Well, it's finally time to come out to the lady I've been dating. I can't go any further or completely be myself until she knows my history. I have kids who still call me Mom, though they're pretty good about male pronouns, and family and occasionally coworkers who still slip with pronouns. I like her and want her in my life, but the time has come.
A good friend and transguy made some recommendations on how to go about it, so here's hoping I'm not dumped!
Jay
I wish you the best, Jay. If she cares for you at all, she may want to think about this news for awhile.
But you always can try again if the 'dumping' happens. And if it does happen, we are for you to dump on. ;D
Janet
Good luck! I hope all goes well.
Myles
I hope all goes well and like Janet says if worst comes to worst *touches wood* then we are here for you bud!
When are you meeting your lady friend then?
Jay
I'm prepared to be dumped, but hope it's not the case. But whatever happens, I've had more dating action as a transguy than I had prior to transition! So it's all good, no matter what happens.
Jay
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Quote from: Jay on March 19, 2009, 01:02:25 PM
I hope all goes well and like Janet says if worst comes to worst *touches wood* then we are here for you bud!
When are you meeting your lady friend then?
Jay
We had a date yesterday, and after that I decided I needed to come out. I'm hoping to tell her by Monday, because Monday I have a speaking engagement (trans related) where she can come and get more info/input.
Jay
That is definitely a good way especially if you are doing a speach on trans people.
I hope it all works out well :)
Jay
Goodluck Jay! Hope it all works out!
Good luck Jay! It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm crossin my fingers for you. ;)
I wish you luck Jay.
And the answer is...
... No.
I expected it, but the hardest part of her saying no was that she was "not interested" in coming to the Trans Panel where I'm speaking on Monday to learn a bit more.
C'est la vie!!
Jay
Oh well, her loss.
Sorry to hear Jay! Like what Kristen said, it's her loss...
Quote from: sneakersjay on March 22, 2009, 03:53:30 PM
And the answer is...
... No.
I expected it, but the hardest part of her saying no was that she was "not interested" in coming to the Trans Panel where I'm speaking on Monday to learn a bit more.
C'est la vie!!
Jay
No as in what? it's over just because you're trans/ that's it? ??? how long had you been seeing each other?
I'm sorry Jay, I wish it had gone better.
Jay sorry to hear she was not responsive/interested to going to the Panel. Definitely her loss dude.
Myles
Sorry, Jay. But there is always another day and another date.
~ Hugs Big Guy ~
Janet
Quote from: Nero on March 22, 2009, 04:53:13 PM
No as in what? it's over just because you're trans/ that's it? ??? how long had you been seeing each other?
Yep, over because I'm trans, not interested in going to the panel, not really into discussing it in person, nothing's going to change her mind. This was after the 5th date where we were clearly into each other and planning a 6th date.
Jay
At least it came up before you were head over heels in love with her.
*hugs*
Quote from: Miniar on March 23, 2009, 07:29:37 AM
At least it came up before you were head over heels in love with her.
*hugs*
Exactly.
Jay
Quote from: Janet Lynn on March 22, 2009, 07:47:00 PM
Sorry, Jay. But there is always another day and another date.
~ Hugs Big Guy ~
Janet
Thanks, Janet!
Jay
Like others have said, her loss. Thanks for posting your experience Jay, it's good to learn that life goes on and we can take these things in stride.
Dennis
Just to echo what others have said. Her loss. It sucks. But it's good that you found that out about her before you got too deep into it. Like you said, you're getting enough action now anyways. There's obviously other fish in the sea for you. No reason to worry about someone that was into you for the wrong reasons.