This is sort of a topic to balance out the "what do you hate most about being a bio-guy/girl?" topics... So what do you all like about being a bio-guy/girl?
Some of these things have to do with me still being fulltime female, but
What I like about being a bio-girl:
- The experience of being a woman, and understanding things that women go through, like periods, social injustice etc...
- Being allowed to use chap stick and lotions in public (i have a skin problem, it's not like I use it in a girly way lol)
- Having more colorful options for clothing, and not being looked at strange if I wear some men's clothes.
- Not being called a sissy for loving chocolate and the Sims 2
- Not being expected to be strong or aggressive (as female), cause I'm really, really shy
- Not being in extreme pain if I were hit in the crotch
Well that's all that I have. So what about you all?
- Yeah, I'll second the crotch thing. ;)
- Having guys go out of their way to be polite around me. (Usually.)
- Not having to put up with, or be expected to display a lot of macho bull.
- Having guys stop to help me change a flat tire.
- Being a mystery to men. >:-)
- The cozy, homey feel of being "one of the girls" with my mom and her friends.
- Not being viewed as a sissy because I enjoy sewing/knitting/etc...
The ability to see most things from both viewpoints and being able to see close-up the way guys think about things and how they interact. It's... useful.
Quote from: Leiandra on November 28, 2008, 05:04:15 AM
being able to see close-up the way guys think about things and how they interact. It's... useful.
I've always thought trans-folk would be the obvious choice for giving advice about relationships/battle of the sexes issues. After all, who has better insight into the differences between men and women, than someone who has lived as both? :P
Quote from: Jamie-o on November 28, 2008, 05:09:37 AM
Quote from: Leiandra on November 28, 2008, 05:04:15 AM
being able to see close-up the way guys think about things and how they interact. It's... useful.
I've always thought trans-folk would be the obvious choice for giving advice about relationships/battle of the sexes issues. After all, who has better insight into the differences between men and women, than someone who has lived as both? :P
That's if you're a late transitioner, if you transitioned when you were past twenty five or something like that. But there are many trans folk that transitioned young, like me for example, I haven't experience with "differences between men and women" and least of all "experience from both view points". Please lets not assume stuff. Everybody has not lived -your- life and vice versa.
Quote from: Jeannette on November 28, 2008, 05:20:40 AM
Quote from: Jamie-o on November 28, 2008, 05:09:37 AM
Quote from: Leiandra on November 28, 2008, 05:04:15 AM
being able to see close-up the way guys think about things and how they interact. It's... useful.
I've always thought trans-folk would be the obvious choice for giving advice about relationships/battle of the sexes issues. After all, who has better insight into the differences between men and women, than someone who has lived as both? :P
That's if you're a late transitioner, if you transitioned when you were past twenty five or something like that. But there are many trans folk that transitioned young, like me for example, I haven't experience with "differences between men and women" and least of all "experience from both view points". Please lets not assume stuff. Everybody has not lived -your- life and vice versa.
hahaha agreed. some of us didn't wait until we were 200 yrs old to transition :laugh:
Sometimes the attention I get as a girl is nice. Getting drinks bought for me when I'm out and what not
It's strange though, I've had moments where I've liked a guy and found out he's straight and been like "oh man, that's a disappointment" for a second before remembering I'm not actually a boy ::)
1.) Still being viewed as somewhat attractive even when I had a few pounds extra in the mid section.
2.) Very low hair maintenance.
thats about it. Every thing else sucks.
Well I agree with the living as both thing. A trans person would seem to be pretty good at giving advice on relationship/battle of the sexes issues. I was in a chat room once and we got on the subject of girls (like having relationships with them) and I helped some guy out and someone else asked me "Why do you know so much about girls?" I can't remember what I told him but it made me think "Because I've looked at relationships form both points of views before". Not all have the experience of both thing but...I was just throwing in my opinion
What I like being a bio girl is..
1. People giving me a break with certain things instead of letting me take care of it all (chores, ect)
And um..at the moment I can't think of anything else lol
Gah.. nothing. I saw myself more as some kind of alien than as a guy to be honest. I guess being able to dish it out scared away the bullies, if there's a silver lining to be found.
Quote from: Natasha on November 28, 2008, 08:10:56 AM
Quote from: Jeannette on November 28, 2008, 05:20:40 AM
Quote from: Jamie-o on November 28, 2008, 05:09:37 AM
Quote from: Leiandra on November 28, 2008, 05:04:15 AM
being able to see close-up the way guys think about things and how they interact. It's... useful.
I've always thought trans-folk would be the obvious choice for giving advice about relationships/battle of the sexes issues. After all, who has better insight into the differences between men and women, than someone who has lived as both? :P
That's if you're a late transitioner, if you transitioned when you were past twenty five or something like that. But there are many trans folk that transitioned young, like me for example, I haven't experience with "differences between men and women" and least of all "experience from both view points". Please lets not assume stuff. Everybody has not lived -your- life and vice versa.
hahaha agreed. some of us didn't wait until we were 200 yrs old to transition :laugh:
The age-old debate. Will probably go on this way until the older generation croaks,the current generation ages and has to face people who got to transition earlier and better than them (thanks to social, medical and technological progress now unavailable) calling them fakes.
By the way, some of us weren't born:
Into an accepting family
Into a naturally passable body
In accepting times
In environments where being trans >< being killed
In the First World
In the middle class
That we can be so unforgiving and petty with each other in regards to factors outside our control demeans us as a community.
Sorry for the momentary thread hijack. Back to our regular scheduled programming.
I'm generally fond of the lack of hairiness as well as it being okay to be passive (which I tend to be often) as a biological female.
Lack of strong body Oder
People willing to help me out when things going rough
Not considered a wuss for being over sensitive and emotional (except I tend to consider myself one because supposed to be a guy)
And the few times I dressed up nice I liked that people would let me cross the road instead of rushing and almost running me over when I try to find a safe time to cross. That pisses me off, nearly got hit by a car once when I had the right of way light.
The absolute only bio-male advantage that I can see is being able to pee off the back of a moving truck.
That's about it.
Quote from: Rebis on November 28, 2008, 10:11:15 PM
The absolute only bio-male advantage that I can see is being able to pee off the back of a moving truck.
That's about it.
Remind me not to drive behind your car in a procession :P
Z
Quote from: soldierjane on November 28, 2008, 01:55:24 PM
Quote from: Natasha on November 28, 2008, 08:10:56 AM
Quote from: Jeannette on November 28, 2008, 05:20:40 AM
Quote from: Jamie-o on November 28, 2008, 05:09:37 AM
Quote from: Leiandra on November 28, 2008, 05:04:15 AM
being able to see close-up the way guys think about things and how they interact. It's... useful.
I've always thought trans-folk would be the obvious choice for giving advice about relationships/battle of the sexes issues. After all, who has better insight into the differences between men and women, than someone who has lived as both? :P
That's if you're a late transitioner, if you transitioned when you were past twenty five or something like that. But there are many trans folk that transitioned young, like me for example, I haven't experience with "differences between men and women" and least of all "experience from both view points". Please lets not assume stuff. Everybody has not lived -your- life and vice versa.
hahaha agreed. some of us didn't wait until we were 200 yrs old to transition :laugh:
The age-old debate. Will probably go on this way until the older generation croaks,the current generation ages and has to face people who got to transition earlier and better than them (thanks to social, medical and technological progress now unavailable) calling them fakes.
By the way, some of us weren't born:
Into an accepting family
Into a naturally passable body
In accepting times
In environments where being trans >< being killed
In the First World
In the middle class
That we can be so unforgiving and petty with each other in regards to factors outside our control demeans us as a community.
Sorry for the momentary thread hijack. Back to our regular scheduled programming.
It was only a joke, people. Lighten up. ::) I had no idea I was walking into such a mine field!
Soldierjane - Thank you for your very eloquent response.
As someone who was 42 at the start of transition because I channelled all my unhappiness into doing well at school and building a career, then working at it, I thank you too soldierjane. I am no better nor no worse than someone who transitions as a child, but I am in a position now where I can help people who run into legal difficulties because of transition. I wish I'd done it earlier, but I didn't, and I certainly refuse to accept the idea that I'm less of a man for it.
Dennis
I like... not needing to manually regulate (with the help of a doc) hormone levels. It's more convenient and cheaper to have everything just work on its own. I also like not having to be reliant on doctors and pharmacies (and the attendant discrimination and shortages).
In India,Boys get more freedom than girls to go out by parents....Surely i enjoy that,....
Quote from: Jamie-o on November 28, 2008, 05:09:37 AM
I've always thought trans-folk would be the obvious choice for giving advice about relationships/battle of the sexes issues. After all, who has better insight into the differences between men and women, than someone who has lived as both? :P
I sort of thought that way as well, but at the same time I see some issues with it.
Just because you lived as that sex, does not mean you fully understand it.
And more importantly, you never really experience both sides of the coin. You only go through high school (and puberty combined) once. This and the period after seem to be a major development period for most people especially in terms of understanding themselves.
On the other hand I have learned more about myself in the last year (pre-everything) than I have over the course of my 30 plus years. So maybe we are better suited to it than I think.
Quote from: Zythyra on November 28, 2008, 10:13:16 PM
Quote from: Rebis on November 28, 2008, 10:11:15 PM
The absolute only bio-male advantage that I can see is being able to pee off the back of a moving truck.
That's about it.
Remind me not to drive behind your car in a procession :P
Z
Your safe when I'm driving. I can't do both although I've tried to come up with a plan. :laugh:
what i like about being a bio-girl is just about everything other then the monthly visits from aunt flow and the year exams. but the best part is being able to experince pregnancy and child birth
Quote from: Leslie Ann on November 29, 2008, 03:01:18 AM
Just because you lived as that sex, does not mean you fully understand it.
That's true, Leslie Ann... i'll never really understand why women want to do most things like wear makeup and stuff... it's more of a physical experience.. and how other people treat me believing that i am a woman.. I'll never understand the desire to bear children or have them either.
Quote from: Leslie Ann on November 29, 2008, 03:01:18 AM
Just because you lived as that sex, does not mean you fully understand it.
True... but from a purely anthropological point of view, you have more priviledged access to the way that sex interacts with itself, and can gain a better understanding of thought patterns, emotional bonds, and information you wouldn't be able to see if you weren't superficially accepted as one of them.
I tend to watch people rather closely, but say very little. In some situations it affords me an insight into the way some guys think and what they talk about with each other, simply by virtue of me being percieved as one. It's like a backstage pass, if you like. And whilst 98% of the conversations I'm privvy to hold very little interest for me in terms of subject matter, as far as relationships are concerned... you'd be surprised how much you can learn by listening a group of guys talking about their partners together, away from said partners and in a space they feel comfortable. Very illuminating. :)
Quote from: Leiandra on November 30, 2008, 10:47:20 AM
Quote from: Leslie Ann on November 29, 2008, 03:01:18 AM
Just because you lived as that sex, does not mean you fully understand it.
True... but from a purely anthropological point of view, you have more priviledged access to the way that sex interacts with itself, and can gain a better understanding of thought patterns, emotional bonds, and information you wouldn't be able to see if you weren't superficially accepted as one of them.
I tend to watch people rather closely, but say very little. In some situations it affords me an insight into the way some guys think and what they talk about with each other, simply by virtue of me being percieved as one. It's like a backstage pass, if you like. And whilst 98% of the conversations I'm privvy to hold very little interest for me in terms of subject matter, as far as relationships are concerned... you'd be surprised how much you can learn by listening a group of guys talking about their partners together, away from said partners and in a space they feel comfortable. Very illuminating. :)
Quite true, but I have had and seen those who act as though we have some special intimate knowledge about both sexes and expect us to know all there is about both.
Ok, I'm going to try really hard to be positive here.
I agree that it's nice not to have to have extreme pain when kicked in the crotch (although I trade that if I could have been normal)
Quote from: Emme on November 28, 2008, 08:23:28 AM
I enjoy being told "you can't because you're a girl" and then doing it anyway.
That's semi-fun too.
And I just want to put in that The Sims 2 is not girly, per-say, but it isn't exactly the most masculine thing on the planet.
And not having all the pressure of having to act all tough, even though in some ways I like to.
One thing I like about being Trans is that I can view both sides of everything. Like if I'm reading a book, I can see through both the man's side and the woman's side, being that I know what it feels like to be female, but I am male. That is very handy, but also gets me in trouble sometimes when my friends (un-informed of what/who I am) want me to be on their side (the female side) when I don't belong there, and when a girl 'can't' be on the boys side.
Also, not being harassed for hanging out with girls is good, because I know a lot of girls from the 'Time of Blindness', as I call it.
That's about it. Mostly social stuff.
Nothing at all.
Or rather: Getting rid of it, putting it behind me, liberating myself from it. I absolutely hated it, loathed it, and felt oppressed by it. It was painful, unreal, and destructive. Good riddance!
Soldierjane-- Right on. Thank you. THANK YOU! :eusa_clap:
The only thing I like as a biological man being a father, and that is all.
Wow this thread got me thinking a lot more than I thought about myself.
At first I was like okay, no problem I can list a few things, but as I began to
think about it, my mind kept drawing a blank. Do I really despise being a guy
that much that I can't think of a positive ???
This has been an eye opener for me.
Well before when I didn't pass I liked having the:-
*Being served before males.
*Being able to pull the "blonde" card..
*Cheaper Car Insurance
Cant think of anymore...
Right now the only thing I can think of is the not having periods part, but there's two things to that:
1) GGs can get drugs that make them mostly go away
2) I would gladly accept that as part of the deal if I could get pregnant. I don't know if this seems weird or not, but if in the future there's some sort of freak science experiment where they ask for 'male' volunteers for a uterus/ovary transplant, you can bet my name would be on that list. I want it so bad.
Seeing how males behave up close and personal so I know how to deal with them at a later date. However I must say, I Still understand very very little about why men do what they do, THEY MAKE NO SENSE!
armhair
striding confidently
getting on a bus at 4am alone
not having periods, in particular having a pretty steady hormonal level without all them highs and lows
sex.
A higher chance of finding and being with a man I love... (thinking of one hetrosexual in particular lol)
And being able to get dressed up like a girl whenever I like.
multiple orgasms. >_>
no blue balls
can pull the "daddy's little girl" thing to get money
Let's see:
-People listening to my opinion and caring what I had to say
-Not being treated like the property of skeezy old men to grab my butt or whistle at me
-not having to worry about being called a slut if I slept around
-not having to meet a certain standard of attractiveness
-not caring about my weight
-no uncomfortable shoes.
-not having my worth at all established by what I was wearing
-when you're friends with guys, it's like complete loyalty to one another. When you're a girl friends with other girls, you have to worry about getting stabbed in the back for some guy.
-to that end, for the most part none of your guy friends would dare sleep with a girl you were interested in. Your girl friends might.
-being strong
-being the center of attention around girls.
I dunno. There's a lot. Male privilege is a pretty cushy gig.
Being a girl has it's perks though :P
Being a girl does have it's perks. :D
People treat and talk to you different, although that has become commonplace now.
Elderly gentlemen still stare at me when I walk by but don't touch the merchandise. But I enjoy being eyed up when I walk by in a summer dress.
Having girl friends is fun. I like having a lot of friends but I do have one favorite one, she is very sage and wise.
I like shopping, the varieties of different styles and colors I love. Even if I don't buy it's fun to window shop.
I like going out to fancy restaurants with my beloved.
One thing I still enjoy and love is to slip into my nighty and wake up in the morning knowing I'm still a not bad looking lady for my age. ;D
Probably could think of some more stuff but that's enough for tonight.
Good night all
Love Cindy :icon_bunch:
Good things bout being bio-male?? hmmmmmm tough one ???
Being able to get on a bus or walk down a dark street without trouble
wow harder than i thought thats all ive got right now.
Honestly, I tried, but I can't think of myself as male, so it's a non-issue.
Nothing, nada
the fact that i was given strawberry shortcake and my little pony dolls.
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My Doll cllection ;D
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Cindy
i have an mp3 of strawberry shortcake rapping...it hurts.
Quote from: Pica Pica on February 13, 2009, 04:57:46 PM
i have an mp3 of strawberry shortcake rapping...it hurts.
strawberry shortcake rapping? ??? :o
I'm sure it hurts so good. And Pica, if anyone on this planet would have that, I would have guessed you.