I'm just curious about you all's feelings towards strap-ons as far as sexual encounters go, whether solo or not.
I'm only asking because for one I'm curious, but also I recently purchased a very good quality silicone strap-on, only it was much more than just that. Aside from a realistic length and girth along with a decently defined glans (though not as defined as I'd like) it also has an oval-shaped part that goes inside you to provide more stimulation. It's clearly a step-up from the boring old ones that require a harness and look far from realistic (although this one is dark purple colored, it's better than light pink lol).
I'm really satisfied with it so far, and it seems to be helping with my dysphoria a little, but I figure that this particular type while of good quality, would not be appealing to most of you if you ever considered it an option. It seems like many of you dislike the thought of putting anything inside your vagina, although this could most certainly be used in the other orifice, but that's beside the point.
Have you ever used one?
Would you?
Why or why not?
To those curious about what I bought, it is a Feeldoe by Tantus.
I personally want one of those. My main issue with the Feeldoe and Share are that they come in hideous colors. But as far as using one, I'm game.
Jay
The dark purple that I got isn't so bad, and they have black and red too, but the colors are exclusive to the size; more than anything I wish they had decent flesh tones.
I would like to get one when I get a decent job. I want one that has a scrotom and feels and looks realistic. That's probably going to be somewhat costly, so it might wait until after top surgery. I'm pretty much hoarding all of my money for that surgery...
I would NOT like to have one that goes inside of my vagina. ->-bleeped-<-ing YUCK. It wouldn't hurt to have a bulp for clitoral stimulation though-- I think of that litle thing as my glans, the tip of my tiny penis that's hiding inside of me.
I do not want one that sticks on with medical adhesive or something, I think mine will actually have a harness. Besides, I think sex with clothes on is pretty hot, so it all works out.
I think it would be a good tool for my anal experimentation, too.
I too would like to have something more realistic with scrotum, but what I bought is a good first step (for me) and hopefully in the future there will be much better things.
Medical adhesive would turn me off as well and I could deal with a harness. You're right though, the clitoris is pretty much just like a glans anyways, as far as sensitivity, only there's a lot more nerves packed in there than on the glans of a penis.
That sounds similar to the one I have, (it's from Good Vibrations) but sadly, I've never got the chance to use it on anyone else. Sigh, the whole idea scares my husband... I'm not sure WHAT he's going to do when I (hopefully!) get a real one. I'm sure I've seen some realistic ones (possibly at Good Vibrations), but I think they're a lot more expensive.
I haved used a strap on regularly for over a year now and have been quite pleased with the results, in so far as I can satisfy my (male) partner very well with it, perhaps in some ways more so than a real penis could seeing as my "penis" also vibrates.
He says in some ways it is better than the real thing and he has experienced both so he does know what he is talking about.
The one I use I bought online, it is flesh coloured with a black leather harness, I bought a fairly slim one so as not to initially scare my partner LOL however I would prefer a larger and also more realistic looking/ feeling one now.
I too think medical adhesive could be awkward however I would be interested in experimenting with that as obviously if that is a possibility that's going to look more realistic than a harness, even though I actually think a harness is kinds sexy as long as it's a nice one in the fact that having a black leather strap around your hips is really kinda hot when you think about it.
I could never do anything that went in my vagina that idea is both terrifying and gross to me. As for the other hole I would give that a go, I've tried it before and liked it although generally I prefer to be the one penetrating as opposed to being penetrated.
Yes, i use them. have for about a decade. some are good, some aren't... but the more important part is the harness.
I probably would if I wasn't afraid to penetrate someone. I'm straight, but even if I were gay, I'd still be the dominant type... but I guess I'm projecting dysphoria on the girl.
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If I can get beyond that then definitely.
Yeah I would. To be honest I'm really dying to try just popping it out of the fly to have sex. Seems dirty. In a hot way. ;D
I use one, I agree with Mister the most important part is the harness. Once I got a decent harness the rest just come naturally :)
I've used strap-ons a couple times, but I'm not much for them. I got a Nexus, but that thing was horrible... it hurt like heck, and didn't work at all. I don't know about the feeldoe things... I think the best thing is just a regular strap-on with a good harness. Vac-u-loc works pretty well.
I've never used one, the whole thought of having a strap around me erks me. I've used prosthetics for the past 5 years or so..Trial and error, but I've found one from Lola that's worked wonders.
Quote from: GQjoey on October 16, 2008, 10:45:26 PM
I've never used one, the whole thought of having a strap around me erks me. I've used prosthetics for the past 5 years or so..Trial and error, but I've found one from Lola that's worked wonders.
Does yours have the insertable rod? If so, how do you make it stay in there? Even without lube (it says to lube it) it comes out. That MF hurts when it hits my pubic bone.
Jay
LOL! Might depend on the model you have? I use a LITTLE lube to put the rod in, and make sure to push it all the way in...it very, very, rarely pops out..but yeah, if it does, it's not pleasant. I just stop, and push the badboy back in, and continue on :)
I would love to try a strap on personally, but I'm selfish and I want having sex to feel as good for myself as I want to make it feel for my partner...
But then I don't want anything in my vag, that horrifies/grosses me out. Scares me even. It would be cool not to need a harness, but I don't think I could ever willingly insert anything in there.
So maybe just a harness with clit stimulation for me...
I have a strap-on, without extra stimulating things on "my end". It is a rather cheap thing, something we wanted to try out even before I came out as trans. Now I am the only one who uses it, she never uses it on me anymore. (Not because she doesn't want to, but because I don't feel comfortable with that.)
The harness doesn't stay on my hips very well, and sometimes it's all a bit loose, so I'd like to get another, somewhat more realistic, one.
But as you guys already mentioned, realistic strap-ons are hard to find. I don't really know why. Perhaps they tailor these items for lesbians who do like the penetration but not the look and/or feel of something masculine in their beds?
I wouldn't be opposed to a double-dildo thing, as I can have pleasure from being penetrated as well. Whatever floats your boat, right?
Quote from: PolarBear on October 19, 2008, 02:20:55 PM
But as you guys already mentioned, realistic strap-ons are hard to find. I don't really know why. Perhaps they tailor these items for lesbians who do like the penetration but not the look and/or feel of something masculine in their beds?
I think you hit the nail on the head there, but I think there's another reason too. I notice that a ton of sex toys that are made for women to use either on others or on themselves are always brightly colored or not realistic (though more and more toys are being made to look very realistic now a days), whereas things made for men are either colored black or flesh-toned, very rarely any other colors.
I bet you the reason toys made for women are colored something other than flesh tones because it makes it less 'threatening' to their partner, who is usually male. The whole 'male-ego' thing about not wanting a toy to be better than the real thing, so if they make it something that's not a normal flesh color or something that's not shaped like a real penis, it makes some men more 'comfortable'.
The availability of realistic dildos has nothing to do with the lesbian population but with the sex toy industry.
Most sex toys, dildos included, are made outside of the US, most commonly in China or Japan. In both China or Japan, it is illegal to produce sex toys that resemble penises, hence the prominence of dolphin dildos, vibrators in crazy colors and with anatomically incorrect imbellishments. Since most dildos are worn in harnesses, the balls are generally omitted to make them compatible with as many harness types as possible.
Vixen sells a very realistic silicone dildo that is O-ring harness compatible with balls. I think it's somewhere around $80-100, but as with everything, you get what you pay for.
I think a big reason they don't make more realistic ones is also due to the law. In a lot of places, it is (or was untill recently) actually illegal for them to look too real (eye roll) so if the company just make them in unrealistic colors, they can sell them in more places.
(exasperated laugh) I don't know my local laws on realism, but unless they've changed it, my state (Mississippi) has a law restricting the number you can have so stores can't sell them... any more than three's illegal.
(runs to check his "toy box") Ooops!
crazy that you mention it because i was just gunna go purchase one tomorrow XD. I don't see the point in a realistic one. If you were out after a packer, then yeah, realistic is good. But if you're gunna go out and buy a strap on, you might as well get a rad looking cock too XD I want one that is like black and red or something
Gawd was it really illegal in the US to sell realistic looking strap ons?
I am honestly in shock. And to stock more than 3 being a problem...what in heck is the deal with that s**t?
I have used them for many years now. And feel incomplete with out one. I have had three and to be honest I prefer the first one I brough yeah its not that big and its purple. But it does the job. Im still waiting on one from Mango to come through to see what that is like. I am looking for a dual strap on that I can wear in my pants and have sex with.
Quote from: GQjoey on October 17, 2008, 12:10:07 AM
LOL! Might depend on the model you have? I use a LITTLE lube to put the rod in, and make sure to push it all the way in...it very, very, rarely pops out..but yeah, if it does, it's not pleasant. I just stop, and push the badboy back in, and continue on :)
Which models are you guys talking about?
I got, Jake, I believe? with the 3d balls.
Posted on: October 20, 2008, 03:40:18 am
Or is it Lucas? I think it might be Lucas, lol
I have used dildos, I don't like them. I can't even imagine using the one you described. I got chills just thinking of it. It just isn't me.
->-bleeped-<-boy
Quote from: GQjoey on October 20, 2008, 03:40:33 AM
I got, Jake, I believe? with the 3d balls.
Posted on: October 20, 2008, 03:40:18 am
Or is it Lucas? I think it might be Lucas, lol
Wow dude they are really expensive.. plus there so damn shiny too.. would rather see one in person.. but unfortuantely that wont happen!
wow I must admit... this is pretty much the coolest thing i've ever bought XD
QCJOEY- Have you figured out which one you bought and what is your total review of it? I am looking at the Lucas Plus or the Sam Plus. Definitely want the 3D Balls. has it ever been too big as the Lucas is bigger I thin than the sam.
I know Jay I think bought one or soemone else. Let me know your thoughts please.
For the topic at hand yes I use a strap on have for a long time, have about 3 and about 6 ok probably more things to put in it. I only like 1 of them thought, its all about the texture and "realness" to me and so I go for the natural or black and more realistic looking. They aren't cheap but the others don't feel right to me.
Myles
The few FtMs I've ever had sexual encounters with didn't NEED a strapon. For some reason those dudes have the kind of eyes that do it to you then and there...
Sort of makes you wonder what would happen if they actually had one...
sorry to steer off topic, just been checking out this lolajake website, they look awesome and realistic. Just some quick questions;
How do they attach on? ( :embarrassed:)
and I guess are they worth the money? Can u really use them as a packer too, or do they buldge way too much?
can u have the rod and a STP in at the same time? how does it work as a STP, good?
Lol, they have one called the Alex which I think as long as I am tall, :D
I have the "Lucas Plus" it was a little spendy, I put in 3/4's and moms paid the other quarter for Xmas last year HAHAHAHAHAH! She didn't want to see it, but I made her help me choose, sick right?, haha, not really if you knew our relationship..but anyways -
Yeah, it is quite, "shiney", but baby powder DOES help. That shiney coating eventually DOES fade out. The dick itself, works great sexually. I've used it at least 30-40 times, since Decemeber..mostly with the same girl, a few times with 2 different girls, all straight, who have ONLY been with bio males, and they all had nothing but stars for reviews so to speak. I gave 2 there first "inner orgasm" ever. It definitely takes some getting use to, which always works best with a UNDERSTANDING/OPEN partner. But as far as texture and all that, they all said it was very realistic as far as feel, texture etc. My ex liked giving bj's, and I couldn't complain in the least, she'd get real into it saying how "real" it felt, which only enhanced it for me.
The only real downside, is the rod you insert for actual intercourse. You need to use lube, but just a LITTLE to insert it, and make sure you push it all the way in, and center it accordingly on your body (when attaching the prosthetic). I attach it so the actual rod it about a half inch/inch ABOVE my "special button) aka dick. The actual prosthetic itself does rub right on you, especially with deep penetration on her (another thread for positions) it will hit JUST RIGHT.
As far as how you attach it, I use adhesive medical glue. If needed I can send links. I think LolaJake has their own resources and options for that, but I was a little cheap considering how much the actual prosthetic cost, and got my own glue. All around, I spent about $550. And almost a year later, it is still like brand new. I had a bad run around with another prosthetic, a couple years ago, which I would reply on but don't know the rules on all that on the board. But basically I'm still owed a good $300 for THAT one, that broke after a couple uses. So in retro-spect, LolaJake has stepped it up and provided a product that is reliable, durable, and gets the job done.
Posted on: October 22, 2008, 02:22:21 am
I'll take a picture of mine tomorrow for ya'll to see. If it's not breaking any rules, of course..moderators? :laugh:
Posted on: October 22, 2008, 02:24:32 am
As far as a packer..well, in jeans, yes, it works fine. The one I got, in bball shorts, well you look very well hung flaccid hahaha. I used to keep it on quite a bit with my ex, and she'd always "bust my balls" on how big I looked around the house. Maybe that's why she was always spread eagle? ::) Ok, kidding..well kinda..
But, unless you're wearing tight, whitey titey's, it's not the best option for a packer, unless you get a model 5' or under.
I didn't realise that Early2bed offered pack and plays.. anyone got a one of these. As I brought the cyberskin cock from mango and apparently it is MASSIVE! (which by the way is the product I am still waiting for)
Thanks for the great review GQJoey I definelty want one now! Just the price is way to expensive which sucks.. maybe when I earn more later on in life... :(
I thought I wrote yesterday...
This is where varying opinions are... I *hate* the texture of my Lola Jake; it feels like a fake rubber hose. Flaccid it's huge and I got the Sam Plus which is a small model. The color is hideous and it has green veins. For whatever reason they decided to make the head of mine RED. Absolutely fake looking and ridiculous, IMO.
I spent about $580.
The insertable rod doesn't stay put and slides out and hurts your own dick and is a PIA. Personally I wish I just got a solid one.
If it weren't so freakin' expensive I'd give it away. Maybe I will to the highest bidder. It's unused. I don't have a partner.
Oh, and even though I got the smallest Pack 'n Play it really is too huge flaccid to pack with.
Jay