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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: AJ2483 on October 15, 2008, 07:57:36 PM

Title: Does it make me?
Post by: AJ2483 on October 15, 2008, 07:57:36 PM
ok soooo heres my story
I'm a girl who likes girls and i think boys but just not as much as girls idk its just really confusing
but wat im here to say is that i LIKE being a girl and yet i REALLY want to start wearing guy clothes like the bagy jeans and baggy shirts
my question is does that make me a transvestie? like i mean is that one of the first "stage" to realization??? im fine w/ w/e but i dnt think my mom can take it since whenever i bring the clothing sit. up she says no.
shes fine w/ me liking girls but thinks its "degrading" for a girl to wear guy clothes idk im just really confued and culd use some help so plz? neone?


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Title: Re: Does it make me?
Post by: Lachlann on October 15, 2008, 08:09:54 PM
Could just be a tomboy, I don't know. Don't really have enough information to go off of.
Title: Re: Does it make me?
Post by: jenny_ on October 15, 2008, 08:24:45 PM
I'm a little confused by what you've said, so please bare with me (i'm a little slow!)  It sounds like you know how you feel, but your scared of your mum's response.  And thats a horrible position to be in, but i think the question is do you want to be who you are or who your mother wants you to be, and nobody but you can answer than that.

You asked if it makes you a ->-bleeped-<-, and aside from susan's rule that no member can make such a judgement of another, the best advice i can give is that labels are really not particularly meaningful.  When i was confused about my gender identity and sexuality, they really did just confuse everything.  Whats important is who you are and how you feel about yourself.  If that falls into a label then so be it, but i don't think its helpful for it to be the basis of who you are, especially when trying to figure that out. :)

Hope things work out with your mum, and welcome to susan's! *hugs*
Title: Re: Does it make me?
Post by: TamTam on October 16, 2008, 11:56:15 PM
To me, it sounds like you just happen to like guy's clothes. ??? Clothing styles are not the same as gender confusion. :) If you like being a girl, then that's your answer.  You'll just be a girl who likes wearing guys' clothes.
Title: Re: Does it make me?
Post by: jenny_ on October 17, 2008, 03:06:56 PM
Also being a girl who likes wearing guys clothing, isn't considered crossdressing by a lot of society.