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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 17, 2009, 11:15:40 PM

Title: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 17, 2009, 11:15:40 PM
Ok, so its not official yet, but I filed all the paperwork today at the Supreme Court.  Feels very good to get that done.  It is quite expensive though.  Hopefully, within a week or so, I will legally be Valerie.

YAY!
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Buffy on March 18, 2009, 01:45:28 AM
Congratulations Valerie, nice name and big step!

Buffy
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Janet_Girl on March 18, 2009, 07:13:09 AM
Good for you, Valerie.  Another great milestone that can be crossed off the list.  ;D

Janet

Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Brianna on March 18, 2009, 11:40:37 AM
I'm very happy for you Valerie. 
I can't wait for me to be in the financial position to do the same thing :)

BTW, I Love your name.

-Bri
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 18, 2009, 11:42:42 AM
Thank you everyone! 
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 24, 2009, 04:48:17 PM
Ok, so update.  The Judge wants an affidavit from my therapist before he allows the name change.  Lame.
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Wendy C on March 24, 2009, 05:43:40 PM
Congatulations Valerie, it is a pretty name. I had a notarized affidavit from my Therapist that I requested although it wasnt needed. I have heard of it happening though that you need a cause for the name change in some States. Just a formality Hon, you shouldnt have any problems. Hugs and good luck.

Wendy
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 24, 2009, 05:46:26 PM
I just wish they would have told me that ahead of time, or had it on some document somewhere.  I had therapist write a letter, but I didn't know I needed an affidavit.  Oh well.
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: pong on March 24, 2009, 06:35:33 PM
Quote from: Valerie Elizabeth on March 24, 2009, 04:48:17 PM
Ok, so update.  The Judge wants an affidavit from my therapist before he allows the name change.  Lame.

Hi Valerie,

If you don't mind my asking, what state do you live? I thought you can change your name as long as you don't have any criminal record.

Thanks,
-Pong
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 24, 2009, 06:38:31 PM
New York.
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: pong on March 24, 2009, 07:10:15 PM
Quote from: Valerie Elizabeth on March 24, 2009, 06:38:31 PM
New York.

Oh OK. Probably because you put gender change as a reason of the name change that's why an affidavit from therapist is needed? Anyway, congrats and goodluck, Valerie!
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 24, 2009, 07:16:16 PM
Yeah, that's probably why.  I thought that if I told them why, and had supporting material from my therapist that I would have no hassles.  Instead, it was the other way around.

Oh well.
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Ellieka on March 24, 2009, 08:43:44 PM
Sorry to hear you hit a speed bump Valerie, But congrats on getting this far! Right behind ya sister :)
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 31, 2009, 04:56:16 PM
Well, it is official, I am now Valerie Elizabeth.  I didn't even hit a road bump.  I brought in the affidavit, and the judge signed it that day. That was Friday, and I got the paperwork in the mail today.  He even waived the requirement to publicize it in the newspaper.  YAY!
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: pong on March 31, 2009, 05:27:13 PM
Quote from: Valerie Elizabeth on March 31, 2009, 04:56:16 PM
Well, it is official, I am now Valerie Elizabeth.  I didn't even hit a road bump.  I brought in the affidavit, and the judge signed it that day. That was Friday, and I got the paperwork in the mail today.  He even waived the requirement to publicize it in the newspaper.  YAY!

Woo-Hoo! Congratulations, Valerie Elizabeth!  :D
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Janet_Girl on March 31, 2009, 06:52:56 PM
Congrats Ms. Valerie Elizabeth.   ;D  Now for SSA and th DL.  Way cool.

Janet

Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Steffi on March 31, 2009, 06:57:45 PM
Congratulations Valerie, it's an important step forward.

Dunno if others felt the same, maybe I'm just weird but for weeks afterward I got a got a joyful little buzz of deep satisfaction every time I saw a letter addressed to me.
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on March 31, 2009, 07:10:35 PM
Quote from: Steffi on March 31, 2009, 06:57:45 PM
Congratulations Valerie, it's an important step forward.

Dunno if others felt the same, maybe I'm just weird but for weeks afterward I got a got a joyful little buzz of deep satisfaction every time I saw a letter addressed to me.

I haven't mailed anything out yet, but a couple of my friends have started calling me Valerie, and everytime I hear it, I smile.  I get such an amazing feeling just hearing my name being called.

Thank you all for the supportive comments and kind words!
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: gothique11 on March 31, 2009, 08:08:11 PM
congrats!
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Wendy C on April 05, 2009, 08:10:09 AM
Congatulations Valarie, its fantastic isn't it! Hugs Hon and enjoy it. Thats one  more huge step you wont ever have to repeat. :)
Wendy
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Valerie Elizabeth on April 05, 2009, 08:31:31 AM
Thank You!

I have to say, as awesome as the name change is, it was probably the hardest part of my transition thus far.  Telling my parents my named changed was so horrible.

I love my new name, and it feels so amazing to have it out of the way.

My parents acted as though I had died, their favorite son had died.  I tried to tell them that I hadn't died, that I was still here.  I can understand why they think this, however I can't actually understand it.  Coming out to them was easier than this.  I am sure they will get through it, they just need some time. 
Title: Re: NAME CHANGE
Post by: Wendy C on April 05, 2009, 08:44:55 AM
More often then not it is the family and close friends that have the hardest time accepting us. Personally I think that Society's view has not caught up with the Medical view of GID. It is much easier for people to blow off a Pychological Diagnosis and think that medicine should be able to cure your malady. They can't seem to wrap their minds around the extreme mental hell we actually experience, it is alien to them.

Hopefully with all the attention given to GID through the media, people will start to see that we aren't something less than human and do deserve our rightful place in life. After all, what we or asking is very simple, to be ourselves. Hugs.

Wendy