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Community Conversation => Significant Others talk => Topic started by: Windrider on October 08, 2008, 11:26:36 AM

Title: First therapy session aka Yay! We're going!
Post by: Windrider on October 08, 2008, 11:26:36 AM
Dani and I went to our first couples therapy session yesterday afternoon. This session focused more on me and how I felt about Dani's transition. I'm glad I have mostly sorted out how I feel...otherwise I'd have spent more time crying than talking :P I did end up getting a bit sniffly, but not badly. I think that was more actually talking about transition and my feelings to a "stranger".

I like the therapist very much :) I also asked Dani if we could do more sessions together. Dani agreed; as she said, this is about *us*. When we got home, I told Dani I felt kind of giddy...like I just wanted to run around in circles giggling and shouting "Yay! We're going! Yay! We're going!" I guess that's how she felt last month :)

The therapist is also going to start a SOFFA group and she asked if I was interested. I said I'll give it a shot :) I think the therapist is a bit concerned as we don't have much of a friends network. Well, we kinda just moved here, so it's a bit difficult to have friends yet.

Next appointment is in a month :)

WR
Title: Re: First therapy session aka Yay! We're going!
Post by: TamTam on October 08, 2008, 08:52:33 PM
Excellent!  I'm very glad to hear that, Windrider. :D It's very good to have a safe place where both of you can voice your thoughts together, and work through them, and I'm also glad to hear that Dani is cooperating and that you like your therapist. ^_^ No wonder you were giddy. ;D
Title: Re: First therapy session aka Yay! We're going!
Post by: ftmshubbie on October 08, 2008, 09:01:05 PM
Hey there, Windrider...remember by bottom-line slogan: "It's MY transition, too!" 

You guys are doing it right. Just keep on keeping on. You're a great SO, and Dani is a sweetie,too. JUst hang onto that.

Dan
Title: Re: First therapy session aka Yay! We're going!
Post by: TheBattler on October 08, 2008, 11:30:16 PM
Thats great Windrider, so happy to hear this.

Alice

Title: Re: First therapy session aka Yay! We're going!
Post by: Jay on October 09, 2008, 05:44:22 AM
Thats awesome Windrider!
Title: Re: First therapy session aka Yay! We're going!
Post by: Windrider on October 11, 2008, 11:28:51 AM
I think something that sums up how I feel is that I finally feel that I am part of Dani's transition. I know I always was (and Dani's said as much), but I really felt that I was still on the outside looking in, if you will. Tuesday changed that...And it feels good. :)

WR
Title: Re: First therapy session aka Yay! We're going!
Post by: ftmshubbie on October 11, 2008, 09:29:56 PM
Quote from: Windrider on October 11, 2008, 11:28:51 AM
I think something that sums up how I feel is that I finally feel that I am part of Dani's transition. I know I always was (and Dani's said as much), but I really felt that I was still on the outside looking in, if you will. Tuesday changed that...And it feels good. :)

WR

Hey Sweetie...quit playing second fiddle. Dani is part of YOUR transition. Don't undersell your decision to hang in there with her and see this through. This really is your transition too!

Dan