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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Gender Correction Surgery => Topic started by: jenny_ on November 21, 2008, 06:05:28 AM

Title: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: jenny_ on November 21, 2008, 06:05:28 AM
I was hoping to get surgery sometime next year, but its just so frustrating that whenever i try to fix a date in my mind for it, all my plans just fall apart.

My therapist has said that she'll probably write a recommendation letter for surgery next spring, and i'd budgeted for a date sometime around april/may.

But now my savings seem to be worth less dollars every single day, since the pounds been falling so thats gonna set things back probably till late summer.  And thats assuming that the exchange rate doesn't fall anymore, which is probably a bit too optimistic.

And i know my mood has been going downhill over the past few months, so now i'm worried thats gonna make letters harder to get.

Its not even so much having to wait longer for surgery that i find so hard.  Its not having a clue when i'll be able to.  Its like something i've been wanting for so long, but the closer i get to it, the further away it suddenly gets.

Um, sorry, this has turned out more ranty than i had intended.

Jenny
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Title: Re: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: Nero on November 21, 2008, 06:50:54 AM
yeah i'm getting really scared about the economy about now too. dad says it's because we're getting ready for armegeddon..  ::)

i also know how scary it is to not know when you can do the surgery you need. my worst fear is not being able to and getting stuck forever like this.
so all i can do is commiserate and offer a hug (however tacky that is over the net). *big nero hug*  :icon_hug:
Title: Re: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: lady amarant on November 21, 2008, 06:57:43 AM
Hey Jenny,

Yeah, the global meltdown is a scary disaster for all of us, and I can so absolutely relate. I have some money saved up, but being an emerging market, South Africa's currency has also taken the deadly plunge of doom, so things are much less certain than they were six months or so ago. Unfortunately I have no real advice except maybe look into some of the Thai surgeons instead? Their exchange rate might still be favourable.

Other than that, I'll take a leaf out of Nero's book and just give you a huge hug.

~Simone.
Title: Re: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: jenny_ on November 21, 2008, 10:49:29 AM
Thankyou Nero and Simone for the hugs  ;D

I have been looking at Thai surgeons but they list there prices in US dollars.  Not that it matters, the pound has fallen drastically against more or less every currency (except Zimbabwe!)

Title: Re: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: lady amarant on November 21, 2008, 11:35:36 AM
Quote from: jenny_ on November 21, 2008, 10:49:29 AM(except Zimbabwe!)

Giggle. Always a bright side huh? :P

~Simone.
Title: Re: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: jenny_ on November 22, 2008, 09:47:21 AM
I've made a decision (a novelty for me, lol).  I'm gonna plan for a date of around a year from now.  I should have letters for surgery long before then, and money-wise i should also be able to easily afford it by then.

I might be able to afford/get letters for the spring or summer, but its the uncertainty of that which is stressing me out.  So maybe just moving it to this later date that i feel more certain about, will be one less thing on my mind.  Even if its a longer wait
Title: Re: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: lady amarant on November 22, 2008, 10:10:29 AM
Cool honey. Hopefully the added redundancy makes this plan fail-proof. ;D

~Simone.
Title: Re: fed up of all the uncertainty
Post by: Northern Jane on November 22, 2008, 10:23:40 AM
Never give up hope Jenny! You never know what is around the corner.

Back in my day (when dinosaurs roamed the earth  ::) ) SRS was an impossibility (unless one was stinking RICH!). I was hanging by a thread for years (literally) and all of a sudden a door opened and I was GONE in a matter of weeks.

Once in awhile 'the planets align' and the impossible becomes reality.