Contemplating The Loss of One's Children: Fire and Rain
Posted December 12, 2008
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All in all, I felt better than I should have expected. Then I went to read and found, in the place I read, a passage that made me think, maybe too deeply and certainly on the downside of thoughts I might have uncovered. It was one of those things that occasionally show-up on TG Forums. A poll, asking about whether or no someone would wish to be pregnant. The odd thing was that one of the poll responses said yes — for a short while.
I had to admit that that response, no one had chosen it then, puzzled me. It seemed ... well, it just seemed ignorant of some very basic truths about people and their children, especially, perhaps, about women and our children. I cannot imagine any woman, pregnant by her choice, wishing to be pregnant for much less than the almost ten months required. For that would simply mean the heartache of losing one who had never lived in the world outside herself or the risk of complications that might have the child expire very early in its life.
Having lost one, I agree. :icon_cry: I thought briefly about responding to the poll, but I would only go through all that to have a child, and I've had my children. There's nothing fun about the process, and it can lead to tremendous heartbreak.