers name and I do really like it its very traditional. If I were to pick it would be Christine!
Jay
Finding a name sure can be a challenging thing to do (was for me anyway).
Please don't take what I am going to say as anything against your friends or your thoughts on those two names. You are picking a name that your will be living with for the rest of your life. It is something that, unless you go change it later, you will be living with on every document you fill out. Knowing that relationships are not always permanent and can and do change over time are you prepared to have a name that was inspired by someone that might not have good feeling for you (or you for them) down the road? It should be a name that you are happy with first, after all it is going to be your name. If it also does other things like saying how you feel about a friend that is great, but you have to be happy with it first I think. Just my thoughts. :-X
If you opt for "Jessica", be prepared for people to ask, "Oh ... like Sarah Jessica Parker?"
I'm not trying to discourage you, just giving you a friendly warning!
I've considered the turn relationships can take... and I see the gravity of my choice; I know this will be for the rest of my life. Even if something happened between the Jessica and/or Christine I know, though... I don't think I will regret having the middle name that I do. I cannot see myself developing an ill feeling towards any of them, myself. Even if they ever have a diminished connection with me, their name, now a part of mine, will still contain all of the good times and memories and feelings that I've shared with that person... and I'll always have that to treasure.
I've been leaning towards Christine more as of late, but then I'll go back towards Jessica, then back again, like a clock pendulum. ><
And I did think of Sarah Jessica Lewis being similar to Sarah Jessica Parker. I wouldn't mind it too much. xD
I'd definitely pick something other than Jessica. It's really popular, to the point that I know at least 7 Jessica's and I don't know that many people. lol
If you are close or out to your parents ask them. Otherwise try a baby name search. And whatever you decide on with be with you the rest of your life.
IMHO. I like Christine.. Of course one of my heroes is Christine Jorgensen.
I like Christine too... and I'm leaning towards it more now, with less tendency to swing back near favor of Jessica. I think there's a great chance it'll be my choice. Oh, and thank you for the input, everyone. :]
Hi Sarah,
They're both nice names but I'd second Janet's suggestion if that's an option for you. If you can involve your parents, they'd probably really appreciate it and it would make them a part of your new life from the start. But I know it isn't always that easy...
If you make the choice yourself, you could even have two middle names - how about Sarah Jessica Christine Lewis?
Whatever you choose, you're in a good place to have such a dilemma!
Gx