Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi
I'm 53 d have known to be TG for at least 50 of them. I came to Australia from the UK when I was 22 to get SRS, but I met a girl who totally accepting of my life and we married. Never been a problem. Unfortunately she had a freak accident 4 years ago and is now totally disabled and has to live in high dependency care. Sad. I've lost my soulmate. I visit all the time. But now I'm starting to live more as Cindy. I never did go through with SRS. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm well respected in a proffessional position as a Y-chromosome, I think if I went in as me there would be major problems. I can't afford to lose my job - I have to pay for my wife's care.

Sometimes I feel under the hammer
Sorry
Love to hear from supportive people
Love
Cindy

I am so very sorry for both your wife and yourself. :(

What a very difficult situation for you to be in. I don't know what sort of work you do, but is it at all possible that you can gradually move some of the work into more of a "telecommuting" role - i.e. working from home? Failing that, could you perhaps be transferred or find work in a more accepting company that may, again in the longer term, be accepting if you decide to transition? There's no quick and easy fix here, but maybe in the longer 2 to 5 year term, you could figure something out. In the meantime, perhaps it would be worth you starting to see a gender therapist anyway, and maybe consider going on anti-androgens, later adding very low dosages of female hormones once you have a bit of a longer term plan. With low hormone dosages you should get some of the benefits in mood and mental changes while feminisation should be very slow, if it occurs at all. Either way, finding a therapist you can discuss your situation and some options with is a good idea.

Also consider joining some TG support groups or social circles. Again, there might be contacts, referrals and ideas that you may not have considered yet. If nothing else, not being so alone is a huge plus.

~Simone.

Hello Cindy and welcome to Susan's!

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Hi Cindy,

Welcome to our little family. Over  2089 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion. Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers.  Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now.  And it is always nice to have another sister.