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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Wendy C on February 11, 2009, 05:10:05 PM

Title: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 11, 2009, 05:10:05 PM
 :) Today I became legally Wendy Catherine! All my worrying and fretting was for nothing, the Judge asked two questions. What my age was and whether I had given this thought, of course the answer was yes. He then smiled and said "I grant this request,  congratulations Wendy" YES!!!

I also got my Drivers lic renewed as my Birthday is the 16th Feb and the guy added the Female tag without me saying anything. Everyone was so nice, its all so very hard to believe yet. The Soc was changed also but I coulnt get the F tag until I get a Surgery letter, but thats ok, I am Wendy anyway.
Love and Hugs Guys and Gals. Miracles do happen!

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: placeholdername on February 11, 2009, 05:14:17 PM
Congrats
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: iminadaze on February 11, 2009, 05:18:25 PM
Congrats...Wendy! That is awesome  :icon_joy:  :eusa_clap:  :eusa_dance:

*Hugs* Nicole  :icon_wave:
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Nicky on February 11, 2009, 05:27:28 PM
That's excellent news!
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: NancyAnn on February 11, 2009, 05:32:19 PM
I am very happy for you
I know you will be who you are meant to be again I would like to wish much happiness
NancyAnn
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: mmelny on February 11, 2009, 10:28:05 PM
Congratulations Wendy, I'm glad your big day went so smoothly for you!   It must feel wonderful, enjoy!    :)

*huggs*,
Melan
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Buffy on February 11, 2009, 10:35:23 PM
Quote from: Wendy C on February 11, 2009, 05:10:05 PM
Miracles do happen!

Wendy

I think you will find this was your hard work, determination and courage.

Congratulations Wendy

Rebecca
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Janet_Girl on February 11, 2009, 10:51:08 PM
Total awesome, Girl  :icon_flower: :icon_dance: :icon_hug:

Janet

Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Just Kate on February 11, 2009, 11:06:06 PM
Truly, congratulations!  This is truly an exciting time.
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: MMarieN on February 11, 2009, 11:07:07 PM
Congrats Wendy!  :icon_joy:
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Sandy on February 11, 2009, 11:27:34 PM
Congratulations Wendy!!!

-Sandy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Firelight on February 12, 2009, 02:44:24 AM
Allow me to add another very sincere congratulation post.

I hope that things will go just as well for me when the time comes. I'm so happy for you.
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Cindy on February 12, 2009, 03:09:06 AM
Fantastic :icon_birthday:
Cindy J
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 13, 2009, 09:11:29 PM
Thanks and hugs, so far it has been an exciting first two days, things have well beyond my wildest dreams so far. I got my new employee badge this morning with Wendy on it. Everyone so far has been super and I have gotten a hug from all the women and several pats on the back from the guys and hand shakes, and even a hug from one guy. The have all said they admire my courage. I have never felt so comfortable in my entire life. I love this.

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Ellieka on February 13, 2009, 10:18:17 PM
I am just tickled for ya, Wendy! I'm right behind ya :)
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: katherine on February 14, 2009, 12:30:29 PM
Congratulations Wendy! :eusa_dance:
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 14, 2009, 01:46:36 PM
Cami, Katherine, thank you. Hugs. It really is so liberating after so many years of angst. I have to admit that even up to the Court date and comming out at work I had some serious doubts and conflicts over whether I was making the right decisions. Now that it has come to fruition I know the final decision and the one to transition I made in 2007 was the right and only way I really ever could have gone. The path has had its share of heartaches and rewards both. Was it worth it all? Oh Hell Yes!

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Sippin my tea on February 14, 2009, 04:53:38 PM
Good for you! I've only just recently decided on a name for myself. Who knows how long it'll be before I get to make it official.
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Lacey Lynne on February 14, 2009, 05:31:12 PM
Wendy, that's wonderful!  OMG, how's it feel to hear somebody say, "Hey, Wendy?"   Must feel fabulous!  Congrats!    :angel:

Hugs!
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 16, 2009, 02:02:30 PM
Hi Sippin, welcome to Susan's and your Avatar shows a beautiful young woman. :) Thank you for for the congrats and I am curious to know what you picked for your name.

Thanks Lacey to you also. :) It feels absolutely wonderful to be called Wendy!!!! I have to laugh at the guys at work, they make slips and call me Dave but then make a valiant effort to apologize and correct themselves. Its really very sweet of them. The name change at work has been positive and really better than my wildest expectations. I have always taken care to treat others as I would have them treat me and it appears that it has come back to bless me. Stay positive and let your dreams come true.  Hugs

Wendy

Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Steph on February 16, 2009, 04:12:58 PM
Definitely milestones to be recorded for all time.  Belated as it maybe, congratulations Wendy. Name changes are hard at the best of times but to do it at the workplace and survive shows character and resolve, no matter what.  You're definitely some kinda woman.

Steph
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 17, 2009, 10:54:29 AM
Thanks Steph  :), I dont know that I'm some kind of woman, lol, just simply a woman. Having the weekend off from work extended because of the Holiday it has given me the opportunity to pause and reflect on many issues. The blessings versus the pain of not being able to be yourself, the hurdles I still face, so many different questions. What amazes me is that I am so much more comfortable now.

I was sitting at my kitchen table a bit ago and looking at a bouquet of Roses that my Daughter had recieved for Valetines Day. I have always been struck by the beauty of a Rose. I thought about it awhile and came to the conclusion that we a so very much like a Rose, strong but delicate, slow to open but when done, beautiful in its own right, protective with its thorns in allowing others to approach and something that means many things to many people. I think we are like Roses, waiting to bloom and take our rightful place, from bud to flower, a beautiful and slow progress, albeit a painful one.
Hugs

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Janet_Girl on February 17, 2009, 11:07:52 AM
That was very beautiful, Wendy.  And so descriptive of our journeys. It is no wonder that I love roses and I will never look at one the same way again.

Janet

Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 17, 2009, 11:14:49 AM
Thanks Janet and a Good morning to you. Thank you also for your wisdom and kind words that have helped me to get to this point. Hugs

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Jay on February 17, 2009, 01:04:15 PM
Congrats Wendy! I am happy for you hun :)
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 17, 2009, 01:33:28 PM
Thank you Jay, Hugs

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: gween on February 17, 2009, 06:25:22 PM
i am vary happy for you. i'll be there soon
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: pong on February 17, 2009, 06:32:28 PM
Quote from: Wendy C on February 11, 2009, 05:10:05 PM
:) Today I became legally Wendy Catherine! All my worrying and fretting was for nothing, the Judge asked two questions. What my age was and whether I had given this thought, of course the answer was yes. He then smiled and said "I grant this request,  congratulations Wendy" YES!!!

I also got my Drivers lic renewed as my Birthday is the 16th Feb and the guy added the Female tag without me saying anything. Everyone was so nice, its all so very hard to believe yet. The Soc was changed also but I coulnt get the F tag until I get a Surgery letter, but thats ok, I am Wendy anyway.
Love and Hugs Guys and Gals. Miracles do happen!

Wendy

Congratulations Wendy! Do you mind if I ask what state are you in? I hope it's going to be as easy in NJ.  Thanks.
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 18, 2009, 07:54:02 PM
Thank you Gween, sending positive thoughts your way. Let your dream be realized and follow your heart always. Hugs

And thank you to you also Pong. I live in Illinois so I dont really know what NJ requires. I would reccomend doing a google search of your DMV and then looking up name change which is what I did.  Hugs

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: benji42 on February 19, 2009, 01:35:09 PM
Congratulations!  ;D
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 20, 2009, 06:13:30 PM
Thank you Benji, hugs.

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: imaz on February 20, 2009, 06:21:25 PM
Congratulations! :)

You have to before a Judge to change your name? That's heavy, here in the UK anyone can change their name to anything whenever they want by deed poll for a very small fee. Did it two years ago because my documents all had different spellings on them and it was really the only way to sort the mess.
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Miniar on February 20, 2009, 06:45:05 PM
Congratulations.
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 21, 2009, 04:05:20 PM
Thank you Imaz, I think it more rule here in the U.S. Most  States require an appearance before a Judge and each State sets its own requirements. The postings in the newspapers of your old and new names prior to the appearance while somewahat embarrasing was put in place long before transitioning persons and mainly done to allow creditors and other interested parties a chance to have input. Its mainly to prevent fraud and like most laws they do not take in extenuating circumstances when people are involved.

Miniar thank you also. Hugs to you both.

Wendy
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: imaz on February 21, 2009, 08:33:19 PM
Quote from: Wendy C on February 21, 2009, 04:05:20 PM
Thank you Imaz, I think it more rule here in the U.S. Most  States require an appearance before a Judge and each State sets its own requirements. The postings in the newspapers of your old and new names prior to the appearance while somewahat embarrasing was put in place long before transitioning persons and mainly done to allow creditors and other interested parties a chance to have input. Its mainly to prevent fraud and like most laws they do not take in extenuating circumstances when people are involved.

Miniar thank you also. Hugs to you both.

Wendy

I'm shocked, that's heavy stuff. May you find great happiness and your dreams come true with your new name :)
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Ms Bev on February 21, 2009, 08:52:49 PM
Congrats, Miss Wendy!

Like Steph said....workplace changes are the most challenging.
I know.  I've been there.




Bev
Title: Re: Its Official
Post by: Wendy C on February 22, 2009, 09:06:14 AM
Thanks Bev, its always my pleasure to hear from you. So far everything has went amazingly smooth. More people are learning of it and I am really surprised that they are asking so many questions about transsexuality. I really never invisioned myself as an educator but it seems because of my inability to be stealth I find myself cast in that role also.  Hugs

Wendy