I guess I just need a place to get my feelings out. I've been thinking about what I'm going to do after I graduate, take all of the money I've earned and put it to a condo in California with my friend, James. The problem is, is that I don't want to talk to my step-father or my mother again, let alone let them know who I'm becoming. I've lived a hell of a life with these nut cases and I'm ready to just abandon them. As for questions, after I graduate and before I move I wanted to get a name change. Now, if I get it here where I live, will it follow me to where I move?
My girlfriend broke up with me today, actually. We'd been together for almost three years. We used to pretend to be male over our Long Distance Relationship, but she realized she didn't want to be and told me my head was filled with garbage and I was trying to be something I'm not. I feel pretty alone now, concerning no one but my online friends know who I really am. Do you think it would be a dent in the long run if I never told anyone here and just abandoned all of my friends and family, or would it be better to leave and start a new life and not care what anyone thinks?
Man, this is all over the place. XD
aiden-If your parents really are nut cases leave and don't look back. When I transition who knows if my mom will ever find out. I am now far away from her and plan on never looking back. I know people feel reconciling and trying to make it work with parents is the best. I think if you can't you can't and if all they are going to do is make you feel bad about yourself move on. Mind you I dealt with my mentaly ill mother far too long. I can't tell you about never telling anyone in the town you are in now as you may reconnec twith htem later in life.I have no interntion of calling people up I haven't spoken to in years and telling them. I will only deal with my immediate "family" which is my friends I hang out with and so forth now. I could have never transitioned in the town I grew up in and lived in until my mid 30's I wouldn't even acknowledge my trans status until I left the area.
Anyway don't abandon your life if some of them are true friends and might still like to be in your life, but if there are others who freak why stay in touch if you plan on moving. Keep the good and move on with them, out with the bad. No one deserves to be saddled with that.
Myles
People get to California and get lost in a hurry. Every day. Been going on for well over 150 years now. Its a tradition here.
@Myles- Thank you, that is very well appreciated. I just want a new slate. I'm glad I'm young.
@Tekla- I'd rather be lost and happy then lost and unhappy. I already have a few things set up, so maybe I'll be okay. <3
Hey California is all about happiness, no matter how you spell it. You can find it, if you want it. The choices are huge, monster. Surf or ski, or race cars, or beachcomb or do the star trip, show biz, banking, high tech, defense or agriculture - whatever, its covered.
You can live the high life, the low life, the homeless life, the bum life, the new millionaire life, the rock star (or just party like one) life, Show Biz, no biz, hanging in the park or majoring in Frisbee in college.
Whatever. Its there if you work on it.
Quote from: tekla on October 10, 2008, 09:19:06 PM
Hey California is all about happiness, no matter how you spell it. You can find it, if you want it. The choices are huge, monster. Surf or ski, or race cars, or beachcomb or do the star trip, show biz, banking, high tech, defense or agriculture - whatever, its covered.
You can live the high life, the low life, the homeless life, the bum life, the new millionaire life, the rock star (or just party like one) life, Show Biz, no biz, hanging in the park or majoring in Frisbee in college.
Whatever. Its there if you work on it.
Sounds like a great place. Thanks, I appreciate it <3
i think it might be the smart thing if they're seriously bad for you.