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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: reno on January 04, 2009, 03:13:44 AM

Title: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: reno on January 04, 2009, 03:13:44 AM
Well, sure there is. Being required to walk under the massive sign that screams out exactly what is wrong with you [the WOMEN's fitting rooms], and discovering your chest has grown, leaving you that much further from having an average male body than you had previously thought....

I was ready to cry before being all "boys don't cry". Which is so obviously a lie, because all my male friends cried when they saw The Notebook.

Plus my mum was there [haven't come out to her yet] and going on about "why don't you want some thing pretty and lacy and" so the torture was prolonged and intensified yet further... I had been planning to just come out then and there, and thus explain why I don't want "some thing pretty", but I didn't want to make things awkward on my sister, who would have had to deal with any awkwardness even though it was nothing to do with her.....  :-\

Oh well. One day I'll have the money for surgery to fix this unholy mistake, and I'll be laughing like a maniac as I cut up bras and burn the pieces. Perhaps I'll do that outside, though... smoke alarms tend to dob on pyromaniacs  :D
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Jamie-o on January 04, 2009, 03:24:26 AM
Ah,yes.  I remember those days.  I flat out refused to wear one long past the time when I should have.  :laugh:  Thank goodness for sports bras.  I could never bring myself to wear anything else. *shudder*
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Luc on January 04, 2009, 03:40:01 AM
That brings back memories. BAD memories. Sad thing is, I always felt bad for my mom, because she just wanted a daughter to buy frilly things for... and I couldn't be that daughter. I still feel guilty about that. She has two sons now, and I wish for all the world she had had a daughter who she could take bra shopping and whatnot. Tangent, sorry. Anyway, no, there is nothing more embarrassing... except perhaps buying pads or tampons.

SD
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: JonasCarminis on January 04, 2009, 04:41:16 AM
my mom couldnt ever figure out (untill i came out i mean) why i was so embarrassed to pick out bras. :P

why dont you just tell your mom youd rather wear a sports bra?  at least you dont have to try them on really, plus they help hold things down instead of perk them up.
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Jeatyn on January 04, 2009, 11:25:39 AM
sports bras are all I can bare when I absolutely have to wear one, usually it's my binder. Hate the stupid things
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: GnomeKid on January 04, 2009, 12:08:14 PM
only ever wore a sports bra thankfully.. My mom sorta got it that I was like this from the start.. and as soon as I discovered binders I was 100% done with those damn things too...

the thought of it all makes me cringe though and I'm sure I would have been quite scarred by the experience. 

You should have a bra burning party after surgery... just the thought of it may make you feel better
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: J.T. on January 04, 2009, 12:25:23 PM
ah, i feel for you dude. 
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Sophie90 on January 04, 2009, 05:38:12 PM
I would absolutely never buy a bra in the company of another person. I try to go to the shops when they're not busy too, just in case someone I know, or anyone else, sees me.
I've never even bought a bra in my hometown. I couldn't. Just in case. *shudder*
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: iFindMeHere on January 04, 2009, 10:36:51 PM
Quote from: Sebastien on January 04, 2009, 03:40:01 AMAnyway, no, there is nothing more embarrassing... except perhaps buying pads or tampons.

SD

and THAT my friend, is one of the reasons i use cloth.
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Jeatyn on January 04, 2009, 10:40:33 PM
Quote from: iFindMeHere on January 04, 2009, 10:36:51 PM
Quote from: Sebastien on January 04, 2009, 03:40:01 AMAnyway, no, there is nothing more embarrassing... except perhaps buying pads or tampons.

SD

and THAT my friend, is one of the reasons i use cloth.

i rob my sisters, never been able to bring myself to buy them
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: tekla on January 04, 2009, 11:20:01 PM
Well I give you one, being a guy, getting pantsed and thrown into the girls bathroom or dressing room.
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: GnomeKid on January 05, 2009, 12:08:44 AM
Quote from: tekla on January 04, 2009, 11:20:01 PM
Well I give you one, being a guy, getting pantsed and thrown into the girls bathroom or dressing room.

oh geez... I hope that hasn't happened to you  :(
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: tekla on January 05, 2009, 01:10:40 AM
You learn to submit, or to fight back.  I always suggest the second.
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Jay on January 05, 2009, 02:51:28 AM
When I have to wear a bra I wear a sports one.. wearing a binder all the time hurts my back like a
bish! So I tend to just wear a sports bra at work.. as I am not out there at the moment.

It is degrading hence why I have been wearing the same bras for years! Refuse to buy anymore.
I shall also be burning them once I have my surgery!
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Dante on January 05, 2009, 01:06:11 PM
Oh man, don't get me started. I HATE bras, but I have to wear them cause I'm not out at school, and I don't really feel comfortable wearing a binder around my parents. So I always wear sports bras. But I have pretty large boobs (I can swear they're getting bigger), so you can almost always see them. I have to slouch to cover them up.

I think I'll have to join you in that bra burning party!  >:-) Although that's a long way away for me. It's not like you can really donate them or anything, and you usually just throw them away, so why not make it fun?!  >:-)
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: iFindMeHere on January 05, 2009, 04:10:36 PM
Quote from: Roxas on January 05, 2009, 01:06:11 PM
Oh man, don't get me started. ... I have to slouch to cover them up.

Ah, yes, the old slouch...
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Vexing on January 05, 2009, 05:47:55 PM
Quoteanything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?

Maybe having someone yell 'f---ing ->-bleeped-<-' while pointing at you in a busy train station.
That would be roughly on par.
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: J.T. on January 05, 2009, 07:28:58 PM
QuoteAh, yes, the old slouch...

how about the good ol' three layers in the heat of summer?
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: iFindMeHere on January 05, 2009, 07:37:24 PM
Quote from: J.T. on January 05, 2009, 07:28:58 PM
QuoteAh, yes, the old slouch...

how about the good ol' three layers in the heat of summer?

yeah... someone won't be missing that THIS summer will they? *high fives JT*
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Stephen on January 05, 2009, 11:11:16 PM
I actually just explained the whole ever since sports bras became big in the midwest and even slightly before then I always told my mom I wanted one that would make my boobs stop moving and support my back.

I actually had to get new ones when I was with a friend and he looked at me and said, "man it's weird to see you shop for anything feminine"  :D I can't wear  my binders (yes I have to wear 2, a triple breasted with a double breasted one over it) when on my monthly, too painful.
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: icontact on January 06, 2009, 06:39:58 PM
I've only been wearing sports bras for a few years now, and sports bras only at home for about six months now. I'm glad I bought them back when I thought I was an androgyne and still tolerated going in that dept as long as it was a get-in-get-out affair.

Anyways, that really does suck. :-\ Try going to a sporting good store for sports bras, so at least the displays are completely toned down, absolutely no lacy bras, all business. No hot model posters ;D either but hey, how much can you ask for?
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Mister on January 07, 2009, 02:29:23 PM
You think bra shopping is bad?  Wait until you have a beard and you're sitting in a gynecologist's office.
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Mr. Fox on January 07, 2009, 02:38:01 PM
Quote from: Mister on January 07, 2009, 02:29:23 PM
You think bra shopping is bad?  Wait until you have a beard and you're sitting in a gynecologist's office.

That actually sounds like fun.  But I suppose some do not find horrified and disgusted looks from other patrons amusing.
Adrian
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: christov on January 07, 2009, 02:40:35 PM
i've only worn sports bras, but now only binders....i feel for ya though!
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Mister on January 07, 2009, 02:45:03 PM
Quote from: Mr. Fox on January 07, 2009, 02:38:01 PM
Quote from: Mister on January 07, 2009, 02:29:23 PM
You think bra shopping is bad?  Wait until you have a beard and you're sitting in a gynecologist's office.

That actually sounds like fun.  But I suppose some do not find horrified and disgusted looks from other patrons amusing.
Adrian

Fun?  Oh, yes.  totally.  dudes sitting with their very pregnant wives wondering "What the F*** is this MAN doing here?"  Then you get called in and they realize you weren't waiting on your very own pregnant wife or girlfriend headed in for a  PAP.  It's awesome.  Just wait.  you'll want to die on the spot. 
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Mr. Fox on January 07, 2009, 03:04:25 PM
That whole scene sounds rather funny to me.  But it might be different in real life, so I'll wait until I am looking manly at the gynecologist's before declaring a definite opinion.  Come to think of it, I would probably be disappointed when they started thinking I was a woman, so I partially recant my earlier statements.
Adrian
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: Walter on January 07, 2009, 03:30:44 PM
My mom bought me two sports bras for Christmas. Tight ones too and they make the chest area smaller. She knows I want to bind so I guess that's why she bought them. It saved me having to go shopping for them lol. I don't like doing bra shopping either...but I just get in and get out

The gynecologist thing sounds pretty awkward..doesn't sound fun
Title: Re: anything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?
Post by: soldierjane on January 07, 2009, 03:54:35 PM
Quote from: reno on January 04, 2009, 03:13:44 AM
Well, sure there is. Being required to walk under the massive sign that screams out exactly what is wrong with you [the WOMEN's fitting rooms], and discovering your chest has grown, leaving you that much further from having an average male body than you had previously thought....

I was ready to cry before being all "boys don't cry". Which is so obviously a lie, because all my male friends cried when they saw The Notebook.

Plus my mum was there [haven't come out to her yet] and going on about "why don't you want some thing pretty and lacy and" so the torture was prolonged and intensified yet further... I had been planning to just come out then and there, and thus explain why I don't want "some thing pretty", but I didn't want to make things awkward on my sister, who would have had to deal with any awkwardness even though it was nothing to do with her.....  :-\

Oh well. One day I'll have the money for surgery to fix this unholy mistake, and I'll be laughing like a maniac as I cut up bras and burn the pieces. Perhaps I'll do that outside, though... smoke alarms tend to dob on pyromaniacs  :D


*faceroll*

That sucks Reno, hope you can fix that mistake soon :)