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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: PolarBear on January 18, 2009, 12:43:28 PM

Title: Came out to my parents
Post by: PolarBear on January 18, 2009, 12:43:28 PM
I came out to my parents yesterday...

I told them I often "feel more like a man than a woman" and that this is for more than a year and a half, and that I have called a team of specialists to help me sort this out.

They took it astonishingly well. While my mother is urging me to take my time and does not (yet) want to think about that I might completely transition, the first thing my father said was "well, I'm not really surprised."

They haven't kicked me out, they will continue to see me as their child, and hope that I can find the right path for myself.

All in all, it couldn't have gone better.  ;D

Just wanted to let you all know. There's been a weight lifted off of my shoulders, and I'm quite proud of myself. And of my parents, because they have shown themselves to be great people.


Vincent.
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Diane on January 18, 2009, 12:58:24 PM
Good for you.
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: mina.magpie on January 18, 2009, 01:00:30 PM
Aw, that's really cool sweetie. Congratulations. ^_^

Mina.
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Nero on January 18, 2009, 02:15:30 PM
good to hear.  :)
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 18, 2009, 02:36:52 PM
Total awesome< Dude.

Right now is a good time to have them in your corner.

Janet

Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: paulault55 on January 18, 2009, 03:22:12 PM
Like everyone has said Congrats, i will be coming out to my stepfather in the next few weeks and hope for as good an outcome as yours.

Paula.

Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Gwen on January 20, 2009, 03:14:08 PM
Congratulations Vincent!  You've taken an important step and handled it well.  I'm glad to know your family faced it as well as you did!

Gwen
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Jamie-o on January 20, 2009, 03:20:01 PM
Go Vincent!  Go Vincent's parents!  Congrats.  I'll bet that's a huge relief.
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: rosey on January 21, 2009, 01:50:18 AM
yay for u
:D
rosey
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: katherine on January 21, 2009, 03:53:25 AM
Congratulations!  It's always good to have understanding family.  I know it is such a relief when the family is finally informed.
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Cindy on January 21, 2009, 03:58:19 AM
Vincent
Awesome.
Great Parents (with a capital P)

Take your Dad to some male stuff, fishing, BMX, (strippers, maybe not!)

LoL

Cindy James
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Jay on January 21, 2009, 07:18:21 AM
That is fantastic! ;D
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: PolarBear on January 22, 2009, 05:38:29 AM
Thanks everyone. :) Your congratulations mean a lot to me.

My mum is having a very hard time with accepting the possibility that I am transsexual. It's not that she rejects it, or me, but that it just doesn't get through to her. She is still in shock, I suppose.
And that's understandable. I've been thinking about this for the last 2 or so years, she since lat Saturday. She wants me to give her time, and I will.
She's afraid I will make rash decisions, and while I try to explain to her that I am not even sure if I will transition, she's still afraid I might do something stupid. Worrying about your kids is part of being a mum, I guess.
Not that I don't understand where she is coming from, though.

I can only hope this situation will resolve itself, rather sooner than later.


Vincent, who sometimes feels guilty that he's making his mum feel bad. (Irrational, yes I know, but still the truth at the moment).
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Jushi on January 24, 2009, 06:08:14 PM
Awe, I wouldn't worry too much. She'll still love you regardless, I'm sure of it =] I hope things end well for you! <3
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Lacey Lynne on February 15, 2009, 03:12:12 PM
Vincent, that's amazing!  If you've got a supportive family, you've got a major asset in your quest.  Welcome to Susan's.  Hugs!
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: PolarBear on February 17, 2009, 01:01:31 PM
Thank you LaceyLynne, you're very kind.

Hopefully my mum and I will talk about my male feelings again in about a week or two, when she is back from vacation. So far, she is still apprehensive but not negative. So far, so good!
Title: Re: Came out to my parents
Post by: Ellieka on February 17, 2009, 01:16:44 PM
Let me also ad my congratulations. That's a huge step you've taken. I have a feeling things will be ok for you.