Hey all, my name is Joshua. I'm a FTM transsexual living in Arkansas. I've recently won the victory of a legal name change as well as gender change on my state issued DL .... Arkansas courts are not too happy about changing the names of the TG community. I live with my very loving and supportive girlfriend (soon to be finance', I'm proposing on 3/20/09), who has been there for me pre and post transition. I'm a pretty quiet guy, live a quiet life and am really blessed to have come this far. I would have never thought I would EVER have the courage to transition. It took me a long time to do so, but I'm SO glad I did. I'm happy to be a part of this community and hopefully look forward to making some new TG friends!
Hello Joshua and welcome to Susan's!
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tink :icon_chick:
Hey Joshua and welcome to Susans!
Hope the proposing goes brilliantly!
Jay
Thanks! I'm quite nervous, but I know it will all turn out wonderful....
Hi Joshua, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 1900 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion. Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. :icon_hug:
And being you are the new kid, you have to bring donuts for the next month. I like Maple Bars. ;D ;D
Janet
Thanks Janet ... I appreciate that, although ... we may have to fight for those maple bars! LOL> I am a growing boy ya know!! ;D
Welcome to Susan's, Joshua. New kids in school tend to become assimilated rather qucikly around here. We're very like the Borg. :laugh:
Nichole
Quote from: JoshuaDavid on March 15, 2009, 06:37:21 PM
Thanks Janet ... I appreciate that, although ... we may have to fight for those maple bars! LOL> I am a growing boy ya know!! ;D
hehe, i'm new too and i didn't have to bring anything!
free donuts!!!
/takes Joshua's lunch money and runs away.
Dennis
Hi Joshua
Since you've blabbed about the proposal there are a lot of your sisters, and some brothers (it's not always a guy thing)' who will want the intimate detail. Where did you take her, Did she know, Have you got the ring?, Bended knee or just grovel. What did she wear, did she know in advance to do her nails?
Honey Welcome
I've days of gossip to look forward too :-*
Cindy James
:icon_wave: Hiya's. Congrats on on your name change and the upcomming proposal. Bended knee? *giggle* As far as feeling like a new school boy, they are pretty mellow here. Wellll......then again I suspect a few few of the moderators secretly carry a ruler and just wait to smack an unsuspecting students knuckles, lol. Hope all goes well guy and welcome to Susan's. Hugs
Wendy
Thanks all for the aweomse comments ... as for Dennis .. I'm a buff lil man, I'll fight ya for that lunch money!!
Now ... for the proposal. It will be on her birthday, Friday 3/20. I got a secluded suite at a local B&B, with a fireplace, jacuzzi and country style elegance. I've got a local wedding cake shop making a two tier heart shaped mini-wedding cake as her birthday cake, and instead of the normal Happy Birthday message, it will read, "Will you marry me, Rena". Yes I've got the ring, and its fabulous. I'll have to post some pics of it. I'm pretty sure it will be a very fast acting bended knee ... I'm going to ask her to close her eyes and make a wish before blowing out the candles (they are like sparklers, so it will mask the written proposal) and when she opens her eyes, there I shall be ... on one knee, ring in hand ... probably bawling like a little girl .... I've arranged for a private champagne picnic for two to be delivered to our room for dinner before the whole cake proposal thing, and a private breakfast the next morning as well.
So ladies ... did I do good? I need some input here!!!
Post Merge: March 16, 2009, 07:48:00 PM
Oh ... and she has NO idea about it ... yes, she's gotten her nails done, I make sure I take her to get her fingers and toes done every two weeks ... as for what she's wearing, I'm not sure. If I had my pick, it would be her birthday suit ... but I'm sure she'll have other ideas in mind. LOL
Are there any more like you at home? That is so sweet, you made me cry. :D
Two Thumbs Up, Hon
Janet
;D Awww, thanks Janet! You'd be surprised how often I hear that actually. I'm nothin special. I mean, this woman was with me as Jennifer ... went through surgery with me ... and loves me as Joshua. If I could collect a basket of stars like flowers for her, I would ... She deserves the world, and I just hope I could give her even a little bit of it.
A lot of bio-women at our office want me to give their men lessons. LOL. It's cute. Men need to learn that being a man has nothing to do with being all rugged and rough. Maybe one day, they will. ::)
Welcom I am glad to hear it is going well woth you and you SO. Mine has also been very supportive to date. I wish you both well and look forward to "seeing" you around Susan's.
Myles
JOSH!JOSH!JOSH! Hey ya made it here :D Glad to see you figured out the proposal plans dude. Still say you shoulda gone with the horseback riding thing, though :P She's definitely gonna say yes. (Hey, Landon's on here too... somewhere)
Wasssssup girl! Yup ... I've found my way here, wandering through cyberspace ... finding a home, and I like it. I hope she says yes! I didn't cash out a 401k for that rong for her to say no!!! LOL
Haha she'll say yes! And I'm pretty sure I linked you here when I found it you doof :P They've got an awesome place for SO's but don't tell Rena til after you propose otherwise she's liable to stumble over this thread.
LOL> She's TOTALLY not going to know about this until after this weekend, She's actually handling being the SO of an FTM really very well. She's always seen me as male, pre op and now ...
Lol that's great. Kinda like Landon and I. I'm so nervous for tomorrow!
Joshua
You've done more than well. Now have you got the hidden cameras organised? ;)
Hope it goes great and two beautiful people have a marvelous life together :icon_hug:
Cindy James
:icon_userfriendly: that sounds soo beautiful i would love to read it again but im afraid i would proably tear up again /sigh and good luck on keeping it a secret! and don't worry too much (though we all know you still will)
Hi Joshua and welcome :)
Welcome!!! Glad you found the site, and congrats on proposing!!! Be sure to let us know how it goes!!!
Kody
Thanks all! I'll be sure to let everyone know how it goes. I'm EXHAUSTED worrying about it and making all the last minute preperations ....
Im not at all bashfull, I read it two times and it did bring tears. If I was younger I'd try to steal you away. lol. No not really! I do so hope it all goes well for you and I'm also dying to hear how it goes. Big Hug guy.
Wendy
Hi Joshua, :) welcome and good luck with the proposal
SHE SAID YES!!!!!!!!! December 5, 2010 is the date ... :eusa_dance: :eusa_dance: :eusa_dance: :eusa_dance: :eusa_dance: :icon_biggrin: :icon_biggrin:
Yay, *does the happy dance* :) but, but, but Joshua, you didnt include the details, I'm so disapointed, you know how all us girls here like the details, lol. Just like a guy to leave out the best parts, Hmph!
I'm really very happy for you and your gal, Hugs.
Wendy
LOL ... forgive my testosterone driven forgetfullness!!! LOL. So, we went to a local B&B, she LOVED it. It had am amazing wood burning fireplace and inroom hottub. I didn't want to go to a restaraunt and be around a bunch of other people on a friday night, so I arranged a private inroom picnic. OMG< it was DIVINE! So, in it was a fresh fruit cheese and cracker plate, marinated grilled chicken breast over a bed of salad greens and homeade potato salad, an awesome cookie style dessert and a little bubbly, tucked neatly in a traditional picnic basket with checkered table cloth included. She really loved it, and it was SO good. So, after dinner, we layed in bed for a little bit and cuddled watching some TV while our guts settled from gorging on that amazing picnic...
At about 8:00, I turned off the TV and rolled over to face her. We talked for a while about us, our future, the things we love about eachother. I told her she was my fairy tale ... but the roles were a little reversed ... she rescued her man from a lifetime of emptyness. I told her I wanted her to be my happily ever after. We layed there for a little while just embracing and whispering sweet nothings...
Then came the cake. I had a two tier heart shaped wedding style cake for her birthday iced in lavender and ivory. Instead of the traditional HAPPY BIRTHDAY, it asked, Will you marry me, Rena? on its top. I had the top rimmed with sparkler candles that I lit. Had her close her eyes and directed her over to the cake, sit down and make a wish. When she opened her eyes, the room was dark except for the sparklers popping and cracking. She couldnt see the wording at first, so when she stood up to blow the candles out, she read it and looked over at me all shocked ... where she found me on my knee with the ring in my shaking hand... I asked her to be my wife.
I did good with the tears until I saw her eyes well up, my voice was cracking like a 13 year old boy during puberty and tears starting flowing... She accepted, and we couldnt be happier!
We shared some cake and more bubbly while she glared at the rock on her hand. LOL
I lit a bunch of candles and lined the hottub base with them, sprinked some peppermint bath salts into the hot water, and we made love the rest of the night. It was pure magic.
The next morning, the B&B innkeepers brought us breakfast, a candlelight breakfast in our room ... Egg and Cheese Souflee', black forest ham and fresh banana almond bread. We also had great coffee, orange and cranberry juice mixed coctail and an awesome fresh fruit and homemade yogurt parfait. It was the end to a perfect time.
We can't wait to go back!!!
Hope those details are just what you ladies are itching for!!!!
Thanks for wishing me the best, it worked out awesomely!!!
--Joshua
Congrats again, dude! The pics are awesome! (Hehe the funness of having his myspace :P ) Like I said. Told you she'd say yes!
Thats great! Congratulations!!
Myles
:'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
That is beautiful. She is one lucky lady. And you are one lucky, one of kind guy.
:'( :'( :'( :'( Thank You for share such a tender moment. :'( :'( :'( :'(
Janet
Fantastic and thank you so much for sharing it with us.
I hope your lives are full of love, laughter and joy.
Cindy James
Joshua, I am so happy for you and her and that you especially have found peace in your life. I think you could also teach a lot of other guys about chivalry and caring. Hugs and thanks for the details, I simply loved it.
Wendy
Eh, I'm not all that! I was raised by some amazing women ... my mother and grandmother raised me to become the man I am ... they deserve the praise. If we had more women like them raising our men, the world would be a better place.